Visasolution048:



Maybe you don't know women....You don't have to treat a woman badly before she start thinking marrying you was mistake especially when her ex. Is giving back green light and he is far better than you...

Immediately a woman start considering other options , everything that have to do with you becomes useless.

Let me ask you a few questions
Where you there?
Do you know the parties involved?
If the woman is guilty why does he still want her back?

There are 3 sides to every story( i this case 4)
His version, her version , the custom Officer's version and the truth.
Lets hear their sides first

pocohantas:


Thank you! I am sure he has frustrated the poor woman.

I like this woman o. While some women are crying that they can’t find men, this one after four kids has hooked a custom officer. Eweyyy!

A custom officer that left his own wife in ibadan?

Lol.

emmanuelbrown26:
people from that tribe are too promiscuous, both man and woman.
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You no get sense

Angelfrost:
The lamentations of a weak man!

How can you even bring such a thing online?!! Come on! You don't have a family?!! She doesn't have a family?!! She can't be summoned?!?

The marriage can't be dissolved??! A marriage that has clearly expired long ago without this poster realizing it!

The likelihood of all or some of those kids not being yours is even higher than you might think!

You are so right.The marriage has long been over but he didn't know.

Yoruba see cheating in marriage as handshake

pocohantas:


Thank you! I am sure he has frustrated the poor woman.

I like this woman o. While some women are crying that they can’t find men, this one after four kids has hooked a custom officer. Eweyyy!

Exactly. I am very sure he was abusive towards her.
We always preach that if a man 8s abusive the woman should walk. She just did.

Pauladex:
The Op is under a spell not the wife.

No. He's a loving husband. Some of you don't know the value placed on marriage. What do you think his vows for better and for worse mean?

It is good that he's not a fairweather husband, but one who is ready to fight for his marriage and pass through fire to do that, a true leader of his home who will not let it fail so easily. He's a virtuous example of a true man with humble godly intentions for life. And heaven will reward his efforts at resuscitating his marriage.

emmanuelbrown26:

I will always go with the bolded, be d troublemaker and u will see her begging u, but if u allow her to be d troublemaker, d man will be d one to beg her, jus that op allowed d woman to maga him. How could a sensible man borrow millions from bank to setup a business for a woman that does not worth kobo? Op deserves death sentence by hanging bcs u failed your forefathers and your generation.

Haha lol simple men will learn the hard way about that gender

oseahumenb:
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Pics attached..

About six months ago, I returned home from work and discovered that my wife and four children were no where to be found. I also noticed her that belongings and that of the children were missing.

I quickly dashed out of my flat and went to my neighbours to enquire of their whereabout. I was shocked to my bone marrows when they narrated to me how a man accompanied my wife to move out her belongings. When they tried to intrude the man warned them of serious consequences.

That was when it dawned on me that my wife whom I have caught severally on the phone discussing with her lover on the phone has finally done her worst.
On two occasions I caught her sneaking around with her phone, in the midnight I discovered an Sms that the so-called lover sent she was fast asleep . I cannot divulge the content here because it was disgusting to me at first.
I reported to the pastor and she was warned. Then the identity of the lover wasn't known to me. I just let it go, because I still needed the marriage for the sake of my four children.
However, I began to investigate without her knowing. Then I discovered that the secret lover was a custom officer, named Adeniyi Adesola, he was in Ibadan command. He is married with children.
One day he called my wife and I just could bear the insults, I confronted him on phone I warned him to stay away and reminded him that she was married.
Then he started abusing me and even threatened to kill me. He revealed to me that he knew my wife before I married her. He told me to backoff and let him always have access to her or he will kill me.
I reported the matter to the ekpan police station warri. The IPO who was a lady advised me to thread with caution and report to my family which I did.
I am from Edo State and my wife is from Ondo state. The custom officer is from Ekiti state. The custom officer, Adesola was intimidating me because I was not understanding their language.

I gave my wife everything she needed. I got a loan of 5m from a bank to set up a business for her. She squandered the money and there is nothing to show now in the shop. The bank has started moving in on me, I don't know what to do.

