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Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Lamasta(m): 4:43pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
If God blesses you remember to help your struggling family members it will take nothing from You and at the end you will realize that its actually yourself you helped in the long run. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by labani06(m): 4:44pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
twind111:Live Is Based On Microcosm What Happen In Side Our Homes Is Just A Fractal Form Of The Whole Country Almost Everyone Is Selfish That Is WHY Nigeria Is Failing 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Rick9(m): 4:47pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
I always say this. Remove Blood And Many Families Would Crumble to Dust. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Geeman2006: 4:47pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Help if you wanna help, but you don't owe anybody anything. This Africa, our entitlement mentality is soo annoying. 3 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Majestybaba92(m): 4:48pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
slawormiir: You are very correct |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Revolva(m): 4:50pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
As for me Family come first to life and help as long asi have the financial power.....then another relative by blood line ...then friends who get sense and loyal..and I knew have been there for me aside that If am super rich i won't help any random person ... and as i help you ...make sure you are ready to give me back if am in need....that is where the problem lies some people wont remember you again 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by phorget(m): 4:51pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Bannann: Call the father and tell him his son has stayed beyond his welcome. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by twosquare(m): 4:52pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Don't...rather don't help. Your fortune may turn. To hearken is better than the fat of rams... ọ̀rẹ́ mi dàmí, èmi náà á da ọ̀rẹ́ mi, ọ̀dàlẹ̀ di méjì nuun. heniford2: |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by emmanuelewumi(m): 4:52pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
NaWeDeyHere: Your in-laws keh, is your wife not working ni? 2 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Nobody: 4:54pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
emmanuelewumi: Since covid in 2020, she lost her job and has been struggling but it has not changed our responsibilities to extended families. it has actually increased it |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by oliverano: 4:55pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
pansophist: You've made lots of valid points and yes you're right about a lot of things. Education is very important here. I don't give people money as a way of help. That's not to say I won't assist you if the need is urgent with raw cash. here's the thing. You know your family and you'll know who is doing well and who's not. What I do, because I try to be very anonymous. I send a friend, or a delegate. Tell so so person to go learn how to repair a car, the cost is on me etc or tell xyz to go to abc and tender this letter, he'll be given a keke to drive and play back at a very low rate. We must make him pay back so he doesn't become unserious I know i can't help every body but.... I'll help as far as I live and as far as I can!!! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by phorget(m): 4:58pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Bannann: Eject the guy nah. Tell am make him pack. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Komu1048(m): 4:58pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
twind111: Immediately I saw the thread I know it’s Yorubas, they will never help not the one I come from. But Igbos r exceptionally good to each other. That’s why they grow together 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by 1MILLIONLiGHTS(m): 5:00pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
African entitlement mentality. That's why we can't invent much. Which uncle Adam and eve get? One of Science greatest minds Nikola Tesla went broke many times finding himself digging trenches in newyork but still ended up successful. What of patoranking? Some of these taxi guys you see out there. The car isn't theirs. They hire and make up for the money at the end of the day. Some printing businesses don't even have a single stapler. They'll just bring back the prints and deduct their little profit and life continues. Don't wait for one of your Uncle who's a civil servant to DASH you 1Million Naira for business, you may be dreaming. 6 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by OpinionCounts(m): 5:05pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
BabbanBura: I tell you, I have seen a lot of irresponsible behaviors by people who believe it is their right to be made comfortable by their rich brother without doing anything. Some even begin to select the kind of work they cannot "stoop low" to do, basing their ego on the wealth of their brother instead of going out there to carve out a living for theirself. 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Komu1048(m): 5:08pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
One1Nigeria: The first time I heard, the easiest loan is from friend and family. It’s from a white lady, don’t be full family stands with each others in Europe, American n Asia than Africa. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by bilulu(m): 5:09pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
I remember how my elder brother (first son) then in Europe help our second son to move to Canada, fast forward till today, the one in Canada has assisted both myself and the one in Europe then to Canada.... we all are about assisting another brother to Canada.... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by cococandy(f): 5:15pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Tomesocial:What ID and Social security number card? Why are you guys like this? 2 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by CodeTemplar: 5:17pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
