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Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by CeeJeckydivah: 10:42pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
blinking001: Try to communicate in clear, brief and simple English boy. Life no be by plenty English grammar. Men can have child outside wedlock or adopt, women can't? So because she has standards it's a big deal? I don't have the time to engage you ok. Believe whatever makes you sleep at night. 1 Like |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Stargurl20(f): 10:45pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
CeeJeckydivah:Omo, the English off me self. At a point while reading his comment, I had to skip certain words. |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by CeeJeckydivah: 10:49pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
Stargurl20: Beware of people that try to speak plenty grammar, they most times have absolutely nothing to offer. 1 Like |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Stargurl20(f): 10:52pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
CeeJeckydivah:Smiles |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by pansophist(m): 10:54pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
most people marry who they love, but it's the wrong strategy. It is to ''love who you marry''. The former is based on feelings, and the latter is based on an informed decision. Feelings are what is keeping many girls single, they are waiting for the guy that will give them butterflies. It is wrong. Start listening to Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo and his wife, Mildred, these couples will clean your brain for this dirt modern society has deposited into it. If you find a man that treats you like a queen, genuinely loves you, and wants to build a future with you, then love him. Butterflies are fleeting because when life's difficulties and responsibilities show up, you will appreciate a good man. Butterfly doesn't pay rent, protect and provide, lead and not bring trouble to you. The same excuse you have that you haven't seen someone you fell in love with, is also the same excuse millions of unmarried women in their 30s have. Don't make such a mistake. Because you have feelings for a man doesn't make him good. It's a jackpot to love someone that happens to be a good man, but your primary duty is about his goodness first, then feelings. So the price you pay is to sacrifice feelings for what truly matters, which is a long-lastinf fulfilling union. 19 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Stargurl20(f): 10:56pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
pansophist:Thank you |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Tradepunter2: 11:03pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
Good luck finding the one their touch won't irritate you cuz of lworveee |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Stargurl20(f): 11:06pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
Ok, I've decide to marry anybody o 1 Like |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Tradepunter2: 11:07pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
pansophist: Leave the pikin make she dy yarn.... Na time go tell am They nu dy remember the higher they go the smaller the pool of men... For men the higher they go the higher the pool women.... Na make them dy cheat on poor innocent loving men .... Brainwashed useless cretins 3 Likes |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by pansophist(m): 11:15pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
Tradepunter2: Why you de vex na ? She no fight anybody, she just ask a sincere question. Tamper justice with mercy, comrade. Calm. 2 Likes |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Tradepunter2: 11:32pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
pansophist: I nu dy vex oooo.... Just feeling sorry for their lack of common sense Cuz the disillusion of tick tock and Instagram don destroy them beyond repair 2 Likes |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by kakaaa77: 11:44pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
is better to be late than to be deceased... sis |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Nobody: 11:46pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
How can you love someone you are not attracted to? Is marrying someone based on how he treats you isn't what is termed "fake love"? If a lady marries a guy because he treats her like a queen, isn't that by Nigerian standard gold digging? Must a woman's feelings be undermine or belittle when it comes to marriage? What happens when his goodness is short-lived immediately she says "I do"? So she goes the Regina way and ends up catching feelings for some somadina, what should she do? Lock up and continue to be with a man she doesn't love? Honestly the way you all script up do's and don't on relationship matters on this forum is very annoying to say the least. You all refuse to acknowledge the fact that marriage has no specific manual, humans are dynamic and realities of life differs. Funny enough guys are mostly guilty of this selective omission! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by TheGreyKnight(m): 11:59pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
Persephone1: I don't agree entirely with them either. You just have to marry someone u like, at least to an extent. But then I'm a guy. What they are trying to say (and probably should have stopped there) is that if she ends up single in the future, it is a culmination of HER own choices. No one else. Not the " world", not fate either. Nobody did it to her. Someone she turns down today will surely be attractive to someone else. So they're trying to assume her standards may be too high. But then the guys she may be "disgusted" by may not inherently be bad. They could just need a little work, and in a year's time be someone completely different. And that's why u don't write people off. It could also be a problem of demand and supply. Op may not be "attractive enough" for the kind of men she wants, hence their "scarcity". 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Nobody: 12:05am On Oct 19, 2022 |
