biggz82:
Don't let you brother deceive you, he is fully aware of the wife SS status. He should tell you guys the truth why he wants to leave the marriage

homesteady:


So SS people shouldn’t get married?

Creamypie:
they can and do find love, bro. The comments you see on this topic are primarily against not being truthful about the health status at the beginning

Deeprooted:
After getting the job,he was posted to one northern state where he met the lady from the south west.

In less than 6 months, he told me someone wanted to say Hi to me when he called. I heard a lady's voice. He later introduced her to me as his fiancee.

Long story short. We went for wedding and all.

At the point of delivery which the doctor insisted on her having CS due to her medical condition, my brother insisted the wife will deliver via push. It was then the doctor made known to my brother " oga you're talking as if you're not aware of your wife's health"

Omo!!! Na there my brother come say he no Sabi ooo. It was discovered she's indeed SS. I asked my brother before we went for all the marriage rites of they're compatible health wise an he answered affirmative.


After the discovery, my brother left the wife in the hospital but my dad and I insisted he gets back to her till after everything.

It was when was after the successful surgery my brother told me that his wife brought the test result from another lab, reason being that he was busy when they were supposed to go for the test together.

My brother's mind is made up on divorce.

What will you advise my brother to do?

Chee59:

I'm NOT your bro.
And I've been long on this app to know people would bare their minds because they won't be cancelled for it.
I've also seen threads about people living with Sickle Cell, and know that hate is the general denominator. Don't try to pacify me. I know what my eyes have seen in over a decade on this forum.

Paulheyman:


Note
1) SCD is not an infections so can't be likened to HIV. it's a genetic hereditary disease Traced to the mutation involving substituting valine for glutamic acid. These substitution actually leads to what you call SCD. Sometimes it's not only valine that is substituted it may be other amino acids. So, the disease severity is mostly determined (but not always) at the gene.
2) on treatment: Gene therapy to the best of my knowledge is the only valid treatment/cure in SCD however, SCD can be managed. In the management of SCD different pathways of the disease pathophysiology is considered. That's why SCD patients are advised to take vitamin C, folic acid, B-complex, pyridoxine, zinc tablet and malaria prophylactic drugs. If any sickler uses these drugs judiciously, then, you can't really tell if he is a SCD patient or not
3) on carrier: if you have AS or AC etc. genotype then you are a carrier of the sickle cell treat. Simply means you can give birth to a sickle cell child and you can also have sickle cell crisis under reduced oxygen tension
4) Many misconception exist in SCD. Mine is to enlighten you and many others

My opinion on the subject of discuss: 1) She was wrong: you don't risk the life of others to get married. By deception the marriage is void. She is selfish too
2) If the man was at least AA, my point holds. I have met many young SS patients happily married.
3) In Africa; mortality rate are usually higher in infants so, at adulthood, the recurrence of vaso-occlusive crisis is significantly reduced to an extent that the patient may not even have crisis that's the reason the husband couldn't tell if the wife was sick or not.

Creamypie:
S.S matter eh, them no dey use love or emotion oh. Na objectivity and realism them dey use face am, no matter whose ox faces the brunt. Forget "I been love am" or "she love me" or "we are in love" gist. If at least one of the marriage partners no be complete AA, In this case, he has these options. 1. divorce her and marry another wife with AA genotype. 2. reman married, but no kid. 3. Remain married, have kids with SS genotype, and drain or strain you both emotionally, mentally, and financially, and who will suffer from birth till premature death, at 24 years at most 4. Remain married, with no kid, but have an AA side chick who will birth healthy children for u. Thank God am AA.I can marry any woman on earth

Amayabor1:


You lack comprehension.

The guy's genotype doesn't matter. Even if he was AA and they give birth to children who are all AS, he will be drained emotionally and financially taking care of a SS wife. You think the wife as an SS will not fall sick from time to time? Who will take care of her hospital bills and be there emotionally for her? The husband!

Porksupplyib:

Since u are AA and can marry any woman in earth, why then are u adding divorce to the suggestions u are giving him?

Deeprooted:
After getting the job,he was posted to one northern state where he met the lady from the south west.

In less than 6 months, he told me someone wanted to say Hi to me when he called. I heard a lady's voice. He later introduced her to me as his fiancee.

Long story short. We went for wedding and all.

