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Bawal:
Due to some challenges, I and my wife are staying in one room self con and her 30 year old sister has been staying with us for some months now, my wife is older than her by three years.

Making love has been challenging since then even though the sister puts bed on the floor and sleep,most time when we assume she is asleep and engage in the act, i will later observe that she is not sleeping. Though she will maintain as if she is sleeping and this is constituting an uneasy environment.

In fact most time she knows when we are doing it. We are very uncomfortable over the act and she is not moving out from the house soonest. Though she is an adult that such may not sound strange to her, but indirectly seeing or hearing the sound on when i am performing duty on her elder sister makes us feel uncomfortable especially when we see one another in the morning after the act.

Please whats the right way to manage this situation. Advise please.

try get one room n parlour to help reduce her noticing when n how u make love to ur woman.

Heyitsme:
Get a bigger house, she won’t know when u guys are having sex

He may not have the money yet

Normal Yoruba style


Dirty people

Blissquare:
There is a reason why poor people stay poor and rich people remain rich. Due to challenges, you live in a one bedroom is understandable and it will not be forever by the grace of God but how is a 30yr old woman now sleeping in the same room with you and she has everyone's conscent in her life? You do not mind, her sister doesn't mind, her relatives and friends have not frowned at it, her own boyfriend is ok by it? Do not get me wrong, i am wondering how your one room is her last resort despite that she would not be leaving soon. If one is poor in finance, one should not be poor in judgement or association . Now, the soluti
on is that you make love only when she is not at home and no longer at night alone. Is it that you all get home at the same time or she has no job? Maybe you limit it to your bathroom. You would continue to be poor if your mindset is ok having sex with a relative in the room. Some mother in-laws are even the 3rd parties in other stories.

You are 100% correct. Some inlaws don't understand marriage is for a man and his wife. Mother inlaws intrude here and there. Inlaws allow your married sisters and brothers be


Back to the OP Solutions below are

1.save up and give her part of her rent

2.save up and move to a bigger apartment

3. Separate your room with a plank/wood

4.let her go for an holiday

5.make love when she's not around

6.get a duvet and make love in the duvet

Lol that is the problem with marriages, extra baggage

Artiiclebeast:
Congratulations....

Na two wives you get so.

You marry one, get another one free.

Sooner or later, small small pikins go dey shout anyhow for dat one room station.

Next time, squeeze rag put for your wife mouth.

I'm laughing ooo
Your comment is unfair ooo
Well I would advise him to devide the room with curtain Sha...

my brother sorry, i understand your situations but you have to be matured about the whole situation so shi will not tag you and your wife as a bad person, that is what niaja have for most of us here, the fact still remain that most of us where born into this one room of a thing is not easy for our parents then but they have to keep moving, even my neighbour save is even into this shit right now! a situation where by they have grown up children in the house, and they need to Bleep them self till infinity, eternity.

Staying in one room, yet bringing third party, even toddler that not ur kid, you should not imaging of bringing her to stay with you let alone fully mature woman!


Apart from sex, you people will not be able to discuss as couples freely.

You are not financially matured enof to bring person/s at this level of ur financial status, you must tell ur wife to tell her sister to leave ur house, if she refuses tell her urself.

Since ur sister in law cannot see, you should open her eyes to see.

Madmancomment:
Normal Yoruba style


Dirty people

Must you bring tribalism into this?

Tuns20:




So because her own sister in law is around.. Her husband shouldn't touch her anymore.. Moreover she's not a baby..she would definitely envisaged such to happen..if them pursue am now.humans go another thing.. Abeg the sister in law should bear it..period.

Bear what? She will not enjoy it na or is it not meant to be enjoyed again. Has it become a task?

Tell her to go and sleep outside or go sleep elsewhere on days you're meeting your wife.

Unnerve:

You are a wicked man.

Do you know the kind of sexual torment your sister-in-law is passing through every time she hears you and your wife moaning?
I'm very sure she's gotten so wet so many times that it's now feeling like a dam down there.

You're a very wicked man

Them tie the sister there?

A whole 30 year old grown ass woman! If she like make she get ocean down there, she can take care of herself....

The man is understanding self. If not, he can't permit her staying there... The wife too is mumu..... Imagine me having sex with my husband and my 30 y/o sister be hearing ringing tones and watching everything! Chai!

If I'm the man and I wan chase am, na to do different styles with my wife for long and sweet loud moanings.. No one will tell her before she becomes scarce!

There is a high probability that your wife's sister will surrender the coochie when you ask cos she wanna taste the vitamin D that is making your wife moan

I find this very pathetic, especially given your economic condition, your In-law's age, and the peculiar nocturnal inconveniences you cited! May God bless you financially so that your generosity will make more sense...

