Blessedmercy8:
How old is she?
What's your relationship with her about? For Benefits or something serious that holds a future for both of you?

If it's for benefits, then you can't blame her and I wonder why you're surprised and feeling disappointed as you out to know what kind of relationship you guys are into.

I guess she understands the bases of the relationship more than you that is why she still asked for such knowing you're grieving. Now, You want to tell me you won't ask to sleep with her as you're grieving and expect her to give you? That's exactly how she sees it too. So, stop complaining because that's how such relationship works. Money for hand, back for ground.
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Next time, when going into a relationship, try to know what you're going into by spelling out your relationship goals and expectations to each other so every one knows where he or she stands and what to expect at any given time.

gypsey:
Go tell Your mother she is an animal who gives a fork if his father died, his father is not the first father to die or would be the last. People's fathers has being dying since time began.


Yea,keep praying. I am guessing you and your father are planning to live forever.

gypsey:
So because your dad died christmas should be put on hold? Your Dad is dead! life goes on for the living, does this mean you will never spend money ever again co's your father died?.

razible5384:
I believe this is meant to be a sarcasm...

Lance008:

Idiot
slowpoke
Mad man

Thank you, now fork off!

gypsey:
Naa! I don't do sarcasms, i tell it like it is and i expect/want to be told like it is, no patronage, tell me the truth no matter how uncomfortable or harsh it may be, don't tell me a pleasant lie.

LaSenior:
this girl doesn't have anything all she has is am beautiful and I can attract guys that's all , no job no degree no handwork apart from the make up artist work that I even paid for her to learn bought some of the necessary equipment and finally she said she needed iPhone xxmas which I bought London used 285k infact I have never wronged this girl or refused her of any kind of money even when my dad was in the hospital she was still billing me of cream money 10k and I gave her this girl added no values to me instead she has been swallowing all my hard earned money I was planning to marrying here

Zonefree:
She's not just into you.


When a girl loves you, your feelings and emotions are her utmost concern.

The earlier you discard and do away with that demon, the better for your sanity.




All the same, accept my condolences on the death of your father. God rest his soul.

razible5384:
going by the story, he lost the dad four days ago, an the wife to be is demanding for 50k, not for anything reasonable, but Christmas frivolities.... don't you think that's so mean an insensitive of her?

gypsey:
No. I don't think so. Was the fault of his wife to be's fault his father died? Should he not move on with his iife? If he was rang and told he won 10 million dollars and told he must go and collect the money the day after his father died or he will forfeit the money, do you think he should not go and collect the cash? He should forfeit the money?

kkins25:

Was it not you preaching to Kobojunkie now. You can't show one ounce of sympathy for the grieving man. abi the holy ghost is tired? Sunday has not even finish but your true character don commot. spits

gypsey:
Yes, because the bystander did not kill the copse, it is natural, just like some people are hungry while others are wasting food, some peope are poor, some are rich, some people cry some people are laughing at the same time.. it is all natural. That is why when any of our family members die, we don't die with them however much we love them, we still manage to live and move on without them


Comprende?!

Blessedmercy8:


So you know how each girl can behave at any given time. Then why is the so called girlfriend and wife to be not acting out your perfect script? Sorry... O.

By the way, the first thing I asked was her age because only an immature girl or one whos only out for what to gain from the relationship would do such. The problem with you men is that you don't know the difference between a friend of benefits and wife material. That you want wife her in the next min doesn't make her a wife material.

What you people call and wife these days are hookup girls. That's their signature. Take it or leave it.

DarkJeddi:
For someone who lacks comprehension for the meaning of an adage..
It's IRONIC that your last line would be Comprende?!

razible5384:
the instance you made is a very different ball game altogether, he's going to get not giving out, so of course he will go get the money, but it still doesn't change the fact that he's going through trying times.

We humans are emotional being an we should learn to show empathy. if these guy were to be your younger brother, will you give him this same advice?

That niggur just dodge a bullet

gypsey:
What da fork does adage means? I don't know what that shit means. Anyway, you did understood my previous comment that is the main thing.

DarkJeddi:
Lol..
You don't even know what an adage means?
No wonder your reply was all over the place..
Let me give you a hint..
You took the comment LITERALLY..
It was a METAPHOR..

gypsey:
Go tell Your mother she is an animal who gives a fork if his father died, his father is not the first father to die or would be the last. People's fathers has being dying since time began.