The custom officer I heard has kept my wife and children in Ibadan because his wife couldn't take it.
MY children are not in school and my wife just gave birth to a baby for the custom officer.
Meanwhile, she has not returned the bride price but she has delivered a baby for the customs officer.
Now I want the custom officer, Adeniyi Adesola to release my wife, Helen Bose and my children with immediate effect because he has charmed them.
Pls nairaland admins put this story on front page pls.. I need my children. They are not in school.
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Hello bro. Believe me I can feel your pains. It's not easy raising a family and lose them to a stranger overnight. Don't mind the people calling you simps and all sort of names here. Someone who hasn't experience this will definitely say rubbish.

Just pull yourself together, relocate from your current apartment so as to erase the thoughts gradually.
Get a cheaper apart if need be. Focuss on your job, focus more on how to attain success. Forget you once have a family and start afresh. If you can do all this, believe me with time you will overcome and she will definitely be put to shame.

Don't kill yourself or give yourself unecessarry hypertension because of a woman. Leave her and let her be. She has done her worst. Move on with your life bro.

As a man if it takes you 10years from now to be successful, if you want to marry most beautiful girl in Nigeria you will. Take a good look at Ned nwoko, despite his age he is still marrying the freshest ladies an average man can only dream of. Take a good look at the late Alafin of Oyo, despite his old age he had young and wives. So bro chase success and leave the adulterous woman alone

Pull yourself together bro. Men are really blessed. No matter the age we make money, we can marry any beautiful woman we so desire. For women, as soon as a woman clocks 60 even with all her wealth, her sexual appeal will start diminishing. So if you don't enjoy today there is more enjoyment tomorrow.

Shalom

CSTRR:

A custom officer that left his own wife in ibadan?

Lol.

Yes of course. The custom officer’s wife is not submissive. OP’s wife is obviously submissive, that is why he wants her back after she has given birth for her lover.

GloriousGbola:


Dynomite toto. Her milkshake brings the customs officers to the yard

It has to be. A whole 4 kids? Seems this lose toto after childbearing is just a myth or consolation for men with p**** like overused eye-pencil.

As some rightly advice up there,,,take dis mata to d gods n see them fight for you,


I don't know d problem of guys dis days,,y will I even report my wife to my pastor? Who pastor help...what happens to you been man enough.....boss ur home n watch her beg you instead of you doing d beggining.....man have submitted enough Tru money, shelter n care.....

Ozo of bbn shld b ur blood brother@ OP

pocohantas:
Men are polygamous in nature. Allow the custom officer use your wife to hold body. He didn’t charm her anything[b]. If you were a good husband[/b], she won’t leave you. Go and marry another wife, maybe the custom officer’s wife.

What is good compared to the sacrifice of borrowing five million not for yourself but for your wife. What is your definition of good? Is it being married and moving out without divorcing and still giving birth for another while still married to your husband?
Shifting the goal post is always sweet when it's massages our personal ego.

Born2Breed:


You fall Edo hand. Na you dem just use take play bebeye like this.

Are you sure the kids are yours?

If yes, then go there with full force and collect your kids. Them not dey kpai custom officer?

I swear u be ozuor.

In addition fight to get your children I don't know what you are doing with Yoruba woman as a wife anyway cause very many of us Edo people wouldn't they are very wayward as wives not even us that grew up in Yoruba land will try it. There is no point reporting your wife lover to Navy authorities you don't need her you will still be fighting her lover's in the future, she will end up in the gutter trust me.

simpleseyi:


All the kids are not his nah. That's why the promiscuous and adulterous woman took then to their real father.

I have never meet, or read about a weak Edo man. This is the first time that I am reading about one. I feel like crying for him, then help him consult the gods to resolve the matter once and for all.

Hmmmm !!

CSTRR:

So he is a wise coward.

Nothing cowardly in not posting the lovers pictures. That would only give him more problems than he already has.

Men, I mean married men, be the troublesome lion in your marriages. The day you show your wife that she is everything to you, is the day you begin the journey of shame and regret..
Look up dear friend, iam talking or writing from experience because I have been in the so called institution since 2009.
Even if you love her, keep it, never say so.
Always let your body language portrays a picture of one who do not want to continue in the marriage again. But be sure, you provide for her and love her INWARDLY. Never be a simple good guy. Women are wired to hate and punish good guys.