At the point of delivery which the doctor insisted on her having CS due to her medical condition, my brother insisted the wife will deliver via push. It was then the doctor made known to my brother " oga you're talking as if you're not aware of your wife's health"

Omo!!! Na there my brother come say he no Sabi ooo. It was discovered she's indeed SS. I asked my brother before we went for all the marriage rites of they're compatible health wise an he answered affirmative.


After the discovery, my brother left the wife in the hospital but my dad and I insisted he gets back to her till after everything.

It was when was after the successful surgery my brother told me that his wife brought the test result from another lab, reason being that he was busy when they were supposed to go for the test together.

My brother's mind is made up on divorce.

What will you advise my brother to do?

flourishing247:


Some don't have the above features. Check sickle motivator on instagram. You would never know except she tells you.

Deeprooted:


My brother's mind is made up on divorce.

What will you advise my brother to do?

Deeprooted:

Creamypie:
that means u didn't read to understand. Iine 7, I said at least one of em has to be AA, irrespective of genotype of the other. Whether ss, as, aa.as AS can't marry AS or SS

FreeStuffsNG:

I concur. Boys do not get married, only men do .

Deeprooted:
After getting the job,he was posted to one northern state where he met the lady from the south west.

In less than 6 months, he told me someone wanted to say Hi to me when he called. I heard a lady's voice. He later introduced her to me as his fiancee.

Long story short. We went for wedding and all.

At the point of delivery which the doctor insisted on her having CS due to her medical condition, my brother insisted the wife will deliver via push. It was then the doctor made known to my brother " oga you're talking as if you're not aware of your wife's health"

Omo!!! Na there my brother come say he no Sabi ooo. It was discovered she's indeed SS. I asked my brother before we went for all the marriage rites of they're compatible health wise an he answered affirmative.


After the discovery, my brother left the wife in the hospital but my dad and I insisted he gets back to her till after everything.

It was when was after the successful surgery my brother told me that his wife brought the test result from another lab, reason being that he was busy when they were supposed to go for the test together.

My brother's mind is made up on divorce.

What will you advise my brother to do?

BigIyanga:

Advice powered by ignorance

Amayabor1:


Oga shut up and stop fooling yourself. It's not every sickler that has the physical features of a sickler. There are many sicklers in this world that even if you spend 5 years with them, you wouldn't know they are sicklers except they tell you.

Rayban25:


If you dont know something fully why not just ask or shut up instead of saying rubbish with confidence?

Justbehave:
A fool spotted.

Amayabor1:


Ode! How many sicklers for this world you don see? You see only few sicklers for the hole wey you dey stay for Nigeria, you start to dey generalise. Zombie!

Justbehave:
Ode. If her sister that just came for a short visit noticed she is a sickler why can't he? I no blame you. You be ode like him.

Amayabor1:



Ozuor. You said you can Know if someone is a sickler by mere looking at the person. Knowledgeable people on this platform told you it's not every sickler that you can recognize physically. Because you get coconut head, you still dey argue.

Zombie!

Justbehave:
Oga shut up. Even her sister that came for a short visit noticed she is a sickler but him as an ode like you didn't.

dochenaj:


You're wrong.

AS - AS is 25% AA, 25% SS, and 50% AS

AS - AA is 50% AS, 50% AA

AS - SS is 50% AS, 50% SS

Deeprooted:


My sister who noticed something unusual about the lady before marriage turned into my brother's enemy till after his discovery

GentlePEACE:


You are right, what about his feelings of deceit. How can she hide such from him

I remember my wife telling me a top secret even before she visited me for the first time, so there was no ish when i discovered myself. Trust is very key in a marriage

Justbehave:
So how did her sister know? Did she take her blood samples? Lol.

Amayabor1:


Kaii. You dull sha. Lord have mercy.

That you see someone and know he/she is a sickler doesn't mean you can identify every sickler in this world just by looking at them as you claim you can. Which school you even go?

If you were not stupid, you would have known that it was the doctor that told the man his wife is SS when she wanted to deliver through CS. Abi you nor read the post? Zombie!!!

Justbehave:
Na you dull. The op said her sister noticed and informed him but she was seen as an enemy.It was when the Doctor said it that he believed.

Amayabor1:



Lol. Na wetin i read you read? Please, show me where the op said her sister noticed it and informed him.

Justbehave:
Read what he said in the first screen shot