Op send me her phone number and location, I'm willing to help you conduct feasibility study on her free of charge

OP why the rush?
Most of these ladies are good pretenders, especially the ones desperate to get married. Take time to study her carefully to avoid landing in problems you didn't bargain for.

shege45:
let me advise u. When coming back, surprise her, dnt let her know you are coming back. Once you see her, check her phone then you will know if she is only for you. If she says her phone is private and doesn’t give you, just knack am den free am, Cus shez for us

That's not necessary, our elders say "what you won't eat don't bite it with your teeth"........That once knacking could be the beginning of his problems.

At 30 and above Nigerian women are desperate to get married and will do anything to achieve that.
Be careful please.


The desperation actually begins from 28. Though i have seen girls of 23 who are that way... usually due to poverty and their target are normally guys who are well off.
If you know how many times i have been a target this year alone... blackmail, pregnancy stunts, begging, pretense of total submission....


Again, be careful.

Your choice bro.... But I only hope she's not attached to you cos you in UK.... I met my wife August, did introduction by Dec same year and married her May following year.... Although it has not been easy but God saw us through....

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

You are surely going to regret ever doing this bro.

She knows what she want from you, but all you see is love.

She's going to change within a year of joining you.

Tonypen247:
Men are prisoners of their mindset.
Be extra careful, not all that glitters is gold.

Lol

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Guy,

I'm happy you have marriage in your heart and you are ready to settle down...That's a great idea!

Furthermore, I'm so delighted that you believe you have found the bone of your bone.

However, before you can finally take the marriage oath, you are supposed to do an independent background check on her different from the observations your family may have made.

I can help you with that service because I've done it for clients in the past with different findings which are sometimes favorable and unfavorable.

Don't forget that bringing an unchecked partner into the UK is a big project so that you wouldn't regret it on the long run.

Three weeks ago, someone from this Nairaland forum based in the USA contacted me to do a background check on a friend and I was able to carry out the check in a week with positive findings and he was really glad with the output.

Anyway, contact me on WhatsApp: 2/3/4/8/1/3/4/1/9/8/7/9/5 so that we can get the ball rolling.

I wish you a happy union soon if that is God's decision.

Cheers!

OnlineStaff
Private Investigator

Have you met her physically before?

Pretend as if you've been sacked from your job and you're returning back to Nigeria, watch and see her reactions in one week, and also claim you you're a little broke, but God forbid.


Wishing you the best.


Woman can pretend for 10 years without noticing their full characters.


Be careful bro.�

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

I'm sorry to burst your bubble, you are too naive to get married.

You are not fit to be a husband and father yet.

1. Distant relationship.
2. Barely 2 months of meeting.
3. You are in 'UK', perceived heaven of many lazy Nigerian girls.
4. You have not slept with her for a time, let alone 5 - 10 times to be sure you are sexually compatible. ( I know many religious people will attack me for this point, but let me answer them here quickly, the number one cause of marriage breakups, as well as its cure these age is sexual compatibility).

5. There is no physical and spiritual meeting and evaluation.

Conclusion:

OYO is about to be your name.

shege45:
let me advise u. When coming back, surprise her, dnt let her know you are coming back. Once you see her, check her phone then you will know if she is only for you. If she says her phone is private and doesn’t give you, just knack am den free am, Cus shez for us

Bros, no lady have one boyfriend when single. Unless if the guy is giving 100 percent assurance she will let go off them

daddio:



You are surely going to regret ever doing this bro.

She knows what she want from you, but all you see is love.

She's going to change within a year of joining you.

You really don't know that but look what you are saying.

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

....go search and read the great quote from mosdii on nairaland. Then apply wisdom.....there is a name for ladies above 30 in nairaland

Savedday:

And they don't love.

Generally, girls don't love but are loyal to their feelings.

Zonefree:

One who pays to checkmate the activities of a Nigerian girl is being foolish and wasteful. These demons are already damaged, why wasting funds to ascertain the level of her damaged lifestyle

Sense no go kee u my guy

Hmmm, Just pray make she no serve hot breakfast, she can turn to something else once she get there, be wise..

Opinedecandid:


I'm sorry to burst your bubble, you are too naive to get married.

You are not fit to be a husband and father yet.

1. Distant relationship.
2. Barely 2 months of meeting.
3. You are in 'UK', perceived heaven of many lazy Nigerian girls.
4. You have not slept with her for a time, let alone 5 - 10 times to be sure you are sexually compatible. ( I know many religious people will attack me for this point, but let me answer them here quickly, the number one cause of marriage breakups, as well as its cure these age is sexual compatibility).

