armstrongadeola:
Good evenning house ,

I just want to ask this simple question !

What will you do if for the first week you get your salary paid into your son account and your wife withdrew #35,000 but lied she withdrew #30,000 ?

This is what happened .She gets the SMS notification from our son account and she also keep the ATM card but all I do is to get the mail notification.

Tonight ,she was indirectly complaining she doesn't have money and I asked her how much she withdrew in the last five days and she said #30,000 but the mail notification I got showed she withdrew #5,000,#15,000 and #15,000 on Monday and Tuesday (this week ).

The amount that dropped in the account was #150,000 and she was the one that even started doing transfer for those we needed to settle last sunday when my salary dropped .

We paid our son school fee ,sent little amount to my sister and little amount to her mum and her elder sister and I borrowed #13,000 from the money for transportation.We paid debt of #20,000 .

I stay and work on the island while I go home three times a week (mainland)

In all these,she was able to withdrew #35,000 and I was surprised she was telling me this night to get the money someone was owing me so that I can return the #13,000 I got because all what we have as balance in the account is #2,000 .

I was like is she trying to tell me she have finished the #35,000 with her and jokingly I said how much did you even withdraw from the salary and she said #30,000 !

I asked her if she was sure and she said that's what she withdrew .I now sent the notification I got to her and she was shocked and refused to reply me since 8pm .

My question is why did she lie ? Definitely ,she know she took #35,000 (#5,000 &#15,000 on Monday&another #15,000 on tuesday )but I am still shocked why she lied and why she is insisting on getting the #13,000 she transferred to me from my own sweat !!

Seriously ,I have lost my trust in her .This is someone who I have never benefitted anything from her rather than the fact that we have a son together after our wedding .

I love her so much and we have been together since 2013 .I have never seen any trace of infidelity in her but she locks her phone with heavy security just because I lock mine and that have never cause an issue but I still don't know why she had to lie this night !

Is there something I don't understand ?

She have definitely been a good wife since we settled down( with prayer and moral support )and she always stand by me in term of better and worse and she is not wayward despite how pretty she is .

But why did she lie ?

It's either she forgot or she stole your money.

obi4eze:
Oga this is not the right place to bring family issues. You should be a man and solve your family issues instead of washing your dirty linen in public.
If you truly love your wife as you claim you should be able to ask her why she lied and sort out the issue with her instead of coming to expose her here.

We are not your wife and neither is she us.

Perfect response.

Most naija ladies are pathological lies...All that is in their heads is to keep exploiting, extorting, and leeching you nothing more...the moment you tell them about the increase in your salary, they will look for how to increase their monthly upkeep...as If Nah you be their Jesus...

You better wise up...after draining you, the moment you can't cater for the family again, she will go back to her father's house and leave you with your wretched life...

A word is enough for the wise...

What amazed me most is that they will still come and be claiming the feminist movement... a feminist movement that doesn't know how to take responsibility equally and just want to have everything equally.

Woman life is one of deceptive life I have ever seen...
Tueh kelebe...i spit on them

armstrongadeola:
She didn't forget .she just lied but we will be fine tomorrow morning .We don't let our dispute go beyond a day but I still don't know why she said that .

I will not even ask her again .Bygone is bygone .That's the kind of man I am.i will just let it slide

Don’t let this slide because it will happen again trust me I know what I’m saying. The best is sit down and discuss it even if it will lead to quarrel then let it happen as long as you have buttressed your point.
Women need to be monitored and controlled by their men because they are not the best decision makers because they think with their hearts than their heads. You need to find out what she did with the money and make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Omo! It's because of 5k you entered Nairaland like this o!

Op, has ur wife been doing this b4 or this is the first time u noticed such an issue? You should have waited to return home and discuss this issue with her b4 bring such sensitive issue to this forum. This to me is wrong.

obi4eze:
Oga this is not the right place to bring family issues. You should be a man and solve your family issues instead of washing your dirty linen in public.
If you truly love your wife as you claim you should be able to ask her why she lied and sort out the issue with her instead of coming to expose her here.

We are not your wife and neither is she us.

But NAIRALAND has got family section...
What is it for, if not for things like this too.
Things like these are raised on the platform, so that dey can be trashed while others learn from it.
After all it's a faceless forum..