While we await an answer to the prayer, I'll like to counsel you to try out the following:

1. Get your squatter a job! any job! cleaner, daycare assistant, sales girl anything! It is called empowerment. I suspect she's unemployed and that's why at her age she still hangs on you (her sibling).

2. Once you help her land a job, next is to encourage her to socialize wide... take her to parties, let her participate actively in young peoples communities/fellowship... this will help her build self confidence, and possibly get hooked up...

3. If point 2 above is successful, then Eureka! You may have just succeeded in politely getting her off your night rendezvous... But if that proves a bit difficult, you guys have to encourage her to get her own room (even if it is in your compound)! Ask her how much she has, and reimburse her if the amount is not sufficient to rent a room.

Once she can rent a room, it's up to her to figure out how to pay subsequent rents...that's how everyone else too rolls inside this struggle!

All the best Man!

Kemimarch16:
Try to get self contain ...God will provide for you

Better woman

Kittex7:

I'm laughing ooo
Your comment is unfair ooo
Well I would advise him to devide the room with curtain Sha...

Even with that she will still hear the sound of his wife moaning

Bawal:
Due to some challenges, I and my wife are staying in one room self con and her 30 year old sister has been staying with us for some months now, my wife is older than her by three years.

Making love has been challenging since then even though the sister puts bed on the floor and sleep,most time when we assume she is asleep and engage in the act, i will later observe that she is not sleeping. Though she will maintain as if she is sleeping and this is constituting an uneasy environment.

In fact most time she knows when we are doing it. We are very uncomfortable over the act and she is not moving out from the house soonest. Though she is an adult that such may not sound strange to her, but indirectly seeing or hearing the sound on when i am performing duty on her elder sister makes us feel uncomfortable especially when we see one another in the morning after the act.

Please whats the right way to manage this situation. Advise please.

Hey, next time, tap your sister-in-law out of her sleep to excuse you for 20mins.

If she is not considerate to give you some privacy, you can decide not to be considerate to her situation.

Tell you wife to do it else you do it yourself. Please do it with a broad smile on your face.

Meanwhile, your sister-in-law is enjoying it and probably getting an orgasm out of it.

Lastly, since your accomodation issues inconveniences all of you, pls inconvenience your self by having sex at a particular time. Once you ask your sister-in-law 3 times at the same time, she should be old enough to get the message. The time will be your free time.

If your sister in-law refuse to give you space citing the adult word, know that she's in for the thrill. You may have bought one and gotten one free.

Op you are married for Christ sake
Look for money and move out of that Dem sef con
Dem men how do u Manage
1 room you still get mind dey bleep person what if she con born
U wan dey lap each other sleep abi

See wetin Buhari don cause Nigerians

Artiiclebeast:
Congratulations....

Na two wives you get so.

You marry one, get another one free.

Sooner or later, small small pikins go dey shout anyhow for dat one room station.

Next time, squeeze rag put for your wife mouth.

Honestly, you're the baddest guy on Nairaland!

I laugh when people say life isn’t that hard...The things I’ve heard of is unimaginable....

Some people don’t even have data or phones to come post their troubles on a forum...So if you’re privileged do not make mockery of someone’s plights...

O.P, I’d advice you to help her get a room...

nothing person no go see for nairaland. op, you shouldn't be ashamed or uncomfortable with this situation at all, since your sister in law is an adult, and this won't seems new to her.

your wife who happens to be her elder sister should be the one worried about it,but she didn't , but instead you as a man chose to.

enjoy your life and carry on joor.

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Them tie the sister there?

A whole 30 year old grown ass woman! If she like make she get ocean down there, she can take care of herself....

The man is understanding self. If not, he can't permit her staying there... The wife too is mumu..... Imagine me having sex with my husband and my 30 y/o sister be hearing ringing tones and watching everything! Chai!

If I'm the man and I wan chase am, na to do different styles with my wife for long and sweet loud moanings.. No one will tell her before

partition your own sleeping area with rope and curtain simple

Madmancomment:
Normal Yoruba style

Dirty people

mad man comment indeed

DaudaTheSexyGuy:


Even with that she will still hear the sound of his wife moaning

Life no balance

Ningen:
I've got nothing to say. I'll just lay low here...

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Hahaha

I always tell married people that if you are married and you have children or someone else is staying with you and your wife, then self-contained is never an option.
Room and parlor is much better if you can't afford 2 or 3 bedroom flat.

My 2-cent.

that's her problem na? wetin concern you? shey you don play bride price.

Just introduce that your sister in-law to one of your single friends that knows how to press a woman's mumu button and your problem is solved. You won't even see her in your house again.