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She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Salex007(m): 6:41am On Dec 26, 2020
pls, can someone tell me how to be a tough guy? Although she was not the first female to tell me so.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Juell(m): 6:43am On Dec 26, 2020
Gentle as in? Do you allow people to override you and get away it, as in people get away with treating you like shit?

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by pyyxxaro: 6:50am On Dec 26, 2020
To be a tough guy


Every morning and Night , drink 1litre of Chilled Kerosene


Then smoke 2 sticks of Benson immediately


Thank me later

Cheers

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by JOACHINpedro: 6:50am On Dec 26, 2020
Another redpill candidate cry

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Tenshades(m): 6:53am On Dec 26, 2020
Tell her to enter car park in your area to look for tough guy...

All those agbero with thick black lips go satisfy am.

Guy, no kill yourself ontop vaginah people cos u can never satisfy them.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Nazgul: 7:03am On Dec 26, 2020
Salex007:
pls, can someone tell me how to be a tough guy? Although she was not the first female to tell me so.
Do you agreed to whatever she wants with little or no objection?

Does she find it very easy to manipulate you into doing her bidding regardless of what it costs you?

Do you apologize like a hopeless romantic over irrelevant issues between you two?

Do you find it very difficult to raise your voice at her and scold her for an action you know she's clearly wrong?

You do beg her every now and then for her love and affection?

Are you weak, and can't stand up for her publicly?

Do people manipulate you anyhow and you can't speak up?

Does she enjoy sex with you or do you just engage in it because you're lovers?

Have you ever borrowed money to give to her and you later told her about it?

Do you complain about loosing her a lot?

Does she consider you mature enough to share secrets with happens in her family?

If one or more of these questions is positive, then she's right.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Salex007(m): 7:18am On Dec 26, 2020
Nazgul:

Do you agreed to whatever she wants with little or no objection?

Does she find it very easy to manipulate you into doing her bidding regardless of what it costs you?

Do you apologize like a hopeless romantic over irrelevant issues between you two?

Do you find it very difficult to raise your voice at her and scold her for an action you know she's clearly wrong?

You do beg her every now and then for her love and affection?

Are you weak, and can't stand up for her publicly?

Does she enjoy sex with you or do you just engage in it because you're lovers?

Have you ever borrowed money to give to her and you later told her about it?

Do you complain about loosing her a lot?

Does she consider you mature enough to share secrets with happens in her family?

If one or more of these questions is positive, then she's right.

Am helpless with the number 3 and I think that's how I am towards almost everybody because I don't just like trouble and argument.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Itohanmiwa: 7:23am On Dec 26, 2020
Op I'm sure what your woman mean is that you don't take charge in your relationship with her, and not that you should become a tout or reckless or agressive, just learn to take charge. She is tired of leading you two.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Cutehector(m): 7:25am On Dec 26, 2020
She wants you to give her doggy.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by SimpDetector: 7:45am On Dec 26, 2020
Salex007:


Am helpless with the number 3 and I think that's how I am towards almost everybody because I don't just like trouble and argument.

Simp spotted.

Apologizing to a girl is simp behavior. Under no circumstance should you apologize to a girl. It sounds like bad advice but it works. Rather than apologize, you tease her. Or just deny her allegation with boldness and make her doubt her sanity. This makes her emotions go hay wire and as long as you are constantly stiring that pot of a girls emotions, she gets hooked to you more.

Contrary to what women say, they actually do not want your apology. It makes them look more in control and whenever a girl feels she is in control, she begins to lose attraction for you.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by femi4: 7:52am On Dec 26, 2020
Salex007:
pls, can someone tell me how to be a tough guy? Although she was not the first female to tell me so.
Just ungentle yourself

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Olakunleyakub(m): 7:57am On Dec 26, 2020
That means you are too soft and weak as a man

May be you always say yes to all her request and never take offense for once for all her excesses and inadequacy

The truth is that most women not all dough don't really appreciate gentle or extremely gentle men cos they always assumed to be weak and cowards

Go and learn how to say No and stand your ground wen you are in the right side of a situation.

Lean how to say a Big No wen you are not willing to do something or compromise

Only few women value men that are too soft cos the nature of women prefer active and alittle blunt men but that does not mean that you won't come across your own woman Sha

There are some women that love people like you but they are very few nigga.

Just try to work on urself if there is a need to cos no one can know you more than yourself

As for the lady,
Pls dump her immediately if it is obvious that she does not appreciate your personality and walk away honorably.

