Queendera:
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You be small pikin for this matter wey you dey put mouth inside.

That lady is manipulating the guy. Nothing more.

advanceDNA:


Technically...He's not innocent cos she said she raped her.....is this new to you??..u know how rape works these days...its her words against his...

So now she's back to continue...he probably felt she's not serious about rape thing and just over reacting to make his action look like an offence cos she wasnt interested .... until she starts saying she cant trust him with his own kid...

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Sunwa1:
Not a super story, it's a true life experience.

etrange:


Dude, it's not about whether he's innocent to the world or any judge. I said if he himself believes he didn't do anything wrong, would he have continued? .

Persephone1:
When I read your first post I noticed you throw words around a lot. How has the lady "manipulate" the guy? They settled, he wants relationship she agreed, now marriage, she's yet to respond. Did she in anyway blackmail the guy, fraud him or impose marriage? How is she "manipulating" the guy?

That's one damaged lady I see. And it's sad, Op got intimate with her when she wasn't ready for it. That has given her an impression that will take years to change. No she's not manipulating the guy. She's seriously suffering from Stockholm syndrome. Some part of her believe he is BAD for her but she can't let go either.

Kooldon:
Two grown up adults having intimacy, not once, not twice yet she pulled the VICTIM'S CARD on you.
No Marriage wil change her perception.
You should be worried about, she threatening you with the rape case now that you are about to withdraw the marriage proposal.
What fix?

Bukky001:


Your post is always making sense

Persephone1:
When I read your first post I noticed you throw words around a lot. How has the lady "manipulate" the guy? They settled, he wants relationship she agreed, now marriage, she's yet to respond. Did she in anyway blackmail the guy, fraud him or impose marriage? How is she "manipulating" the guy?

That's one damaged lady I see. And it's sad, Op got intimate with her when she wasn't ready for it. That has given her an impression that will take years to change. No she's not manipulating the guy. She's seriously suffering from Stockholm syndrome. Some part of her believe he is BAD for her but she can't let go either.

Kooldon:
Two grown up adults having intimacy, not once, not twice yet she pulled the VICTIM'S CARD on you.
No Marriage wil change her perception.
You should be worried about, she threatening you with the rape case now that you are about to withdraw the marriage proposal.
What fix?

advanceDNA:


Yes he may have continued the relationship ..if he felt she's just over reacting...

besides..proposing now may mean its something he wanted to do initially ....so her mover reacting ddnt chnage his decision to propose........proposing might also be his way of apologizng and showing he doesnt just want sex from her but marriage

Sixfeetbelle:


She told you "Please, stop" yet you interpreted it as "Please, continue"?

You don't know the meaning of consent, do you?

Persephone1:
" Kooldon" and read the story again.

Sunwa1:
Hello Romancelanders,

There's is this lady I have been in relationship with since last year. The relationship wasn't that defined but it was a romantic one (kissing and smooshing), you know how it goes sometimes, that you have to struggle with the lady while making moves and eventually she will give in to your romantic demands.

It has been like that for a while but something eventful happened sometime in October last year, while we were deep in romance, i made moves to have sex with her but she resisted but her resistance wasn't that convincing, though she released herself to me but kept asking me to stop, but at that point I was deeply carried away and even thought it was her normal way of struggling with me anytime I made moves on her. Some how, I had my way, i had sex with her without any physical resistance from her aside the shouts of "please stop".

Alas, when I was done with the act, she started crying and I felt so bad because I honestly taught we were in the game together.

My greatest shock was when one of her friend's called me and said her friend said I raped her and that changed the whole narratives and projected me as a rapist. I was afraid because I know the consequences of such accusation but somehow the matter died down after a while and we continued where we stopped though we never had sex again.

My challenge now is that the lady often says she dosent trust me and CANNOT trust me with her female friends, sisters or even our daughter if we get married.

I proposed to marry her just a couple of weeks ago, she's is yet to respond but I fear that the impression she has about me being a rapist and that she can't trust me with our daughter might affect our home if we eventually get married.

I want her but I just fear that this trust issue will cause a lot of havoc which might negatively impact on our marriage in future.

Please, I need your advice especially from the ladies.

Should I go ahead with my plans to marry this lady especially considering the fact that I'm a very emotional person.

Please, shoot your shots without insults.

Will be at the comment session.

Thanks.

etrange:


You honestly believe he used marriage, a lifetime decision, to apologize to someone who wrongly accused him of rape even though he's convinced of his innocence? You believe he really wants to marry a lier?Apologizing for what exactly? Apologizing for not raping her? Apologizing for being the wrongly accused person? Apologize for not doing anything wrong? Apologizing for being the victim? Tell me what he's apologizing for.

You believe there is a world in which a man would continue his relationship with someone who wrongly accused him of rape and even go ahead propose marriage to her knowing fully well he was wrongly accused. According to your logic, it could be his way of apologizing to his accuser for accusing him wrongly. You certainly don't think this somehow implies he acknowledged he actually did something wrong. However, you strongly believe a girl who forgives her boyfriend for having sex with her without her consent is being dishonest. Don't you see how your logic works against you? The more you imply the girl is being dishonest, the more you make the OP look guilty. Because no one, I repeat, no one would ever want to spend the rest of his with a lier who wrongly accused him of rape.

Instead of taking the story as is, you're hell bent on coming up with assumptions that align with your dispositions. He has always wanted to propose, right? She accused him of rape, it didn't change that. She said she doesn't trust him with his own kid, it didn't change that. So why did he create this thread now? In your initial post, you said it was "until she started saying...", but now that we've established she has been saying the same right after the incident, why is he fidgeting now that he's about to lose her for good.