Mercychen:
Op, you have every right to be angry at your wife's behavior because it's your hard earned money and the fact that you entrusted her with the money but she still had to lie to you.

She should be able to give accurate and detailed account of every money spent since she has been given the responsibility of keeping and managing your salary. failure to do so will be seen as gross mismanagement of funds on her part. Hence she should be relieved of that duty. I don't know why some women like to abuse privilege when they manage to get one ( including me).

Secondly, she has no right to ask you to return the 13,000 naira you collected. For crying out loud, it's your money!!!! And even if it was a joint account, she has no right to be spending from it and tell you not to spend or return whatever you spend. Oga, abi you Don chop efor? Snap out of it abeg!

Set a new rule.
Let her get a ledger and open an account record for your salary. Every Income and expenditure must be duly recorded and updated to the last kobo if she must continue keeping your money. And Transparency and honesty must be adhered to.

Very matured advice,
Op should heed.

PrimadonnaO:
Omo! It's because of 5k you entered Nairaland like this o!

But you ladies enter FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, 2GO, WHATSAPP, NAIRALAND, TWITTER, SNAPCHAT, just because of URGENT 2K naaa

Very unnecessary thread. More like gossip. You need the entire Nairaland members to join you in it.

I believe she miscalculated it as she didn't withdraw the money once. You guys have been married for about 8years & you should have known her better. Give her benefit of the doubt & continue praying together for God to enlarge your coast bro. May God bless your marriage

But oga u stingy oh...na just 5k nau...haba ,make ur wife the chop u small atyms..na ur wife oh
The Try the give her small small allowance.
Make 5k no allow u d say u no trust ur wife again
And the most stupy stuff I have read in months was when u say JUST because u had a kid with her....no b say she carry the money go dash her BF..it's obvious say she need one personal stuff and u d pay deaf to that thing.....try settle ur wife first even bfre u pay debt self.na ur wife oh

MALIGNANTGuest:

But you ladies enter FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, 2GO, WHATSAPP, NAIRALAND, TWITTER, just because of URGENT 2K naaa

LMAO!!!!!!

Please, I can't stop laughing.

I'm amused at how upset he is to the extent of coming to vent on NL.

She made several withdrawals. It's very possible she didn't remember the total amount eventually withdrawn.

And then just 5k, the matter doesn't require this kind of reaction.

armstrongadeola:


I am not cheating on her and she never caught me cheating .That's not the story here sa

If you are not cheating as claimed (I'm not doubting you), why would there be any need for her to catch you cheating?

Please send me your account let me wire the 5k back into it. Just forgive her. Women Lie a lot, even God is aware.
The only annoyance I have is they pretend and mask it with TEARS.
IF you confront her now, her tears will fill a bucket.

armstrongadeola:
Good evenning house ,

I just want to ask this simple question !

What will you do if for the first week you get your salary paid into your son account and your wife withdrew #35,000 but lied she withdrew #30,000 ?

This is what happened .She gets the SMS notification from our son account and she also keep the ATM card but all I do is to get the mail notification.

Tonight ,she was indirectly complaining she doesn't have money and I asked her how much she withdrew in the last five days and she said #30,000 but the mail notification I got showed she withdrew #5,000,#15,000 and #15,000 on Monday and Tuesday (this week ).

The amount that dropped in the account was #150,000 and she was the one that even started doing transfer for those we needed to settle last sunday when my salary dropped .

We paid our son school fee ,sent little amount to my sister and little amount to her mum and her elder sister and I borrowed #13,000 from the money for transportation.We paid debt of #20,000 .

I stay and work on the island while I go home three times a week (mainland)

In all these,she was able to withdrew #35,000 and I was surprised she was telling me this night to get the money someone was owing me so that I can return the #13,000 I got because all what we have as balance in the account is #2,000 .

I was like is she trying to tell me she have finished the #35,000 with her and jokingly I said how much did you even withdraw from the salary and she said #30,000 !

I asked her if she was sure and she said that's what she withdrew .I now sent the notification I got to her and she was shocked and refused to reply me since 8pm .

My question is why did she lie ? Definitely ,she know she took #35,000 (#5,000 &#15,000 on Monday&another #15,000 on tuesday )but I am still shocked why she lied and why she is insisting on getting the #13,000 she transferred to me from my own sweat !!

