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Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Gfskw: 10:54pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
I got mine own just be independent and won’t spoon feed a lazy asssss 2 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by CALCULUS16: 10:55pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Macadamemmy:Heavy weight champion Do not lift what's heavier than your weight, if u do that u might tear your trouser or underwear and u might even fall or shit while doing so. The maxim should be- Lift the persons you can lift and you will be able to rise. Namaste 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by vickydevoka(m): 10:59pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Drizzy5001: Funny . So ur mother's brother is very kind to you people and wicked to his own brother. Chai. This life no balance for men. Men abeg help una self |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by vickydevoka(m): 11:01pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Kaysnow:This one can happen to anybody. That's not wickedness, she mean business 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by vickydevoka(m): 11:05pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
leofab:I swear. Tell him, your not just kidding his institution, u are kidding both his faculty and every of his department in his brain |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by vickydevoka(m): 11:08pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
lawrenzooo:I don't agree totally on dis. Woman wahala makes men not to bring his siblings to his house. Unless de man marry woman way be last born. Like my rich elder brother. N only we de come him house. De woman no get anybody 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by jaxxy(m): 11:44pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
ignis: Who is wicked? The person trying to mind his business or the one who has issues with u for no reason and yet wants ur help just to use it against u? Who is the custodian of the wickedness please?? Better don’t be ignorant. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by greggng: 11:50pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Sometimes some family members are called the black sheep of the family . No matter the amount of help you give, they will waste it cos they believe another one will come . I met a guy recently ...he was telling the sister on phone that he got to pay for UK visa ...he is tired of Nigeria ...he begged for 200k for the process...the sister sent him the money immediately without looking back. After a week...he was asking for another 100k from same sister ...according to him he want to use it to get the marriage certificate ...He has demanded for another money and the sister refused ....he started calling her names .......Today i was mad with him cos he didn't invest the money in what he claimed to use it for ...but he spent it on drink with friends ...living a fake life doesn't help 2 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by jesmond3945: 11:56pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
harjay1986:well I pray you go to france, you would be in his shoes. You would work so hard in France, make your money. If your distant cousin call you for money you would block his phone. Is very easy to say we will lift each other but when you are at the top, you would want to still be at the top. On his way to the top, what role did you play? Or if he takes you to France of what benefit will it be for him? Do you know he owes you nothing. He has every right to choose who he helps? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by yemmit90: 12:02am On Aug 07, 2021 |
jimmychang: Know the truth, and the truth shall set you free. Have you ever wonder how your leaders would traveled all over the developed countries, took your money there to invest or buy needless over paid properties, have access to world class health facilities, send their children to school there but refuse to provide such for their people. This problem started from basic unit of the society( family), from which the leaders emanated. 4 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by twind111(f): 12:09am On Aug 07, 2021 |
mayorkun101:bros calm down 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by yemmit90: 12:15am On Aug 07, 2021 |
jesmond3945: This is exactly what we are saying. Must we benefited from helping one another? Must we always be self centred? Must everything revolves around us? Must we always dominates or want people to worship us. This mentality will keep making Nigeria and other underdeveloped Africa countries remain backwards for centuries to come. We are just too selfish and ignorant to create an egalitarian society. 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Lordhades21(m): 12:23am On Aug 07, 2021 |
Stupid talk, his son is a crack head one.. Would u wanna leave Your fortune to a crack head?? Help without thoughts of receiving. Yea nobody owe's you nothing but that's not an excuse to turn a blind eye when u know u are in the position to help. No one is saying it should be at your detriment but when u have help. Whites dey help, don't bring black man mentality into this, half the time u don't even need to be fam for them to be willing when they got it. Africa una no one show love but expect person to rise from thing air. A wealthy man is one who lifts those around him. No one made it anywhere by themselves and it frankly makes no sense being a rich man but your brothers still dey struggle to find their ground. If you get to do... Do so that e go choke... Occasion sup una clear road like obi. ✌️ Peace out punisha: |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by damoceile: 12:27am On Aug 07, 2021 |
heniford2: You don't need that bro.... Just do your best and let God be the judge |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by jesmond3945: 12:27am On Aug 07, 2021 |
yemmit90:of course we are all selfish one way or the other. Trying to reach the top you have to be self centered. This is because you came to this world alone, when you leave life goes on. YOLO. The only family member I support to help is your parents. Anything you do for your siblings, you do for your parents. This mentality is what made Europe what it is today. Look at the igbos, every body is competing and in the process, development comes. When you depend on one person, you weigh the person down and stunt his growth. 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by jesmond3945: 12:30am On Aug 07, 2021 |
Kaysnow:she know that if you made a mistake she would not have the heart to reprimand you. She is separating family from business. 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 12:38am On Aug 07, 2021 |
heniford2: Bros, pls dont go that far. I beg you with God. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Onyxnaija: 12:53am On Aug 07, 2021 |
