Abetterperson:
I met my boyfriend sometimes last year, I really love him, he's caring and we complement each other quite well.
His the first son of his family and his dad is quite absent in his life.

he started working at the age of 15 to support his family and has been working since then to support himself and his family, in simplest terms he carries a lot of burdens.
The problem I have with him is that he is addicted to weed, he doesn't let it control him, he functions well but I just have a problem with it.

Please how can I stop him
He says it stops the pain but I don't want it to destroy him.

Why do women make the same mistake over and over again.

You can't change a full grown adult who instead of wanting to stop has found a 'plausible' reason to continue.

I won't be surprised if he's a cultist or area boy too.He might be playing nice until you marry him and find out he's a wife beater.

You need to try either to see life in a new dimension... Smile

Sawcy:
God knows I don't drink nor smoke... I have never tried it and never will...

As e dey take the weed e dey nakar you on bed well bar if yes notin wrong wit dat buh if no try all ur bst nd stop him

Your boyfriend is a damn niggar

He's more in love with Maryjane than he is with you

Harrykn:
See why people say ladies can adapt to any situation to fit in the scene....
They don’t love their man smoke and drink yet they enjoy the company is smokers and alcohol abusers.

Money and the prospect of more money is at work here ....they love his money not the the Person...Pity men for this Generation

Sawcy:
God knows I don't drink nor smoke... I have never tried it and never will...

KOLO.!!!!!!

Sawcy:
God knows I don't drink nor smoke... I have never tried it and never will...

But is the thread about you

Nobody here cares if you do or don't

Candidlady:



How do you mean SUCH people

and who told you he can't stop

He doesn't want to stop. He even gave the 'benefit' of weed.

Sawcy:
He'll never stop it... Truth be told, I've not experienced someone who stopped, maybe because I don't associate myself with such people.

There are millions and one people who have done so. The takers usually stop taking it as they are getting older.

Kriss216:

They want a man to suit their selfish desire. Self centered daughters of Eve!

That's not a selfish desire. Stop the blackmail already.

I believe you love women who jump from one man to another.

If he can control himself, he is not addicted. Weed helps, people like us that had a terrible background needs it to stay alive. If not weed, i for don craze for overthinking.

Abetterperson:
I met my boyfriend sometimes last year, I really love him, he's caring and we complement each other quite well.
His the first son of his family and his dad is quite absent in his life.

he started working at the age of 15 to support his family and has been working since then to support himself and his family, in simplest terms he carries a lot of burdens.
The problem I have with him is that he is addicted to weed, he doesn't let it control him, he functions well but I just have a problem with it.

Please how can I stop him
He says it stops the pain but I don't want it to destroy him.

telk him if he doesn`t stop u will stop given him sex

Abetterperson:


Have actually tried that, but he seems to sink into a huge depression, any way I can help with that.
Yesterday would have been a month he stopped intake, but his brother request for money and he was so depressed on how to get the money he wanted that stuff again.
He's the one paying for his brothers university fees, his mom lapo debt, his sister school fees.
He's carrying the responsibility of a father at the age of 22
Mind u his not into Yahoo, he works from morning till night, sometimes I see the pain in his eyes but I feel helpless, I'm still a student
How can I help with his depression with telling him to cut his family off, they clearly the problem, his mom as even advised him to enter Yahoo, imagine

You want him to cut his family off so that what will happen?, look girl can you just leave that guy alone?, he smokes weed and so?, nobody is perfect, if you can't cope and he can't seem to stop then go find the person that doesn't smoke na leave the young man alone, you are selfish

Georgekyrian:


Let me be polite okay, sorry about my earlier post, stopping him smoking is killing him faster..
I tell my own fiancée I can stop alcohol and go soft for health sake but cannot stop MJ because only intakes of Mj can never hurt me instead it heals

Intake of MJ can never harm you, you say?
Refrain from deceiving yourself!

zedegit:


Why do women make the same mistake over and over again.

You can't change a full grown adult who instead of wanting to stop has found a 'plausible' reason to continue.

I won't be surprised if he's a cultist or area boy too.He might be playing nice until you marry him and find out he's a wife beater.

lol, because he smokes weed he is automatically a woman beater? Guy, no dey reason like this.

Every addiction is developed as a way to cope with problems/ trauma but it is a maladaptive cooing mechanism. An addiction recovery counsellor can help him develop a better and adaptive coping mechanism.

Growing up with an absent father induces childhood trauma which is being exacerbated by the huge responsibility your boyfriend has to bear at an early age.

It would require the expertise of a psychotherapist to resolve the childhood trauma and to learn adaptive coping mechanisms.

