Speak for yourself.Yes, i understand the roles of fathers in the house. But mothers plays bulk of it all. Children tend to love their mothers naturally than fathers. It's nature![/quote]

Omakraid:
If my dad were alive and I have enough to give both, I will give my mum far more than my dad because my mum will spend hers on housekeep and feeding while my dad will spend his as father Christmas by giving people who ought to give to him and food items will not smell 1naira from his money

This sounds like my dad..lol

Spherical77:
please What is the karma there please? Showing love for both parents but the mothers love was way higher and you are here saying karma

It's natural most children love their mothers more than their fathers and there's nothing you can do about that

u no say a no quote u ooh

Goan take care of ur mother and leave ur father in penury cus he deserves it

CondemnBattery:
If you are a Christian, please read your Bible very well. The blessing or a father is
next to God's blessing. Don't catch cruise with everything for the sake of likes

I only know islam emphasise on mothers. I know biblically both parents were emphasised in proverb

I'm yet to see where fathers was singlehandedly mentioned in bible unlike quoran that emphasised solely on mothers

Loewe:
I can't speak for everyone, but the reason a lot of Africans will always prefer their mothers to their fathers is because of POLYGAMY! Once you're born in a polygamous family, the only person who truly has your back is your mother because the father has a divided heart and most polygamous fathers aren't loyal to their children.

For those who grew up in nuclear families where the father was RESPONSIBLE, the result is usually different. As men, we must understand that we can't always eat our cake and have it. Children know when they are shown love and will usually reciprocate the same when they grow up. Impregnating a woman doesn't make you a father, it's by assuming your responsibilities.

That's my reason, you married like Two wives on top my mama and you want me to love you equally, No way. I will give my mother 90% because she is packed to one corner because of new wife.

Omakraid:

Meaning?

I should think the meaning is clear enough.

OlawaleBammie:
u no say a no quote u ooh

Goan take care of ur mother and leave ur father in penury cus he deserves it

Mr who told you we would leave our fathers in penury? Fathers who lives under the same roof with the mother?

Biko say something else

Spherical77:
Yes, i understand the roles of fathers in the house. But mothers plays bulk of it all. Children tend to love their mothers naturally than fathers. It's nature!

Love actually exists between mother and child but mothers manipulate alot if you look closely

Spherical77:
Yes, i understand the roles of fathers in the house. But mothers plays bulk of it all. Children tend to love their mothers naturally than fathers. It's nature!

Says who. Nature? Nah

ogwuche4u:


That's because the dad is always hustling and bustling to put food on the table for the man. The mom most time doesn't do anything but provide emotional support to the children and that's why children are drawn to their mother. Honestly, the sacrifices of father for their children outweighs that of the mother.

You all think money, money and money is everything. Raising a responsible children goes beyond just money

See eh, if that father died those children will still live and survived with the love of their mother

But if a woman died in the house. Likelihood that those children will be maltreat and abused. A woman who had 4-5kids may chose to remain single and look after her kids

But Men hardly do that sir. The few ones who does that would definitely have side chicks taking his attention

It's easier for men to move on so easy and quickly after the death of his wife unlike the women

The children sees all these sir

You can't compare the love of someone who carried you for months and risk her life during child birth. Nurtured you with countless sleepless night. And you expect the children to love their fathers more than mothers because of money right?

finishmatter:
This has been a worrisome issue for me.
Why do children prefer giving money to their mom instead of dad.

Your dad clothes, feeds, educate, houses and provides all financial needs for you as his child.
He also meets all needs of his wife and that of his relatives and in-laws.

So, ideally, he is supposed to be adequately compensated as the breadwinner instead of the mom.

But this is not the reality as most children only think of their mother.

What did our fathers do to deserve this?
Pls how can this unfair treatment be addressed?

Most sons think of their mother, especially when the papa suffer them, most daughters think of their father..

It's the way it is...

Because my mum does 70% of what your dad does. Doesn't mean I don't send to my dad sometimes though but mama will always come first and even daddy knows and acknowledges.

Kaybae:
That's my reason, you married like Two wives on top my mama and you want me to love you equally, No way. I will give my mother 90% because she is packed to one corner because of new wife.

Abi now... Our mothers really endured a lot in their matrimonial homes because of their kids... Even as a man, I know this and cannot even think of marrying 2 wives in my life, never!