Dear Stargurl20, for every balance equations requires an equal amount of reactions. For a relationship or marriage to work there must be a meeting point , a balance of wants and desires. If you marry someone you don't love, you are aiming for disaster.Don't listen to advice from people who don't understand what being a woman is, feelings is very important for a woman because it is what keeps us going. The love and feelings a mother has for her child is what makes her take up all his troubles and cries. If you as a woman don't have feelings for your husband,his every breath will stink to you. You will have to think of his money and gifts to allow him touch you. How long would you do that? What if money stops or you get fed up with it? What if you end up desiring to love but you can't do it with him. Love is built Yeah, but attraction is key. You are a woman, you built to feel. Don't let the world tell you otherwise. Know thyself! Enough of all this undermining a woman's feelings because some people think it hinders a woman from making decisions. Infact anyone that does not take your feelings important is not worthy of you. Guys on this forum will encourage trophy wives in a post but go on to shame them on another calling them all sorts of names. Please groom yourself, love yourself, fall in love and get hitched. You can fall in love and be loved at the same time. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Nobody: 12:10am On Oct 19, 2022 |
Samcent:Not only that which was available, but there must have been something different between you and amongst other guys. There are certain attributes that should makes a man enchantable to a woman. Those attributes a woman so desires from their choices of man should be enlisted in the form of checklist. So, whenever a suitor comes calling, it's best for her to first examine him extensively, and should thereafter go back to her checklist to ascertain the number of attributes he possessed among the ones already enumerated. With that, she will know if he's to be giving a chance or not. But remember, 70% and above of a checklist should be good enough as spouse. Majority of the ladies these days are in the lookout for a100%—that is where their problem lies. They are living in delusion through the figment of their imagination. Know this today, imagination and dreams are alike, and does not, in most cases, play out in reality. As much as you girls think the guys on nairaland are found of bashing the ladies here through their spear of words, we ain't what you all think, rather we are helping you single ladies to look inward, and stop being delusional. Open your mind, so you could clear off the complications and the difficulty involved in the selection of a partner. If you don't come into a man (I am not saying having sex, but being a friend), you won't know a man. It's always better to marry someone who you had been a friend with, than marrying a stranger. And if you are serious about getting married, you must've to start this process now, because, delay is dangerous. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Nobody: 12:20am On Oct 19, 2022 |
TheGreyKnight:I agree on taking responsibility. A woman who is responsible for her single state while she clamour for marriage shouldn't blame anyone. Note the keywords "responsible" "clamour". While some are responsible, they don't even want marriage but in the Nigerian society,every woman is assumed to want marriage which is not entirely true. But those who intentionally while away their time due to high standards or careless lifestyles but suddenly turn around to hate God and man for not getting married are simply Insane! They can't eat their cake and have it, they should wait more. However it is not right to assume that every marriageable single women falls in this category and it not equally right to advice a lady to dismiss "feelings" when it comes to choosing a partner. Do they know what this " feelings" mean to a woman? Writing off anyone is not right however if at friendship stage, a lady don't see anything happening between the guy and her, she shouldn't force it because "he treats her like a queen". |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by TheGreyKnight(m): 12:31am On Oct 19, 2022 |
It could be that op may not really be ready for even her "type". I know girls who rejected their own spec when they try wooing them. The idea that marriage is not for all women is true. Some don't want to get married, or have kids. But then, u must be living in a place where it is seen as normal or else you'll silently die of depression. Other women will talk behind your back, and some at your front. Your own mother will never leave your case. And you won't be as happy as u would prefer to be. That's d societal factor. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Nobody: 12:33am On Oct 19, 2022 |
culf:Continue to dey sweet-talk her. You are slowly killing her. Make she nor worry, reality will soon done on her. We are watching! 2 Likes |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by culf: 1:17am On Oct 19, 2022 |
imadiyi: no one is sweet talking anybody, everything has time, rushing to get married is usually a mistake. It's a life time journey, afterall, she is indeed very young. 3 Likes |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by ednut1(m): 2:00am On Oct 19, 2022 |
You are 23 and talking about late marriage. What a joke 6 Likes |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by blinking001(m): 3:42am On Oct 19, 2022 |
