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Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 9:40am On Jul 28, 2020 |
ZINIBANKS: Yes I understand your stance, however I'm old enough to date and I would love to settle down in a few years. 3 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 9:42am On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:Oh ok good for you But not for me |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 9:45am On Jul 28, 2020 |
Obakashdee: Yes, you typed true words as per aspirations of those in my field, however I know within me that the time for marriage is not ripe for me. 1st things first and that is why I'm laying the foundations for now. 2 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 9:50am On Jul 28, 2020 |
LKTJ123: Well bro, I cannot tell how it goes from here but I try not to compare my relationship with another or use another person's experience as the most likely outcome of mine. What ever happens, it's all good. Mind you, I have dated ladies from comfortable backgrounds in the past. For me, it's wisdom, someone with a potentially good future and healthy aspirations. I'm a sapiosexual btw. 3 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 9:54am On Jul 28, 2020 |
Jorby: Yes bro I read your input, you know ladies and their monthly needs, I discussed with her just this morning when she came to the shop, that I'll accumulate money on her behalf, for a new phone and will reduce her salary so as to meet up. I also modified my post, we discovered that they had access to her account through her SIM card and recharged directly from her account, emptying it completely. This just further complicates things. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 10:00am On Jul 28, 2020 |
Eileene: Yes I like this idea too as it pertains to her study materials, she however she has a resit in one of her basics as she missed the test (due to late school fees payment), so she needs materials as soon as possible and school isn't in session, few students around. I know that they'll immediately be subjected to that resit, once school resumes. 2 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Eileene(f): 10:06am On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:Just find a way around it,she could use ur fone when you are together or if buying some of the materials are cheaper get 1 or 2.Most times ebooks are too wide and offpoint. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Odoogu(m): 10:11am On Jul 28, 2020 |
are her parents helping her in any way? are you doing more for her compared to her parents? it's good to help, but not at the detriment of your own life and health( mental especially). keep your finances "straight and be sincere enough to tell her you can't meet all of her needs(you no be God). if she is a good girl as you say, she will understand. cos if e better for you e go better for her too. and vice versa. 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by ForestHill: 10:19am On Jul 28, 2020 |
Your daddy in tha lord gbougi dia 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by SEGLIZ: 10:19am On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton: she would be shattered if you leave her from the look of things. it shows or seems like the while thing is real. this thing you both are having is living and is depending on the breath you guys are giving it, please don't kill it. don't leave the business to her, try discover other value added service that can tag along she might be managing from within that she is doing there it will reduce the dependency, increase you guys finance and you would only realise and end up merging force to break bounds, I see you guys achieving more together than splitting. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by kongolo(m): 10:24am On Jul 28, 2020 |
CaveAdullam:Let him be.They will always learn the HARD way .When the lady eventually graduates,begins to receive attention from a higher status male or acquires a good job,the way she will treat him like filth, we may one day see a blog story titled "Man kills self after woman he catered for years disappoints him" 31 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Goldenfinger: 10:32am On Jul 28, 2020 |
Op b4 i start!YOU ARE A GOOD GUY,ur type are rare......well am still a young dumb broke nd2 student so i have little experience about relationship,but bros u try abeg.well frm d little i knw i will advice you to (1)tell her go to the bank and block the simcard(2)start selling something else in the store like beverage,soft drink,even pos service and cautioned her to be vigilant and sharp(3)both of you will be sharing the gain until she has enough capital to managed it.life is not for the weak,encourage her(n urself)more,b tinking of new ideas.n concerning the phone n studies,they are cheap itel(andriod) below 20k(i dnt advice u 2 buy itel that fone frustrate my life).and lastly bro both of u shud be more prayerful GOD NA SURE PASS.u fit do yahoo to spice it up(dis is my bad voice talking o) 14 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Ejenavi18(f): 10:43am On Jul 28, 2020 |
mark1703official:Words on marble. Op, heed this advice.. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by tunjilana: 11:24am On Jul 28, 2020 |
If she is a good girl (I mean not cos of her current state o).. 1. Encourage her to find something else doing...like a side hustle to empower herself. 2. Stop creating that picture of u can always provide, let her see you can be financially vulnerable too 3. If she doesn't have that passion, then u can keep creating businesses while u ensure she is employed there and thus earns what u give her The most important thing is to find a way to be sure of her true nature without your financial support. Supporting isnt bad if u are sure of her genuine feelings and intention. But u need to be sure she and her siblings have the drive to want to succeed else your dependant pool will be so large in future that it might sink u 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Remix10(m): 11:35am On Jul 28, 2020 |
I don't get, she works in your shop and you pay her and she collects after you fed her and provided her needs? methinks she stays with you too. If she is grateful being, she should refuse any salary you give her. she should work for free. Stop paying her if you would end up taking care of her needs. that will ease your financial burden. You are becoming a simp, Man up and take control, don't allow your sympathy transcend to stupidity. 30 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by luminouz(m): 11:43am On Jul 28, 2020 |
What exactly should we do for you now? You already itemised your problem and solution, so we go do now for you? This is the fourth story I'd read with more or less exact in introduction,body and conclusion. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by JERRY1925(m): 11:49am On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton: Would u rather like her to depend on someone else? Just teach her softly and tell her ur mind. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Fejos(m): 12:10pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