ignis:You are the type that can kill those who you feel have and has refused to help. Asides what OP wrote, the rich man if he has sacrificed something so precious to get his wealth may feel you to should pass through your own pain to get yours. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by CodeTemplar: 5:23pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
chimezieeze98:Money matter is far complex than all these. |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by usb2016(m): 5:25pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
We rise by lifting others That is the real slogan of a helper! This issue is of different categorie 1 AJUNMOBI O KAN TAANU.. It's a Yoruba proverb , for someone to be your close relative doesn't guarantee that he or she will help you, some prefer to face their immediate family I mean kids and wife only. 2 PAST FAMILY HISTORY.. many rich family member didn't get help too when they are struggling. So you expect them to be of help too when they eventually arrive. 3 FAMILY ISSUE.. Take for instant you get a loan for a family member and he or she refuse to pay even when they can. If you persuade them too much they will say are we not family member. 4 MOST WICKED ENEMY SOMETIMES COME FROM THE FAMILY.. I mean spiritually. As a Nigerian you should understand this better.E.G. how can only you build 3 houses when we have none WAHALA. At your age I was still in form 4 and you say you need money for school fee in a university abeg wait till next year.e.t.c 5 ONE RICH MAN IN A POOR FAMILY.. when you have only just one rich man or just a few of them in a family what do you expect. how many do you think they can help .. when the pressure is too much they will distance themselves from family.. NOTE: it's only those sent by God that can help.. And if you receive help from a family member please don't misuse the opportunity it may hinder help of another family member.. If you didn't receive help from any family member now please don't have the wicked mindset that you too will not help . [/quote] 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by twosquare(m): 5:30pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
A family is like a forest when you’re far away and all the trees are together, but when you get closer, each tree has its respective position. A Twi proverb. Experience and goodness are relative Komu1048: |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by smeag0l(m): 5:31pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Don't do this. It is better for you to tell her blatantly that you can't help. Two wrongs don't make a right. heniford2: |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Lexusgs430: 5:46pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Help the helpee, when the helper too needs help........ Wahala cannot finish ......... The magnitude of your problems, are simply relative.......... The poor person's problem might be breakfast, lunch and dinner ...... The rich person's problem might be, having lunch in Monaco or Gelato in italy ......... Everyone get wahala......... So one person should tackle your wahala, ignoring his/her own wahala ........ |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Kirkman: 5:46pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
heniford2:Guy forgive and forget, I know it's very painful, but just cut off communication with her snd her family and don't bring the boy over just to punish him. It shall be well with you and you will heal from your hurt. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Yungmakaveli01(m): 5:48pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
heniford2:Dude just chill no need to put the sins of ur Aunt on her son in that kind of harsh manner. don't forget that if he is locked up for drugs over there in Germany, he would be drugged before been deported back to Nigeria. Just cut off the communication u have with them or better still u can also just let the past go and forgive. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Thazard(m): 5:51pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
slawormiir:For once,i agree with you! |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by cooltola(m): 5:52pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Follow this order to avoid story that touch, God first then 1, take care of children, no story added. Food , clothes , school fees whether u are married or not. 2, if you are not married and do not have kids, then it is your parents, or Guardians or whomever raised you up 3. If you are married, then your wife/ husband, followed by your parents or guardian. 4 if u are not married, then your closest siblings . 5. A mandatory saving or ajo or investment 5, whatever is left, u can give to relative, cousin , uncle and aunty , Girlfriend and so in 1 Like |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by ubola: 5:53pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
ignis:You won't understand until you get there. I used to think like you but my mentality has changed. There are different levels of richness : 1. He might be a senior civil servant in the state employ of level 14 with monthly salary of 150k. Now every family member sees him as rich because he's built a house in the city, after working for 20years. With that meagre salary, he probably took a bank loan for the project which is deducted from monthly payments. If the bankers take 50k monthly, he's left with 100k for the month. He probably has a family of four including the wife and a maid totalling 6. Assuming the each of them consumes a minimum of N200 per meal, in a day he would have spent N3,600 for feeding them. In a week, that will be about 26K, then about 110K in a month. This particular man am describing above is suffering and one boy in the village will be thinking he's rich because he's a senior civil servant. I didn't include the wife's finances cuz to some extent they turn a "blind eye " to the stress. 5 Likes |
Re: Major Reasons Why Family Member Do Not Help Each Other. by Lexusgs430: 5:57pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
heniford2: I hope you have reminded your aunty, what she said and did to ?....... And how she equates this request vs her actions ....... 1 Like 1 Share |
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