humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Lucrativress:

You guys are soo pessimistic
No one knows her here o but all have negative things to say about her

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Blackdeewhy:
Dear OP, I hope you will see my comment.
You see this life we are, there is no MANUAL TO HAPPY ENDING. We are all just trying to be a better person. That being said, corting a lady for over a year or two nor for several years DOES NOT guarantee a happy home.
My former flat mate got intimate on the very first day she met her now husband and as luck will have it they are now together in UK as husband and wife.if you like follow woman talk but remember we warn youv..when you bring her come uk you go understand..never you follow a woman talk!. am begging you now!!
Don't let ANYBODY tell you otherwise.
If you feel the urge to wife her right here and now, kindly go ahead and let love leads you.
Do not waste her time or your emossions about some umcertainty when life itself is not promising.
The most important thing, if she makes you happy, your happiness worth IT ALL.
Cheeres

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Oche211:


Lol... I know you will support her. Bunch of gold diggers. Imagine the guy is not in UK. Will the relationship take this dimensions?

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

darthv:

You found a lady online lolz.


Omo, first thing first does she have a job,
Don't ever wife a woman that doesn't have a verified source of income.

If she is young, is she staying with her parents?
Girls who are in their 20-30 and still have strong affiliation with their immediate families are the best.

Hook up girls full every where o.

And leeches

pocohantas:


Your friend go dey alright .

They don’t separate/divorce there?

nnamdiosu:


How many years did you school in the university?
How many years did you school in your secondary school?

If these things that are temporary took at least 20 years to study, hoe much more an individual you'll leave with for the rest of your life?

If you've seen a marriage gone bad, you'll bear the brief loneliness to understand the person.

It was those days, you could meet s person this week and get married the next week and things can move smoothly.
But these days.....

Bros calm down.
Good things take time to build.
Pm me for more counselling if you have more to share.

God bless you

GEEBITE:
My friend is in a deep dark place now. One of the most heart rending stories of this manner. He left for UK same day we finished high school with us feeling like we have been left behind. When we got reunited in 2009 after I moved to UK,he was in a mess and has wasted about 15years of his life as a result of mixing up with wrong folks. Through a well heeled classmate of ours we were able to get him to fix his life again and he started doing well running an auto garage.
He took the advice of his mum bringing a girl in from Nigeria. Now his world has crumbled again. DNA has revealed the child he thought was his is for another man. He lost it totally and that has led to him losing his house to that lady and mounting debts in mortgage and compulsory family upkeep has led to mental breakdown. How can a life crumbled twice before 50. It is really a sad one.

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

falcon01:
As a Man, you are always gonna be used.
That been said, test her that your stay in UK is abruptly coming to an end tell her some of your things are gone you are broke and only have things for minimal sustainance tell her you are coming back to Nigeria and you don't think you are going back to UK but back in Nigeria you can have a house, marry and sustain yourself. And notice if her attitudes towards you changes, watch how she comforts and consoles you, notice if she's genuinely concerned about your situation, go like 5 days without calling her and see if she's calling e.t.c Note tell her all those things on different occasions, gradually gradually and see if she draws back.

GEEBITE:
My friend is in a deep dark place now. One of the most heart rending stories of this manner. He left for UK same day we finished high school with us feeling like we have been left behind. When we got reunited in 2009 after I moved to UK,he was in a mess and has wasted about 15years of his life as a result of mixing up with wrong folks. Through a well heeled classmate of ours we were able to get him to fix his life again and he started doing well running an auto garage.
He took the advice of his mum bringing a girl in from Nigeria. Now his world has crumbled again. DNA has revealed the child he thought was his is for another man. He lost it totally and that has led to him losing his house to that lady and mounting debts in mortgage and compulsory family upkeep has led to mental breakdown. How can a life crumbled twice before 50. It is really a sad one.

Ireportlive:
No rules to this game... Just pray about it and seek spiritual guidance

shege45:
let me advise u. When coming back, surprise her, dnt let her know you are coming back. Once you see her, check her phone then you will know if she is only for you. If she says her phone is private and doesn’t give you, just knack am den free am, Cus shez for us

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Raalsalghul:
Given how opportunistic and materialistic Nigerian ladies can be, I wouldn't advise this move.

So, just like some posters before me, pretend your fortunes are about to change for the worst and watch her reaction.

Also, why can't you get women in the U.K even if it's just for sex only?

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

pocohantas:


Your friend go dey alright .

They don’t separate/divorce there?

Ndubuisipaul1:
Why do men think they are doing women favor in marriage. She is also taking risk in marring someone she has not met before.. How is sure you truly love her? Both of you are taking risk