Evolutionlove:


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The Mariners have Spoken😳

tiswell:
ahnie
sweetplum
goodlady
candidbabe


we need experienced comments here

godofuck231:
no , in Africa the mother is included , you can't own the fruit and not the tree , our ancestors forbid it

Tiopii:



Having a fruit doesn't make you owner of the tree. there are steps to be taken to own a wife and impregnating her isn't part of it

Jennyclay:
Men are to be blame and that’s the truth.

You demonic men would appear as a saint, deceiving ladies into marriage with your useless mouth, then disappear into thin air once you heard she’s pregnant .
Well, the good news is that we are wiser now and you men can’t deceive us anymore!!!

You nonsense men should learn to keep to promises and take up responsibilities.

It shall not be well with all promise and fail men
It shall not be well with all stingy ko ko men.

Honestly God will destroy you nonsense men!!

Olarewaju89:


Is like you are one the single mother because the pain in you is obvious. Sorry

Jennyclay:
sorry for yourself!!

Jennyclay:
Men are to be blame and that’s the truth.

You demonic men would appear as a saint, deceiving ladies into marriage with your useless mouth, then disappear into thin air once you heard she’s pregnant .
Well, the good news is that we are wiser now and you men can’t deceive us anymore!!!

You nonsense men should learn to keep to promises and take up responsibilities.

It shall not be well with all promise and fail men
It shall not be well with all stingy ko ko men.

Honestly God will destroy you nonsense men!!

BlackyOne:



I'm sure this one cannot stay in marriage, see bad character oozing from her write up.

The number one cause of failed marriage is a nagging wife, a woman who has entitlement mentality and feels the need to live up to screen and social media expectations (fake life).

A disrespectful woman doesn't last long in marriage.

And it's always better to leave as a man before you end up like saint obi

brainycaleb:
I was also thinking something similar like the OP, adult females nowadays age 25 and above, the majority of them take pleasure in their bad character and the society doesn't hold them accountable or responsible for anything.

Truth is, men can date any available female but will only marry a woman of high value! All the females I've come across in my entire dating life only discovered I was the best for them after we broke up! Two of them were single moms. The first one claimed she was raped(I didn't even bother to verify) but she later lied about being pregnant and having a miscarriage for me, I was devastated upon hearing that news(which I found out later to be a total lie and hence broke up with her) and the last one got pregnant following her friends around to catch fun with older men, just to belong. I advised her to keep the child and I was even ready to take responsibility for the child but one thing led to another, her bad character made her fell out with my mother and that was the end. I don't want a woman who can't really respect my mother.

I arrived at a conclusion that the genesis of this relationship pandemic should be blamed on bad parenting, the Nigerian society for copying and adopting every bad attributes from the western world in the name of cultural development. Once upon a time, girls were trained and prepared to become good wives and future Mothers. Nowadays,home training for females are now left to social media and bitter feminists who believe a woman must be given total freedom to do whatever she wants as the society watches on.

advanceDNA:


U are just quoting ideal scenario.....Which values will parent teach children of nowadays that will prevent them from fvcking around??

Greed is everywhere, pórn is everywhere, even movies and music videos makes fvcking around look cool......parents cant lock their kids at home....imagine 12 year olds of chrisland school the other having 3 or 4some...na parents teach them that one??..

The day i saw young girls call themselves "badbitch"......i realize just how strong social media influence is.......

casualobserver:


let me say this to you. As a teenager I was a bit rebellious but when i look at my life today, I realize that I am guided by the things my parents told me, what I saw, the values and examples they set. No matter how rebelious I was, I never got into drugs or impregnated any woman etc. Today, now that I have matured I realise that it is those values that guid my actions. What I realised is that children are smarter than we give them credit for and even though they may rebel, they dont forget. The mistake is to think you are fighting a losing battle in the world of today and dont do your job as a parent.

You are right, its hard parenting in today's world of social media, sexual promiscuity, drugs, materialism etc but your job as a parent is tokeep on emphasising your values...trust me it is not wasted.

you talk about 13yr old kids watching porn. when i was young, there were some houses where we could hang out and do stuff, very often you'll find even if the parents were together, they were often homes where the father was absent for long periods, travel work etc. They were the cool kids because we could hang out at their houses and be free. But guess what, when I look at the majority of my friends who have fallen by the wayside or not lived up to their potential, or even died from drugs, the majority come from such backgrounds...a home where things were too lax. in those days single moms were rare, now Imagine a home where there is no father to begin with and the kind of nonsense and laxity that will be happening in such homes, in order to compensate for an absent father...... these are the kids that influence other children with porn etc.

Its an unavoidable aspect of raising children in today's world but you have to stand your ground because you know better and not admit defeat. if a child from a baby mama is wayward, it is expected...what is the excuse of the child of 2 parent home....that you gave up and allowed fatherless children to influence how you raise your child? The world is tough, it is tougher when you surrender to the influence of baby mamas and their children.

