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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Bunmhi(f): 12:35pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Shey nah your parents marry you give each other ni? You should have had proper discussion about kids, financies, health and everything that needs to discuss while courting nah. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by newoffer: 12:36pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Knack him till he pour those creme de la creme into potpourri. Kolawole2130: |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by esanmantruth: 12:40pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
The guy is not responsible neither focused. Men like that always try to push responsibilities to their wife. Is a Coney man. Why not tell the lady all this plans before dragging her to the alter. I can also belt you that in that same marriage ceremony that took place, 40 to 60% money of that woman is involved. The truth is that if some lady see serious person with cool head, they will say is too calm. That man nor get vision. All the things wey e Dey do you na base on watin e suffer in the past for another woman hand wey e be really love. Just dey pray because such men their heart na stone. Any man wey see woman genuine tears and nor fit pity her, that mean na devil suppose be their in-law. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Nobody: 12:41pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Instead of this woman to go on her knees and thank God for giving her such a wonderful husband who is only thinking about the family's welfare she is complaining. Na 170k per month una wan use raise pikin abi? I need to buy your hubby like 15 crates of chilled Heineken. Me I won't even think of wifing anybody without billions in my account not to talk of children. What our parents have been doing since time immemorial is to recycle poverty people just start giving birth like rabbits and expect God to take care of the children now those ones will grow up and turn nuisance in the society then they start blaming the devil I was yabbing one of my bros who had 11million and was talking about marriage and my mom was shocked that day i quickly hammered it into her head that i will never bring any child into this world without enough money to cater for him or her and if God knows I won't have money he should keep his children and keep the ladies very far away from me pls Baba God na beg I dey beg I swr she started crying that who did her child like this u know yorúba women and drama I just face front maybe na she go train the pikin she go tell me Poster above me is an example of ediots who born children into poverty 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:42pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Mercychen: Stop being a hypocrite, will you? What do you mean by a man with better sense? Going by the OP's story, her husband is just a selfish, inconsiderate and myopic man. If you like, wait till you amass all the imaginary millions, when PMS hits you, you won't believe it. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by stevups(m): 12:42pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
[quote author=amnesty7 post=108923743]Imagine! Oyinbo capitalist mentality. He never knows that the kids will definitely come with their blessings. And who promises or guarantees him tomorrow? He may have to raise the kids in his old age.[/quote I did this I almost entered 3rd mainland |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:44pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: I hope none of my cousins and friends meets you. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by hopewealth: 12:46pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Let his parent know about this development and make sure that you involve someone who he can reason as well with,and what guarantee does he have that of he finish the professional course he is doing that things would be as he planned and let him understand that he think like man and forget there is what is call nature which may come to effect when he would find it hard to cope with,but still have patient and never double deal with him,maybe he would come back to his seven senses |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Artzdanielsz(m): 12:48pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
2special:Don't mind the idiot 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:49pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
HEAVEN4444: You're just a sadist and a narcissist. Were you a curse to your parents? When they say children are blessings or bring blessings, it necessarily doesn't mean they bring heaps of money. Just their presence is enough to bring joy into a home. Don't be unfortunate and stop talking rubbish. Who even give these kids phones to type rubbish here? Go and grow up. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by english1234567: 12:49pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
When you're ready madam, you'll have children. Having children is not on oga's court but you're. Except you're telling us that oga is not fertile. You but do have sex and you're still asking oga to get you pregnant. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Artzdanielsz(m): 12:50pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Your earnings and that of your husband is 170k, una monthly salary will cover una yearly rent . Una dey live for one room selfcontain. Wetin una dey use una money do that he still want to make all the money in the world. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by sben2308(m): 12:56pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Beblessedbaba: Who says he can be focused with kids ,he needs to grow up and be a man indeed. IF HE ISNT READY Y MARRY IN FIRST PLACE ? |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Fhowe: 1:06pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130:madam better relax ,you have been having sex with your husband and all this while no pregnancy madam you might have fertility issues dont overflog it ooo my own 2 cents |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Biglittlelois(f): 1:09pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
I'm surprised op, a woman, is complaining, you're a woman, be in control of sex, you can get pregnant if you're really serious about, boya when belle show he won't sit up and take responsibility, what a selfish alakoba man, a 32 year old woman fa Madam op, be in control of your sex life from now on, you will get pregnant. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by geosegun(m): 1:10pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Ans: Bible quote 1: The OP's husband is clearly not humble. He has an element of pride in him. "There is a way that seemeth right to a man, but the end thereof is the way of death (destruction). Pride as you know comes before destruction - The 'destruction' here means it may be too late for him to realized is mistake. Waiting on the lord does not meant he should be idle at the home front. He should continue to grow and nurture his family based on what God has provided for him now, while he continues to develop himself, and wait on God's further blessing. Ans: Bible quote 2: You must have forgotten and now let me remind you of what God says - Prov. 18 vs 22. He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and he shall obtain the FAVOUR of the lord. Please note that the wife must be duly taken care of and made happy after you find her, you don't just treat your wife shabbily and as if she is nobody and has no emotions. The truth is if the wife is not happy with her, he may find it difficult to have a break through... There is so much to spiritual connection, between the husband and the wife, than meet the eye. Ans: Bible quote 3: How can someone who is not considerate of his soul mate be joyful? Oh you must have forgotten that - it is the lord that giveth the power to make wealth (Deut. 18: 8 ) and you must have also forgotten, that children are gifts and the inheritance of the lord (Psalm 127:3) 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Raalsalghul: 1:13pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Why, what exactly did I do? |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Raalsalghul: 1:14pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by atiku07(m): 1:14pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130: he is the best guy out there, no woman should force a man into getting kids when money no dey else una go just dey recycle poverty to take care of kids no be moin moin o! the problem is women are just after there own selfish interest they dont care how it is achieved. 