CeeJeckydivah:Mentally deranged women like yourself view every intergender issues from the prism of gender war. You are worst than a pig. For the records, the op has no standards. She's been misled and brainwashed by silly women like you who go about spreading disguised hopelessness and future sufferings. You don't love the op else you would proffer a better response to her post. I put it to you that you're a very terrible person who is going through crises and headed towards destruction. I see you're trying to recruit more women to join you in that frequency of stupidity and regrets. 1 Like |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by WholeLottaDrip2(m): 4:02am On Oct 19, 2022 |
Stargurl20: Folks talkin bout marriage like marriage is somewhat a trophy or sum ? these nighas funny asl, allat talk about single women in their 40's considered failures is childish to me, tf y'all thought this is? makes no sense to me, in this generation, I want to see more single Mama's and Bm's, they be Talkin like marriage is mandatory... Lil nighas in their 20's already wants a wife ���� but okayy !! Enjoy |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Stargurl20(f): 6:06am On Oct 19, 2022 |
Persephone1: Honestly, after reading most comments on this forum, I began shaking my head. Not because those comments weren't in my favor, but because these same people will be the ones judging, condemning Naija gurls of their inability to love men, but after them for money and material things. It's even making me regret of wanting to actually love someone and not greedy. Coz it will take me nothing to date multiple guys together without their knowledge and starting collecting money from them. I know how to give people attention that none will even have the slightest idea if cheating coz they will trust me to a fault. Also, God has blessed me with good physique, and looks ( at least that what people around me say) Alhamdulilah. However, I just don't have the courage to do that. At times I'm confused with how God has wired me. Maybe because I'm more of introvert than I'm an extrovert Sha, coz I can stay indoors for hours, provided I'm with gadgets most especially. I don't go out and I'm a shy to a great extent. |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Stargurl20(f): 6:23am On Oct 19, 2022 |
Persephone1: What's even surprising me is that, it's these same people who will not lose the opportunity of bashing women of every posts stating how greedy we are, or how Naija girls cannot love but just for the sake of money. When Regina Daniel married Ned, most of these people condemned for marrying him for his wealth. Yet, there still the one who will condemn a girl who desires to choose love over money. It's most guys don't know what it take to be In love. I've been In love before( though was heartbroken), but during the course, I was really in love with this guy, and always yearn to see, plan future and all that. I doubt if I can do this with someone I don't love. Even if I have to, it will be out of compulsion. Well, for me not to be single all my life, maybe I just marry someone. If it ends well, fine. Make person Sha have good children. |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Nobody: 9:02am On Oct 19, 2022 |
culf:Rushing into marriage is completely out of the equation as far as this subject is concerned. If you want to be marriage in 3-5 years time, you have to start preparing yourself for it now. You don't prepare in marriage, you prepare for marriage. A journey of 5000 km begins with a step. So also is marriage. That first step that starts a journey, is that periods you get to know your prospective suitor. Your intuition of regarding her to that "she is indeed very young", I don't know how you classified a woman at 23 to be very young. In men, yes it's indeed young. But as for ladies, that age is the prime time or the period needed to stabilize in a relationship. |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by culf: 11:28am On Oct 19, 2022 |
imadiyi: nobody is saying she should not start relationship, if you follow the thread, you will see where I was even encouraging starting relationship from friendship level. I'm only against pressure. I:m totally against pressure and everything about it is bad. |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by placeofallure(f): 12:07pm On Oct 19, 2022 |
Fahvvy: I'll look for the book. Not that I need it per se cause my marriage is a little over a decade and we're doing very well, but I'll read it. Someone around me might need it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by placeofallure(f): 12:16pm On Oct 19, 2022 |
Tradepunter2: What is the need for that word in your comment? Be civil for once and act your age. You're no longer in secondary school! |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by CeeJeckydivah: 10:37pm On Oct 19, 2022 |
blinking001: Whatever makes you sleep at night boy. |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by uche40(f): 9:13pm On Oct 21, 2022 |
Stargurl20: Reading your posts, you strike me as an emotional and/or romantic individual. You don't involve yourself with guys you have no passion for. You really shouldn't be made to feel guilty about this. Everybody is wired different. Most of the people who have engaged you on this thread appear to be more pragmatic in nature and thus, to them, security and status takes preponderance over feelings such as love. Do you see yourself as someone who won't be happy in the long term marrying a guy you don't love? Perhaps you may fall into depression after a couple of years because you feel you can't escape a loveless relationship? In that case, I prescribe that you actually take love serious in your decision. Although, I always tend to think that someone who values love above all else won't mind being alone. Being alone to such a person is better than being with the wrong partner. In light of this, it may seem quite paradoxical that you're not satisfied being alone. Is it family pressure? Concerns about social status? Or perhaps you are overestimating the relevance of love (feelings) in your mating decisions? Something has to give. 2 Likes |
Re: My say On Women's Late Marriage Issues by Stargurl20(f): 9:51pm On Oct 21, 2022 |
uche40: Honestly, yes is what I will say to all of your questions. |
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