5. There is no physical and spiritual meeting and evaluation.

Conclusion:

OYO is about to be your name.

..u yaf said it all

shege45:
let me advise u. When coming back, surprise her, dnt let her know you are coming back. Once you see her, check her phone then you will know if she is only for you. If she says her phone is private and doesn’t give you, just knack am den free am, Cus shez for us

Op, take this advice. Or test her with all these pranksters to cal her for hook up job with a rich man..

Most Naija girls are into hook up both working class and the ones that have fiance.

Contact a prankster now.

Ireportlive:
No rules to this game... Just pray about it and seek spiritual guidance

shatap stop talking nonsense
Tinubu is a bastard drug dealing vagabond

@humility101
Op, set her up with another close guy of yours, fund the project, let the outcome help to shape your decision...
You need ideas that would bring the real her out, dm... Let's not cast the update here....
A friend of mine in the UK just escaped such good girl.

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Make sure you are not reasoning from the Conji side of reasoning OP, be very careful because in Nigeria there are only 7 marriageable girls left and 4 are already engaged and am with one thereby leaving only two.

Nazgul:
The mistake you made was telling her that you're in the UK. If you had told her you're in northern Nigeria and she still showed seriousness, you could have concluded that she's into you. Cos no girl who you tell that you're in UK, US or Canada would turn you down. You're like an answered prayer to them.

I swear...Who doesn't want an international in-law

danny086:
Your choice bro.... But I only hope she's not attached to you cos you in UK.... I met my wife August, did introduction by Dec same year and married her May following year.... Although it has not been easy but God saw us through....

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You mean you dated your wife for just 4 months

LET ME GET DETAILS OF YOUR PERSON AND I WILL SEND YOU THAT OF MY YOUNGER SIS IN THE UK,WHOM YOU WILL ACCESS ON YOUR OWN AND DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT,SHE IS CURRENTLY RUNNING HER MSC PROGRAMME,SHE IS 30+

falcon01:
As a Man, you are always gonna be used.
That been said, test her that your stay in UK is abruptly coming to an end tell her some of your things are gone you are broke and only have things for minimal sustainance tell her you are coming back to Nigeria and you don't think you are going back to UK but back in Nigeria you can have a house, marry and sustain yourself. And notice if her attitudes towards you changes, watch how she comforts and consoles you, notice if she's genuinely concerned about your situation, go like 5 days without calling her and see if she's calling e.t.c Note tell her all those things on different occasions, gradually gradually and see if she draws back.

You are a wise man!

Very risky move but I pray God be with you ..

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Take ur time don't rush anything, marriage is not bf and gf.
If possible do this loyalty test to be sure that she is not loyal to ur pocket.

You frowned at something (people advising OP) only for you to do the same.
Na wa.... of course, he needs people's advise and that was why he brought it to public domain.

HomeTutorsPro:
See as una dey decide somebody pikin fate!
Na so angels and demons dey sidon dey reason our mata for heaven/hell/where ever.
Babe don dey plan for thanksgiving say God don finally butter her bread and una dey here dey pour konkiri for person agbado and ewa.
This is not good oo.




As for you the man in a dilemma, this is NAIRALAND.
Any advice you receive here should contribute not more than 10% of your decision-making reason.
There are people who court women for years living in same house with them and still see hell after marriage.
There are also people who marry within weeks of meeting and enjoy bliss in their marriage.
Just follow your heart and don't let nairaland rob you off a possible good woman.
I am not saying you should go ahead and marry her.
I am saying she could be a good woman.
Just make sure that trusted relatives check her out thoroughly.
And hey!
December is too early.
Just give it a little more time.
Another 3 to 4 months won't be a bad idea.
All the best.

Lol, are you asking us this question? Few months and you want to wife her, and take her to the west. Oh mine Oh mine, NIGERIAN LADY O! Shege is loading. Time bomb. Take me for my words, that lady will ruin you if you take her to the west. Nigerian ladies can be very funny..... 2 months o.... I will not talk.

Bro don't rush it, you prolly gonna enter lifetime agreement so don't do what you'll regret.Coupled with, in those saner climes women are accorded more power so she fit Bleep u up.Bro don't rush it, you prolly gonna enter lifetime agreement so don't do what you'll regret.Coupled with, in those saner climes women are accorded more power so she fit Bleep u up....

Well OP, you have to slow a bit down
December is a stressful period to get married.
So send her to stay with your Mom for like a week, for internal and external assessment
You can then move forward from next year

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

You want to marry evening newspaper?
Your guys will not be happy with you