Sanchez01:

tolakush92:
Good evening nlders I’ll be very brief and precise .This thing has been bothering my mind and I felt I should seek for reasonable and experienced opinions from senior men them on this forum .

The issue is .. is it a bad thing to cook in my Brothers house (although he has a wife and kids ) .His wife felt bad yesterday cus I cooked small okra and Eba cus I was hungry . The only food she likes me to cook in her kitchen is indomie . I feel if there Is love what’s there if I cook anything I want to eat in the kitchen .must I always take permission to cook

Pls I want to know if it’s right or wrong
She's in charge of kitchen at least you need to tell her before you cook. It's just a respect.

Front page pls

tolakush92:


Mind you I didn’t just start living with them
And this is possibly the first time I’ll. Be cooking okra in her kitchen after several months of living with the family . What I cook often is noodles when I don’t like the family menu for the day

tolakush92:
Would she have done the same way to her male sibling ? I guess no and I’ve been living with them for several months

olabrinks:
I’m not being funny but women born after 1990 should not have this stupid olden day mentality of the “kitchen belongs to me only”. It’s weird and stupid. The Kitchen does not belong to the wife of the house, if someone is hungry and they want to cook, let them cook. If someone wants to bath will they ask for permission before using the bathroom? What nonsense.

PrimadonnaO:
It is wisdom to not overassume your rights, and your place in people's lives.

Acidosis:

How long have you been with this family? What is your relationship like with your brother's wife?

But then, what kind of hunger will make you enter another man/woman's kitchen to make okro soup and eba? This is beyond hunger abeg.

tolakush92 post =107474802:
Good evening nlders I’ll be very brief and precise .This thing has been bothering my mind and I felt I should seek for reasonable and experienced opinions from senior men them on this forum .

The issue is .. is it a bad thing to cook in my Brothers house (although he has a wife and kids ) .His wife felt bad yesterday cus I cooked small okra and Eba cus I was hungry . The only food she likes me to cook in her kitchen is indomie . I feel if there Is love what’s there if I cook anything I want to eat in the kitchen .must I always take permission to cook

Pls I want to know if it’s right or wrong

Front page pls

olabrinks:
I’m not being funny but women born after 1990 should not have this stupid olden day mentality of the “kitchen belongs to me only”. It’s weird and stupid. The Kitchen does not belong to the wife of the house, if someone is hungry and they want to cook, let them cook. If someone wants to bath will they ask for permission before using the bathroom? What nonsense.

tolakush92:


Mind you I didn’t just start living with them
And this is possibly the first time I’ll. Be cooking okra in her kitchen after several months of living with the family . What I cook often is noodles when I don’t like the family menu for the day

Kobojunkiee:
You cook okra soup for only yourself or for the entire household?

Did you also purchase your own ingredients or did you use groceries already in the house to do this?

Is your brother an extremely rich man or does his house also operate on a food budget like most homes do?

And lastly, did you at least clean up after yourself or did you expect that his wife will clean up for you?

The way I see it, there isn't nothing wrong with cooking even if in a friend's house. However, there could be everything wrong with how you do it.

olabrinks:
I’m not being funny but women born after 1990 should not have this stupid olden day mentality of the “kitchen belongs to me only”. It’s weird and stupid. The Kitchen does not belong to the wife of the house, if someone is hungry and they want to cook, let them cook. If someone wants to bath will they ask for permission before using the bathroom? What nonsense.

Vision101:
Someone here said that you trespassed. I hope you know the meaning. It's a tortuous act. It's punishable in law.... hahahaha.

The kitchen belongs to your brother's wife. You can only use it at her permission. I hate to open my wife's pot.

Vision101:
Someone here said that you trespassed. I hope you know the meaning. It's a tortuous act. It's punishable in law.... hahahaha.

The kitchen belongs to your brother's wife. You can only use it at her permission. I hate to open my wife's pot.

tolakush92:
Would she have done the same way to her male sibling ? I guess no and I’ve been living with them for several months

signature2012:
Some Nigerian women always in look for problem where none never existed.

Is my kitchen.

Is my husband house.

Is my house so long I am married to your brother.

Some of you don’t know what these siblings have been through.
How they live in their home before you got married to the dude.

Make God catch you,your mother in law intervene and start hating you.You will now start accusing the devil wrongly.

Some of the advisers above are still single looking for a man to call their own.

Every mallam with his kettle.

It’s well…

cococandy:


Lmao it’s not that serious. It can’t be na.

godofuck231:
You have done all wrong , no matter how rich she is or educated , in the African context you have broken into her kitchen , without her permission it’s not allowed , even amongst women , it’s a thing of trust , except permitted do not do such it’s seen as treachery, she knows how she has rationed her food stock and poisoning a full family starts from the kitchen or around, she’s accountable for her kitchen and keeping it clean , so as what ever comes out of it , it’s so bad that some woman don’t let their husbands or sons into the kitchen,
1, their body de hot when them de cook they are under pressure and heat , them fit use hot oil teach you lesson quietly self
2, it disorganises them
3, it’s dangerous accidents occur
4 , for safety reasons strangers and visitors in their kitchen due to African wickedness could drop harmful substances in the pot
5 , some woman frown at opening their pots
6 ,you are a guest , forget your brother only when she loves you as an inlaw she would permit you in