Seriously ,I have lost my trust in her .This is someone who I have never benefitted anything from her rather than the fact that we have a son together after our wedding .

I love her so much and we have been together since 2013 .I have never seen any trace of infidelity in her but she locks her phone with heavy security just because I lock mine and that have never cause an issue but I still don't know why she had to lie this night !

Is there something I don't understand ?

She have definitely been a good wife since we settled down( with prayer and moral support )and she always stand by me in term of better and worse and she is not wayward despite how pretty she is .

But why did she lie ?

Oga. A whole family issue na him you table for here so ohhhh...

Ask her, don't ask us.

armstrongadeola:
Good evenning house ,

I just want to ask this simple question !

What will you do if for the first week you get your salary paid into your son account and your wife withdrew #35,000 but lied she withdrew #30,000 ?

This is what happened .She gets the SMS notification from our son account and she also keep the ATM card but all I do is to get the mail notification.

Tonight ,she was indirectly complaining she doesn't have money and I asked her how much she withdrew in the last five days and she said #30,000 but the mail notification I got showed she withdrew #5,000,#15,000 and #15,000 on Monday and Tuesday (this week ).

The amount that dropped in the account was #150,000 and she was the one that even started doing transfer for those we needed to settle last sunday when my salary dropped .

We paid our son school fee ,sent little amount to my sister and little amount to her mum and her elder sister and I borrowed #13,000 from the money for transportation.We paid debt of #20,000 .

I stay and work on the island while I go home three times a week (mainland)

In all these,she was able to withdrew #35,000 and I was surprised she was telling me this night to get the money someone was owing me so that I can return the #13,000 I got because all what we have as balance in the account is #2,000 .

I was like is she trying to tell me she have finished the #35,000 with her and jokingly I said how much did you even withdraw from the salary and she said #30,000 !

I asked her if she was sure and she said that's what she withdrew .I now sent the notification I got to her and she was shocked and refused to reply me since 8pm .

My question is why did she lie ? Definitely ,she know she took #35,000 (#5,000 &#15,000 on Monday&another #15,000 on tuesday )but I am still shocked why she lied and why she is insisting on getting the #13,000 she transferred to me from my own sweat !!

Seriously ,I have lost my trust in her .This is someone who I have never benefitted anything from her rather than the fact that we have a son together after our wedding .

I love her so much and we have been together since 2013 .I have never seen any trace of infidelity in her but she locks her phone with heavy security just because I lock mine and that have never cause an issue but I still don't know why she had to lie this night !

Is there something I don't understand ?

She have definitely been a good wife since we settled down( with prayer and moral support )and she always stand by me in term of better and worse and she is not wayward despite how pretty she is .

But why did she lie ?

₦5K is not enough to cause a rift ....... She probably made a honest mistake...........

MALIGNANTGuest:
Please send me your account let me wire the 5k back into it. Just forgive her. Women Lie a lot, even God is aware.
The only annoyance I have is they pretend and mask it with TEARS.
IF you confront her now, her tears will fill a bucket.

So men don't lie a lot too?

Bro, it is not rocket science. It is family. Fix it.

Why does it seem as if men complain more about their wives than the other way round?

PrimadonnaO:


LMAO!!!!!!

Please, I can't stop laughing.

I'm amused at how upset he is to the extent of coming to vent on NL.

She made several withdrawals. It's very possible she didn't remember the total amount eventually withdrawn.

And then just 5k, the matter doesn't require this kind of reaction.

COUNTRY hard for some people.
After all, everyone was touching JESUS until the lady with the issue of blood touched him and JESUS felt power leaving him. He had to ask who touched me.

Must you bring the matter to the market square?

I felt sick reading your story


You are living in bondage am sure she dictates when you have sex that’s if you even have it

Also tempted to ask what tribe is she from ?

obi4eze:
Oga this is not the right place to bring family issues. You should be a man and solve your family issues instead of washing your dirty linen in public.
If you truly love your wife as you claim you should be able to ask her why she lied and sort out the issue with her instead of coming to expose her here.

We are not your wife and neither is she us.

Your response is a true definition of salvage and truth. You said my mind and in addition I don't know what's wrong with this generation, bringing everything to the internet as if everyone here doesn't have their own trouble too.

armstrongadeola:
Good evenning house ,

I just want to ask this simple question !

