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Ye de mumu well well...

Ynix:


Cancel the wedding for your life sake. On the day of the wedding travel to a friend's place and stay, or call off the wedding mentioning the area of being beaten. If it is true then you are going into self murder

If she calls it off now, will there be a wedding?

Put yourself in the man's shoes and know how you will feel if your bride calls off the wedding on the D- day. It can lead to depression.

It's better she gets out of Nairaland and call it off NOW if she must.

Las las they might even convince her that he'll change but that's a BIG lie.

RUN NOW BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.. YOUR HAPPINESS MATTERS AND DONT DISPLEASE YOURSELF, TO PLEASE OTHERS.

Shame is far better than the grave.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

https://www.nairaland.com/6409718/domestic-violence-survivor

You are not serious.

It is wrong of him to lay his hand on you.

Another side of it, examine yourself

What's that thing you will always do that warrant this beating

Why am I having this feeling that after eaten the man money which made you endure all his tantrums... You are now afraid of commitment.... Anyway .. you better find somewhere and hid else you might just be caged against your will for long that's if not forever

That will be life bondage for you because you don't want to cutoff a union you already regretting before entering it.
It's not too late to cutoff such relationship unless you are in for biggest risk of your life that may result to death if care is not taken.
Follow you mind to quit such relationship now and let everybody with contrary view go to hell.
It's better to be a single than married to wrong person. Be in a wrong relationship is like be in hell on earth.
I'm re oooo

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Nonexisting1:
Brother man, hold on a little. Have you asked why she had stayed with the "bad man" for so long now and still went ahead to fix the date of their wedding? Wedding is a process which must have started from the villages long time ago but it is not until few weeks to the wedding that she is realizing that she is getting married to a monster. She is not ready to tell us the whole story yet.

There's more to the story. Sadly, she seems uninterested in getting help.

You need to abort this mission

Then don’t do it

omoharry:
ouch!! that was harsh.Try and advice her with love a little na!

That's what I would say to a sister or anyone I care about o. It is too late to sugarcoat anything.

Marriage is met to be enjoying but enduring. When a man beats you, during courtship their is tendency that he will kill you during marriage. To me untimely death is certained , kindly call it off and pray for better man rather than turning your body to punching bags.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

who said 'yes' on your behalf?

is he rich?

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Pls how can I locate you so as to give you fire slaaaaaap not hot slaaaaap oooo so that your brain go reset well to think properly...

babe am advising u like a sister, cancel that marriage to avoid had i known

As you cant stand common shame of calling off wedding; then you must be able and willing to stand the shame of being battered and divorced with young children to cater for.

A woman calling off a wedding is not shameful by any standard. Please do the needful and ruuuuuun. If its family pressure, tell them to marry him themselves; you are not a sacrificial lamb.

quote author=Warrior14 post=107031934]I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.


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I dunno how you people do it but I can never marry a man that beats me. You want to carry on with the wedding to impress your friends and family so that the society will see you as a married woman whereas you are dying inside.

I reject such for you...

Cancel that wedding, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Please talk to your parents about it and insist on it and give them logical reasons, let them know this is your life

Is she the one.
My New Girlfriend Went Back To Her Abusive Ex Boyfriend by 22o62021: 7:48am
We bonded so well together, she is an NYSC member. She told me that she has a boyfriend but she has called off their relationship because the guy has beaten her twice. The first time , the guy did it in front of his mother to the extent that she lost a tooth. And spent days in the hospital

The second time the guy slapped her because she told him that he comes home late.
She said the guy is a serial cheat, she has caught him on different occasions.

They dated for 6 years. But the guy will not accept the break up. Their families knows each other.

I have her the love she deserved, pampered her so well. I told her that I know she will go back to the guy one day, she said nooo I can’t do that.

One week after I said that to her. The guy was calling and pleading. She stopped picking my calls. I stopped calling her.

I sent her a text to know what is going on. She said it’s not what I think.

I said fine. I deleted her numbers and move on.

This is to say that most girls are confused.
I think they prefer abusive men but on the internet They rebuke them.

Acidosis:
I pity you. You can't stand the shame of calling off a wedding? I hope you will be able to stand the 'shame' and pain of divorce after 3 kids?

All your threads so far on Nairaland are about this same monster that wants to kill you, yet you decided to plan your future with him. What do we call this now? Zero/dead self-esteem? Desperation? Abi na strong d**k wan make you sign your death certificate?

no mind all these ladies that really don't know what they want. he beat u up twice and when he proposed you said yes, and she is saying she can't call of the wedding but is planning for a divorce. Ha!

In all these she has mentioned I think she hasn't mentioned other benefits that she gets from this same man

Or maybe he might be a wealthy man, guy or nigga

And that's why she's finding it hard to decide whether to call off the wedding or not because of the fear of she might not find another wealthy guy or man like him

I Know women fully well na

Like they say there is no smoke without fire and vice versa

Cause I see not even 1% reason of why she's finding it difficult to call off this suicidal mission if she actually doesn't have other things she feels is more important in that relationship than this death trap she's going into

Cause it's obvious she doesn't even love him first of all

Case closed

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

i want to empathize with you first and then see from your perspective, of which I feel most people.commenting aren't doing.

What I feel you should.first is speak to your mom or Dad(any of them you have a closer bond with), hear what your parent has to say first then that would help you decide. Then let this parent act on your behalf by calling it off. Sometimes, we aren't strong enough to.take some rash decisions and we need someone to help us in that regard. Good luck shawty.

I feel there's more to the story.
But my one cent is this. Whether he financed you and your entire family, you don't owe a man that's capable of murder such commitment as marriage. Don't feel guilty bout anything. Take the bull by the horns and call the wedding off. No one deserves to be beaten blue black when they've not posed as a threat to our life or when they're not a thief
Except of cos you threatened with him a knife bla bla bla.

Florenzo222:
babe am advising u like a sister, cancel that marriage to avoid had i known

she will not, she wan oppress her unmarried friends.

you are a fool. you're not ashamed to come here and tell us this nonsense but you are ashamed to call off a wedding you already know won't work. shame on you!!!!!!

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Better call it off now or regret the rest of your life.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.

Don't go ahead. Call it off. If not, you may regret it forever and ever.

Teerach:
I feel there's more to the story.
But my one cent is this. Whether he financed you and your entire family, you don't owe a man that's capable of murder such commitment as marriage. Don't feel guilty bout anything. Take the bull by the horns and call the wedding off. No one deserves to be beaten blue black when they've not posed as a threat to our life or when they're not a thief
Except of cos you threatened with him a knife bla bla bla.

Gbam exactly my point

You are a wise man

Exactly what I was explaining in my comment
It's obvious there are some financial benefits attached to all these

Fear women

She actually values those financial benefits than her life and happiness

FlipModeSquade:
Lol..
I thought you are a WWE Fan..
My Bad..

I'm.