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Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by DrFunmisticGlow: 5:59pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Oga!! Abort mission zyphr: 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by limcar: 6:03pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Jman06:Yes oh i must sample the good before i buy. As i am like this, i cannot marry sb i haven't slept with. 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by limcar: 6:04pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Enginiaman1:fornication is normal |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by limcar: 6:07pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr:Ask her to suck your dick |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Darkblood: 6:13pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
How do you people agree to all these rubbish? You think saying no sex before marriage makes her a great wife? There are ladies who are sexually open and available, hard working and decent who will go to the end of the world with you. Your mumu na hiin too much Ode 2 Likes |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by limcar: 6:15pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
LilMissFavvy:my attraction is naughty girls |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by JBoss25(m): 6:16pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Kriss216:lol man said deflowered with noodles and egg |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by DaRenewed(m): 6:17pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Bro!.... Una two be hypocrite. No sex but una dey Kiss dey press bobby join (That one self na part of holiness & purity?).... Pple like you be like Yahoo boi wey dey call arm robber thief; which of them go go heaven. Alaye, if you wan do the do, do!. If you no wan do, make una dey do Bro & Sis till wedding night. BTW, stop talking about some Christian shiii here where you're still getting involved in Lil sins 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by kelz991: 6:22pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zexy2030: The water analogy though..lol |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by younig59: 6:33pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Bimpe29:haha u are too funny...sey we no see d change? Dnt be an hypocrite...sey change no dey as everything cost? Sey change no dey as we can not protest in peace again? Change dey abeg....well on the matter up there I am also a victim so I will advice d guy not to try it at all I contemplating on breakup right now in fact as I am reading everybodies comment here I know I chose the wrong partner...good day to u all |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Druss(m): 6:33pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Per chance have you been masturbating? That can affect attraction. Ignore those who are insulting her because of the no sex. It can end up one of two ways - either she is lying or she isn't. I have known ladies who were virgins when they got married. I have known those who pretended. Ask yourself why are you no longer feeling attracted. What recently happened? What changed? 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by bhouze(m): 6:35pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
OscarChisom: I have just the same problem with OP. Only your response made sense to me. At the bolded i think are the problem for me. Plus i think her hygiene practice may not be up to my standard. Please can these issues be fixed? I need your advice. PS: we started dating nov last year And yes she's a deeper life member. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by OscarChisom(m): 6:37pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Bro I condemn every sexual act before marriage. Total abstinence NobleSeed: |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by divinitybillz(m): 6:40pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Simps and SEX. |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Pickieox(m): 6:40pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
OscarChisom: Religion addles the mind for real... |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by JennyOfOldstones(f): 6:42pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr:You guys have very different fundamental values. And it was really naive and foolish of the both of you to go into a relationship knowing this. You already resent her for not putting out and sexually frustrating you. And the problem is that If you open up about this, she might be feel pushed to having sex with you, against her values; to save the relationship and that would definitely make her resent you. But the truth is that your relationship is basically over, just tell her you're no longer attracted to her, give your reasons and tell her that you wouldn't want her to compromise her values and that she should stick to them. It might seem like a cruel and shallow reason to end the relationship but it's better so that she wouldn't have to endure an emotional abusive marriage with a cheating husband and you wouldn't have to endure a marriage with a wife you're not attracted to 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Vinnie2000(m): 6:51pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
DrFunmisticGlow: Completely Abort!! Some peeps Here are so Funny, or should I say Ignorant.. Saying the OP only wants to Fvckk her.. Sexual Attraction is d Spark of any Relationship.. When the Girl sees d Guy, she should be able to have Naughty thoughts about him.. same as the Guy, he should be able to think about Sex with her @least once in awhile, When they haven't Done it.. But if d Partners don't feel any of these, Dat Relationship is a Sham and will Crash very soon!! I have been in d OP'S shoes..Babe went Churchy, always preaching, wearing long Skirts, talking about wat her Female Pastor/Mentor told her.. It wasn't Easy@All!! |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by OscarChisom(m): 6:52pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
