Still have one on my neck now

Both of you are right. It's normal for ladies to be choosy when they are young with their sweet 16 looks. But atimes they overdo it. Many ladies wait for the kind of man they watch in Telemundo. However when they are aged 32 and unmarried they become nice because reality have set in.

SmellySperm:
Marriage was not meant for everyone

It was and it is, of you are so committed to it

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I never believe this quote. How could they ignore guys & still be jumping from one gbola to another? If the so-called evening newspapers are virgins now, we go understand.

perambulator:
Women who overate themselves. Women get a lot of attention from men for sex, it does not mean you are desirable as a wife. many women confuse male attention with desirability as a wife.

Quote of the day!

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Stick to what works for you.!!

But a lot ends up like endsars report

Some ladies re too choosy, others wants to Bleep for a while before settling down.. And before dey knew it day don dark.. Breast don fall, face don wrinkle, old age don come..

That's wen dey will agree that man na man.. And that their is no perfect man.

FutureIsFemale:
[s][/s]It's the other way round

Pele o

Miss Canceler

Brightw278:
I disagree, marriage is not overatted, it has always been the building block that held our community together

God bless you for your wisdom

Because 98% are looking for ready made billionaire's

isaiah4life:
Marriage is overrated.

If marriage institution is destabilized, families would be destroyed and our society would pay for it. Bad families, bad societies.

FutureIsFemale:
[s][/s]It's the other way round

You be mumu

It's better you enjoyed your football game. Those kind of your friends ehn, e go hard to teach them.

Brightw278:
I was discussing with a friend of mine during one of his visits this past weekend, we talked about politics, football and a whole lot of interesting topics. We were in the middle of discussion when we tuned in into this popular reality tv series on dstv, “finding the one”. So we switched topic

I was trying to explain to him why we have many ladies looking for suitors in Nigeria and the main reason being this harsh economy. I told him no man would want to settle down until he has something to fall onto and has a good job that can sustain a family but my friend thinks otherwise.

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I told him I have a sister who is perfectly fine and doing well but good men ain’t just coming her way, but he just wouldn’t agree. I can’t believe people still think this way in this 21st century. He was telling me no matter your looks and all someone must approach you, I had to calm him down what if those coming your way ain’t even somebody you can settle with. Guess his reply? You just have to endure and get married like that.

This a guy went on for some hours before I just decided to call it a quit and told him we should just enjoy our football match.Personally to me I think nobody should be forced into marriage when he /she ain’t ready.

I just want to seek you guys opinion, he will also be on nairaland reading this. Should the sole reason of not being able to find suitors be attributed to youthful exuberance alone? Do girls who find it difficult to find a man must have been to choosy in the past? Your opinions will be highly appreciated

I had a senior relative, female, who once had a suitor,(same tribe even self) but the mother rejected the suitor, and nothing could make her change her mind, so she had to end it there.

Took a while before she could find one who the mother would accept.

Sometimes it is the family who is proving stubborn. There is nothing a Nigerian girl (and in some instances guy) can do against their family who is saying 'no'.

Good, you know when to stop arguing.

Brightw278:
I was discussing with a friend of mine during one of his visits this past weekend, we talked about politics, football and a whole lot of interesting topics. We were in the middle of discussion when we tuned in into this popular reality tv series on dstv, “finding the one”. So we switched topic

I was trying to explain to him why we have many ladies looking for suitors in Nigeria and the main reason being this harsh economy. I told him no man would want to settle down until he has something to fall onto and has a good job that can sustain a family but my friend thinks otherwise.

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I told him I have a sister who is perfectly fine and doing well but good men ain’t just coming her way, but he just wouldn’t agree. I can’t believe people still think this way in this 21st century. He was telling me no matter your looks and all someone must approach you, I had to calm him down what if those coming your way ain’t even somebody you can settle with. Guess his reply? You just have to endure and get married like that.

This a guy went on for some hours before I just decided to call it a quit and told him we should just enjoy our football match.Personally to me I think nobody should be forced into marriage when he /she ain’t ready.

I just want to seek you guys opinion, he will also be on nairaland reading this. Should the sole reason of not being able to find suitors be attributed to youthful exuberance alone? Do girls who find it difficult to find a man must have been to choosy in the past? Your opinions will be highly appreciated

There is a third option: A combination of the two factors.

