OlawaleBammie:
ahh no na

As una dey talk like say father no get responsibilities at all.

I remember wen my mum left my dad

I remember how mu dad would lock me and my younger sister indoor by night and went to farm amidst insecurity in the town just to get us food to eat before its dawn, if not we would go to school empty stomached

I remember wen my dad would leave wateva he's doing in the evening just to cook for us

I remember how my father was running helter-skelter just to pay for my waec and neco

I remember how he sold property to pay my bills

And one oponu will be telling me that mother cares is more than the father care, dont get me wrong, my mother had her on impact, she did well for me wen i was in higher institution but i cant compare it with the suffering and the shame my father borne cus of us.


Make i gat money first, my parent go enjoy wella but my papa go know say he born pikin[b], i pray God keep both alive for me[/b]

KingAzubuike:
Most mother's we have today are naccisist . They think about themselves and themselves only. They want everything. Some of them even get jealous when their kids give more money to their dad than them. These kids in return forget that it's their dad who struggled to feed them , train them through school, provide for their needs etc. If that's the case, pls take care of your dad. If reverse is the case then your mom.

But always remember the popsi wey suffer because of you. The popsi who woke up early to get to work just to make money for you. He paid your school fees, clothed you, even the Christmas cloth and shoes your mama buy for you, na your popsi drop the money. If you wan do anything for house , na your popsi go drop money. Pls remember your father's. Africans generally have this emotional sentiments towards their mothers which is not meant to be.

finishmatter:


Really?

OlawaleBammie:
relax bro, give it some decades u will understand, karma is real

Qatar2022:

Kids talking trash , soon you will got married

Spherical77:
And who told you i undermined the work of my father biko? It's natural for children to love their mothers more than their fathers

I mean mothers who stood with their fathers through thin and thick

Omakraid:
If my dad were alive and I have enough to give both, I will give my mum far more than my dad because my mum will spend hers on housekeep and feeding while my dad will spend his as father Christmas by giving people who ought to give to him and food items will not smell 1naira from his money

Spherical77:
Amen!

Spherical77:
Even fathers know that children loves their mother much more than them. They understand the bond from womb mother shares with the children and after birth. They understand the pain and risk she took in having the children. They understand the sleepless night, the tears when the children aren't in good condition and they have come to terms with that

We love both parents no doubt. Nonetheless, the mothers love will always outweigh that of the fathers to some extent

Spherical77:
Yes, i understand the roles of fathers in the house. But mothers plays bulk of it all. Children tend to love their mothers naturally than fathers. It's nature!

chatinent:
Mum knows to manage well.

Qatar2022:

I still maintain my stand that you're not married because if you do, you won't be saying this

Ofadaman:
Truth is, the world isn't fair to men,but that's how the world works, growing up as kids we see more of our mum, they provide the care and all, but we hardly see the real side of our fathers because our mums portray our dad's as the enforcer who only disciplines, meanwhile the man toils from dawn to dusk to make the money ,it's the money that our mum's translate into the good things like food, school bags,fees, clothes, parties etc .
This places the mothers in position of care and weakness, a position that uncannily makes we want to care and protect them, we grow up with that mindset such that when parents are aged we send money to our mums in hope that they'd transform it into something good. Now, this is where we are wrong, women aren't good with power especially over their husbands, should you take this approach, the women will try to subjugate her husband and soon you'd find your father becoming more naive and have less voice in home affairs.

As a son, who understands , when you send money , send to your mum for the house items with your dad knowing, but also send to your Dad privately for his pocket (even if it's a quarter of what you gave your mum for the house items) , because a man needs it for his confidence.

The world has no sympathy for men, even in their old age, they have no where to run to, no shoulder to lean on, even their own kids abandon them. No one remembers their struggle, have you heard of any musician singing about how his father prayed for him or advices him?.. it's always the mums.

If you're a man and reading this, You can break this circle, be there for your father,

Tell this to your sons also.

Femi8586:


Sheybi na man you be?

Your own time is coming too.

Your kids go buy Benz and house for their mum while you get newspaper to read.

Heterodox:
Nonsense.


Unless one has a useless mother the potency of blessings is the same.

OlawaleBammie:
i understand u but do u know women are manipulative?? Most of dem but not all.

Am currently with my gf as we speak, my atm is with her, she's withdrawing money from my account to run the house as usual and a no mind as i am not the tym.