What will you do if for the first week you get your salary paid into your son account and your wife withdrew #35,000 but lied she withdrew #30,000 ?

This is what happened .She gets the SMS notification from our son account and she also keep the ATM card but all I do is to get the mail notification.

Tonight ,she was indirectly complaining she doesn't have money and I asked her how much she withdrew in the last five days and she said #30,000 but the mail notification I got showed she withdrew #5,000,#15,000 and #15,000 on Monday and Tuesday (this week ).

The amount that dropped in the account was #150,000 and she was the one that even started doing transfer for those we needed to settle last sunday when my salary dropped .

We paid our son school fee ,sent little amount to my sister and little amount to her mum and her elder sister and I borrowed #13,000 from the money for transportation.We paid debt of #20,000 .

I stay and work on the island while I go home three times a week (mainland)

In all these,she was able to withdrew #35,000 and I was surprised she was telling me this night to get the money someone was owing me so that I can return the #13,000 I got because all what we have as balance in the account is #2,000 .

I was like is she trying to tell me she have finished the #35,000 with her and jokingly I said how much did you even withdraw from the salary and she said #30,000 !

I asked her if she was sure and she said that's what she withdrew .I now sent the notification I got to her and she was shocked and refused to reply me since 8pm .

My question is why did she lie ? Definitely ,she know she took #35,000 (#5,000 &#15,000 on Monday&another #15,000 on tuesday )but I am still shocked why she lied and why she is insisting on getting the #13,000 she transferred to me from my own sweat !!

Seriously ,I have lost my trust in her .This is someone who I have never benefitted anything from her rather than the fact that we have a son together after our wedding .

I love her so much and we have been together since 2013 .I have never seen any trace of infidelity in her but she locks her phone with heavy security just because I lock mine and that have never cause an issue but I still don't know why she had to lie this night !

Is there something I don't understand ?

She have definitely been a good wife since we settled down( with prayer and moral support )and she always stand by me in term of better and worse and she is not wayward despite how pretty she is .

But why did she lie ?

Mtcheew...
Women and money ehnn..
Their spirit dey align anyday anytime....
Out of your salary...you sent money to only your sister...and she already sent to two of her family...out of your salary sir...
Guy.. forget about the fact that she lied Abt the 35k ...dont create a scene out of that...forget am .. since you said she has been a good wife all this while...over look that.

Guy my concern is ..your wife must get a job or
a shop... So she can take care of her own family herself and not from your own salary...
Please sir, work on that...make sure she get a job or a shop where she will be selling wares abeg...she need to start making money for herself rather than becoming a parasitic element on your salary....

yanabasee2:
Op.... this is a very simple issue not to get worked up....



She probably miscounted the money she withdrew ....


Or she didn't just want to say it coz she didn't want to offend your thoughts..... or have a reason to retrieve the debit card from her...


Just talk things thro....

Even the op behavior alone sef reach for woman to confuse. This kind one one go dey trace length of yam oh. My wife no get time for all this kind thing. She brings money and spends sometimes and I bring I spend. We don't do all this calculation. I only know rough estimates

NtiObaEneke:

So men don't lie a lot too?

MEN lie and later ask for forgiveness.
But LADIES never get caught.
They argue their way out with tears.
No WOMAN ever Lies.
But you know that's the truth.

The only people ladies fear are:
FEMALE JUDGES
FEMALE Police officers.

Women and lies are like buhari and open gracing , they lie too much and the funny thing is that most of them don't know wen to lie.

You don't need to ask why she spent the 35k within few days because she may have her own personal problems that needs to be taken care of.

Don't even think of cheating because if she is cheating on you,she will be spending more or will not care about your money at all.

Just work hard and make more money for your family..This matter never reach to call umunna or to table for nairaland.

She messed up for lying that one day, you guys are married and not dating, But bro 5k no suppose cause this kind issue wey you go bring come here,Double up bro..quote author=armstrongadeola post=106572436]Good evenning house ,

I just want to ask this simple question !

What will you do if for the first week you get your salary paid into your son account and your wife withdrew #35,000 but lied she withdrew #30,000 ?

This is what happened .She gets the SMS notification from our son account and she also keep the ATM card but all I do is to get the mail notification.

