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Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Topmaike007(m): 4:20pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
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Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by bolagabriella: 4:20pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Yes, sexual attraction is important in marriage. A man should always look forward to making love to his wife and vice versa but it doesn't mean you'll spend everyday fulfilling that urge. The fact that you are confused about your sexual attraction to her is not a ticket for you to pressure her into sex (as some here imply you to do). It won't solve the problem. Personally, i will advice you to talk to her about it and see if you both can figure out what could be wrong. But if the condition persists then you guys should amicably seperate. Getting married in this state would surely lead to sexual fraustration on both sides, then cheating probably on both sides, then DNA issues, then divorce or death or murder 6 Likes |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Angelfrost(m): 4:21pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Stupidquestions: Thank you... You have more or less corroborated everything I submitted. |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Stupidquestions: 4:22pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Angelfrost:Lol... corroborate wetin? I'm still reinforcing the fact that that hatred for her touch came as a result from frustration and inability to get acesss to her body easily... And I gave u examples...yet u said I corroborated ur point ...where u lambasted my assumption |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Nobody: 4:23pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Just reading comments. The level of depravity in our world today is alarming. 5 Likes |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by BennyDGreat: 4:24pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Judithjovial: Valid question...las las if you don't have self control before marriage, it might be difficult to have in marriage |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Holaomoakin(m): 4:24pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Though you are both cheating on each other... mad o |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by mrmachine: 4:25pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
OscarChisom: You just spoke my mind. Please respect her belief but make sure there is genuine love between the two of you. You don't need to sin against God through fornications before you can know if the two of you are compatible. Make sure it's God leading you to marry her and not fleshly drive. If you feel there is no love again please don't go ahead, just release her but let it not be because she has not consented to fornicating with you 2 Likes |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Nobody: 4:31pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
LadyExcellency:Common get lost. Oshi barawo. Baskard!! You dey find person son to manipulate. You nor go carry your sickness to convent go dey with other nuns.. Spits* |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Truvelisback(m): 4:34pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr:Are u insuniating That she is a virgin? Bro. calm down, When u are ready, the feelings will definitely come. |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by chukwudiology(m): 4:34pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Sometimes I wonder if these stories are real or make up stories. |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by EmperorTolson: 4:35pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr:Try talk to her on this maybe she go give you chance. Thereby confirming whether what you feel is true |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Nobody: 4:35pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
SmellySperm:.. Gbammm ! No more less |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Nobody: 4:36pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
BennyDGreat: Let me tell you something. Some people have high libido but are loyal to just one partner. They can't even imagine themselves moving from one woman to another. Its stress for them. But you see with that one compatible partner, they will straff till eternity. That's the true meaning of self control not abstinence from sex until marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by babadee1(m): 4:37pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr: If you're not sexually attracted to her now then let her go because it will only get worse in marriage. God is against premarital sex and extramarital affairs. A word is enough for the wise. 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Angelfrost(m): 4:39pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Stupidquestions: Well, whether it happened due to her spurning of his advances or it's a natural turn-off, the bottom line is they are currently sexually incompatible. If the former is the case (Op didn't specify), then getting married shouldn't be something to fear as her willingness ought to alleviate the sexual issues. However, if the latter is the issue, then marriage ought to be easily off the table. You can't draw conclusions from a single point of view. |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by NobleSeed(m): 4:39pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
what is wrong should also be condemned in totality. Didn't you read were the young man said there has been occasional kissing and romance? So romance and occasional kissing should be condone right? Food way you no eat them no dey test am. OscarChisom: 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by coolcare(m): 4:39pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
BAD GUY.... YOU KNOW PSYCHOLOGY BAAAJE Stupidquestions: |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Macgyver1: 4:42pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Stupidquestions: Lol I love this forum |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Seunhezy: 4:42pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
;DWetin ds guy do u na Stupidquestions: |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Thesaint141(m): 4:42pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
vickydevoka: I dey tell u? 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by kwasoly(m): 4:46pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Nobody: 4:47pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Because most men want what they can't have or in your case, what you're yet to have, that you're yet to sleep with her is enough reason for you to have sexual attraction towards her. Unless you also don't find her physically attractive, be patient until your wedding night, as the sexual attraction could change thenceforth. Just make sure you're marrying her for the right reasons and aren't driven by lust. 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by KingAzari: 4:48pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Please leave as quickly as you can. I had a similar experience and it was because of the same no-sex-before-marriage b00lsh!t. I will never advise even my enemy to agree to such. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by almarthins(m): 4:52pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
DonCandido: U re a guy. Not just ordinary one, a bedhopper. The guy should just find a way out of it. Because every man dream of that first night.if the feeling is no longer there, it will be hell for both them. Imagine u digging ur woman, and u begin to feel like u re committing abomination. That one no good o! |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Martinsrigo: 4:53pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
LOL |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by almarthins(m): 4:54pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
InTheCloudySky: the guy has lost signal. Make him no border they look for an again. The network don go |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by frozen70(f): 4:58pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr: It's already a problem while courting, what makes you think it will turn to gun after wedding Marriage is a rough road, so staying with someone you don't have feelings for will make the marriage uninteresting If you realy love her and can endure that aspect for life good luck |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Fortez: 4:59pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Are you not fuvvvkk ng her right or what |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by rosalieene(f): 4:59pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Wahala wa ooooooo |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by holybabayo(m): 5:00pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
It's supposed to be the opposite way: you feel more attracted to those you have not have sex with than to those you have had with. Maybe there are features you like that she doesn't have: height, weight, color, shape, skills, etc. You have to be honest with yourself and discuss this feeling with someone mature and apply the advice and see if there are changes. Sexual attraction is necessary for marriage. That's what will make you treat her well. It will be bad for both of you to proceed without curing this. Please don't have sex with her. That's not the way. It will not also change anything. It might be worst. And she will feel used. 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by zyphr(m): 5:04pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
LilMissFavvy: She really doesn't. Quite bland. Wouldn't wear earrings etc. But there was moment when I liked her like that. I'm just lost at the moment. I really do want to feel attraed to her again because she is quite good on other aspects. My only fear is if the lack of sexual attraction would cause issues in marriage. |
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