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Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by StanleyO22: 10:53am On Nov 10, 2021 |
[quote author=tolakush92 post=107474802]Good evening nlders I’ll be very brief and precise .This thing has been bothering my mind and I felt I should seek for reasonable and experienced opinions from senior men them on this forum . The issue is .. is it a bad thing to cook in my Brothers house (although he has a wife and kids ) .His wife felt bad yesterday cus I cooked small okra and Eba cus I was hungry . The only food she likes me to cook in her kitchen is indomie . I feel if there Is love what’s there if I cook anything I want to eat in the kitchen .must I always take permission to cook Pls I want to know if it’s right or wrong Front page pls Mumu why u go go do the cooking, while ur brother wife dey there |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by BarrElChapo(m): 10:53am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Same people shouting the guy was wrong will be pissed to be told they belong to the kitchen alone... my take is that the woman is still a young woman, by the time she gets to a certain age cooking go be all man to himself. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by seunny4lif(m): 10:54am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Sanchez01: I no dey agree |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by BarrElChapo(m): 10:54am On Nov 10, 2021 |
[quote author=StanleyO22 post=107487824][/quote] Why call him mumu ? |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Paretomaster1(m): 10:56am On Nov 10, 2021 |
It's wrong o, my brother cook daily in the kitchen, but once my wife arrive, I Don tell am.. Stay away from the kitchen... Allow the Woman control her kitchen. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by melifew213(m): 10:56am On Nov 10, 2021 |
oga what happen to your house? leave your brother's house, better still next time seek permission |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Thereishel: 10:56am On Nov 10, 2021 |
tolakush92: |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Angelawhite(m): 10:57am On Nov 10, 2021 |
I have 3 brothers who are married. I can only cook in one of my brothers’ home . It’s just the level of relationship. It doesn’t mean I’m not in good terms with them. I respect everyone’s boundaries |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Chibuchris: 11:02am On Nov 10, 2021 |
tolakush92: My dear wisdom is profitable to direct, you did nothing wrong though. But to save yourself some embarrassment and your dignity, don't try such again. If you don't like the menu you can go out and eat thank God at least you can fend for yourself. No matter how your brother's wife likes you she would feel some how. Yeah you can cook indomi or make pap nothing is wrong there but preparing soup in a married woman's house doesn't sound OK. Another good way is you decide to surprise them and prepare the soup for everyone to eat your delicacy just to spicing up the love in the family. Just use wisdom and try to give her some space and also make her feel she is in charge of her home. Women love this alot. Las Las you get your apartment in no time. cheers. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Pataricatering(f): 11:03am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Lol , ur brothers house ? This 8z the problem women always have - in.your mind it is not his wife's house - that's why when husband dies , his family.will deacemd and start struggling for property with the wife and his legitimate children. Your brothers house is not your house Learn to respect the wife in the home - it is her house . Later some people will be calling women wicked when they don't want their husbands family around - this is the kind of disregard they always have for the wife in her own house . 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by dominique(f): 11:03am On Nov 10, 2021 |
tolakush92: Ogbeni stop shifting the goal post and give us the full story. Did you at least clear the dishes and the cooking area after cooking or left it there for her to clean up for you. Gas is at least N700/kg, do you top up their gas from time to time? There's nothing wrong in cooking in your siblings house but if they're on a tight budget, a simple eba and okra meal might thwart their plans for the week or month. I wish the wife was here was here to give us her own part of the story 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Timodeyforyou(m): 11:05am On Nov 10, 2021 |
olabrinks: 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Missionaire: 11:05am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Na entitlement mentality go kill many Nigerians. We are quick to form woke when it comes to issues like this. But even the Westerners who have been woke before us would not allow any relative to visit without permission not to talk of staying with them and not working. Is the OP working? Why would he intrude into another person's space? The kitchen and bedroom are two territorial places in a house any other person should be careful with. Na so we dey use hand spoil things. You are staying with your brother who is married. The wife allows you to cook noodles because these are emergency foods you can eat just like snacks. But then, you wake up one day say na Okra soup and Eba you want cook eat. It is not like they don't give you the food they eat or they give you different food from the one they eat. They give you the same but according to you, the wife allows you to cook noodles whenever you don't like what was cooked. You were given a privilege and you abused it. If your sister-in-law had discouraged her husband from allowing you stay with them, we wouldn't be reading this rubbish. You people make your sister-in-laws look bad because of your entitlement mentality. Tomorrow now, you will host your friends and cook for them in your brother's house. Na una type dey collect properties when una brother die. Potatoes wer they plant for one place but dey spread go everywhere. You're very lucky you're not my brother. This is one of the reasons people don't allow their relatives and partner's relatives to stay with them. Nigerians abuse privileges a lot. Tueeh. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by qtguru(m): 11:08am On Nov 10, 2021 |