Ladies are not looking at guys who have not financially made it or seemingly on the assured track to making it. Thus many women in their 20s say no to many guys still hustling (not talking of the guys with terrible behaviours and habits like Meth addicts). Sensible guys also have learnt and so they have stopped approaching women till they make it.

Caught between the mountain and the deep blue sea. I have many female friends in their 30s that don't even have boyfriends. Na married men wey just wan chop clean mouth dey follow them up and down

Weak ethical leanings - it cuts across both the divide anyway.

Stick to what works for you.!! [color=#006600][/color]

InTheCloudySky:
Your friend sounds ignorant

you're the ignorant one here since your brain is slow and dumb to comprehend

Brightw278:
I disagree, marriage is not overatted, it has always been the building block that held our community together

Odiegwu!
Marriage is not really necessary these days. Just work hard and enjoy your self.

E plenty,e too choke

People get married when they are ready, it’s not about money alone, not everyone likes the idea of feeling tied to one woman forever.

This is an over flogged topic on Nairaland.

1. demand outweighs supply, competition is fierce and especially for a woman, time is limited.
2. women with undesirable qualities.. temper, history, attitude, family/background etc
3. women with over blown expectations of men which is usually tied with no 4
4. women who overate themselves. Women get a lot of attention from men for sex, it does not mean you are desirable as a wife. many women confuse male attention with desirablity as a wife.
5. many women think because they are women a husband is automatic instead of asking the question, does the kind of man i want to marry want to marry a woman like me?

The bottom line is this: A woman does not find a husband...a man finds a wife. if a woman has conducted her affairs in a way that is desirable to men and her attitude is right, believe me she will not lack for GOOD suitors for marriage. If you have to "look" for husband you are doing (have done) something wrong such that men do not see a wife in you or else you will not be the one doing the searching. The job of a woman who wants to marry a desirable man is to conduct her affairs so as to put herself in a position to be found.

pocohantas:


Yenyenyen! They ignored guys in their prime. But when your gf breaks up with you to marry a ready man, you will come crying on Nairaland.

Some of you here have been dating your gfs for years without marriage. If they leave you now, another wailing go start.

You marry early? All Naija women want is marriage. They don’t build themselves.

You say make you stand before marriage? Double wahala. Evening newspaper, borehole pussy. Edede! Who go marry this one?

Abeg make una getaut!

Kwin Pocohantas on the beat
This one shock the guy

Your sister is being too choosy, you don’t tell me all the men coming her way has unbearable faults or all of them are jobless and broke? The thing is that most Nigerian women suffer from the same disease, dreams of an unreal perfect man that is out there waiting for them to meet one day, if your parents don’t talk sense into her on time am afraid she would end like the others, ASAP getting to her near menopausal age still single.

Brightw278:
I was discussing with a friend of mine during one of his visits this past weekend, we talked about politics, football and a whole lot of interesting topics. We were in the middle of discussion when we tuned in into this popular reality tv series on dstv, “finding the one”. So we switched topic

I was trying to explain to him why we have many ladies looking for suitors in Nigeria and the main reason being this harsh economy. I told him no man would want to settle down until he has something to fall onto and has a good job that can sustain a family but my friend thinks otherwise.

He said the reason why some ladies get really old without suitors coming their way is because they must have ignored a lot of guys during their prime (20-28) and once reality set in they become desperate.

I told him I have a sister who is perfectly fine and doing well but good men ain’t just coming her way, but he just wouldn’t agree. I can’t believe people still think this way in this 21st century. He was telling me no matter your looks and all someone must approach you, I had to calm him down what if those coming your way ain’t even somebody you can settle with. Guess his reply? You just have to endure and get married like that.

This a guy went on for some hours before I just decided to call it a quit and told him we should just enjoy our football match.Personally to me I think nobody should be forced into marriage when he /she ain’t ready.

I just want to seek you guys opinion, he will also be on nairaland reading this. Should the sole reason of not being able to find suitors be attributed to youthful exuberance alone? Do girls who find it difficult to find a man must have been to choosy in the past? Your opinions will be highly appreciated

When fate has written you'll marry in your 30s or 40s, no matter how you push in your 20s things won't fall in place. You push much, u may regret. Everyone got an appointed time.

Everyone differs. What may be what is delaying someone might not be what another is experiencing. In this life, everyone runs a different race. Some married early and d marriage couldn't last while some late, and are enjoying their marriage now. So never mock someone who is yet to be married, so far they have not done it doesn't mean they will not do it. Everyone's time is different!