Kaybae:
That's my reason, you married like Two wives on top my mama and you want me to love you equally, No way. I will give my mother 90% because she is packed to one corner because of new wife.

I'm from a nuclear family and i love my mother more than my father

This isn't about choice of family. It's almost natural for children to love their mothers more than their fathers except otherwise

Men don't like to spend as much time with their kids like women do. As a result, they don't know their kids.

Omakraid:
If my dad were alive and I have enough to give both, I will give my mum far more than my dad because my mum will spend hers on housekeep and feeding while my dad will spend his as father Christmas by giving people who ought to give to him and food items will not smell 1naira from his money

Lol.... Seems there are a lot of fathers like this.

Why are you guys afraid and now singing the song of also give to you father. Is it because you're getting old and you will be needing help? The thing is in every family setting the children knows who suffered more and when is time of harvest they know who to give more too. You can't be an irresponsible father and start chanting give to your father more.
As for me my dad is no more and even if he was to be alive he will get far less than my mom. I was 17 when he died and trust me I know a lot about him. My mom is ready to empty her account just to see you succeed and she is still doing it till date. My mom will give you her phone and be phoneless till you get a new one. My mom will give you the last money on her so long it's for something that will better your life.
So you men should stop with the blackmail of one day what you did to your dad will be done to you too. Listing all the things men do as if there are women who are not providing all the money for the family and at the same time showing care and love to the children.
Both parents should put in more effort in taking care of their children. Dad should be bringing the money and the women pls don't deceive your children as if you are the one doing every thing. Also let the children know that their dad is also dropping something. I rest my case.

juman:
Father is fathers of all.
Many fathers fail in their responsibility, but mother has no where to run to except to work harder and provide anyhow for the children.

Many families they have absentee father.

Even as big as obasanjo is, many of his children don't like him much.
That's typical father.

I agree.

My father throws low key tantrums when you don't get him a birthday gift. Same with my grandpa

It's pure joy and peace in the house when you give him gifts. He also feels good.


But what do you give the man that has everything?


. I really need ideas for birthday gifts for him.

I'm tired of scratching my head every year.

Akuruoulo:

Simp
Are some mother's not useless ?

Alpha most men are useless compare to women

Africa( BLACK PEOPLE)training towards PARENTS is differ to( OYINBO, White people) when you are 18 over there,you are free not here,if 80 years,you must give both of them.

My pastor's wife thought me a valuable lesson. She legitly told us to be smart as husbands, when the kids did something wrong in your absence and your wife did not discipline the child, but waits for you to come back and discipline them, don't. Make sure she disciplines them herself, otherwise your kids will think you are the wicked one and the evil one.

Don't always give your wife all the money to buy things for the kids, take the children out to the market, buy them clothes, take them to the grocery store, buy the provision in their present. Let them know you are the one buying them. If you buy them shoes or anything, make sure they are aware that you are the one buying them. If you do all these, the kids will love you more. This is 2022, don't allow your wife rob you of your years of labor when it's time to reap.

Impostor:


LoL it's natural. Women are always greedy and won't even let your children know you did things for them

badaoyeyemi:
You get it...that's the only reason I give mum more...not because I love one more than the other.. Dad will be doing the man is good

And it's those man is good that opens the way for you. You think when those people say to him God bless you it's for him, it's for his children that the blessing goes to

[quote author=Evidenx post=109235170]I LOVE BOTH MY DAD AND MUM,BUT WILL ALWAYS GIVE MY MUM MORE BECAUSE OF HER EXTRA LOVE AND CARE,ITS EXCEPTIONAL.

DEAR FATHERS: Life is not just all about providing for your family,LOVE AND CARE,GETTING INVOLVED IN YOUR CHILDREN'S LIFE MATTERS ALOT.

This is the mentality that is destroying Africa. Some fathers are trailer drivers who have the opportunity of coming home once every month. Since they risk their lives to provide for the family, their sacrifices are worthless because they are not present in their children's lives. When a man plays his role of providing for the family, a woman should simply play her own role of caring for the family without taking advantage of the situation

The bond is between mum and the children right from the womb. Dad will just drop money and go, but the nurturing and bonding is between the mother and children. Their love knows no bound.