Yesterday one of her customer gave her money but she kept it in her handbag , this morning we she was goin out she told me she would love to eat vegetable soup, out of the 2600 that was in the ous, (the change remaining from yesterday) she took 1100 and left 1500 for me, i ask why she said 1k should be enough as its only vegetable and fish she want to buy. But as a caring man, i told her to take another 1k from the 1500 she left behind and bring the change without minding that she has her own money which she can contribute.

Let now assume we hav a kid or two, out of the 2100 i gave her she buys things if 500 for the kids, dat is when u will see her telling the kids that its her money she's spending on dem and how she suffers to make those monies. instead of apportioning my credit to me, noo dey would want to claim all

ivolt:


It is poverty that make is fuelling these kind of topics.
When a father or mother is comfortable on their own, your presence and not your gifts
will be more appreciated.

OlawaleBammie:
Omooooooo am loving this aswear

See sense biko, men are getting wiser

Alldew:
Why are you guys afraid and now singing the song of also give to you father. Is it because you're getting old and you will be needing help? The thing is in every family setting the children knows who suffered more and when is time of harvest they know who to give more too. You can't be an irresponsible father and start chanting give to your father more.
As for me my dad is no more and even if he was to be alive he will get far less than my mom. I was 17 when he died and trust me I know a lot about him. My mom is ready to empty her account just to see you succeed and she is still doing it till date. My mom will give you her phone and be phoneless till you get a new one. My mom will give you the last money on her so long it's for something that will better your life.
So you men should stop with the blackmail of one day what you did to your dad will be done to you too. Listing all the things men do as if there are women who are not providing all the money for the family and at the same time showing care and love to the children.
Both parents should put in more effort in taking care of their children. Dad should be bringing the money and the women pls don't deceive your children as if you are the one doing every thing. Also let the children know that their dad is also dropping something. I rest my case.

enambobo:

Na lie. Check in Bible times. Fathers were the ones blessing sons not mothers. God in heaven recognize the blessings of fathers because he is the direct head of the family. Abraham blessed his son Isaac, Isaac blessed Jacob, Jacob blessed Joseph and the list goes on. where you see say mother bless son for Bible?

darenzoworld:
I disagree with you saying father's blessing speaks more than thousand times of the mother. If you go to any spiritual places for special prayers, no one will ask you of your father's name, only your mother's is been ask because there is 80 per cent sure sey na she born you....you papa own E NO TOO PURE....for me sha,na the 2 good......

superintendents:
gbammm...she suffer the most...so for me ?


mom...70%

dad......30%

princewarri1985:
This totally unacceptable in all ramification, because a retired NNPC staff in my neighbourhood spent thousands of dollars from his hard earned pension to train his first daughter in a university in the US she graduated and stayed back in the US got a job and guess what? He sent money to Nigeria for her parents and he asked the receiver to give her mom 800k and the father only 50k, and the father was so angry that he chased everybody away from his house including his wife and all his children and he threatened to sell of his house which worth about 50 million and use the money to rellocate abroad and take of himself for once, because he said he has spent all his life taking care of his children and also sacrificing for them but they dont appreciate it, family had to intervened and he even threatened to disowned his first daughter ese who lives in the US

CondemnBattery:
If you are a Christian, please read your Bible very well. The blessing of a father is
next to God's blessing. Don't catch cruise with everything for the sake of likes

Spherical77:
Yeah you are right. Some mothers are manipulative no doubt. I think it's naturally in women's nature to manipulate except those who chose not to utilise it.

But come to think of it, is it still possible for mothers to manipulate their grown children? Like children who is way above 18 and possibly in the university or done with school? I felt it's almost impossible to achieve that because those children are grown, wiser and smarter to fall for their mother manipulative tactics.

Also you know as Africans. They assume even if your mother abandoned you for another man and you became a successful young man. It's expected of you to look after your mother. They'd start preaching how she carried you for 9 months, gave birth to you, such her breast and many more. That alone will wash off her sins you get

Heterodox:
lol.. we're talking reality you're mentioning bible.

Yansham:
Women are cunny. They have a way of always brainwashing the children that they were there for them all the time.

But as a smart child, you shouldn't be carried away by that.

Personally, whatever I give my mum is exactly what I give my dad. They are both equal in my eyes.

enambobo:

Knowledge is by experience. How do you mean reality? Did events in the Bible not happen? You had better follow the Holy book and know peace. God in heaven recognize responsible fathers blessings than mothers. But if your father is a hogwash then even his prayers are meaningless. The scripture say a man that fails to take care of his household is worst than a person without faith and even his prayers are meaningless.