After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

Stop forcing yourself on anyone. If you have a child, yes shit happens and the child has come to stay. Don't let anyone treat you like a pity excuse. You are the most important person in your world too.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride.

Sorry, I don't get this.

You guys were having a discussion and he stood up, frowned, moved his hand close to your cheeks, then slapped you? As in I don't understand. Ko ye mi. Reality doesn't seem to work that way.

Update: the OP has changed a lot from her initial writeup. It's more looking falsely.

Slap ke?
That’s a hot tempered guy you got there...

A toxic man will always be a toxic man no matter how he tries to hide it.

Wait ooo!!! I'm I the only one that loves the Op writing skills?

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all. Nlfpmod

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass him regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
Get police reports, court orders etc. Report him to people that can help him pay maybe you go recover some amount since the man is so broke.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

You should have responded with a slap too when he slapped you.

Sweetplum:

Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or

Nlfpmod, finally, something good have come out from nairlanders comments

Candidlady:

I just dey boil as I dey see the story.
Good men are just few out there. Imagine the werey dey destroy things before marriage. If them come marry him nko?
Na Osinachi husband X2.

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass Jim regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

He's so broke. He can't afford it. I will have to start all over again with the fruit biz. I will have to look for another money to continue the biz.

He's still looking for a job to keep soul and body together. I will leave him with God. At least my life was not taken.

sick bastard, hopefully you keep an eye on him in that cell cause if he comes out who knows what else he might do ,get a man in force possible of high rank to threaten him that if anything happens to you,he will suffer,stay safe

MaryAye:


He's so broke. He can't afford it. I will have to start all over again with the fruit biz. I will have to look for another money to continue the biz.

He's still looking for a job to keep soul and body together. I will leave him with God. At least my life was not taken.

I feel like saying you should DM me and let me teach you how to handle him spiritually. He need to cough it somehow.
Anyways, God is the greatest. Leave him to God.

Sweetplum:

I just dey boil as I dey see the story.
Good men are just few out there. Imagine the weren't dey destroy things before marriage. If them come marry him nko?
Na Osinachi husband X2.

Some times idont fault guys who abuse their partners.. be like some ladies love toxicity in a relationship

Something icant understand

He got angry with a four year old
He now slapped
He now asked for money
He now destroyed your place of income




This is more than toxicity o!this is trouble knocking in your face!

Thank God you made a decision to not push the relationship further but ended it

Sweetplum:

I feel like saying you should DM me and let me teach you how to handle him spiritually. He need to cough it somehow.
Anyways, God is the greatest. Leave him to God.

Handle ke?
It is better she left him
That is the best means of handling

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all. Nlfpmod

sorry for the loss

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass Jim regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

haba babe stop generalized statements

Where do you all find this lunatics

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all. Nlfpmod

You see my problem with some of you abi, after trying to date rubbish, you come out to generalize and blame the whole Men...

Kindly put, what is wrong with Daniel, if the guy's name is Daniel...

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass Jim regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

Mumu shey you don date every guy for this forum to know say na so we be...

Just the type as if your brain the malfunction

goshikid:
Mumu shey you don date every guy for this forum to know say na so we be...

Just the type as if your brain the malfunction

Na your brain dey malfunction. Ode. You no dey see all the stupid posts you and your brothers post here?
Receive brain before talking to your sisters.

Sweetplum:

Na your brain dey malfunction. Ode. You no dey see all the stupid posts you and your brothers post here?
Receive brain before talking to your sisters.

you fit no even fine for real life, maybe na Nairaland d help your life.. Carry mouth like spoon

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass Jim regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

You Sabi carry person matter for head shaah...which one is arrest his family, friends, siblings when they started there rubbish, did they inform anybody...!!

@MaryAye, please do not listen to this advise, as you can see, the guy in question doesn't have shi-shi and I wonder what you were doing with a ragamuffin in the first place, infact you have yourself to blame, In a quest to cure konji you decided to stick with a mentally deranged idiot, a jobless somebody that doesn't add any value to you and himself...

As it stands, your goods is gone, just count your loses and move on, but the matter will not end here, the guy will definitely come back for you to have his pound of flesh for arresting him, so make him sign an undertaking to give you and your son 100yards, this is where you might involve his family...

garriAndsugar:
You should have responded with a slap too when he slapped you.

Na for carry her news enter Nairaland for us... And I hope you know if it's not badnews, NC no go post...

Tenrack:
haba babe stop generalized statements

Ok sweety. You are not part of them.

goshikid:
you fit no even fine for real life, maybe na Nairaland d help your life.. Carry mouth like spoon

I fine pass ur destiny

Slynation:


@MaryAye, please do not listen to this advise, as you can see, the guy in question doesn't have shi-shi and I wonder what you were doing with a ragamuffin in the first place, infact you have yourself to blame, In a quest to cure konji you decided to stick with a mentally deranged idiot, a jobless somebody that doesn't add any value to you and himself...

As it stands, your goods is gone, just count your loses and move on, but the matter will not end here, the guy will definitely come back for you to have his pound of flesh for arresting him, so make him sign an undertaking to give you and your son 100yards, this is where you might involve his family...

Did you just accuse the op.of trying to cure konji?
Op Shey u see who dey advise dey tell u say u dated the guy for sex. Smh