If God blesses you remember to help your struggling family members it will take nothing from You and at the end you will realize that its actually yourself you helped in the long run.

twind111:
This issue is of different categorie
1 AJUNMOBI O KAN TAANU.. It's a Yoruba proverb , for someone to be your close relative doesn't guarantee that he or she will help you, some prefer to face their immediate family I mean kids and wife only.

2 PAST FAMILY HISTORY.. many rich family member didn't get help too when they are struggling. So you expect them to be of help too when they eventually arrive.

3 FAMILY ISSUE.. Take for instant you get a loan for a family member and he or she refuse to pay even when they can. If you persuade them too much they will say are we not family member.

4 MOST WICKED ENEMY SOMETIMES COME FROM THE FAMILY.. I mean spiritually. As a Nigerian you should understand this better.E.G. how can only you build 3 houses when we have none WAHALA. At your age I was still in form 4 and you say you need money for school fee in a university abeg wait till next year.e.t.c

5 ONE RICH MAN IN A POOR FAMILY.. when you have only just one rich man or just a few of them in a family what do you expect. how many do you think they can help .. when the pressure is too much they will distance themselves from family..

NOTE: it's only those sent by God that can help.. And if you receive help from a family member please don't misuse the opportunity it may hinder help of another family member.. If you didn't receive help from any family member now please don't have the wicked mindset that you too will not help .

Live Is Based On Microcosm What Happen In Side Our Homes Is Just A Fractal Form Of The Whole Country Almost Everyone Is Selfish That Is WHY Nigeria Is Failing

I always say this. Remove Blood And Many Families Would Crumble to Dust.

Help if you wanna help, but you don't owe anybody anything. This Africa, our entitlement mentality is soo annoying.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Ogbeni op abi na Baby girl you be just stop this talk
....the point you raised are not valid.....or reasonable.....you mean because of all these someone can not assist family members .....you are talking like a typical uncle from our fathers family

Ogbeni op...let me tell you a secret...no matter what always assist and render help to your family.....
The easiest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure that you help people around you to become a millionaire first....

The one I hate most and have noticed in life is that it seems uncles from our mother side are more caring and assisting than those moda fuckkking uncles from our fathers family .....and the most annoying thing is that we always share the same ancestral surname with those fuckkking uncles from the fathers family....still they will not be willing to help

You are very correct

As for me Family come first to life and help as long asi have the financial power.....then another relative by blood line ...then friends who get sense and loyal..and I knew have been there for me

aside that If am super rich i won't help any random person ...

and as i help you ...make sure you are ready to give me back if am in need....that is where the problem lies some people wont remember you again

Bannann:
Am currently battling with one problem now, a Father's friend said his son needed a place to stay for a couple of days till he gets an apartment, that's how I accepted ooo omo the guy no one comot again, and the most painful part is people warned me but Mr nice guy I do Orikun kun

Call the father and tell him his son has stayed beyond his welcome.

Don't...rather don't help. Your fortune may turn. To hearken is better than the fat of rams... ọ̀rẹ́ mi dàmí, èmi náà á da ọ̀rẹ́ mi, ọ̀dàlẹ̀ di méjì nuun.

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

NaWeDeyHere:


You don't know what this post means to me - i wish it can be shared to other platforms as well.

Especially #1 - once you are married, your responsibilities triple and you cannot afford to be taking care of your siblings and parents when you have a wife and children to also take care of as your new "Generational" family

Many Inlaws and Families feel that it is your duty to help spoon-feed them till you die

Your in-laws keh, is your wife not working ni?

emmanuelewumi:


Your in-laws keh, is your wife not working ni?

Since covid in 2020, she lost her job and has been struggling but it has not changed our responsibilities to extended families. it has actually increased it

pansophist:


You made an outstanding point and this is what I've experienced. When one have the virtue of contentment, he appears wealthy to other materialistic folks. Because one doesn't go about asking for money, carry his own weight diligently and even help despite his own challenges doesn't mean his is rich or can help beyond a certain level.