This article is bloody waste of time. Probably written by an entitled person. First, no one owes anyone anything. Aside from one’s parents, there’s no obligation to help any other family member. Any help given to anyone, family or not, should be received with thanks and not with entitlement which has become a norm in many families and friendship circles. Black tax is the bane of many ‘successful’ people and have caused serious problems for them. Many family members have turned their successful brother/ sister into cash cows, while they refuse to work or trade claiming that there are no jobs or the ones they’ve found are beneath them. Some family members have gone on to marry and produce 4 to 5 children each, for the one successful family member to cater for. If the successful family member complains about the load , they blame his wife and even go as far a threatening his life. However we know this is not sustainable as what you people are calling help, is stifling the successful persons growth. I know people that have been receiving help for over 20 years still they have not progressed at all. No, there comes a time when the helper says he/she has had enough and needs to focus on his / her own children. Then the story will turn to that family member although very successful, never helped anyone. Abeg, Nigerian people help yourselves. Yes things are hard, but people are still making it in Nigeria. Parents teach your children not to be entitled and that no one owes them nothing. That way, they’ll always think of independence and appreciate everything you or anyone does for them. This entitlement is the root of all family problems in Nigeria. Ask yourself, you grew up in the same family with your successful brother/ sister, why are not successful too? Perhaps you misused your own opportunities or didn’t have your priorities right. Get off your lazy backside and look for something to do. As long as you have breathe in you, it’s not too late for you. 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by yemmit90: 12:56am On Aug 07, 2021 |
jesmond3945: Off course, to reach the top in Africa especially Nigeria, you need to be selfish. This is number 1 problem of our society. You naturally become leader and most respectful individual when you grow along with others. And dont ever mention Europe at all. Do you even know what it means to be egalitarian society like western countries? Do you know why heavy tax are usually levy against the rich? Do you even know the meaning of social security in western countries? The different between the west and African nations is simple, the former only think of how to improve his/her society by creating ideas that everyone will benefit irrespective of their social background, while the later only think about him/herself all alone. Let me give you a very close example, there is this white guy working in the same office with my brother over there, the has no child but dedicates 30% from his every pay check to charity. Tell me how many people in Nigeria can do this for his/her relative, let alone one charity organisation? 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by bilulu(m): 2:38am On Aug 07, 2021 |
elonmuskbaby:the thing is, the one doing well should assist another to rise, then both will lift a third person and it will go around. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by InvertedHammer: 5:19am On Aug 07, 2021 |
/ Assistance and entitlement are two different things. / 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 6:30am On Aug 07, 2021 |
yemi1504: Thanks for your comments. Honestly, there is no guarantee they will help my children. I am positively sure they won't remember my children. I don't think they are interested in me as a person. They only call me when they need money and never ask for my children or my situations. Its all about their needs. Its non-ending. For the records I sent three of my siblings to the university while working in Nigeria. I started working at 13. I have helped for more than 15 years and I have come to the realization that the worst decision you can make is trying to help individuals who are not ready to help themselves. Sure, if they make efforts, I can help move to Canada but they want me to do all the legwork, research, application, pay flight tickets, take care of them and their families. It is simply mind boggling. I have good insurance to take care of my kids and properties. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Drizzy5001(m): 6:34am On Aug 07, 2021 |
vickydevoka:Oga, why are you trying to derail from what I posted, did I mention my mother's brother not helping his own brother? |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by harjay1986: 7:30am On Aug 07, 2021 |
jesmond3945: bros if I may ask how old are you ? because you reply is like someone who stilll stay under his parent .... in life no matter how wealthy you are someone will surely render help for you directly or indirectly that does not mean they have benefitted from you in the past .... nobody is laying entitlement mentality here okay imagine I came to you knowing well that you are a well to do an uncle (so what help would you want from me because is the little one that suppose to look for elder) for an assistance that will only require your influence or direction and you turn me down I never for once ask for any financial assistance from you because i know fully well that you too have some financial obligation you need to attend to ...... bro reasone am as per goin to france one day that has been deleted from my diary mainly business wise |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by punisha: 7:35am On Aug 07, 2021 |
Lordhades21: Good luck to you and your useless crack head son o. Peace out ✌� |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by AvalonSpace(m): 7:43am On Aug 07, 2021 |
twind111:The best way to conquer disappointment is just stay unexpecting. As in, don't expect anything from anybody. By do doing, you can never get disappointed. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 7:51am On Aug 07, 2021 |
onlyhope: My mom did ask her, she said she doesn’t want it to turn out to be my car.. And my only intention is to use it and keep busy until I go for mobilization. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 7:53am On Aug 07, 2021 |
jesmond3945: I don’t think so cos I was like just give me a try, one week maximum, I don’t deliver u take it. She started remembering how I insulted her 15years ago, I can’t even remember cos 15yrs ago I was 9yrs. 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by DonroxyII: 8:02am On Aug 07, 2021 |
heniford2:Please just move on and don't do that ! |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by DonroxyII: 8:04am On Aug 07, 2021 |
Gabkosh:Except you have a topnotch family of erudite but if your dad happened to be first to breakthrough from village...... Trust me, Day never brake for your side because you never experience |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by elonmuskbaby: 8:45am On Aug 07, 2021 |
bilulu:I agree with you.not the one not willing to work but waiting for free food to drop on his laps because he has brothers abroad 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by jesmond3945: 9:44am On Aug 07, 2021 |
Kaysnow:hmmm. I think she doesn't trust you thats why. |
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