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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by geosegun(m): 11:22am On Dec 30, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: You see, life doesn't always go the way you analysed this (an ideal situation)...but life is funny, it is unpredictable (realistic situation). With total of about 170k per month and with proper planning, I can tell you the family will do just fine even with 2 kids, while he continues to develop himself. The husband of the OP could be smart and ambitious but he clearly lacks wisdom. The bible says, Wisdom is the principal thing, get wisdom and in all thy gettings, get understanding. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Goodzinny: 11:26am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Looks like you were the one who pushed him into marriage when he was not ready. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by AngelicBeing: 11:28am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:Hahaha, una go kill person with laugh for nairaland.com 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Nobody: 11:29am On Dec 30, 2021 |
2special:leave the guy..... Most people don't that it takes more than air and omomo to take care of a child.... Na billing things.... @least when op husband ready him go get two kids like Arnold Schwarzenegger...... 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by DEmejioba1: 11:30am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Seeking advice on nairaland can even make one to commit and misbehave,people are been carried away with the rapid increase in civilization thereby making it difficult to act and behave rightly and culturally. It's a pity,our society is downgrading in values. OP,I think you have to understand that child bearing is one of purposes of marriage. Then what is the value of money you have without children,can you tell what will happen tommorrow? |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by nurain150(m): 11:30am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130: Why didn't you discuss before marriage, typical me won't allow my wife for atleast 3 years to give room for more love. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by GboyegaD(m): 11:31am On Dec 30, 2021 |
sisisioge: No come cause trouble ooo. Dis one for me fit end marriage as no more convo after you act. My only concern is "what was discussed about childbirth during courtship?" |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by babtoundey(m): 11:32am On Dec 30, 2021 |
He is my kind of person. Always in search of better chances of survival. The only difference is, I will not be married when i know I'm not ready to have kids. So, he is kind of selfish and thoughtless. The way out; find his mother, buy her bounvita, Milo, coth, shoes, necklace and all sorts of allurement. After you must of endeared yourself to her, tell her of the madness of her child. She too will tell your husband father who in turn who inform his own uncle. They will call family meeting on top him and his issue. He will be angry at you, but he will have no choice than doing your bid. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Fourwinds: 11:32am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Mariangeles: My question be say OP and her husband for don dey nack since three Yeats now. How cum no preg |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by mrvictor: 11:32am On Dec 30, 2021 |
There's a problem - a big problem. There could be a secret - his past or his future plans or nothing. He's someone no one can talk to - a much bigger problem. May it not end in regrets. I wish you good luck. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by nurain150(m): 11:33am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130: Pay to freeze your eggs, I think that's safer 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by GboyegaD(m): 11:35am On Dec 30, 2021 |
babtoundey: Good you choose not to be selfish. I was like him. No marriage until I attained my minimums. As for his selfishness, there isn't a thing his family can do. What matters is what they agreed on during courtship. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by DAVE5(m): 11:38am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Qmoneyhigh: Are you minding all these kids we have on nairaland 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:38am On Dec 30, 2021 |
geosegun: please do tell us what else you see in your crystal ball... and BTW stop assuming that because some are doing great with 170k, everyone should therefore have kids if they earn the same. jide isnt Ahmed nor is he Chris. The husband of the OP could be smart and ambitious but he clearly lacks wisdom. this issue has nothing to do with ambition and/or wisdom, but all to do with LIFE CHOICES. you cant force someone to do what they are not read/willing to do (just because thats what you want) The bible says, Wisdom is the principal thing, get wisdom and in all thy gettings, get understanding. here are some bible verses to consider: 1 Peter 5:6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Psalm 27:14 Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. Romans 12:12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Oyiboman69: 11:40am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:don't mind her...she's talking about her 70k which most of us are aware that that money is hidden somewhere without her support.... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by gbigbega: 11:47am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Three advice: advice 1 is invalid if your husbands comes home everyday of the week. 1. If you husband doesn't come home everyday or he disappear after some time, then he probably has all the children he needs in the world for another woman you are not aware of. He is only catching fun with you perhaps. 