You can send me a mail

Weed is life
That’s how one girl try to stop me at the uni
Las las she break up and Mary j is still with me
I love you Mary j

zedegit:


Why do women make the same mistake over and over again.

You can't change a full grown adult who instead of wanting to stop has found a 'plausible' reason to continue.

I won't be surprised if he's a cultist or area boy too.He might be playing nice until you marry him and find out he's a wife beater.

Fela, Burna, Wizkid, Davido, all the weeds smokers infact na all of them be cultist, area boys and them dey beat their wives and GF. How some people like you reason like fly baffles me.

Abetterperson:



Normally I don't reply bullies but please if u don't have some reasonable to say kindly shut up
Do u think am stupid, he's actually carrying a lot of burdens which I understand, what I don't understand is his coping method.
That's y I'm here asking for help, if he rejects my help over and over again, I will have to leave him in order to save me
The reason I'm still with him is because he's nice, but don't think I will destroy myself because of anybody
So do u have any reasons advice or do u want to stay quiet

He lied to you. He doesn’t smoke to cope with his “burdens”. He smokes because he is addicted.

He will never stop.

Weed smokers are more pigheaded and delusional than cigarette/tobacco smokers. They will never agree that it’s hazardous. Some even deny that it’s addictive or that it’s a drug. People wey go argue with professors of medicine and be quoting studies they cannot verify.

If you can’t adjust and accept him like that, find your way. He will not stop smoking weed.

Abetterperson:
I met my boyfriend sometimes last year, I really love him, he's caring and we complement each other quite well.
His the first son of his family and his dad is quite absent in his life.

he started working at the age of 15 to support his family and has been working since then to support himself and his family, in simplest terms he carries a lot of burdens.
The problem I have with him is that he is addicted to weed, he doesn't let it control him, he functions well but I just have a problem with it.

Please how can I stop him
He says it stops the pain but I don't want it to destroy him.

... As he ever been react to u whenever he smoke oh sorry during the sex abi ok let me tell u one thing about men is that u can never see 100% pure men u take urs as ur cross since the weed dnt control him

Sawcy:
He'll never stop it... Truth be told, I've not experienced someone who stopped, maybe because I don't associate myself with such people.

Was an addict for more than 7 years and I stopped since 2014. Never to return since then.

OKOATA:
Fela, Burna, Wizkid, Davido, all the weeds smokers infact na all of them be cultist, area boys and them dey beat their wives and GF. How some people like you reason like fly baffles me.

I pity you. How much do you know these people you mentioned? Have you lived with any of them to know how they relate with their partners? How many times have some of them been called out for irresponsible behavior or has your love for their music beclouded your senses?

Sawcy:
God knows I don't drink nor smoke... I have never tried it and never will...

Oga,Nobody asked you.

Asianjollof007:


lol, because he smokes weed he is automatically a woman beater? Guy, no dey reason like this.

That's my own contribution sha. She's free of course to dive in and bear the consequences.

And you think announcing it to the world is how to get solution

OKOATA:
Maybe it's the way the weed smells after smoking that makes you dislike it. Get him a perfume whenever he smokes so you don't perceive the odour but if you can't, leave him alone and let him be. Afterall wizzy,davido have girls who love and worship them.

Love? If they had no money would they 'love' them?

Hmm.

And you think announcing it to the world is how to get solution, you have just created more problems to yourself

what a man you gat there...keep him, u will never regret

Fact is they don't stop.

Weed itself is not addictive... and it does make people mellow... and ease pain. Cigarettes are wayyyy worse than weed .... but our society does not see it that way... weed is the villain... as would you be sooo concerned if it were cigerettes? Smoking period is not good... maybe he can have his intake as a tea. Because weed is not addictive... sellers usually spike it/add an addictive substance which the user get addictive to but never knows. Same with cigarettes... the tobacco itself is not addictive so nicotine is added to it and users become addicted to the nicotine. If his weed is spiked... then there is a problem. People have different vices... if weed is his... then let it be... many others are worse.

Abetterperson:
I met my boyfriend sometimes last year, I really love him, he's caring and we complement each other quite well.
His the first son of his family and his dad is quite absent in his life.

he started working at the age of 15 to support his family and has been working since then to support himself and his family, in simplest terms he carries a lot of burdens.
The problem I have with him is that he is addicted to weed, he doesn't let it control him, he functions well but I just have a problem with it.

Please how can I stop him
He says it stops the pain but I don't want it to destroy him.

You are the problem!...you think handling big responsibility is a joke? U want make man crase?...that weed is what has been keeping your bf going,abeg allow the young man be...weed is bae,be a source of motivation to him... I'm a chronic weed smoker and I function on 100,...if I were you,I will join him...Una love go sweet pass the ones for India films...lol