Salex007:
pls, can someone tell me how to be a tough guy? Although she was not the first female to tell me so.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by ThreeEyedRaven: 8:02am On Dec 26, 2020
Salex007:
pls, can someone tell me how to be a tough guy? Although she was not the first female to tell me so.
This is funny grin grin grin

But I'm worried that in the bid of wanting to be a tough guy you'd end up becoming a beast just because you want the acceptance of a certain lady. I only pray you find a balance and know where to draw the line between humility and stupidity; Confidence and arrogance.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Salex007(m): 8:09am On Dec 26, 2020
Olakunleyakub:
That means you are too soft and weak as a man

May be you always say yes to all her request and never take offense for once for all her excesses and inadequacy

The truth is that most women not all dough don't really appreciate gentle or extremely gentle men cos they always assumed to be weak and cowards

Go and learn how to say No and stand your ground wen you are in the right side of a situation.

Lean how to say a Big No wen you are not willing to do something or compromise

Only few women value men that are too soft cos the nature of women prefer active and alittle blunt men but that does not mean that you won't come across your own woman Sha

There are some women that love people like you but they are very few nigga.

Just try to work on urself if there is a need to cos no one can know you more than yourself

As for the lady,
Pls dump her immediately if it is obvious that she does not appreciate your personality and walk away honorably.

thanks man

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Nazgul: 8:38am On Dec 26, 2020
Salex007:

Am helpless with the number 3 and I think that's how I am towards almost everybody because I don't just like trouble and argument.
It's not about wanting trouble it's about taking charge and standing up for whatever you think is right.

There's nothing wrong in apologizing, but when it becomes abnormal and a sign of weakness, is when you become a slave to it.

You must know that no matter how how you try to avoid trouble, as long as you mingle with people, they'll bring it to your door step.

And to ensure that you don't go around apologizing like a homeless orphan when they do so in the name of wanting peace to reign is to let those around to you (your girlfriend inclusive) know their boundaries. So that when they cross it, you can face them squarely and express your displeasure without feeling and kind or form of guilt.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Uyi168(m): 8:50am On Dec 26, 2020
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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by MANNABBQGRILLS: 8:50am On Dec 26, 2020
You wanna be a tough guy?

Here you go........

Talk in a medium-loud voice.

Look people in the eye when you talk to them.

Don't allow your 'tough attitude' to turn into anything too aggressive, keep control.

You don't want to send the image to others that you are crazy, so avoid making strange faces or yelling a lot.


You can start with this for now, and come back after 90 days to tell us how far.
We will go on from there.

Goodluck! wink

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by azraeljaheel: 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
Girls and wahala na Like rice and beans

You gentle problem

You tough wahala


And if you really wanna be tough.. The day she yarn rubbish give am better slap

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Pochettino(f): 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
Try BDSM

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Soarr(m): 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
I understand your plight..
You are an extreme introvert, dem no dey ever appreciate what they have until dem become evening news paper

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by YorubaPrince: 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
Dump the B!tch! angry

That's the initial sign of a potential cheat. undecided

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Drabeey(m): 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
One step at a time. Take your time to unlearn everything that makes you think you are in need of a lady and so you must be grateful for her time with you. You be human being too na grin

"You are the price".... Remember that always.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by slawormiir: 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
Damnnn niggarrrr...
Although most ladies are attracted to guys who lives life on the fast lane
But i must say though that you should be yourself

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Legalcriminal: 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
Smoke laud every morning and sk at night thank me later

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Sensitivity: 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
Beat the hell out of her. Beat her for no reason! She'll love you for the rest of her life.
Thank me later grin

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by oluwasegun007(m): 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
Just be yourself bro....

Even if you are as rugged as an hyena, she go still complain.

Summary is she no like you..


Move forward to see the one who will like you.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by MacDodger: 8:51am On Dec 26, 2020
Give her sendless attitude cheesy

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Sleyanya1(m): 8:52am On Dec 26, 2020
I don't know how old you are or level of experience/maturity as it regards relationships, but one of the worst mistakes you'd make would be trying to change your nature for someone else (especially when It's not a harmful habit) .


If you do so, you'd constantly feel lose your originality in life. We are unique in our ways and can only adjust/adapt in relationships.

Enjoy your Boxing day.

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by Lovelies1: 8:52am On Dec 26, 2020
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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by biden123(m): 8:52am On Dec 26, 2020
Ubunja 's work smiley

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Re: She Said I'm Too Gentle For Her by tobechi20(m): 8:52am On Dec 26, 2020
Find a dominant partner

Sarah grew up in a society that trains women to be Simps. She should never look a man in the eye and must bow down after every conversation with him as a sign of respect. A young girl is a property owned by her husband. She could be summoned to entertain his guest however he deems fit. He can transfer his ownership to the highest bidder. He decides what she wears. . No one considered her opinion. . She is to be obeyed instructions given by the husband or father whether she agrees with them or not. She does all the housework and assist in the farm. A woman should never ask her husband to help her in the kitchen. . She is not good enough to be the leader of the clan. In essence, the society groomed beta women. These women do not take any decision. These women relied on their man to take the decision. She is a good girl only when she suppresses her feelings and submits to the traditional gender roles. Marriage is the reward for obedience. She learns to love guys that give commands. Such shy and submissive women admire Men who have proven to be confident and good decision takers. Stupid girls love Alpha guys.

