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I read the post of most of you justifying kidnapping
well for your information the poor are not immune to kidnapping the rate at which kidnapping is being allowed to go on in Nigeria.

Until Nigerians stand up as they have done in Egypt, and other countries to fight these menace they would soon be kidnapping the poor when there is no more rich people to kidnap.

Rather than rejoicing at his misfortune as some of you have posted here you should support him by saying no to kidnapping

@OP

You are the confused hypochrites that go to churches where the Bishops use their tithes and offerings to buy private jets for themselves

When will Nigerians throw away tribalism and focus on national development?
When he was a governor they did not say he was Igbo

why dont the hausa fulani tribe go and join Niger republic or Chad and leave Nigeria so we can progress/develop

Very suspicious post. You don require anyone to get you UK visa and certainly not in five days

[b]the post below will answer your question[/b]Burnt-out cars on the street after Tottenham riots. Photograph: Rex Features


Tottenham's young people are rioting as they see no future

Seeing Tottenham after the riots was shocking but not surprising, says Lara Oyedele. With cuts now biting, young people have no where left to go -Oyedele

I have never seen a burnt-out car before, in real life, in front of my eyes. I was walking through Tottenham on Monday morning surveying the area, when I turned the corner and saw the charred wreckage.

It was a shocking sight. Not again, I thought. We were just getting over Broadwater Farm, people were beginning to forget, move on. But now our reputation as the rioting centre of London has been secured.

I have lived in Tottenham since 1998 and have plenty of friends and business contacts in the neighbourhood. The saddest thing is that a lot of the services destroyed were provided by locals doing their bit for the people in the area. I felt ashamed and embarrassed – but not surprised.

The shooting of Mark Duggan was an excuse, an opportunity, the lighting of the match: the bonfire was ready and waiting. It was going to happen. I've been saying so since the new government announced the cuts and the job losses began to bite.

Our society is breeding a whole generation of young people who do not expect to achieve anything productive in their lives. Graduate students are applying for jobs that, previously, would have gone to somebody with A-levels. Those with A-levels are applying for the jobs for people with no qualifications. So jobseekers with no qualifications are stuck.


Lara Oyedele, chief executive of Odu-Dua Housing Association
At the housing association I lead, we provided places for the Future Jobs Fund (FJF), a training scheme run by the Department for Work and Pensions for young people between the ages of 18 and 24. Consequently, during the interview process, I spoke to a lot of young people from the community.

There's a generation out there, hopeless, devoid of aspiration, unconvinced they will achieve anything. The 100 or so young people I have seen through the FJF are just the tip of the iceberg.

Graduates are wondering why they bothered with university; the ones about to finish school and are thinking of going – particularly those with parents who have been made redundant, themselves with degrees and professional training – can't see the point of investing over £30k on further education.

The last vacancy we had paid £18k and we had nearly 200 applicants. Over two-thirds were people with first-class degrees. The shortlist was occupied by five very well-qualified, intelligent graduates. That job did not need a graduate. But I gave it to a graduate because, when faced with a choice between a graduate and non-graduate, I made a decision that is best for my organisation.

Friends of mine have children in their late teens, approaching early adulthood. All are educated and are still living at home with mum and dad. They don't want to be living at home, but they can't get a decent job earning a wage that would enable them to pay rent in London.

Even around them, there's nothing to do. Haringey council, Tottenham's local authority, is shutting down almost all of the area's youth centres. I was driving through Wood Green last night and I saw about 20 young people, in hoods, dressed in black, sitting on a wall near a dental surgery, chilling and hanging out. That's what kids do.

No parent wants a large group of teenagers in their living room and no kid wants to stay indoors with their parents. They want to be out, doing stuff. That's what youth centres are for. But if the local authority is cutting provision, where are they going to go?

The looting doesn't surprise me: it's entertainment, something to keep young people busy. It's not right, but those are the facts. Simply, if they had to go to work this morning they wouldn't have been rioting last night. They're disaffected, unhappy and upset, and they are looking at the likes of me, saying: you need to give me something, I need a job, I need you to help me.

Local communities can only do so much. We can't solve this problem alone. But as long as the situation stays the same, we're going to have more riots on the streets because there are too many angry young people thinking they have no future.

• Lara Oyedele chairs the BMENational group of chief executives and managing directors of black and minority ethnic housing associations and is chief executive of Odu-Dua housing association, north London

why dont you simply teach her english or better still pay for her to be taught.

so what is so special about an average Mercy Johnson marrying?
there are more important people marrying without no noise about their wedding.

getting rich at the expense of his church worshippers tithes and offerings

@Jettage

why would a man strive to marry a virgin - Inexperience woman
and then end up looking else where to your so called spoilt women outside marriage for fulfilment

Being a virgin does not make a woman a good wife nor does it make a perfect marriage

Rubbish why did he wait 12 years to say it? I dont believe one word

lack of self confidence
fear of rejection

Nigeria has never had a strong leader and until there is a leader who will not be a puppet then we can start to talk of a strong leader.
A strong leader will have to be able to get rid of the cartel and king makers that run Nigeria, a strong leader should be able to upgrade the life of Nigerians positivelly reduce the poverty level drastically and not mismanage/embezel public funds.

What is the point in staying in an unhappy marriage?
It is very clear that both parties are not making the marriage work so seperation should be the best
Before one kill the other out of frustration and from the post the OP is clearly fed up and want out of the marriage.

Marriage is not a do or die affair. It takes courage to accept that the marriage has failed and being tied to it could lead to
a more disastrous ending for both parties invovled.

Lagos was a name given to the settlement by the Portuguese meaning[b] "lakes". [/b]

Why would you want to invest in a man you knew was already cheating on you?

@9jafetish

People like you should not be on this forum giving stupid and idiotic comments
Why should the lady marry a white man? Frustrated Nigerian women like you should keep their comments to themselves if you have nothing positive to contribute to this forum rather than sounding like an educated illiterate

Why would you want to be involved with a woman who had slept with your superiors? are you that desperate to be an object of derision at your work place?

get her to lose weight and give her ultimatum to do so
it could also be from use of contraceptives I understand it makes some women fat

be careful this looks like a scam

Bvercially:
Then one day, Gbenga, who was now married with children, paid the family a visit and offered to help. He would gladly give them N5m to cover their expenses and even have enough to rebuild their lives on the condition that Lola, who had long eluded him, grace his bed for one whole week.

As soon as he dropped the bombshell, he stood up and left, but not without leaving his call card on a table. Dayo and Lola could not recover from the shock of what they had just heard. They could not respond, because it sounded ridiculous to even consider. After a few days of musing over the offer, by which time tempers had simmered down considerably and Dayo’s health had really nosedived, he told Lola to take up the offer.

For Gbenga to appear and make such a proposal indicates he might be responsible for their predicament
Secondly the husband is wrong and selfish to ask her to accept such a proposal, he will definately throw it at her face as soon as he is well and okay or better still leave her for another woman. It is better for him to seek financial assistance elsewhere than to subject his wife to such a degrading ordeal

could you post the interior pictures

How do you explain that people who just lost their child are having fun rather than mourning?

Why would you date your ex friend when there are a lot of other men to choose from