If you are finally going to marry her, then every efforts and sacrifice you've made is worth it. But if you know that you won't marry her at the end, my brother you are only wasting your investment on another man's property. I will only invest in a lady who has a future with me. Atleast she must bear me child before I can really do any serious investment on her. So go get her pregnant and have a child from her, so that even if she leaves you tomorrow, that child will be your consolation. Be wise brother. This is Nigeria 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by TGMISKY(m): 12:16pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Deep in your heart, you know what to do. I guess you just want someone to give you that same idea so that you can justify your action (whether harsh, good or bad). Just do it. It's your life and only you know where the shoe is really itching your foot 4 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by nwachukwu9(m): 12:26pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
First of all don't quote Prophet Tb Joshua wrong. They kind of love prophet TB Joshua is taking about is not romantic love. You don't have Natural(God) Love for her but you have romantic love for her, which is good for couples. Such kind of romantic love cannot give you they kind of life they prophet is taking about. Back to your topic, all I can say is be prayerful because all I can see is a one sided relationship where your lady benefits about 95%. One sided relationship has its own disadvantage, when she decides to leave you alone and go for another man, you would be the one to cry more because you invested more. Never make a mistake and think that because you provided for her all through her medical course means she would automatically love you. One can provide all his life to a lady and she could still leave you alone when she Sense that it is time to pursue her life with her dream man. If you wish to continue with your one sided relationship, please go ahead and continue. Please don't forget to open another thread and tell us what happened after you constantly provided for her and she finally graduated and got a great job with one of the best hospital in Lagos. 17 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by kizwid(m): 12:59pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:don't tell me you take part in her school fee too. well, from your write up, it seem she is a kind lady that do appreciate what you been doing for her, but then, never compromise your growth for any reason. i will suggest you two replan your financial situation.. getting a job somewhere else will be a better option |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LKTJ123(m): 1:14pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:It's Your Life And No One Will Tell U How To Live It, I Wish U All D Best Nd God's Favour In Any Of The Choices U Make Bro. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by onwuakpachris(m): 1:23pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
look Mr man...naija girls have this uncanny natural talent of fishing out a young man with huge prospects in life out of d multitude of potential useless men..then tieing this young man down with sexual..emotional nd financial manipulations hence becoming a burden to him nd thereby limiting his growth in life or even completely ruining him...yes the girl may love nd encourage u nd the sex must be good...but d fact's dat..she's become a big burden to u..whether intentionally or unintentionally...hence an hindrance to ur future growth..Now u must choose between that girl nd ur future b4 it gets too late with a pregnancy or worse consequences...cus at d end of d day...she can still easily find one ready made man like that..hoodwink nd marry him..while u might never recover financially again if u don't use ur head now nd make ur future ur priority not a girl...I leave u with one of d 48 laws of power by Robert Greene..."never get urself so enmeshed in other people's problems while trying to help them...lest their problems becomes ur problems as well"...shalom 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by kizwid(m): 1:23pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:kudos for this reply Op. there many good ladies indeed, but your lady seem to be better (the way you describe her). hold on to her please. in fact i feel like to support you in buying another phone for her, but the current situation here too is beyond what mouth can describe. you can give her your phone if getting her new one will cost much since she need it most, and you should get a small/ second hand browsing phone.. any kind,serious and loyal girl deserve support brother.. God will see both of you through.. and me too 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by alpharoyalty: 1:38pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Life is too short to carry heavy burdens! In as much as you desire to assist her, whatever makes you happy should be paramount cos when the chips are down, you find yourself standing alone. Helping her is good, but dont over stretch yourself to the point of being unhappy about it. Since she has Parents she should at least ask them for assistance from time to time, (no matter how poor they might be) I am very sure she would still have gone through that school if you were not there. Dont allow over spending to bring down your business o! If it does, who will assist you? Throw away sentiments and focus on your life, if you find yourself down she will still cry so ensure you keep standing financially. All the best. 2 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 1:44pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
hmm. all I can say is that i can relate as am in a similar situation also.it is well. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 1:49pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
kongolo: Bro, Did you read my post @all? I didn't come from a poor background, even without school, I already have enough skills to persevere and excel in life. I also read a professional course, so if she marries someone else, good for her. Let me not deviate from the topic, but I have no issues with approaching a lady for a relationship neither do I lack in self esteem. 5 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 1:51pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
nwachukwu9: Bro, I wasn't referring to the romance when I quoted the MOG, I was hinting on the philanthropic role I'm playing in her life. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 1:52pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
luminouz: Keep reading stories bro.. you mustn't comment. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 1:53pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
SEGLIZ: Encouraging words, thanks a lot. 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 1:56pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Goldenfinger: Lol @yahoo.. scamming of any type is a never and no no for me. All the rest of your advises, I'll take. Thanks. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by LordNicvuitton(m): 2:02pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
onwuakpachris: Sure, I can't make another person's problem mine in life, what happens on/before the end of this year, determines where I go from here. If I'm not retained by the hospital, I'll definitely move cos my profession is something I can't joke with. 1 Like |
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