My brother, pray about it, once you have that inner peace about her, then go ahead, take note, the inner peace should be observed after you meet her in person, come in December and spend some time with her, don't lavish her all in the name of abroad guy and Christmas, after meeting her, go back, you can come during Easter to marry her if all things work well

humility101

Marriage is forever. Why pick someone you haven't even met in person to marry?

Her coming there is not 100% guarantee she'll marry you. For her, it's "heads I win, tails you lose". She wins both ways whether you marry her or not, she's now in the UK.

You seem like an innocent guy and I suspect that's where the problem is. It is never advisable to marry someone who you've never met in person. (Read Proverbs 27:12).

It is best you find someone in the UK already, someone who has papers and knows the system.

Also, take a year or even 2 to acclimatise. Get used to the UK. Their views to marriage differ to ours here and its more pro-women.

Women there expect men to do house work for instance. Here, your wife will be very grateful if you did. Over there, it's expected.

If you bring a woman from here there, she might abuse the culture and start becoming assertive in ways you might be consider uncomfortable. They start dragging things with you. That's why many men who bring women over regret it.

It's best you get a lady who has been there for a while. Get to know her very well. She doesn't need papers so is marrying you for who you are.

I learnt Nigerian girls born and brought up there are very nice and generous. You could give them a go. You'll still need to study life over there. Don't just rush into marriage.

My brother, I will say u are in a rush. A girl u have not seen physically and u are proposing marriage to her. She might be a good girl, but u need to see her and spend a little time with her. You can even prank her to know her better.

Lucrativress:

I have just heard another new one
1st paragraph share brain
2nd one
E no add up
So ladies not living under their parents roof are...
Better stop generalising

Did you read where I wrote that she must have a verifiable source of income, that's if she is living away from family.
If you like go marry olosho keep for house.


Meanwhile, you can literally perceive how people see life just from there social media updates

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

you dey wine your self . Use reversed phsycology on her ! Talk her to seeing that you will be relocating to Nigeria to settle with her .and test the luv .

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Everywhere relationship is sweet and sugar at the beginning so calm down first and watch her and notice thing then u can make a move

I see a man having toiled and made good living for himself wants to bring over naija girl that ruin his destiny. When she gets there and see how the system favours women she begins to misbehave.

We have heard several cases of men regretting inviting their women over . Do not say you are not warned. Think through and put your emotions aside. God bless u bro

darthv:

Did you read where I wrote that she must have a verifiable source of income, that's if she is living away from family.
If you like go marry olosho keep for house.


Meanwhile, you can literally perceive how people see life just from there social media updates

Okay Sir ooo
Ese ooo
Happy Sunday o

Bro my advice to u is too early for marriage at least wait for abt 1 year and also pls put her to test to know if so he will be there for u in case u are broke. Plz since u love her also send someone to do alot of findings about her and also u shouldn't have disclose ur true location to her bc she might like u bc u are staying abroad.

Even though about testing her about ur badluck in UK at these moments of time is not the answer because dey all know about this statics now..
Op I just want you to know that 5 years of relationship at boyfriend and girlfriend stage dey break what about 2 month virtual relationship no be abroad u dey deal with naher original Niger girls u are into..
On the other hand e fit be one guy dey messageu self whey wan use that girl to cash out on u talking from experience

Nairaland don finish this girl chai! Sometimes I'm kind of curious if those people that come here to pour out their heart seeking for advice don't actually live here more broken.
O.p in a crate of egg which is made up of 24 no matter how bad the eggs might be, you will always get a good one. Around the world you find good and bad ppl na so life be watchful and do your findings thoroughly and don't rush into wifeing her.

Get a rich friend of yours here in Nigeria to test her loyalty! If she passes the test..marry her!

There are millions of women in the UK... But the question is where is the good woman you can connect with?...online, in the UK, japan, Ghana...truly no one knows untill you find that woman.

eastgates1:
If i were you i would find one nigerian in the uk to wife. All this long distance thing no make sense because one skelewu go dey mekwe her since you no dey around. And make e no be say you big mouth for her say you dey jand.

danny086:
We got linked up by my uncle,, first time I met her was August 25 2020... And I was like are you ready for marriage and she was skeptical at first and then said yes she is... And I was like then let's make it work... And the rest is history... 1.5 years later we relocated to the UK and we have been cool all the while making it work.