It's also a case of people expecting your help to be somewhat revolutionary. If you have a Benz for example, they would expect you to help them to a point where they will have a benz too, even though you can't. Also, they may not have productive skills to cash out on their own and somehow, think just because they want it, and assumed you can help, then so be it and that they should have it.

It's also a case of delusion. Because someone think I'm in a position to help doesn't mean I can. Lots of folks abroad passes through this. A man may be illegal wherever they are, hiding from police and doing hard jobs under the table to survive, but people back home will heap all their problem on him with the wrong mindset that because he is abroad, he must be able to help.

I also intensely hate the fact that because someone is in need of help, they are automatically immuned from fault. I say this again, lots of needy family members are loosers, ungrateful, opportunist and a leaky basket. Doesn't matter how much you give, they will come back to beg for more. The idea that the one in the weak position (the beggar) is somehow good and the assumed rich guy (the giver) is bad is wrong. Thats about it.

Pareto principles which says that 20% of people have 80% of the wealth is not some unfair capitalistic, exploitative, inhumane system that people make it to seems. It is completely a natural law and a biblical one at that. Also known as the mathew principle in the bible.



So you see, the more hardworking and drive yoy have, the more successful you'll become. But if one is lazy, have no drive and keep begging, thr poorer they will be.

You've made lots of valid points and yes you're right about a lot of things.

Education is very important here.

I don't give people money as a way of help.

That's not to say I won't assist you if the need is urgent with raw cash.

here's the thing. You know your family and you'll know who is doing well and who's not.

What I do, because I try to be very anonymous. I send a friend, or a delegate.

Tell so so person to go learn how to repair a car, the cost is on me etc

or tell xyz to go to abc and tender this letter, he'll be given a keke to drive and play back at a very low rate. We must make him pay back so he doesn't become unserious

I know i can't help every body but....

I'll help as far as I live and as far as I can!!!

Bannann:

The man has not been picking ooo very anyhow people

Eject the guy nah. Tell am make him pack.

twind111:
This issue is of different categorie
1 AJUNMOBI O KAN TAANU.. It's a Yoruba proverb , for someone to be your close relative doesn't guarantee that he or she will help you, some prefer to face their immediate family I mean kids and wife only.

2 PAST FAMILY HISTORY.. many rich family member didn't get help too when they are struggling. So you expect them to be of help too when they eventually arrive.

3 FAMILY ISSUE.. Take for instant you get a loan for a family member and he or she refuse to pay even when they can. If you persuade them too much they will say are we not family member.

4 MOST WICKED ENEMY SOMETIMES COME FROM THE FAMILY.. I mean spiritually. As a Nigerian you should understand this better.E.G. how can only you build 3 houses when we have none WAHALA. At your age I was still in form 4 and you say you need money for school fee in a university abeg wait till next year.e.t.c

5 ONE RICH MAN IN A POOR FAMILY.. when you have only just one rich man or just a few of them in a family what do you expect. how many do you think they can help .. when the pressure is too much they will distance themselves from family..

NOTE: it's only those sent by God that can help.. And if you receive help from a family member please don't misuse the opportunity it may hinder help of another family member.. If you didn't receive help from any family member now please don't have the wicked mindset that you too will not help .

Immediately I saw the thread I know it’s Yorubas, they will never help not the one I come from. But Igbos r exceptionally good to each other. That’s why they grow together

African entitlement mentality. That's why we can't invent much. Which uncle Adam and eve get? One of Science greatest minds Nikola Tesla went broke many times finding himself digging trenches in newyork but still ended up successful. What of patoranking? Some of these taxi guys you see out there. The car isn't theirs. They hire and make up for the money at the end of the day. Some printing businesses don't even have a single stapler. They'll just bring back the prints and deduct their little profit and life continues. Don't wait for one of your Uncle who's a civil servant to DASH you 1Million Naira for business, you may be dreaming.

BabbanBura:


So so true. Why do I feel like I wrote this too? We are perfectly like mines bro

I tell you, I have seen a lot of irresponsible behaviors by people who believe it is their right to be made comfortable by their rich brother without doing anything.