170k in naija will not raise a family comfortably |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Manpasman: 1:18pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Big issue for this woman, waiting for fibroid cus something must occupy a space at the end with age on the line u go manage get one child chapter close. the man is indirectly telling u i don't want so much kid or have gotten enough somehow |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by DWJOBScom(m): 1:23pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by lilyheaven: 1:24pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130: Since you want to get pregnant, don’t tell him about it. Just have normal sexual relationships, if pregnancy comes, you carry your baby, if It doesn’t enter , keep waiting patiently |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by sisisioge: 1:26pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
GboyegaD: True, but the guy could no longer be reasoned with fa. What was he thinking before getting married, did he not think his madam would want kids asap? He should serve biko. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by HRprof: 1:28pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130:What I know when couples decide not to have baby they go for family planning but in your case you just married, relaxed and enjoy your marriage allow him pump in his akamu inside you and the rest is history. Make sure you meet him during you ovulation period let see if God will not dispose his proposal. No need to complain just pretend to follow along with him. My 2 cents |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Raalsalghul: 1:29pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
UyaiIncomparabl: There is nothing you folks will not say to defend generational poverty on Nairaland. Nothing! So you think most people are happy to be in this cruel world just because they were bundles of joy to their parents on their date of birth? This thinking reinforces the selfish nature of humans one of which is currently being displayed by this Op: birthing kids which leaves them happy, bubbly and high with all other things not mattering. Haba! 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by iTearHerToto: 1:30pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
2special:Never mind the dumb 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:30pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Prugee: I'm married. Add me up. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by GboyegaD(m): 1:32pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
sisisioge: Are we sure they did not sieve this and madam felt in at most 3 years he will be ready and now he's obviously not? A friend's experience was that they will wait till the wife starts her residency in the UK since she had passed PLAB. When that happened and they started trying, they realized madam had endometriosis. Long story short, they had to pay 16k pounds for IVF as they couldn't wait for the NHS list. I think they can try one and then wait till he achieves whatever they planned before thinking of another. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by dingbang(m): 1:32pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
As in... Una been dey do i love you, i miss you too prior to the wedding? Una no discuss about child bearing etc. Wtf is wrong with people dating in these age sef? Yall cant open your mouth and talk about important things when married. Yall be focused on who and who is cheating...rubbish |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by May1st: 1:37pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
ogwuche4u: Yes there is joy with children as there is joy with money. My brother, money gives happiness. You certainly don't know what it means to have children and not be able to care for them because you have no money. Let the man make enough of it as he wishes, children can come later when you can fend for them with ease. He already gave her an option, if childbearing is her topmost priority she should file a divorce and get it elsewhere. That's how a focused man talks. It is not wise having kids in penury...... Look around you and see the evidences in slums today. 100k is nothing abeg |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by NemoDatQuod(m): 1:39pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
This is heart rending. I feel for you. Professional qualifications and the drive to succeed in a career are good objectives. He also has an idea in his head of what it means to be "well off enough" to bring a child into the world and I can't fault him for that. I am not going to ask why you guys didn't have these important discussions before you tied the knot. That is water under the bridge. I agree with your analysis of your biological clock. After the age of 35, the risks and complications from child birth increases exponentially. Your husband is willing to let you go rather than have a kid right now. That must hurt, knowing he does not love you as much as he should. No one can talk to him about it as he has made himself unapproachable, even to his family. It seems to me you have a decision to make. He has made his stand clear. Is having a child so important to you that you'd give up your current relationship? It's a decision you've got to make and make fast. Being angry with him and creating a toxic environment will not resolve the problem. There is no easy way out of this one. It is a sign of the very difficult times we live in. We have to make such decisions as we go through life. That is why it is very important to know what drives the person you want to marry, so you can jappa before you get to where you are now. I just need to make the point that your husband is a singularly and fundamentally selfish individual. He must have known he was not ready for marriage given his own plans. He should not have dragged you into this situation. He should have had this conversation with you before hand and given you the opportunity to make a decision with regards to marrying him. This is the type of selfishness that I think should merit time spent at Her majesty's Pleasure, in decent societies. He wouldn't wish this on his own sister. As for those of you hailing him for his drive and all that, what is the point of drive and ambition when you are a scum? I wish you well. Kolawole2130: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by olamoses75(m): 1:42pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Why didnt you guys discuss about kids during courtship? Even my girlfriend that i know i won't marry sef, we have been talking about how many kids we want. |
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