2. Ask him to give you a timeline or the year he will be ready so that you all work towards it. 3. It;s only a woman who can decide when to have kinds. Use your head and have what is legitimately yours through him |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Goldentulip2: 11:55am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Jidemoo:Good question. Folks these days just marry, no discussions of the uneasy sides that could pop up, they discuss the sweet things. Smh 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by TheSimiloluwa(m): 12:14pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Hope say una two dey Bleep Sha, he fit be impotent make you no know lol Sorry tho, but on a norms 170k monthly is still enough to bring a kid to the world... Two could be a crowd but the view is best seen with him |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by May1st: 12:17pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130: if u like go and carry one mumu pregnancy to him from outside because of this your desperation, you are doing yourself. you think you are too old at 32? 40+ women are out there without a kid. better align with him and be happy later |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by franchasng: 12:18pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130:Na wa oh. I keep wondering where Nigerian ladies de see all these type of men they date and marry. Na wa oh. It is well oh |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Nobody: 12:19pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Some times I wonder if you people are serious, marital advice is a serious business. From what you said its best you split, you didnt seek out the guys vision, other wise you wouldnt marry, he is not ready for kids period, he can stay for 5 years with out kids still marry and have kids, you on the other hand are close to menopause( didnt say how many abortions you did before you met him) Its better you split and find someone who is ready to have kids with you immediately, but remember to born football team no be problem na to get the money to train dem . You reaction shows you re short sighted and immature, you dont think about the future only the present short term enjoyment, typical of an average Nigerian girl. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by May1st: 12:22pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
TheSimiloluwa: Do you know the updated cost of delivery today? baby food, clothing, toiletries, house rent, utilities, personal adult expenses, parental duties etc are all men deal with. A woman earning 70k is pressuring her hubby to get a kid. Man isn't ready for those expenses on his meagre salary. peeps earning 500k gan dey beg God. He wants to improve their worth let him. If they try now and she bears triplets what will happen? your guess is as good as mine 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by ogwuche4u(m): 12:24pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
egunna: The man just wicked walai. Maybe him dey impotent. So him dey use vexation take scare the woman. Money no dey do person o. Person wey dey earn 1M monthly still dey complain. The more money you earn, the more your expense equals your earnings. That's just the theory of money. What changes? Your lifestyle. So make him appreciate God for the one him get. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:26pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
007s: Bad guy. 1 Like
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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by bobbychat: 12:27pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
Something doesn't seem right on both sides . how can a woman be demanding for pregnancy from her husband. Is it that for 3 years you have not been fucking each other.? The guy know something which the wife does not know and his family also know this but kept mute. Madam use your sense naa 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by ogwuche4u(m): 12:28pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
May1st:Do you think money is happiness? Nobody is promised tomorrow. Make the best of today. There is joy with children. At 40 you want her to be attending PTA meetings. Why not give birth on time and enjoy old age in peace? I wish I had my first child at 25. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by RedEnergy: 12:29pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:Maybe if they were just dating. But they're already married. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Prenonjebose: 12:31pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
The man is selfish. Many people have advanced professionally with less income. Except the op is deceiving us in saying that she has been supportive, then I don't see any reason why he would be behaving like the burden of raising the child would rest squarely on him. It is callous of him to ask her to seek for divorce if she cannot wait. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Dbrawllm0098(f): 12:33pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
A good time to discuss this would have been before you got married, but it's time to put your cards on the table. Tell him you definitely want children. If he's adamant that he doesn't, then you are at a fundamental incompatibility in your marriage and it's time to end it. Better NOW than later. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by RedEnergy: 12:35pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
juman:She's too naive. No need of begging, consultation didn't work. She should use her natural seductive ability plus wits. Very easy for her to get pregnant. Missionary style or cowgirl style will get the job done, IF and only IF she has a bomb pussy though. Men are very obedient during sex, if the pussy is fire 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:35pm On Dec 30, 2021 |
mechanics: That guy is very irresponsible. Go through his past comments, you'll see what I mean. He hates kids and women. |
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