Born2Breed:


You fall Edo hand. Na you dem just use take play bebeye like this.

Are you sure the kids are yours?

If yes, then go there with full force and collect your kids. Them not dey kpai custom officer?

I swear u be ozuor.

My dear, na serious bebeye dem use our brother play o. I believe he's a good guy who is rather naïve. Humans can be really naive when in love and kids are involved.

Op, how can you catch a woman cheating and you retained her, to the point that her lover is even threatening your life?

Are you not scared that she might simply poison you and story will just end naturally?

As things stand, since the lover knew her before she married you, the kids or some of them may belong to the lover.
What will you do with a woman who already has a baby for another man?

In life, as painful as it might be, you have to sometimes cut your losses, dust yourself up and move on.

Water will always find its level. If any of the kids are yours, they will look for you.

Focus on recovering from the shock and gradually repaying your debt.

peepydelano:
Women are so unpredictable, expect the unexpected from them at any point in time.

what of the man in question? Was he justified?

pocohantas:


Yes of course. The custom officer’s wife is not submissive. OP’s wife is obviously submissive, that is why he wants her back after she has given birth for her lover.



It has to be. A whole 4 kids? Seems this lose toto after childbearing is just a myth or consolation for men with p**** like overused eye-pencil.

A lose Toto after child birth is not a myth, I assure you.

Some useless men just like sleeping with forbidden fruits.
It has nothing to do with whether her Toto is Sweet or not or her character.

oseahumenb:
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Pics attached..

About six months ago, I returned home from work and discovered that my wife and four children were no where to be found. I also noticed her that belongings and that of the children were missing.

I quickly dashed out of my flat and went to my neighbours to enquire of their whereabout. I was shocked to my bone marrows when they narrated to me how a man accompanied my wife to move out her belongings. When they tried to intrude the man warned them of serious consequences.

That was when it dawned on me that my wife whom I have caught severally on the phone discussing with her lover on the phone has finally done her worst.
On two occasions I caught her sneaking around with her phone, in the midnight I discovered an Sms that the so-called lover sent she was fast asleep . I cannot divulge the content here because it was disgusting to me at first.
I reported to the pastor and she was warned. Then the identity of the lover wasn't known to me. I just let it go, because I still needed the marriage for the sake of my four children.
However, I began to investigate without her knowing. Then I discovered that the secret lover was a custom officer, named Adeniyi Adesola, he was in Ibadan command. He is married with children.
One day he called my wife and I just could bear the insults, I confronted him on phone I warned him to stay away and reminded him that she was married.
Then he started abusing me and even threatened to kill me. He revealed to me that he knew my wife before I married her. He told me to backoff and let him always have access to her or he will kill me.
I reported the matter to the ekpan police station warri. The IPO who was a lady advised me to thread with caution and report to my family which I did.
I am from Edo State and my wife is from Ondo state. The custom officer is from Ekiti state. The custom officer, Adesola was intimidating me because I was not understanding their language.

I gave my wife everything she needed. I got a loan of 5m from a bank to set up a business for her. She squandered the money and there is nothing to show now in the shop. The bank has started moving in on me, I don't know what to do.

The custom officer I heard has kept my wife and children in Ibadan because his wife couldn't take it.
MY children are not in school and my wife just gave birth to a baby for the custom officer.
Meanwhile, she has not returned the bride price but she has delivered a baby for the customs officer.
Now I want the custom officer, Adeniyi Adesola to release my wife, Helen Bose and my children with immediate effect because he has charmed them.
Pls nairaland admins put this story on front page pls.. I need my children. They are not in school.
Pic attached

Fake story

The woman and children are not yours...if you are not sure go and do DNA lol

emmanuelbrown26:

Honestly, simps always pisses me off, I can't even allow simp around me

Alaye, red piller only on Nairaland.

CSTRR:

A lose Toto after child birth is not a myth, I assure you.

Some useless men just like sleeping with forbidden fruits.
It has nothing to do with whether her Toto is Sweet or not or her character.

No my dear, her toto is sweet and she is submissive. Imagine he wants to kill her husband on top her matter?

