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Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Meteng: 3:36pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
You go surprise when she finish dat school, leave you go marry another person 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by webizone(m): 3:36pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Oh boy, guys dey try o. Which means that I am a very lucky guy since I can't get a girl no matter how hard I try. Guys, what do I do with my singleness then? |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Eileene(f): 3:38pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
WarriFirstSon:Where did u see smart fone in my writeup zoom and check very well u hear infact go and borrow glasses,don't forget to borrow a brain also while getting out of my mention. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Ategberoson(m): 3:38pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
geosegun: you're just lucky and your wife have good friends, the same can't be said about naive girl surrounded by wayward Girls |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by geosegun(m): 3:40pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Meteng: It doesn't really matter, God has a way of compensating someone with a good motive. There is a reason why God is providing for the young man. It may actually be because of the lady'prayer. God cannot use him and abandon him. HE will compensate him massively. No matter what, What if she becomes a very loyal, peaceful and dedicated wife? It is good to always be optimistic in all situation 5 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by addexx: 3:40pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
I think you made a mistake from the get go. Don't give the impression of total financial independence to a lady you aren't married to yet. Especially if she's majorly on the receiving end. It's an undue influence that will affect your relationship adversely as time goes on. She and her family are getting used to your spending on her so they will by nature get relaxed and not be creative enough to fix their own financial needs. In the end you suffer for it. Dialogue with her and let her know the real situation of things, if you can, help her with the phone because that's a necessity . Let her get a job. Support in a little way you can but no do pass yourself. Then focus on YOURSELF till you are more stable. Do not leave her if you are sure she's loyal. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Danbest: 3:42pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Bro, it's not an easy feat having to put up someone else's needs while still trying to survive. I had a similar experience of which I later regretted the decisions I made. The thing is, she depends on u and somehow, that's how true love and a good marriage eventually elopes. She may be a dependent now, but if u can put up with her for the remaining 24months+, till she graduates she'll forever be grateful and you may end up with a life partner that will subsequently help you out with a large chunk of the bills. Hustle, try to survive n grow in anyway possible while still helping her. I believe it will pay off in a big way in the nearest future. Good luck bro. 6 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by JERRY1925(m): 3:42pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
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Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by geosegun(m): 3:42pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Ategberoson: You are right! hence the reason I used the word loyal. If she is loyal and good, she will even dissociate her-selves from friends that may influence her negatively. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Eileene(f): 3:44pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
WarriFirstSon:This one has comprehension problem seriously.Read what you wrote up there and then go through the writeup you quoted.This time do it slowly. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by SEGLIZ: 3:45pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton: You welcome. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by geosegun(m): 3:45pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Danbest: I like your conclusion and the experience you had. Many will not be confident to do same and share their regrets. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Lerumo: 3:46pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
You say she’s the lady in your life yet you say you’re not helping her for personal gain. That’s either contradictory or ambiguous. There’s no guarantee that she will be your wife so you need to have that at the back of your mind while you’re helping her. I will advise that if you have no intention of asking her to marry you, then you’ll need to rearrange your priorities. Help her as you can afford not as a necessity. Channel your energy and resources more to achieving your own set goals and objectives. But if you want to marry her, which I believe you’re not quite ready for, you will have to begin the process immediately before you create a finished product that someone else will collect. 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 3:47pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Poor man. You will wallow in abject poverty all the days of your miserable life... Supermugu: |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 3:48pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton: sapiosexual Sexually attracted to intellectual or mental qualities, rather than to the physical body. Translations (Sexually attracted to intelligence or the human mind.) French: sapiosexuel Spanish: sapiosexual Noun sapiosexual (plural sapiosexuals) A person who is sexually attracted to a person's intellect or mind before appearance. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 3:49pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