In my house they know no sleepover unless I not my wife speaks to the father, no mother to mother business, thank god my wife is on the same page with me on single mothers. Anytime i see them with a new friend I ask who is your father and what does he do. It was a subtle way of letting my children know that if you dont have a father you are not welcome around my children and now they know without me expressly saying it.

the problem with many parents nowadays is they forget their role is to mould children not to be nice or agreeable. Your children are not your friends. the more they get away with nonsense or lack of boundaries/rules etc or the more they get what they want as children, the more damaged they will be later in life.

blueAgent:


True, parenting helps but it does mean children cannot learn wrong things from outside the home.

I hope you know their are children from single mothers not becos their mom was wayward but they are product of circumstances.

I have an aunt that was a virgin till her early 40tees ,she got married legally had a kid, a son, then things went south, the men abuses her, does not take care of his child, beats her and so on, she left the marriage.

This lady is devoted to God right from her teenage years till now, she met her husband in the church and it was agreed even by the church that they were destined for each other.

Do you blame the innocent child for such situations?

I hope you know there are many great successful ppl from single mothers.

Although don't support single motherhood, but we must be carefully not to judge all single mothers or children as product of bad decisions.

Life can be really unpredictable sometimes.

casualobserver:


There are exception that prove the rule. If you work hard you will be successful but not everyone who works hard is successful. A well balanced child raised by a single mother with an absent father is an exception, that they exist doesn’t change the rule. By the way there are a lot of successful deviants, success does not mean one isn’t a deviant. RKelly was successful but is ultimately a deviant so I am ultimately talking about well balanced members of society as opposed to success for success sake.

I am not referring to widows here, a child of a widow is a child of love, your parent died is different from you were not wanted. When you are a child of a widow, you still have a connection to your paternal and maternal side. A child of a single mother is usually only recognized by the mothers family. A child of a single mother is a child who knows one parent did not want him/her. Do you know how damaging that is for a child? I know of a single mother whose daughter changed her surname to her mother’s as soon as she was legally able to. Do you know the pain that child must have grown up with, can that child ever have a balanced relationship with a man? She has Uncles around her but it’s never the same. I don’t care whose fault it was that the parents had the child but that child is bleeped up. That’s the fate of many children of single mothers. That’s why the black community in America have a lot of bisexual/ gay emasculated men and their women continue the cycle of single motherhood. That is he epidemic we are bringing to Nigeria with all this single mother nonsense.

Like I said there will be exceptions but they are the exception rather than the rule. It’s like saying it is ok to be lazy because 1 or 2 lazy students in a class passed their exams. That kind of narrative ignores the other 20 lazy students in the class who failed….as expected.

The only people I give a pass are children of widows. It is difficult to raise children with 2 parents, talk less of being the bread winner and raising a child all by yourself with the psychological damage of knowing you weren’t wanted. Something will give and 90% of the time something does give.

It may not be politically correct to say this but most single mothers are single mothers because they are damaged. Again not politically correct but if you get to 40 and have not found a man to marry you, you have a fundamental problem. If you wait to get to 40 to marry by definition you are not getting the best men because the best men for her age are either long married to women her age or will marry younger women. What kind of man marries a 40yr olld? Not the best…that’s the truth. By the time you are getting married at 40 as a woman you are fishing in the bottom of the barrel…….plus the fact that there is something wrong with you that you are unmarried at 40. People don’t like to hear this but it is true.

blueAgent:


It's obvious you have a narrow world view.

There a thousands of ladies who are good, chaste but yet unmarried at 40.

Bad Character is not the only reason for many unmarried ladies.

casualobserver:


If you are reasonably attractive and you get to 40 single as a woman, there is something wrong with you. There is a reason men have not locked you down. By 40 you have had many opportunities to find a man, why do men not want to marry you? It is not only about chasity or promiscuity. You can be a virgin and yet no man wants to marry you. It could be an attitude problem, an expectation problem, it could be you think you are better than you really are, it could be she doesn’t know her level and she is looking for a husband at a level that is unobtainable for her level……there are so many reasons. In the same way, if a man has not gotten his act together by 40 he has a problem.


There is nothing like a "good" single woman at 40. If she were truly good, she would have been snapped up. Trust me when you get to know her intimately, you begin to understand why she is single. Do not confuse chastity with “good”. If you are a virgin, but you talk anyhow or you are too fussy, you are the type that say I cannot cook for your husband, we share everything 50/50, you are a feminist, you dress any how, her career is more important than her marriage, you don’t like to be corrected etc. I can go on and on, there are many unattractive traits women unknowingly display that rules them out no matter how good looking or successful they may be. The world of single matured women is filled with women who think more highly of themselves than the pool of available men. The more men you rule yourself out from, the less the pool of men that will even consider you. This is how so called “good” girls end up single at 40. These bad or unattractive traits we often do not see or experience until we get to know then upclose. There is nothing like a good single girl at 40. Good girls are married latest 35. If you are not married by that age it is because there is something men see and run away from.

A divorcee of 40 is a more viable partner than a single woman of 40. A divorcee is someone that some man has deemed worthy of marrying which means she has the traits men look for even though things did not work out..A divorcee of 40 will find a husband before a single woman of 40……fact! Like I said people don’t like to hear it but it is true. It’s like a man saying he is poor because this and that, no you are poor because you don’t have it takes to be successful.

