frozen70:


For the mere fact that her husband will not contribute a penny for her medication is enough for his wife to deal with

By then she will feel more emotional pains than what she did to her mother in law and it will be too late to apologize

ozalogbo:
As I read some of your comments, I smiled. Let me provide some information about my mum: she was a born again Christian, a genuine one. She belonged to those holiness preaching denomination. She was a peaceful person. When I stamped my feet and said no! she would be the one to say no, my son.
She would be the one to say, 'What God has joined together, let no one put asunder'. And she would quietly take her leave, against my stand. That was a big problem. She would say, instead of there to be trouble in your home because of me, I better leave. She was TOO peaceful

handsomeyitayo:


thank you my dear brother, i love your write up, this OP is so stupid sorry to say ,where is he when his wife maltreating his mother and he is there doing one stupid love, no woman can try such with , she will leave that house that day. even he would have bring in a care giver to care for his mother simple... i hate to hear this kind of stories that" my wife didn't allow my mum in our home" .. any lady try such with me will be dealt with because i wouldn't do that to her own parents i love her own family.. that why i do ask this if i love your own families you must love my family.

Gloriagee:
Waoh, the story is sooo strange? Was it a question of her being too religious for your wife and frowning at her actions or dressing? Did you have househelps or your wife was scared to be overwhelmed by the labour? There just might be another angle....

Livelystone01:

It's like you don't understand entitled people, they only think about themselves. For her to have the courage to bring this up despite her shenanigans against the mother inlaw shows she's entitled and entitled people do not regret their actions.

Her mother should live with her siblings, that's the law she agreed to in the beginning, nothing should change it.

This way, she'll think before acting wicked next time.

She's should be also ready to face her repercussions from her daughter in-law.

sasalihu8:
Family is beyond you and your wife and your children. Women should understand that when get married to a man, they equally marry entire family. That is why the call her "Our wife" She is married to the man and his family. The earlier they know this the better. But the modern 21st century woman sees the man she marry as "My Man" - her exclusive possession and she is even territorial and defensive about it.

OlawaleBammie:


ABI ooh, but here we are...OP is the definition of oponu

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.

However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.

Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.

What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

Klass99:


I suspect most parents regret having children but it is not something they will ever say out loud.....for fear of harsh criticisms and judgment.

Justbehave:
All this manipulative questions won't help you. Just say the truth. If your husband doesn't want your people around for no reason, would you want his?

Gloriagee:
Im just interested. His mum sounds so nice so why will wife not want her around. The question is not intended for you though cos everything is manipulation to the manipulative........

purples25:


Let me tell you something.

When your wife's mother comes, you are able to step out and leave her in the house and escape her if she is troublesome, right? She can't interfere in your workplace or with your leisure time, right?

As for your wife, your mom will be able to enter her back to back. How? She will poke into kitchen affairs which your wife handles. She will poke into house and kids affairs, which your wife handles also. Wherever your wife moves and whatever she does, she will watch and complain. Wives are the ones more likely to be at home - if she sees your wife using her phone, resting or otherwise, she will say she is lazy. Everything, she will chook hand. Unlike you, who will be left alone cuz you are a man.

Father in laws don't poke themselves into affairs like mother in laws do. They don't struggle for affection of their kids with the spouse like mother in laws do. How many times do you see father in laws coming to live in the house, struggling with the son to be holding the most power over their child. Never.

Samantha124:
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frozen70:


Dont be surprise if he let her in

Is not weakness and it's only God that will reward him

shantti:


Quit this manipulative game.
Dont bring in God into your gender's mischief

cococandy:


And those girls stay without jobs permanently? Or you marry them when they are really young so obviously haven’t built a career yet maybe provide for a few years while they build a career. But anything more than that she’s a liability bla bla bla.
a joke that has no real place in today’s society. If you doubt me ask your fellow me what they think of a dependent wife. Don’t ask me. Create a thread and ask them. That’s if you’re ready for the truth.

only on nairaland. In real life, Nigerian women are out there in the streets with the men hustling for daily living like everyone else even in pregnancy and childbirth.



Rich men are few and far between. So while that may be a desire for some people, it’s not a reality for you guys. In reality the hundreds of millions Nigerians living in poverty every single day have wives. I don’t know what to tell you if this simple FACTUAL STATEMENT is confounding you.

dangotesmummy:
the Bible talks about forgiveness na.wr should LEARN to forgive each other's shortcomings because as long as we're in various relationships with each other,we will offend EACH other.moreover marriage is about forgiveness again na her money she go use take care of her mama not his money, resources or time

Imagine the resentment the woman will have if he didn't allow her mother and the mother now died because of lack of care.it Will definitely affect everything pertaining to that marriage- their sex life, communication, finance etc.so the disaster unforgiveness will do is worse

ojun50:
Discuss with her and remind her how she treated yr mum, then tell her to give you time to think about it.

In the end still allow her mother to come and stay for peace and unity.

Every married man should understand that the wife is not your blood so expect anything expectable but is children is his blood.

frozen70:


Yes you are right
But my submission of the react, is centered on the children who may witness nonsense from both parents when the drama starts

EriMma1:
I would have told you to do what is in your mind but then, it wasn't the mother who offended you but your wife. Besides you had the choice to let your mother stay with you but you succumbed to your wife and let her will prevail. So don't treat the old woman badly because of her daughters sins.

Forgive and let the old woman come. After all she would be the one to do all the care job, not you.

dangotesmummy:
the Bible talks about forgiveness na.wr should LEARN to forgive each other's shortcomings because as long as we're in various relationships with each other,we will offend EACH other.moreover marriage is about forgiveness again na her money she go use take care of her mama not his money, resources or time

Imagine the resentment the woman will have if he didn't allow her mother and the mother now died because of lack of care.it Will definitely affect everything pertaining to that marriage- their sex life, communication, finance etc.so the disaster unforgiveness will do is worse

frozen70:


For the mere fact that her husband will not contribute a penny for her medication is enough for his wife to deal with

By then she will feel more emotional pains than what she did to her mother in law and it will be too late to apologize