Yea,keep praying. I am guessing you and your father are planning to live forever.

Sirqt5:
is being on Nairaland a crime ? he needs folks to encourage him . since him get useless gf wey not dey think abt anyone but herself . fyi , he's not obligated to give her a dime . let her go ask her Father . Nigerian girls using bfs as ATMs is becomin unbecomin

LaSenior:
I don't want to say something so disrespectful here do you think everyone is broke not to afford 50k but for the fact that she has the gut to ask me for money 3 days after my dad's death means a lot

Ok I will now come to nairaland and start telling lies abi

LaSenior:
Mod please I want this piece to be pushed to front-page this is happening to me though I have prepared my Mind to do what is in my mind but I want this honourable house to look into this

I was supposed to go and do marital introduction but because of my dad's health which was going bad everyday I couldn't. I thought maybe when we stabilise him a little then I can quickly arrange for introduction but sadly my beloved Dad passed away 4days later

I have been crying endlessly and been so weak and saddened just this morning this girl I was planning on spending the rest of my life with chatted me up saying that she has looking at me since that I don't want to say anything concerning her Christmas things that she needs 50k to buy Christmas things. I was shocked to the bone haaaa why are you this heartless towards me? Does it mean you are not concerned about what I have been passing through, infact I don't want to speak more because God already saved me from a heartless lazy woman.

To the women in this forum is it right to ask your fiancee Christmas Money in the midst of seeing him mourning of his late Dad just few days his dad died this attitude of this girl is it right?

LaSenior:
Mod please I want this piece to be pushed to front-page this is happening to me though I have prepared my Mind to do what is in my mind but I want this honourable house to look into this

I was supposed to go and do marital introduction but because of my dad's health which was going bad everyday I couldn't. I thought maybe when we stabilise him a little then I can quickly arrange for introduction but sadly my beloved Dad passed away 4days later

I have been crying endlessly and been so weak and saddened just this morning this girl I was planning on spending the rest of my life with chatted me up saying that she has looking at me since that I don't want to say anything concerning her Christmas things that she needs 50k to buy Christmas things. I was shocked to the bone haaaa why are you this heartless towards me? Does it mean you are not concerned about what I have been passing through, infact I don't want to speak more because God already saved me from a heartless lazy woman.

To the women in this forum is it right to ask your fiancee Christmas Money in the midst of seeing him mourning of his late Dad just few days his dad died this attitude of this girl is it right?

chigoizie7:
Bro abeg leave that insensitive human.
I left one too. Came back to naija for my papa funeral, my account wasn’t working well, I decided to put small change in her account until I need it. Came to her city, asked for the money, just not upto 1 week ooh. This girl is telling me that she loaned to her friend. Okay collect from your friend, she is telling me shits. That kinda put me off. Actually I can’t be with a woman who thinks and reasons like that.

Dracula05:
I no wan read epistle. Op you can do whatever you like o. See me I no get papa and mama and I know what should bother me and not. Even if you get this money. Try to know who wants to spend it with you and those that 'll like to plan with you. Go In Peace.
May the Almighty bestow you the fortitude to bear the loss. Bless brother.
No 4get better babes dey out there...don't go for leeches.

chigoizie7:
Bro abeg leave that insensitive human.
I left one too. Came back to naija for my papa funeral, my account wasn’t working well, I decided to put small change in her account until I need it. Came to her city, asked for the money, just not upto 1 week ooh. This girl is telling me that she loaned to her friend. Okay collect from your friend, she is telling me shits. That kinda put me off. Actually I can’t be with a woman who thinks and reasons like that.

TreasureJunky:
The girl is a senseless girl that that is selfish.. Only God knows where una dey see these senseless girls wey una dey fall in love with.
On a normal day, she should take care of herself and not you. She's not your responsibility until you're married to her .
Responsible people like us are everywhere, but you people will be falling in love with liabilities that are lazy, looking for who to sponsor their expensive lifestyles, meanwhile they are jobless and doesn't know what it takes to make 1naira.
I'm a hard-working lady, I hustle and take care of myself, without depending on any man to eat what hungry me