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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Dottormentor: 8:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Hey yah chief adviser, ani were no gbogbo eyin odo iwoyi. May the same thing happen to you as you are planning to destroy another person home. Amen amen Did u bother to hear her own side of the story? Enibi. Bluffly: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Impera(m): 8:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Tell your wife your mother's ghost visited you and told you you will die a horrible death suddenly if you allow your mother in law to move in with you 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by worldclass68(m): 8:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Not anyone can beg me to allow such...... My heart melt when I reached that line that says " ur mom passed away "ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ Just as they told u initially....... The marriage is between u and ur wife... Not between u and her and her mother... Besides... I'm not sure I can forgive such wife.......may opt for divorce cuz it would be so hard to live with someone I come to hate so much... Your decision tho...... RIP to ur mom....... your such a weak son, you allowed " they" to control ur home and sent ur sick mum away.... My heart still melts as if she was my mom😑 8 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 8:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Bluffly: Okay but I wasn’t referring to the OP specifically. Comprehension is key 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by lalalista: 8:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
If u allow are stay, then you are breaking the law if karma that's about taking effect 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by BECALMBECALM(m): 8:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Nemesis0147:Op, for me i will not allow her to bring her mother.Period!! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by kazyhm(m): 8:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything. My question are ... 1) At the time you sent your mother away, did you actually feel at peace ? 2) At your mother's burial, did you feel she was proud of you as a son ? Being agreeable is not a recipe for peace.....as a matter of fact, if you want true peace, prepare for war!! Ori o j'ori .........that is my submission 17 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by seanwilliam(m): 8:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Klass99:may God bless you beyond your expectations 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by 12inchess: 8:09pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
This my advice but the decision is left to you. You already made a mistake by not allowing your mum to stay with you and your wife in her final days. This was a grave mistake and that is water under the bridge now. But two wrongs dont make a right. It's now your mother in laws last days. And I think you should allow her to stay with your family but make sure to remind your wife that when it was her she didn't allow your mum stay with you guys. Your wife really needs to beg God for forgiveness. She too will grow old and become a mother in law to someone one day. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Rossycares(f): 8:09pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
My gender nawa!!, what goes around,comes around. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by IamtheTruth1(m): 8:09pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: Do you even know how lonely your mother is? You are the only child in Nigeria ryt? Wetin you dey even reason self na wetin I no understand... 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Ireportlive: 8:09pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Better go and ask God for forgiveness for how you treated your mother who spent all her better years catering for you As for your mother in law, let the sick woman in and forgive your wife for God to forgive you 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 8:09pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy: All the same his wife should rent a place for her mum to stay. She should then proceed to pay someone to look after her mum. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Hopium: 8:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
madridguy: Zupay, dude listen to what he's saying. Wisdom is profitable to the wise. A wife who can't stand and allow your old mom live with you won't be there for you when you become old and weak. It's that simple. A wife like that is selfish and lack empathy. You don't even need to reach your old age to see her manifest in her true color. Just lose your means of income and you will get to understand what madridguy is saying. 10 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by alpontif(m): 8:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
It will be an insult to Your mother wherever she is now, that what you refused to do for her, you want to do for your wife's mother. You are a weak man, and that wife will turn your kids against you later. ozalogbo: 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by nams77: 8:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Zupay:What an old man sees while lying on his bed, a young chap won't see it stop a skyscraper. What Madridguy mentioned is a fact. That woman is spiteful and cunny. I also see a tinge of selfishness in her Op, do unto her as she did unto you. Period. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by TonaFBI(m): 8:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Don't forget marriage is between a man & his wife. Don't let her come. 8 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by highyo: 8:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
The reason why the woman voice overshadowed his concerning her mum was simply because the woman is the bread winner. She's earning more than the husband Because if the man is truly the one in charge, he will never allow her wife decision to stand That's just it He's not telling us the whole story 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Sirqt5(m): 8:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
My own mother who toiled n suffer for me... somebody will tell me to kick her out of my house . Dem neva born that woman who go try am with me 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by BigBrother9ja: 8:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Zupay:I agree with madridguy That choice is usually good. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by favour32(m): 8:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Man! Apply Newton third law of motion. You have got your perfect answer! 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Etosha: 8:11pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Whem I get married, I will treat my wife's family exactly the way she treats mine... 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ihedioramma: 8:11pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
[quote author=ozalogbo post=122134449]I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum. However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it. Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, . NO, if you dont want more problem in your marriage . if she come you will always remember your mum and you will not be happy. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by JustcallmeFavou(f): 8:11pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: This life sha! OP You are not firm enough. This is why your wife had the nerves to be hostile towards your mum when she was alive. When she fully knew you are your late mum's only child still here in Nigeria. Like a few have commented, tell her that her mum can stay with any of her older siblings. That you will support them monthly with any financial assistance that you can. Don't even tell her that it's because of what she did to your mum. Someone like your wife might not be remorseful but will play the victim card, and let her entire family know, and they might come to resent you. Better be firm, but be loving and understanding when need be. Or a woman like your wife will use your head anyhow since she doesn't have a conscience. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ericoleon(m): 8:11pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
I just wish I could drop a voice note because . I'M SERIOUSLY PISSED. infact I dey PARA ON A HIGH LEVEL. what rubbish? What insolence? Scold her very well for even having the thought. Remind her what she did to your mum. Don't even have conversation shout on her. Nonsense. This thing really vex me. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by kadreeG7(m): 8:12pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Your wife dey give your own paradise attitude till she left your house and you gree..... D truth is all women don't wanna live with their husbands mama but nah husband must let them know say they are our mini gods. It's even wrong for your wife mom to stay in your house... In my own tribe, she will stay with any of her child who is a man. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Ex0rrcist: 8:12pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Zupay:He's a Muhammedian, don't mind him. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by nams77: 8:13pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
donaldchidi:And how did your own issue play out |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by aAK1(m): 8:13pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
reading this thing alone is making my blood boil. God forbid ! that woman will leave my house a million times before my mother is stressed in my own house. i dont really understand how some simps behave. it is not normal for you to loss your self and everything that makes you happy just to make another person happy. baba!! if you take that woman in, you are really a fool. except you both pay the rent o. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Elaric(m): 8:13pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Guy, nor let ur mama for grave call you to join her there,because you will be spitting on her grave, if you allow ur mother inlaw to come live with you. Probably, your mum was buried in the same house you live in... 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by donkinlos(m): 8:13pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ojun50:you are not a real man if you allow her mum to come stay with you, remember she said marriage is between husband and wife, this is a very big cheating, act like man |
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