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Congratulations uncle.
I pray I find a wonderful lady to married too.
Although being jobless for a while

Hafizah:
There are still good people. I am one

coming from a whøre

cuffee:
coming from a whøre

It takes one to know one. U must be sick in the head

What i can advice u is that u dont have to be in a haste to get married to her, what u will do is create out a time for the both of u to be together for a couple of months then u will knw whether or not to continue the marriage

Nazgul:
The mistake you made was telling her that you're in the UK. If you had told her you're in northern Nigeria and she still showed seriousness, you could have concluded that she's into you. Cos no girl who you tell that you're in UK, US or Canada would turn you down. You're like an answered prayer to them.

No girl. Why do you people like to conclude so blindly? You've never met anyone who's so different ehn?

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

If you were truly convinced you won't be asking all these questions, so wait for the inner conviction which only comes from within your own self

Idiot...!!!!
Na Nigerian girl u dey sugarcoat like that.

Fool

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Which girl that is base in nigeria that will not like to desperately marry a guy that is in UK or abroad...all this long distance relationship is very dangerous ..you are just going to marry a stranger... forget all those Facebook chatting, phoning each other...you do not know much about her and her true character...many girls pretend on social media to be good but when you meet them one one and mingle with them you will see a different character...bad character...so it's better you date a lady over there in UK ... where you both will be seeing each other.frequently..you know her true character and know much about her and then you can marry her...as you both truly love each other....long distance live relationship is dangerous

Lmao, you are about to be scammed.

Even if you are both in Nigeria, I won't expect anybody to date less than 1 year before tying the knots. At 30, of course she's almost going past her prime and will definitely be desperate to tie the knot, and with someone based in the UK, she'll be triple desperate and will eat dungs to get married.

Also, it looks like your loneliness is the reason you want to rush things which is another red flag from your own side, as I learnt getting kpekus over there is quite hard.

Take your time and watch her, do your due delligence properly, don't rush o

2 months is too early to know someone..Oga calm down o.. women pretend Alot!

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

One serious thing that makes marriage difficult is when you cheat and your partner finds out. This is one thing that one can be careful about.

Every other thing seems difficult to control in marriage. The truth is that some people can be so blessed that they marry their best matches. In that situation marriage looks perfect and partners can enjoy as if the world is the best.

Olumaeme:
Lmao, you are about to be scammed.

Even if you are both in Nigeria, I won't expect anybody to date less than 1 year before tying the knots. At 30, of course she's almost going past her prime and will definitely be desperate to tie the knot, and with someone based in the UK, she'll be triple desperate and will eat dungs to get married.

Also, it looks like your loneliness is the reason you want to rush things which is another red flag from your own side, as I learnt getting kpekus over there is quite hard.

Take your time and watch her, do your due delligence properly, don't rush o

... for him to date girls over there should not be hard... unless he does not know how to mingle , interact and toast a girl over there... even a Nigeria girl....a guy can date a girl anywhere so far he knows how to interact, mingle with those girls, talk sweet romantic words with them..... they are lot of nigeria girls over there he can mingle with and be friends with

STAY AWAY FROM 30+ LADIES(EVENING NEWSPAPERS}, MATE.

my brother, just reach out to these Facebook loyalty pranksters, finish. Make you know the actual number you be for her list

Ok and why are you lonely over there... don't you know how to interact , mingle with girls over there even if it's a Nigeria girl and become friends....they are a lot of nigeria girls over there you can mingle with

Learn to give people the benefit of doubt. In this case, give her the same.

You are blessed with this idea God will uplift you bro...


Cos that's the only way he can see d truth in her

falcon01:
As a Man, you are always gonna be used.
That been said, test her that your stay in UK is abruptly coming to an end tell her some of your things are gone you are broke and only have things for minimal sustainance tell her you are coming back to Nigeria and you don't think you are going back to UK but back in Nigeria you can have a house, marry and sustain yourself. And notice if her attitudes towards you changes, watch how she comforts and consoles you, notice if she's genuinely concerned about your situation, go like 5 days without calling her and see if she's calling e.t.c Note tell her all those things on different occasions, gradually gradually and see if she draws back.

Nazgul:
The mistake you made was telling her that you're in the UK. If you had told her you're in northern Nigeria and she still showed seriousness, you could have concluded that she's into you. Cos no girl who you tell that you're in UK, US or Canada would turn you down. You're like an answered prayer to them.

My brother u no lie even me too I will control myself just to become a UK citizen soonest