Some even begin to select the kind of work they cannot "stoop low" to do, basing their ego on the wealth of their brother instead of going out there to carve out a living for theirself.

One1Nigeria:
The white man does not have time for this family rubbish,the reason for all this nonsense is because our government has failed..... politically and economically.....Abeg free Family Every body get him own problem,u self carry ur cross put all your hope in God

The first time I heard, the easiest loan is from friend and family. It’s from a white lady, don’t be full family stands with each others in Europe, American n Asia than Africa.

I remember how my elder brother (first son) then in Europe help our second son to move to Canada, fast forward till today, the one in Canada has assisted both myself and the one in Europe then to Canada.... we all are about assisting another brother to Canada....

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Why are you guys like this?

ignis:
The major reason is wickedness. Please let's not justify wickedness and evil. There is no reason for a successful family member not to help a struggling family member.

Someone will come tomorrow and give reasons why the devil is evil.

You are the type that can kill those who you feel have and has refused to help.

Asides what OP wrote, the rich man if he has sacrificed something so precious to get his wealth may feel you to should pass through your own pain to get yours.

chimezieeze98:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBWFCTEA6NE


[b]Go hustle your money.... It annoys me when we in Africa have that entitlement mentality.... I am not saying one shouldn't help family members or even leave inheritance to them when they die... But its not a must.

Look at the above video... Oga gave a lexus car to his security... They are not related, but he knows the security man worth the gift.... The joy in the security man's face shows he was never expecting it.... And he will appreciate it the more.

Dr Dre daughter posted earlier this week that her father has abandoned her m... She is in her 30s with kids from different men... And she still never get her life right to dey make even minimum wage?

Jackie chan has vowed not to leave any inheritance for his son..... Bill Gates, Warren buffet.... Many of them have promised to do similar things.

Many big men in Nigeria that spoilt their children... When they die.. Na so court case you go dey hear.... MKO Abiola is an example.

As for me, the education my dad gave me is enough.... Though I am not where I hope to be... I know he has played his part.

Its now left for me to legitimately hustle hard... And by time I make my money, if I like u help, If I like I don't... Do you know how many people have tried helping others and end up going bankrupt?

In the end, they will be abandoned by those who they helped.

I have helped so many people in my life.... But if they don't remember to help me out when I am down... I don't get upset.... I wouldn't be needing their help in the first place if I had hustled hard and managed my money properly....

I will end this my rant by saying.... The earlier you learn not to expect anything from anyone.... The better for you.. ... You would never be disappointed in your life....
[/b]

Money matter is far complex than all these.

We rise by lifting others That is the real slogan of a helper!



This issue is of different categorie
1 AJUNMOBI O KAN TAANU.. It's a Yoruba proverb , for someone to be your close relative doesn't guarantee that he or she will help you, some prefer to face their immediate family I mean kids and wife only.

2 PAST FAMILY HISTORY.. many rich family member didn't get help too when they are struggling. So you expect them to be of help too when they eventually arrive.

3 FAMILY ISSUE.. Take for instant you get a loan for a family member and he or she refuse to pay even when they can. If you persuade them too much they will say are we not family member.

4 MOST WICKED ENEMY SOMETIMES COME FROM THE FAMILY.. I mean spiritually. As a Nigerian you should understand this better.E.G. how can only you build 3 houses when we have none WAHALA. At your age I was still in form 4 and you say you need money for school fee in a university abeg wait till next year.e.t.c

5 ONE RICH MAN IN A POOR FAMILY.. when you have only just one rich man or just a few of them in a family what do you expect. how many do you think they can help .. when the pressure is too much they will distance themselves from family..

NOTE: it's only those sent by God that can help.. And if you receive help from a family member please don't misuse the opportunity it may hinder help of another family member.. If you didn't receive help from any family member now please don't have the wicked mindset that you too will not help . [/quote]

A family is like a forest when you’re far away and all the trees are together, but when you get closer, each tree has its respective position. A Twi proverb.

