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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by yunqdady: 10:52am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130:He might have an issue which he doesn't want you to know. Use your head. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by deavicky(m): 10:52am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:don't u think he is greedy?. Why would he marry wen he is not ready to have a child and he didn't discuss it with her before marriage. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by HEAVEN4444: 10:52am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Klass99:deut 28 vs 46 Then everyone will look at you and your descendants and realize that the LORD has placed you under a curse. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by geosegun(m): 10:53am On Dec 30, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: You are wrong, Young man.. The husband is very selfish. He can't hang the family life while he seeks personal development. Both can grow together. By the time he is ready, and pregnancy/kids are not forthcoming, what will he do. Oh, so you dont know that it is God that gives children at HIS time and not by the husband's own decisions? The wife is now 32, What if her menopause comes early? (God forbid). Even the IVF that people rely on now, many couples are finding it difficult to get fertilised by it. If babies are not coming, he will now go out and start impersonating anything in skirt. One good advise to the young man- personal development is good but not at the detriment of the family's growth. Both should be pursued together. I am positive, he will regret this decision in the years to come if he did not make effective changes ASAP |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by alizma: 10:53am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130:Tell him that you guys need to start now that you still have the strength to work and train the kids, the only thing that you guys need to do is to stop at two or even one for the time being but waiting for the whole money to come before you start bearing child, considering you guys age is risky because you may start bearing kids at the age of 40 and 37 respectively then what will be his age and yours when the first child turned 14 when he/she will need enough money? I was earning 50 when I got married and my wife was earning 30 and still doing a program but with focus, plan and commitment things are far better now. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Klass99(f): 10:53am On Dec 30, 2021 |
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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by HEAVEN4444: 10:55am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Klass99:45Moreover all these curses shall come upon thee, and shall pursue thee, and overtake thee, till thou be destroyed; because thou hearkenedst not unto the voice of the LORD thy God, to keep his commandments and his statutes which he commanded thee: 46And they shall be upon thee for a sign and for a wonder, and upon thy seed for ever. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by alizma: 10:55am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Beblessedbaba:So he didn't know that before he called for marriage? Anyway I blame the girl, because she is d one that is still listening to him, abi the guy dey use condom? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Qmoneyhigh(m): 10:55am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Beblessedbaba:Why are you shallow with your reasoning At 32 she should be rounding up with child bearing and focus on how to raise them while she still young and able ,so you want her to still have kids in primary school at 50?. Scientifically it has been proven that child bearing above the age of 35 can stress a woman body system(making them age early) and at 40+ she has a high probability of giving birth to a child with down syndrome( trisomy) 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by MrBrownJay1(m): 10:56am On Dec 30, 2021 |
ElPayaso: narrow minded exhibit #1 desperately thinking about her age instead of thinking about being ready (emotionally/physically/financially) to bring a child into this world. and she is edging closer to her latter stage in life. narrow minded exhibit #2 desperately thinking of her bodyclock instead of thinking about being ready (emotionally/physically/financially) to bring a child into this world What is the assurance that if she fails to give birth when the man is ready, he won't go outside and get a younger girl pregnant. narrow minded exhibit #3 even if she has a kid, a man can still go outside and get a younger girl pregnant...stop being an insecure woman!!!! Be realistic here. In as much the man is trying to create a future for his offsprings, one kid won't kill... narrow minded exhibit #4 a man do not want to have kids now, what part of "i dont want to have kids now" dont you understand?!?!?! They are earning close to 200k in a month. What if the man should die tomorrow? narrow minded exhibit #5 - what if SHE dies tomorrow? - what if they both die tomorrow? - what if they lose their jobs tomorrow? ... with IFs, BUTs and MAYBEs, we can claim any nonsense under the moon. What will be her fate? narrow minded exhibit #6 what will be her fate as a widow with a child in Nigeria?!?!?! I'm sure her mother-in-law or her husband family will soon be pestering her that she needs to see her grandchildren and her MF son is busy chasing bag narrow minded exhibit #7 who cares what the in laws think? are they the ones who are gonna feed/clothe/shelter/educate that child for the next 18yrs?! I still don't know how people get comfortable raising kids when they are very old FINAL narrow minded exhibit age isnt important, whats important is for people to raise children when they are READY and its obvious this man isnt! May your sister suffer the same fate the OP is going through. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Klass99(f): 10:58am On Dec 30, 2021 |
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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by HEAVEN4444: 10:59am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Klass99:oh no you were not rude. its OK. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by geosegun(m): 11:00am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Jbiz2008: That's not an excuse. Even couples that live in a 1 room apartment are able to move on. One thing, he should do is to plan and agree with his on is future plan and not be distracted from his personal development plan. In as much as he has sold his plan to the wife, no sane woman would want to negate her husband's good effort. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by ibechris(m): 11:00am On Dec 30, 2021 |