It didn’t start today sha. Remind me why David ordered the killing of Uriah? Na only God know wetin e put there, men fit kill for toto.

simpleseyi:


Get out of here. Mumu oshi. You want to claim children that do not have your blood. You too said it that the customs officer said he has known your wife before you meet her. Definitely they gave been sleeping together for years, and the children are his, not yours. If the children are biologically your blood, then she would not have gone with them. She knows the children are not yours.

Make I tell you the truth, take the matter to the shrine, only the gods can resolve this. Don't take the issue to Church oooo, Jesus will just forgive them and tell you sorry.

Take the matter to the shrine, then get popcorn and cold drink and see how the gods totally destroy the two adulterers.

Now, this got me laughing real hard!

I swear this comment just made my day! As weird as it is, I just like your bluntness and realness!!!

Go collect one cold one! Na man you be!!! Lol!

Pastorsmile:
Men, I mean married men, be the troublesome lion in your marriages. The day you show your wife that she is everything to you, is the day you begin the journey of shame and regret..
Look up dear friend, iam talking or writing from experience because I have been in the so called institution since 2009.
Even if you love her, keep it, never say so.
Always let your body language portrays a picture of one who do not want to continue in the marriage again. But be sure, you provide for her and love her INWARDLY. Never be a simple good guy. Women are wired to hate and punish good guys.

Huh! Are you sure you’re married? Typical local man with low self esteem displaying his chauvinistic behavior in marriage. Emotional abuser!

Biglittlelois:
Why not just file for divorce and fight for custody of your kids?

What do you need your wife for again?

I taya ooo... he still need d wide

Biglittlelois:
Why not just file for divorce and fight for custody of your kids?

What do you need your wife for again?

that's just the solution.

We need to hear your wife's side of the story. Were you abusing her? Were you making her life miserable? A woman can never leave a good marriage just like that.

akpumping7720:

Hello bro. Believe me I can feel your pains. It's not easy raising a family and lose them to a stranger overnight. Don't mind the people calling you simps and all sort of names here. Someone who hasn't experience this will definitely say rubbish.

Just pull yourself together, relocate from your current apartment so as to erase the thoughts gradually.
Get a cheaper apart if need be. Focuss on your job, focus more on how to attain success. Forget you once have a family and start afresh. If you can do all this, believe me with time you will overcome and she will definitely be put to shame.

Don't kill yourself or give yourself unecessarry hypertension because of a woman. Leave her and let her be. She has done her worst. Move on with your life bro.

As a man if it takes you 10years from now to be successful, if you want to marry most beautiful girl in Nigeria you will. Take a good look at Ned nwoko, despite his age he is still banging the freshest pussy an average man can only dream of. Take a good look at the late Alafin of Oyo, despite his old age he had young and fresh ladies to bang. So bro chase success and leave the adulterous woman alone

Pull yourself together bro. Men are really blessed. No matter the age we make money, we can bang any beautiful woman we so desire. We can do ten somes or more. But for women, as soon as a woman clocks 60 even with all her wealth, her sexual appeal will start diminishing. So if you don't enjoy today there is more enjoyment tomorrow.

Shalom

Oloti, does your life revolve around sex alone? What a shallow reasoning!

Jaqenhghar:


Let me ask you a few questions
Where are you there?
Do you know the parties involved?
If the woman is guilty why does he still want her back?

There are 3 sides to every story(in this case 4)
His version, her version, [s]the custom Officer's version and the truth.[/s]
Let's hear their sides first

The Customer officer has no version for snatching another man's wife. Like this, he suppose to collect bitterly because na oppression be that.

secondly, We've seen too many situations of women going back to their ex because they feel he is better than their hubby. And marrying their hubby was a mistake... Then come out with blackmails that paint their hubby black to justify their inhumane action.

Lastly, some men are inferior. This OP happens to be one of them. Some men don't have control over their families...this OP happens to be one of them...

This OP feels marrying his wife was a favor from her. He has given her that impression, that's why she mend am publicly.

A real man would never say he wants a woman that gave him a national embarrassment back...The last man wey accept that kind woman for our barracks, died miserably...

OP, if you reside in Edo, I suggest you listen to a show on KU FM by 6pm on Sunday called "Unburden: The live show" with Dr Nosa. I'm sure they'll be of help in this your situation.

I hope all works out for you.