Everybody has an excuse, there is no shortage of excuses but your reality is your truth. Your mates are married, the ugly ones are married, the short ones are married, the fat ones are married even the promiscuous ones are married, the career ones managed to marry but you are 40 and single and it’s the worlds fault? Carry on with the delusions,. Delusion is the reason most women get to 40 and are single, they tell themselves anything to stop them from addressing their flaws and weaknesses. Again I repeat. Virginity is not an automatic passport to marriage. That you are a virgin does not make you "good". most of her mates who are married were not virgins.

blueAgent:


That's a lie.

I know a sister who is still a virgin till now, works in the church highly devoted in her early 40's the challenge she has is that each time a man proposes to her, the wicked powers in her fathers house would appear in the man's dream to threathen that man, am not telling you stories but real life experience of someone I know personally.

So there are many factors that can lead to a lady been unmarried at 40, which might not be her character flaws.

casualobserver:


Jesus wept. Let me share a secret for all you church people, church is a reason many women will never marry. You can do this church matter to a point where you are not attractive to a man. I remember a girl I met when I was still single, on the first date she was talking about pastor this pastor that, giving me conditions and telling me how she seeks advice and permission from her pastor on everything….that was the last time I saw her. Nobody wants a marriage where you are competing with pastor, if it is God one can understand not pastor. To the best of my knowledge she is still single, still churching and I am married with 3 kids.

I repeat for the umpteenth time virginity is not an asset, certainly not a guarantee of marriage , it can even be a liability. As for your story, these are the kind of stories women tell themselves to run away from the real reason they are unattractive to men. There is no wicked powers appearing in any dream, the reason why men run away from her is that she clearly always talks about demonic forces and that turns men away. Nobody wants to marry someone or live in a household where you turn to your wife and everything is explained demonic forces. Again I hope you are seeing the real reason she has not found a man. She does not take responsibility for her actions and blames others…this time the devil. You have just proved my theory about single mature women. They are single because they have problems.

The irony of someone saying I have a narrow view of life and then coming here to blame the devil appearing to suitors for a woman’s failure to marry. Which man wants to marry that kind of woman, virgin or no virgin?

I am a Christian myself but these Pentecostal pastors do more harm to single woman by messing up with their minds.

blueAgent:


You still don't get it, it was not the lady that talked about having about demons or been attacked, it was the prospective husbands who keep having such dreams that told her about the occurrence.

Am not telling you a story, this is 100% true life experience.

You think life is just about what one likes or want?
I laugh, if that is true we all would have had our wishes come true.

There are many ladies who are victims of circumstances beyond their ability if you have not seen I have.

casualobserver:


You have just proven what i said from the start...if a woman of 40 is not married, the problem is her. All you have written is the story of a woman who doesnt take responsibility for herself and blames others for her failures. Clearly we both agree that the problem is with the woman, i think we can agree that she is not single because of a lack of suitors. so we can agree that a woman getting to 40 and single is not due to a lack of suitors. Where we disagree is that I say the problem is of her own making and you are trying to blame everyone else except the woman. Whatever the case you have just proven that the woman get k-leg which is why she isnt married proving what i said at the beginning, if a woman gets to 40 and is single the problem is her. Like all 40 yr old single women, they have a problem that stops them from getting married, its never a lack of suitors. if you are a "good" woman one of those suitors will have snapped her up, nobody lets a good thing go.....if they all run then she is not "good"...simple.

Look, i used to have one long term reliable back in the day that told all her friends that the reason we didnt marry was because my mother did not like her but she has never met my mother, my mother does not even know her. The truth is she was never even my girlfriend, we were F**K buddies and she always knew. She never had the qualities i sought in a wife, she is also still unmarried, so it is not just me that didnt see her as wife material. Women always make up stories to hide their shame.

Were you there when all these men said they are having dreams? has it occurred to you that it is something in her personality, character or mindset that made all these men run away and to hide her shame she says these men have dreams? Is this not another example of too much brainwashing by pastors such that we blame everything on spiritual forces instead of taking responsibility? The problem with Church singles, is that when people like me tell you the truth, you dont listen, you prefer to be brainwashed by pastors who have a dubious interest to keep women in bondage. if you are doing something for 40 years and you dont get results, what you are doing is clearly not working. unfortunately for women by the time you get to 40, there is very little hope and the pastors will just continue to feed on your desperation. I am a christian, the people that brought the christianity to Africa do not do christianity like we do.

keep deluding yourselves. like I said delusion is the primary reason women get to 40 and are single.

blueAgent:


You are tiring, how is that her problem?
Was she the one that had the dream?
Did she create the dream in the minds of the prospective spouse?

You are inexperienced, talk like a kid, I bet you have

Little life experience.

casualobserver:


you are delusional, did the men tell you they had dreams or the woman. because if it is the woman i can tell you 100% she is lying, she is only lying to cover up her shame of not being to keep a man!!!

casualobserver:


you are delusional, did the men tell you they had dreams or the woman. because if it is the woman i can tell you 100% she is lying, she is only lying to cover up her shame of not being to keep a man!!!