I have sent you an email request. I will like to sponsor her financially. From your post, she is academically sound but limited by Finance. U can provide ur phone number here. I will call u. note: i have made this comment multiple times to ensure u see it. email me: osekalo2017@gmail.com |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 3:50pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton: I have sent you an email request. I will like to sponsor her financially. From your post, she is academically sound but limited by Finance. U can provide ur phone number here. I will call u. note: i have made this comment multiple times to ensure u see it. email me: osekalo2017@gmail.com |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by DNA4ALL(m): 3:51pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Sit her down and talk strict sense into her. Let her know your financial limitations. Open up about your financial strength. Instead of getting her a new phone of 50k or so, I suggest you split it, get a used phone of 25k. you let her start up a small scale business with the remaining 25k even if it's on WhatsApp status like perfume oil, I learnt it cost 3600 per dozen retail price , her gain is total,7200 after selling making a gain of 3600. She can get few dozens for a start. She can also sell ladies undies. It involves low start up capital. I'm against salary payment for now, that's emotional of you, You don't have the financial chest. Ladies are upbeat when it comes to business and making profit. Then you will know how serious she can be too. With that, she won't be idle and she will have a sense of responsibility to herself. You can always support with whatever you have then but relying on you �% will weigh you down on the long run. That's not being smart at all. I'm m totally against you leaving her or jilting her, life is not fair to all. Don't b discouraged bro,better days ahead. For the fact that she's not resorting into selling her body, strive for her success the more. God is watching all your struggles to make her survive, even if she won't be grateful to you later in life, God has a way of doubling your portion of goodness to others. Don't give up. You justt have to restrategise & change your tactics in handling the situation. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Nobody: 3:51pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
I have sent you an email request. I will like to sponsor her financially. From your post, she is academically sound but limited by Finance. U can provide ur phone number here. I will call u. note: i have made this comment multiple times to ensure u see it. email : osekalo2017@gmail.com 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by bolousadex: 3:51pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Bro! she's part of your life now. As you make effort to establish, also try as much as you can to meet her needs as it's obvious from your story that she doesn't have. God'll reward you. Forget the fact that there's a relationship and just do this without needing anything in return..I am sure God will reward you now that you start having her in your plans... 3 Likes |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Victor20206: 3:56pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
i have been in your shoe befor but at long last she left me and get married to someone better than myself..see bro you are doing wrong investment that will land you in regrets, and don't tell me she will not live you if she gets someone better than you, women are not trustworthy, i will advice you to give your business more attention and plan your future, as I speak i'm living in regrets, i was lift behind, friends we stated business together are doing better than me even academically, simply because I fell 2 understand that helping a lady who is not married to you, is just as good as putting water in a basket....the least you can do for her is to help her look for job else were, and never, i repeat never take her as part of your responsibility be wish bro? 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by rollandben(m): 3:56pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
My brother, i so much feel for you, the solution may be hurt but its very simple, convince her to get a job other than your office,then render the little support you could if possible, if this isnt done ASAP, it may wreck your business, bro think fast before too late. As the business of a business is business. May God helps all of us |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Maobichek: 3:56pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
LordNicvuitton:. I must tell you the truth, I don't know how strong your relationship with her is and the plans you have towards her, if it's just normal boyfriend/girlfriend relationship--- please stop ok but if you believe that you guys progress to the next level (marriage), you are doing well since you said that she is ok and simple. My advice is that you should not relocate because of her, try and see the future with what you are doing now and build on it, you may be unhappy if you close your shop and come back to the East, thank you. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by RTSC: 3:57pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
She is a medical student. It's a good investment on your part if she stays with you after graduating. But we can't be certain of that. 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by RTSC: 4:00pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Get married to her. A simple court wedding will do. You don't have to start reproducing for now, but at least you are sure of what you are investing on. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by AfroKnight: 4:03pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
You think you are distressed now? Just be patient. When she graduates and starts working, she will dump you. Then you will understand. They have manipulated this young man into thinking he has failed in life if he doesn’t provide for his girlfriend. Guys stop dating broke girls. You people no dey hear word. 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Onozboy(m): 4:05pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
ZINIBANKS:Best way to go |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Iykolysis: 4:05pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
I got turned off where you quoted your Father in the Lord (TBJ) said bla, bla bla. It amazes me how youths have seemingly separated christianity and holiness. You are busy fornicating heavily with a girl you aren't married to, and you are complaining. You think she spreads those legs for FREE. Maybe T. B Joshua encourages you to be involved in illicit sex. You'd better flee fornication and have courage to her to leave. Failure to take these steps, then I see your petty laundry business collapse soonest. The choice is yours, enjoy toto and spend beyond your income, or be resolute and ask her to leave. |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Adequate459: 4:06pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
You are too emotional bro Dont be surprised if this girl leave you for another man Be wise 1 Like |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by Bbbwings: 4:09pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Temitopemo6e6:I'm not igbo but I know the last statement means he is seriously mad and he ha no one to tell him |
Re: The Lady In My Life, My Burden. by do4luv14(m): 4:10pm On Jul 28, 2020 |
Thank you man, the Girl had been supportive to him, from his write up, its even the girl that suggest working for himm, instead of staying home, you know those that will just be spending guys cash, doing nothing at home, am very sure, if her Phone had not been stolen, he will stil thoght her a burden kizwid: 2 Likes |
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