Experience and goodness are relative

Komu1048:



Immediately I saw the thread I know it’s Yorubas, they will never help not the one I come from. But Igbos r exceptionally good to each other. That’s why they grow together

Don't do this. It is better for you to tell her blatantly that you can't help. Two wrongs don't make a right.

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

Help the helpee, when the helper too needs help........

Wahala cannot finish ......... The magnitude of your problems, are simply relative..........


The poor person's problem might be breakfast, lunch and dinner ......

The rich person's problem might be, having lunch in Monaco or Gelato in italy .........

Everyone get wahala.........

So one person should tackle your wahala, ignoring his/her own wahala ........

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

Guy forgive and forget, I know it's very painful, but just cut off communication with her snd her family and don't bring the boy over just to punish him. It shall be well with you and you will heal from your hurt.

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

Dude just chill no need to put the sins of ur Aunt on her son in that kind of harsh manner. don't forget that if he is locked up for drugs over there in Germany, he would be drugged before been deported back to Nigeria. Just cut off the communication u have with them or better still u can also just let the past go and forgive.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Ogbeni op abi na Baby girl you be just stop this talk
....the point you raised are not valid.....or reasonable.....you mean because of all these someone can not assist family members .....you are talking like a typical uncle from our fathers family

Ogbeni op...let me tell you a secret...no matter what always assist and render help to your family.....
The easiest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure that you help people around you to become a millionaire first....

The one I hate most and have noticed in life is that it seems uncles from our mother side are more caring and assisting than those moda fuckkking uncles from our fathers family .....and the most annoying thing is that we always share the same ancestral surname with those fuckkking uncles from the fathers family....still they will not be willing to help

For once,i agree with you!

Follow this order to avoid story that touch, God first then
1, take care of children, no story added. Food , clothes , school fees whether u are married or not.
2, if you are not married and do not have kids, then it is your parents, or Guardians or whomever raised you up
3. If you are married, then your wife/ husband, followed by your parents or guardian.
4 if u are not married, then your closest siblings .
5. A mandatory saving or ajo or investment
5, whatever is left, u can give to relative, cousin , uncle and aunty , Girlfriend and so in

ignis:
The major reason is wickedness. Please let's not justify wickedness and evil. There is no reason for a successful family member not to help a struggling family member.

Someone will come tomorrow and give reasons why the devil is evil.

You won't understand until you get there. I used to think like you but my mentality has changed. There are different levels of richness : 1. He might be a senior civil servant in the state employ of level 14 with monthly salary of 150k. Now every family member sees him as rich because he's built a house in the city, after working for 20years. With that meagre salary, he probably took a bank loan for the project which is deducted from monthly payments. If the bankers take 50k monthly, he's left with 100k for the month. He probably has a family of four including the wife and a maid totalling 6. Assuming the each of them consumes a minimum of N200 per meal, in a day he would have spent N3,600 for feeding them. In a week, that will be about 26K, then about 110K in a month. This particular man am describing above is suffering and one boy in the village will be thinking he's rich because he's a senior civil servant. I didn't include the wife's finances cuz to some extent they turn a "blind eye " to the stress.

heniford2:
Low mentality in Africa is the problem,i Remember back then when i lost my dad i went to ask loan from my Aunty who my dad helped, i remember her coming to visit my old man than my late old man will empty everything we have in house i stop my primary 6 then just because p man wan help her beloved sister then he died what my aunty opened her stinking mouth to say to me after my dads burial"hey come here, see if you think my money or any of us will give u guys any penny your dreaming right i owe u guys nothing likewise my brother and sisters so if u like go and hustle" it shocked me because we just buried his brother that day i saw her crying why this vaxation i thought she was joking till i went to ask for money to pay my school fees i saw the shock of my life Never hope on anyone Not ever your own blood brother make plans for yourself and your children, right know she's asking me to help his son to come over to germany guess what i will Bleep them up in a very big way will allow the boy to come over then set him up they will lock him up or deport him for illegal stay and position of drugs

I hope you have reminded your aunty, what she said and did to ?.......

And how she equates this request vs her actions .......