This man should have not married instead of wasting his wife's time...just imagine how old the child would have been. Nigeria is simply not Europe where price of items can stay for 5years unchanged. 3 years ago,pampass was going for #2,300 but today it's now #5100 and I think he might be waiting for Buhari to step down. And if care is not taking,his salary has still not changed for the past years I just mentioned...such is life. Whether he agrees with his wife or not,the price of items in the market waits for no man. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by akinselurea: 11:00am On Dec 30, 2021 |
100% in support!!! Let me tell you a bit about my story, I married when salary was just 44k as a junior staff of FRSC, precisely, I married 30th of March 2018, baby come Sept same year, do you know what? I got a good Job (better) next Apri, which my salary is 248k after tax and now it's increase to 297k after tax... Am presently doing my Master also a student of CITN. People don't know what God plan every individual Raalsalghul: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by cliqtips: 11:02am On Dec 30, 2021 |
OP, are you saying you have never been pregnant for him ? I'm assuming you guys have been having sex for 3 years now. And there is how, at least one out all would have resulted into pregnancy even though you guys have been using contraceptives or pull out which fails at times. or did you abort it ? Kolawole2130: |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by meeky247: 11:03am On Dec 30, 2021 |
OP u are just acting like a man and not a woman. Use your woman power and get pregnant and after 3 months u tell him that u are pregnant and see what happens next. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:04am On Dec 30, 2021 |
geosegun: selfish because he wants the best for his future children and doesnt want to bring into this world a child they arent able to care emotionally/physically/financially for the next 18yrs?!?!? He can't hang the family life while he seeks personal development. Both can grow together. By the time he is ready, and pregnancy/kids are not forthcoming, what will he do. Oh, so you dont know that it is God that gives children at HIS time and not by the husband's own decisions? funny how you are quick to talk about god, yet dont simply say:"when they are both ready, god will provide them with a child" The wife is now 32, What if her menopause comes early? (God forbid). Even the IVF that people rely on now, many couples are finding it difficult to get fertilised by it. If babies are not coming, he will now go out and start impersonating anything in skirt. who cares about her menopause? what you should instead care about IS the wellbeing of a child. you cant raise a child properly if you arent ready and/or didnt desire that child. thats how bad parenting and neglect happens. stop being selfish and solely thinking of your narrow minded self. One good advise to the young man- personal development is good but not at the detriment of the family's growth. Both should be pursued together. I am positive, he will regret this decision in the years to come if he did not make effective changes ASAP only parents would know whats best for their family...the fact that you would assume that their family should do what yours is doing, just because thats "your" dream in life, is wrong, every family is different and as much as women are desperate for marriage and children, that does not mean that you should do either recklessly! |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by egunna(m): 11:05am On Dec 30, 2021 |
uthlaw:old enough to be ur grandfather. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by mechanics(m): 11:06am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:hmmmm, please don't say that. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by uthlaw: 11:07am On Dec 30, 2021 |
egunna:okay,I need to respect him for that...when next you want to mentioned, do that with common sense! |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by jimter44(m): 11:08am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Beblessedbaba: Assuming this lady is your sister, would you give such advice? This lady is 32 years and you are telling him to wait? My candid advise is that if the guy is not ready to procreate, connect to the available young man. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Fourwinds: 11:09am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Jidemoo:I doubt..that is the problem with intending couples. They won't discuss important and serious matters..all their talk na I love you , love me. Moving from one eatery to another. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by adamsoghene: 11:10am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Joke aside, I can be of help |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Michaelpsych: 11:10am On Dec 30, 2021 |
I don't get,ur fiance or ur husband...cuz u said people around u are getting married |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by GoldenSpec: 11:10am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Drug that idiot and force him to impregnate u biko, time is not by ur side as u said 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by DirectTokunbo: 11:14am On Dec 30, 2021 |
A simple Yes or No would have been preferable. But that's alright. na2016: |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Nobody: 11:18am On Dec 30, 2021 |
RiyadhGoddess:You are funny oh, you are talking about family planning when baba never even agree to produce one child, it seem like her husband is not the type that loves sex. He is too focused on his Ambition in life. Those asking why she didn't discuss this with her fiance before marriage, that's a silly question to ask, how many topics would they discuss and continue to discuss, you can't know it all or discuss it all, it's as you live with the person, new behaviors and attitudes just keeps coming up. My advice is to give him Goli it's a sex enhancer, like a gum, just push it into his mouth and tell him you bought a chewing gum for him, walaihi after he finishes to eat it, he will ride you into a bouncing baby boy , ensure you are ovulating. Thank me later ma |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Agbebakun22: 11:19am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: You're right man, I have this Canadian woman who has been my mentor over a year now, I was surprise when she told me she doesn't have a child and she's in mid 50s and happily married, I ask her why she refuse to have children she said is not necessary and what matter is happiness, she has been married over 20 years till date no kids her and her husband are both happily married.. Oyinbo life too sweet and no body dey put pressure on them. They choose who they wanna live their life 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Fourwinds: 11:21am On Dec 30, 2021 |
oldienavie: Help ask her what they were discussing... |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Oyiboman69: 11:22am On Dec 30, 2021 |
RiyadhGoddess:100k is the only visible money in the union.... |
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