Tonight ,she was indirectly complaining she doesn't have money and I asked her how much she withdrew in the last five days and she said #30,000 but the mail notification I got showed she withdrew #5,000,#15,000 and #15,000 on Monday and Tuesday (this week ).

The amount that dropped in the account was #150,000 and she was the one that even started doing transfer for those we needed to settle last sunday when my salary dropped .

We paid our son school fee ,sent little amount to my sister and little amount to her mum and her elder sister and I borrowed #13,000 from the money for transportation.We paid debt of #20,000 .

I stay and work on the island while I go home three times a week (mainland)

In all these,she was able to withdrew #35,000 and I was surprised she was telling me this night to get the money someone was owing me so that I can return the #13,000 I got because all what we have as balance in the account is #2,000 .

I was like is she trying to tell me she have finished the #35,000 with her and jokingly I said how much did you even withdraw from the salary and she said #30,000 !

I asked her if she was sure and she said that's what she withdrew .I now sent the notification I got to her and she was shocked and refused to reply me since 8pm .

My question is why did she lie ? Definitely ,she know she took #35,000 (#5,000 &#15,000 on Monday&another #15,000 on tuesday )but I am still shocked why she lied and why she is insisting on getting the #13,000 she transferred to me from my own sweat !!

Seriously ,I have lost my trust in her .This is someone who I have never benefitted anything from her rather than the fact that we have a son together after our wedding .

I love her so much and we have been together since 2013 .I have never seen any trace of infidelity in her but she locks her phone with heavy security just because I lock mine and that have never cause an issue but I still don't know why she had to lie this night !

Is there something I don't understand ?

She have definitely been a good wife since we settled down( with prayer and moral support )and she always stand by me in term of better and worse and she is not wayward despite how pretty she is .

But why did she lie ?[/quote]

armstrongadeola:
Good evenning house ,

I just want to ask this simple question !

What will you do if for the first week you get your salary paid into your son account and your wife withdrew #35,000 but lied she withdrew #30,000 ?

This is what happened .She gets the SMS notification from our son account and she also keep the ATM card but all I do is to get the mail notification.

Tonight ,she was indirectly complaining she doesn't have money and I asked her how much she withdrew in the last five days and she said #30,000 but the mail notification I got showed she withdrew #5,000,#15,000 and #15,000 on Monday and Tuesday (this week ).

The amount that dropped in the account was #150,000 and she was the one that even started doing transfer for those we needed to settle last sunday when my salary dropped .

We paid our son school fee ,sent little amount to my sister and little amount to her mum and her elder sister and I borrowed #13,000 from the money for transportation.We paid debt of #20,000 .

I stay and work on the island while I go home three times a week (mainland)

In all these,she was able to withdrew #35,000 and I was surprised she was telling me this night to get the money someone was owing me so that I can return the #13,000 I got because all what we have as balance in the account is #2,000 .

I was like is she trying to tell me she have finished the #35,000 with her and jokingly I said how much did you even withdraw from the salary and she said #30,000 !

I asked her if she was sure and she said that's what she withdrew .I now sent the notification I got to her and she was shocked and refused to reply me since 8pm .

My question is why did she lie ? Definitely ,she know she took #35,000 (#5,000 &#15,000 on Monday&another #15,000 on tuesday )but I am still shocked why she lied and why she is insisting on getting the #13,000 she transferred to me from my own sweat !!

Seriously ,I have lost my trust in her .This is someone who I have never benefitted anything from her rather than the fact that we have a son together after our wedding .

I love her so much and we have been together since 2013 .I have never seen any trace of infidelity in her but she locks her phone with heavy security just because I lock mine and that have never cause an issue but I still don't know why she had to lie this night !

Is there something I don't understand ?

She have definitely been a good wife since we settled down( with prayer and moral support )and she always stand by me in term of better and worse and she is not wayward despite how pretty she is .

But why did she lie ?

All these public dirty linen washing just because she didn't tell you the exact amount she withdrew?
It goes a long way to show you're not giving her enough to cater for herself hence the decision not to tell you exactly how much she withdrew.
Well do your worse, will you beat her up? get her divorced or arrested just because of a mere ₦5,000 mtcheew!

All these social media husbands of nowadays sef!