If I haven't done it, I won't be advicing it. Hard it is alright, but it is doable. The Spirit quickens our mortal bodies� Osas4lav: |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by adadike(f): 6:53pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
AchalugoNwa:nkogheri! How you take know na 'ona la ya steady'? |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by JennyOfOldstones(f): 7:04pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr:Just quit this relationship already. It's doomed |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by chizzykwekez: 7:09pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
OscarChisom: You have said it all.. Words from an elder indeed. Lemme join my voice, kindly read 5his above message and pls and pls ignor those agent of darkness who left the point and be talking about she sleeping around or why you haven't had sex with her. Focus on this your path for so many online are depressed and are not worthy to give advice. Find out your turn off in her, try to correct her in that, if you still feel that way then make a bold decision, either to live with it or call it off. May God help you 1 Like |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by OscarChisom(m): 7:35pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Bro, since you have discovered what your issue with her is, it can easily be taken care of. Of course those issues can be fixed. Though while at that one should tread carefully so as not to end up hurting the psyche of your partner. You know, it's a sensitive something and not many people will see it that you're actually trying to do the best for them. But in all, you will talk about it, you might not be the only one noticing it. But Instead of direct confrontation which might make her withdraw, use subtle teasing about her wack(don't use this word o) attires/ dressing, on a day, you might be like like, 'you're looking good today Aby, but eh, that you pencil red gown will make sense with these sneakers ' and then quickly cover the statement with another statement or compliment so it wont seem as if you're dwelling on that dress. Also when she dresses up well, the type you like, make sure you compliment her well noticeably so it will register on her that you actually find her more attractive when she puts on a certain kind of attire. If it's permissible, you can get her slippers perfs, soaps etc as gifts, you might say, you saw this slippers, watch etc and you felt they will feet this her so so shirt well, you can bring the gifts on special days to avoid suspicion sha... Thread carefully o. But in all, may yours work out and turn out a fruitful relationship, remember that God is the center of this romance..God bless PS. My thoughts werent organised much forgive the poor writing bhouze: |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by cooooooks(m): 7:44pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Aunty is saying that if she does no sex before marriage, she MUST be faithful bemy default LOL CharisEleos: |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Jman06(m): 7:58pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Okuda:Would you religious zealots allow someone to divorce on account of sexual incompatibility? Of course we know you won't. You'll rather start telling us how sex is not food and other bullshit while the couple are left to find fulfillment outside. Nonsense and ingredients! |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Ofadaman(m): 8:02pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Not an easy thing as it's needed .. if it's gone doest mean it can't be reignited |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by NoToPile: 8:05pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr: Sexual attraction my foot, you better don't listen to all the 'you must test drive before marriage sayers on the forum' The only reason why you are feeling this way is simply because deep down you really don't fancy the no sex before marriage stuff but you really like the lady and you were ready to follow her rules till the marriage, if truly you are an advocate of NSBM by choice and not by circumstance all these talk won't crop up. You saw that she's bland, doesn't wear earrings, you went to meet her, you didn't go and meet jewelry and makeup wearing church sisters. If God forbid she decides to have sex with you the attraction will come out from where its hiding sharp sharp You better don't deceive yourself and let the devil deceive you. See the way all of them are talking about sex as if its the only thing in marriage. Once theres a post about a lady not wanting sex without marriage, the vultures will always descend and say so many rubbish. Jeez so many annoying comments. If you know you will not marry her let her go peacefully abeg, since 2019 is it not even enough to get married after 2 years? |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Suremikky(m): 8:17pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
vickydevoka: Abeg no kill me with laugh |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by Oyin2212(m): 8:17pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:This is wisdom. Talk sense into the guy jare |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by teepeexie(m): 8:17pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
You've had flings with two different ladies and an ex while dating your girlfriend who denies you sex �...of course you won't be sexually attracted to her again after crossing the line. Guy stop wasting her time and call it quits you don't deserve her and that's on period! |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by hakeem4(m): 8:51pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
zyphr: Yes sexual attraction is necessary for marriage. Or is your marriage going to be all talk and no sex? |
Re: Help! I Don't Feel Sexually Attracted To My Fiancée by zoedew: 9:15pm On Jul 24, 2021 |
Amos 3:3; You are not on the same page with her. Go your separate ways! |
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