I give equal to my Dad and Mum. In addition if any require extra, I give based on availability........... All I require of them now is their prayers.

Nebes:
I remember buying gifts for my mother when I was in SS2. I remember how she cried but I don’t remember anything else she said. I think she prayed for me. I’m not sure. She died same year.

Now I remember the day I dashed my father 1K. He took it and asked me to kneel down. He told me that God will lead me and break down every barrier in this life for me. My father also died before I became stable financially. Today any time I break through any barrier I remember my father. I always succeed even where others fail. Rules are always bent for me to ensure I get anything I want. That was the only thing I remember giving him. I wish I gave him more.

I don’t care how much you give your mother but one blessing from your father will speak for you more than a thousand from your mother. Remember that without him you won’t even have anybody to call mother. Give to your father please. Provoke his emotional side and hear him bless you.

God bless you for this enlightening post

DrFunmisticGlow:
I agree.

My father throws low key tantrums when you don't get him a birthday gift. Same with my grandpa

It's pure joy and peace in the house when you give him gifts. He also feels good.


But what do you give the man that has everything?


. I really need ideas for birthday gifts for him.

I'm tired of scratching my head every year.

Not everyone expects gifts during birthday but you give those desire for it.

Spherical77:
Mr who told you we would leave our fathers in penury? Fathers who lives under the same roof with the mother?

Biko say something else

ahh no na

As una dey talk like say father no get responsibilities at all.

I remember wen my mum left my dad

I remember how mu dad would lock me and my younger sister indoor by night and went to farm amidst insecurity in the town just to get us food to eat before its dawn, if not we would go to school empty stomached

I remember wen my dad would leave wateva he's doing in the evening just to cook for us

I remember how my father was running helter-skelter just to pay for my waec and neco

I remember how he sold property to pay my bills

And one oponu will be telling me that mother cares is more than the father care, dont get me wrong, my mother had her on impact, she did well for me wen i was in higher institution but i cant compare it with the suffering and the shame my father borne cus of us.


Make i gat money first, my parent go enjoy wella but my papa go know say he born pikin, i pray God keep both alive for me

Solid

Ofadaman:
Truth is, the world isn't fair to men,but that's how the world works, growing up as kids we see more of our mum, they provide the care and all, but we hardly see the real side of our fathers because our mums portray our dad's as the enforcer who only disciplines, meanwhile the man toils from dawn to dusk to make the money ,it's the money that our mum's translate into the good things like food, school bags,fees, clothes, parties etc .
This places the mothers in position of care and weakness, a position that uncannily makes we want to care and protect them, we grow up with that mindset such that when parents are aged we send money to our mums in hope that they'd transform it into something good. Now, this is where we are wrong, women aren't good with power especially over their husbands, should you take this approach, the women will try to subjugate her husband and soon you'd find your father becoming more naive and have less voice in home affairs.

As a son, who understands , when you send money , send to your mum for the house items with your dad knowing, but also send to your Dad privately for his pocket (even if it's a quarter of what you gave your mum for the house items) , because a man needs it for his confidence.

The world has no sympathy for men, even in their old age, they have no where to run to, no shoulder to lean on, even their own kids abandon them. No one remembers their struggle, have you heard of any musician singing about how his father prayed for him or advices him?.. it's always the mums.

If you're a man and reading this, You can break this circle, be there for your father,

Tell this to your sons also.

superintendents:
gbammm...she suffer the most...so for me ?


mom...70%

dad......30%

This comment show that you're still a kid, when you got married then you will know if fathers contribute only 30%

CondemnBattery:
My pastor's wife thought me a valuable lesson. She legitly told us to be smart as husbands, when the kids did something wrong in your absence and your wife did not discipline the child, but waits for you to come back and discipline them, don't. Make sure she disciplines them herself, otherwise your kids will think you are the wicked one and the evil one.

Don't always give your wife all the money to buy things for the kids, take the children out to the market, buy them clothes, take them to the grocery store, buy the provision in their present. Let them know you are the one buying them. If you buy them shoes or anything, make sure they are aware that you are the one buying them. If you do all these, the kids will love you more. This is 2022, don't allow your wife rob you of your years of labor when it's time to reap.

Omooooooo am loving this aswear

See sense biko, men are getting wiser

Spherical77:
She risk her life to have us.

Kids talking trash , soon you will got married