lol let me guess OP you be igbo |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by medriano: 11:08am On Nov 10, 2021 |
It is not wrong to cook in your own brother’s house. Some women just over do things. Before she came into the picture, you were there. Please,ignore her. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Ladycewhy(f): 11:11am On Nov 10, 2021 |
They asked the op valid questions but he has refused to answer. Did you buy the ingredients yourself or you used the one in her kitchen? Did you clean up after cooking ? Did you cook for just yourself or the entire family? When you were coming to the house,what did you bring just your bag or you bought bread and chin chin ? Sometimes we only see the other person's reaction and not our actions that triggered it . Op answer these questions genuinely and you might just get the answer you seek. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by dfrost: 11:11am On Nov 10, 2021 |
PrimadonnaO: Beautiful comment. I am definitely not adding anything to the thread. This is the only advice the op needs. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Elxandre(m): 11:13am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Acidosis:What is wrong with Eba and Okra. No be food, same with Indomie? Anyway, I don't support cohabiting with people at all sef, talk more of married couple. Find house OP. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by girlygirlyMain: 11:13am On Nov 10, 2021 |
You must take permission to cook in another woman's kitchen always!!! It is disrespectful not to do so. She is the woman of the house and has been joined with your brother. Respect her space please and let there be peace. Thank you tolakush92 post =107474802: |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Hungerbadoo: 11:14am On Nov 10, 2021 |
My brother fit enter my kitchen to cook anything when he is hungry as far as no be battallion he carry come. Any wife wey the behave like susana for her brother-in-law carry bad belle and e no good. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by tedimola(m): 11:15am On Nov 10, 2021 |
olabrinks: Noted! He should also go and sleep on his brother's matrimonial bed and use the connecting bathroom. Infact, let's drop all mentality, he can also share his brother's wife. Oniranu. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Nonexisting: 11:16am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Inasmuch as I don't do favors to vaginarians, I won't cover an injustice on them. You did wrong by cooking that kind of food in your brother's wife's kitchen. That's disrespectful and depicts her as not being able to cook well or as not taking care of her household's need. The kitchen is her turf and you should respect that. Cooking indomie and egg and maybe some other fast foods is okay but preparing eba and okra soup in a married woman's kitchen especially when she is not your wife is not ideal to say the least. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Elxandre(m): 11:16am On Nov 10, 2021 |
tolakush92:I advise you manage whatever the family menu is. No one really likes picky visitors. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Lastanza: 11:17am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: Let me tell you her gross. Non of those things you mentioned their is her reason for being angry. Women have this feel or belief that kitchen is exclusively theirs. That is out of bound to even their husband. They will be craving for gender equality but feels bad Wen a man enters ''their'' kitchen to cook. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Pataricatering(f): 11:18am On Nov 10, 2021 |
olabrinks:the problem is calling the house "my brothers " house . |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by sosowater: 11:19am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Vision101: You hate to open your wife's pot? Wow. I open my wife's pot without blinking an eye whenever I'm hungry. It's not every time that I'll ask or expect her to give me food. Most times, I'll be discussing with her in the sitting room and boom, I'm in the kitchen taking food to eat. There's nothing there. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Pataricatering(f): 11:19am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Vision101:the house belongs to his brother AND his wife! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by TOPCRUISE(m): 11:20am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Some women budget food for only their husband and their children. They don't include their inlaws in the budget. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by BarrElChapo(m): 11:23am On Nov 10, 2021 |
tolakush92: People have asked you specific questions but you chose to ignore purposely. I'm beginning to think there's more to it.. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Pataricatering(f): 11:23am On Nov 10, 2021 |
signature2012:this your point of view is very simplistic ! Dude is calling the house " my brothers house " - already is a problem ' a big problem . These are the kind of brothers that will be struggling for their brothers property with his wife and kids. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by Pataricatering(f): 11:25am On Nov 10, 2021 |
cococandy:they always make it serious - its sending a message that women are only good for the kitchen . Stripping her naked ? lol 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Cook In My Married Brother's House? by cedricksly: 11:26am On Nov 10, 2021 |
godofuck231:OK the part she said if na indomie she no go vex u no see am |
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