The introduction of education into the society changed everything. Schools treat boys and girls as equal. Schools select the prefect based on academic performance. There were no gender based prejudice. Male and female clear the grass. Guys and girls sweep the floor. She speaks during assembly. She looks at guys in the eyes and talk. She completes her tertiary institution and gets employed. She graduates from a Simp to a beta woman. Experience has taught her that hardwork leads to promotion ., she gets promoted to a managerial position. She delegates some of the task to junior workers. Her duties involves cooperating with other head of departments to achieve a certain goal. She is sent to represent the organization in multimillion naira deals. She learns to be assertive, aggressive, dominant. She graduates to an alpha female.


Men are becoming more egilateral and less brutal
Professional achievement did not correlate with relationship success. Many men avoided her like a plague. Only the confident once are bold enough to approach her. The relationship hit it up at first but soon she noticed hitches. She loves to be the center of attention. He desires the same. He speaks more and listens less. She wants someone to listen to her. She is used to giving instruction and not one to obey blindly like the simp girls do. He wants to be the boss , to have the power, to make the decision . Both are involved in power struggle. Her previous four relationship ended for similar reasons. She got to undergo total transformation to make her relationship work.


Guys and leadership style
It is her birthday and her boyfriend did not call her. She is pissed off and goes to his office unannounced to yell at him. She meets him in a passionate kiss with his secretary. She tries not to cry.

She is in pain and looks for a shoulder to lean on. She remembers her beta friend. She hurries to her plays and breaks down in tears immediately he opened the door. With him, she is not ashamed to break down and shed tears when necessary He comforts her and listens patiently as she pours her heart. She didn’t know when she dozed off. She woke up and found herself in his bedroom. It is midnight, late to drive back home This is not the first time she would pass the night in his apartment. On each occasion, he would lie on the couch. He never touched her. She felt safe around him. Her exes would have attempted to sleep with her despite her mood. Maybe he did not find her sexually appealing she thought. She went to the couch and found him working on his laptop. There was her pics as his wallpaper. She inquired why and he opened up his feelings towards her. He had wanted to ask her out for a long time, but he was afraid she might not only reject him, but she might end the entire friendship since he was not in the same class as he was. The latter was a risk too big to take. He brought out a letter he had written to her expressing his intention to the next level. He lacked the courage to do so. This was before she met her last ex. She was speechless. That day marked the beginning of sexual friendship.


Alpha and Beta male
Sm What he lacked in aggression, he made up with attentiveness. He spends a high amount of time touching her slowly in an attempt to build the urge in her until she could not resist. Her previous Alpha exes who assumed they know what she needed in bed. Her beta friend was humble enough to ask her what her sexual cravings were. He understood that each girl is unique and has various need. He cuddles her after releasing, and they discussed how it went before they both clean up. . She does not feel used.

He knows all her sexual fantasies and deepest secret. He had been there for during her last five heart breaks. He had never forgotten her birthday. He knows her more than he knows herself. She has poured all her heart to him. He had never hit her . She could be Moody and provocative attimes, yet he never disrespected her. He sees her as an equal. He is a democratic husband. Alpha husband’s give out orders like a soldier. He would make an ideal father ;one the kids could trust and not one to be feared.

They have been involved in this sexual friendship for over two years now. She has learned from experience that Alpha Male is not suitable for her. With a beta male, she does not have to pretend to be who she is not in other to fit into the traditional wife role. He let her be herself .She considers marrying her best friend. But that could come at a cost. His laid back approach makes it difficult for him to get ahead in his professional life. She knew she would be the one handling the major part of thebill if she were to maintain her status. It would be wise to bend low to his status. A little price she is willing to pay. She had to close the deal now or risk loosing him out forever to another client.



She got the wedding ring and asked for his hands in marriage. They are happily married.


We can infer that Alpha women date their fellow Alphas but end up settling down with a non-Alpha. Alpha guys propose to beta women. Alpha women propose to beta guys. She has learnt to discard the traditional notion that women marry higher up. Such union is ticking time bomb waiting to explode . The competition for power and dominance is second to none . The world is changing in gender roles and Alpha male are yet to realise that. Men must not be the bread winner. Men must not confront situation outrightly. Certain problems require careful thoughtful dialogue

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