BRATISLAVA:


Convinced that person is one of the good girls or has a penis. She/he is on every thread justifying anything men do and claiming the girls are manipulative or evil.

Perhaps they want accolades for being very reasonable and agreeable to the majority users. Bet you they'll gender bend soon.

Queendera:
Obviously, she's manipulating you and you're falling for it continuously.

If you are the type that value your mental health and peace of mind, I'll say, please pack your bags and never look back.

You know why?

This manipulation will continue because she already had a fixed image, of not only you, but men in general at heart.

To her, you're nothing more than a "pen!s"

And that's what she uses to judge you.

And no you didn't rape her but instead of you to shout at her and make her accept responsibility for the act which obviously was performed by the two of you, you cowered and tried to be on the moral ground which doesn't exist.

She will continue to manipulate you like that, her friend is already a record holder.

In the future, more people will hold different receipts of any "wrong" you do to make sure that you are always guilty.

They don't change sir. They don't change. Marriage won't change her.

And let me say this, she's probably a church girl. Not judging but this is their general behavior

Sunwa1:
Hello Romancelanders,

There's is this lady I have been in relationship with since last year. The relationship wasn't that defined but it was a romantic one (kissing and smooshing), you know how it goes sometimes, that you have to struggle with the lady while making moves and eventually she will give in to your romantic demands.

It has been like that for a while but something eventful happened sometime in October last year, while we were deep in romance, i made moves to have sex with her but she resisted but her resistance wasn't that convincing, though she released herself to me but kept asking me to stop, but at that point I was deeply carried away and even thought it was her normal way of struggling with me anytime I made moves on her. Some how, I had my way, i had sex with her without any physical resistance from her aside the shouts of "please stop".

Alas, when I was done with the act, she started crying and I felt so bad because I honestly taught we were in the game together.

My greatest shock was when one of her friend's called me and said her friend said I raped her and that changed the whole narratives and projected me as a rapist. I was afraid because I know the consequences of such accusation but somehow the matter died down after a while and we continued where we stopped though we never had sex again.

My challenge now is that the lady often says she dosent trust me and CANNOT trust me with her female friends, sisters or even our daughter if we get married.

I proposed to marry her just a couple of weeks ago, she's is yet to respond but I fear that the impression she has about me being a rapist and that she can't trust me with our daughter might affect our home if we eventually get married.

I want her but I just fear that this trust issue will cause a lot of havoc which might negatively impact on our marriage in future.

Please, I need your advice especially from the ladies.

Should I go ahead with my plans to marry this lady especially considering the fact that I'm a very emotional person.

Please, shoot your shots without insults.

Will be at the comment session.

Thanks.

Queendera:
don't let any of these guys here guilt trip you.

I know the kind of girl that she is. Too well.

It's probably right now to the point where sometimes you feel as though she feels she's doing you a favor by dating you.

Every show of affection from her is usually promised till after marriage. She doesn't even know how to show that she loves you and most times you find yourself doubting this una love.

See, your mistake was letting her guilt trip you into accepting that you raped her.

If she brings that up next time, I want you to flare up. Get so angry that she either left or beg you.

Give her the cold shoulder for a while, maybe a week or more. Reduce your show of affection.

Constantly hammer it into her head how important sex is to you.

Most importantly, never ever accept her position on matters concerning sex and the relationship.

Be the man. Make sure she follows your instructions.

And try to seduce her every time you meet. Never leave her happy if she doesn't give you sex when you want it. Leave with your silent anger and make sure she's aware that you are angry.

The problem with most of you guys is that you are too afraid to force submissions from your woman.

Relationship power is not given, it must be taken and you're slacking.

If you don't stand your ground now, your daughter will be weaponized against you in the future

Queendera:
Obviously, she's manipulating you and you're falling for it continuously.

If you are the type that value your mental health and peace of mind, I'll say, please pack your bags and never look back.

You know why?

This manipulation will continue because she already had a fixed image, of not only you, but men in general at heart.

To her, you're nothing more than a "pen!s"

And that's what she uses to judge you.

And no you didn't rape her but instead of you to shout at her and make her accept responsibility for the act which obviously was performed by the two of you, you cowered and tried to be on the moral ground which doesn't exist.

She will continue to manipulate you like that, her friend is already a record holder.

In the future, more people will hold different receipts of any "wrong" you do to make sure that you are always guilty.

They don't change sir. They don't change. Marriage won't change her.

And let me say this, she's probably a church girl. Not judging but this is their general behavior

advanceDNA:


Bros...speculations here are based on limited info... if u were following me ..u will realize my speculation hangs on the fact that he waant raped and was only over reacting and decided to say so to make the guy feel bad for fvcking her when she ddnt want to....sębí u know wives do rape accusation thing too these days and they still remain married......So whats ur point....

Kooldon:

I read and the general house is telling him not to marry her again after she was proposed to and she needed time to accept.
Suddenly, you called of the marriage proposal courtesy of Nairaland.
Na to activate the rape case totally to protect my womanhood and my friend as a witness

Queendera:
Obviously, she's manipulating you and you're falling for it continuously.

If you are the type that value your mental health and peace of mind, I'll say, please pack your bags and never look back.

You know why?

This manipulation will continue because she already had a fixed image, of not only you, but men in general at heart.

To her, you're nothing more than a "pen!s"

And that's what she uses to judge you.

And no you didn't rape her but instead of you to shout at her and make her accept responsibility for the act which obviously was performed by the two of you, you cowered and tried to be on the moral ground which doesn't exist.

She will continue to manipulate you like that, her friend is already a record holder.

In the future, more people will hold different receipts of any "wrong" you do to make sure that you are always guilty.

They don't change sir. They don't change. Marriage won't change her.

And let me say this, she's probably a church girl. Not judging but this is their general behavior