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Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Nobodycan: 7:10pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
You be Erica and your Neighbor na Laycon... U re mentally attracted to him and not physical attraction... Eyah 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by kaytolee(m): 7:11pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
PureGoldh: Exctaly cause I once experience it has well.....just talk it out been silent can keep him if you really like the guy talk it out and let him know your stand. |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by AntiWailer: 7:11pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Lol Turn him down and move on. |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by DrPurple(m): 7:11pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
The Best way to turn him Down without Hurting him is to Turn Him Down without Hurting Him |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Maj196(m): 7:12pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
He's not your spec becuz he no get moni abi. If he be millionaire now he go become your spec 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by ehix89(m): 7:13pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Berryli:If you think he is good enough for you then date him otherwise stop this nonsense friendship of a thing. I'll be blunt, a boy and a girl can't be just friends, one if not both at a point will start catching feelings. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by lomprico(m): 7:14pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Berryli: you are already into him but dont know yet. wait till u see him with another girl, then the scales will fall off. 5 Likes |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by AristocraticMe: 7:16pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Berryli:In order not to lose your relationship with him, since you said he is a good person and you enjoy his company.... i will suggest you tell him respectful......I HAVE NOTICED YOU LIKE ME AND I LIKE YOU TOO BUT PRESENTLY I AM IN RELATIONSHIP...... To me, he will respect you more for not wasting his time or tagging him along or even ignoring him............ If he is sensible guy he should understand. I as a guy i have told some girls that....... and it went well..... I had a girl told me that and i really appreciated her because she did not waste my time.. |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Nobody: 7:17pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
daddytime:Na lie, she go still marry am. |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by SyberKate(f): 7:18pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by erekere(m): 7:20pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
u want to go with the flow? Don't worry by the time he pokes u and u realize he is the best u ever had in the other room, u will know that nothing confuse a lady than a guy who knows how to Bleep. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by faithfull18(f): 7:20pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Out of sight is out of mind. |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by P1PrinceKT(m): 7:25pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Just Request and Request again. Too much requesting will serve. |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by TheRedpillguy: 7:26pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Simps |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by onlyinJESUS: 7:26pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Berryli: My view, Answer these questions; Do you love him? Do you want a relationship with him? Do you want to give him the impression that you want a Marital relationship with him? If your answer is No, then there are several ways you can politely decline his request without really hurting. You take him to place where you can talk and tell him what you think about him and why his advances towards you can't work. Please for your own good, don't try to fool around with him. You might regret it. Come out straight. He will even love you more for bring honest. Taaaankyu |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Nobody: 7:27pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Why are you ladies like this? You don't like a guy yet you don't want to let him know you don't like him. I am very sure if he asked you if you do like him, you will not give him a straight forward answer. You will still give him hope or say something like "I like your company, let's just be friends". Most guys here can tell you of their experience of a girl telling them they are not interested or don't like them or not their spec. And when the guy decides to move on, they'll start feeling offended, jealous or betrayed. What kind of witchcraft is that? You'd have heard some ladies even say demonic things like "I don't like him", "I don't want him" , "He's not my spec" but I don't want to see him with another lady. Very confused set of beings! It's like after they think they've dumped you, you must be in sorrow, you must never be happy again especially with another woman. If they see you've moved on quickly and you are happy with another person... body go dey pinch them Better go and find your spec and live the innocent man alone 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Franking: 7:29pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Avoid him before u cause u cause more damage. He's clearly falling in love with u. The earlier u do this the better. Stop the visits. Stop the chats and stop the calls. |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by TechSkill: 7:29pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
humilitypays: I know why you have said the emboldened text but people might think that you are being silly. I had a girl who didn't want me to touch her or sex her. She messed up other things like leaving me hanging after promises that often cost me some amount to money. Now, the sex part does not mean I planned to leave her after everything... nope... Well, she frustrated me with her attitude until i left... this year, she started telling me that she lost her virginity to another guy and that i thought she sleeps around blah blah.. in her mind, she thought it was all about sex. So, I asked her, after all said and done: "where is the guy she gave her virginity to" and her only answer was SILENCE. of course, the guy was gone. A lot of them make this mistakes every time and all I do is watch. the truth is, women are not wired to like or want the nice guys. do not be surprised that the reason why this guy in question is not "her spec" is because he has been too gentle and nice to her. often times, this is what triggers their repulsive feelings. BUt assuming the guy in question had numerous girls coming to his house or he does not give her much attention, she would start feeling jealous ( there was a case of another nairaland lady who had this less than 2 weeks ago) it is a messed up situation for these women. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by fof1: 7:30pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Berryli: RUBBISH TALK. PLS STOP D VISIT AND D CHAT, PERIOD. STOP GIVING HOM ATTENTION AND FIND UR WAY OUT FROM HIM. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by vickydevoka(m): 7:32pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Wat for came to realize in this life is dat we are all made differently not jst by our looks buh our inner minds n actions. I knw of a lady who is sooo fine buh he likes guys so much. She hardly turn a guy down. She is always ready to open de door, de surprising thing is dat de father is so rich dat she can afford anything dat she lyk. I also knw of an average looking gal who is so choosey. Dat she selects guys base on looks n not dere pocket. She wants a vanvika type of man physically. My sister I say u go wait tire sotey u go marry person way u no plan for |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Openbusiness: 7:33pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
This one is a matter for the "elders"............. Selling intelligent dispenser |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by jammy60(m): 7:33pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Just make your mind know to him ..... Simple |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by TechSkill: 7:34pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Openbusiness: |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Nobody: 7:35pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Sit your ass in your house. You go visiting a man and you say make him preek no rise. Which kain friendship cat and rat dey do? Find a hobby, find a job, get your hands busy and you won’t have to explain yourself to your neighbor! 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by tonyson010(m): 7:37pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
GraGra247: You went straight to it. |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by kokomilala(m): 7:39pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
My questions to you are these: what do you really think a man wants from a woman ,and a woman from a man? And, why didn't you avoid the visits and communication -innocuous, as they seem - right from the beginning? See, it's better to be straight forward and blunt immediately than to be latterly held in some emotional pen . Some years back, the pastor of my then church asked me what I felt about a sister. My response was swift and direct. No feelings, I replied. I didn't realise that God had spoken through my mouth. Events ,revelations about that lady proved that God made His statement through me that day. You should have avoided those visits during the lockdown ,together with those long chats on Whatsapp. The vibes the guy got was that you were in. Whereas, you remained outside, only temporarily dipping your toe in while you remained dry. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by EmeraldKing7(m): 7:40pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
@Berryli You said u don't have feelings for the guy,ok But how would he feel he asks one of your friends out?....just asking |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Equity15(m): 7:40pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Simple |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by soundmind4ree: 7:40pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Berryli: Not your spec, BUT enjoys his company, Visits his regularly... plus other things both you did that you are not telling us.. How were you able to do that!? The same way you Stylishly Enter his life, Also Stylishly Delete yourself from His life. We don't know how you entered, Why asking Us how to leave? 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Turn Him Down And Not Hurt Him? by Burgerlomo: 7:41pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Just show him the recent video that's trending online right now where a guy sponsored a lady through University and the lady refused to be his wife when the father Christmas (the dude) proposed to her. |
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