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Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Odani: 4:38pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
beekind: Confide in your mother whatever she advises you to do heed to her advice. |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by metro8032: 4:46pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
The same case with my wife but we have 2kids already,even my wife mother was surprised when she got pregnant.So they is chances of getting pregnant 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Danja: 4:49pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
I have been struggling with same issue for 13yrs now with no success. The choice is yours. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Kukutenla: 4:49pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Kobojunkie:Wow!! You've been on attack mode since 4a.m. Isn't it time you give it a rest?!! Did a man steal your virginity and leave you empty or you have PCOS and now looking to de-stigmatize? Give it a rest lass. You're not the subject of conversation here |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by zakkxx: 4:54pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Craze de worry you ooo, 27 to 35 for a lady is good and perfect for child bearing. You want her to fornicate because of your useless agenda. Oga live her alone, look for olosho that will be sleeping with you and other men , carry another man belle nakam for your head. 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by josite: 4:54pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
beekind: When you want to take any step and you are troubled.put that step in kiv and seek counsel ,not from the public but persons with deep knowledge and above all pray to your own God. Certainly do not go ahead with the marriage in this state of mind 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Padipadi(m): 4:54pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
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Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Onyenku3(m): 4:58pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
I love it when people express their concerns in clear terms without pretense. You need to check her family history. Do they have challenges with child birth? As a virgin, her case is either purely medical or hereditary or both. Seek professional medical opinions and advice. Discuss your concerns with her. If you leave here, there's no guarantee that the next person you'll marry wouldn't struggle with conception. There's no clear cut,sure fire way to conceive. Just as you plant seeds and hope they germinate, so you plant your semen and pray conception happens. |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by virginchaser(m): 4:58pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
humilitypays: Your last paragraph, you tried. Angel you are, I guess? |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Executive729: 5:02pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Lorazepam: Listen, I am serious don't carry any woman's baggage, it's never worth it, if she is in your shoes she will dump you in the name 'na pikin I dey fine' let's say you have low sperm count she will, she knows time is not on her side. If you gave her comfort of marriage and she hasn't get pregnant on time she will go desperate and have an affairs to try someone else whilst she is still married to you that is if you still have something she desires, otherwise she will be gone. To summarize things up if you know you desires her i mean that you love her, SHE MUST ALLOW YOU TO DES VIRGIN HER, try for a baby in the next 2 years, if she is pregnant you can then go ahead to marry her. IF SHE IS NOT PREGNANT DON'T MARRY HER OOO, you will regret it oo |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Whatisurproblem(m): 5:06pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
beekind:how do you know she's a virgin? She told you that and you believe? Clap for ya sef, and more over, what kept you from marry all these while? So now you will be training your child in university at age 65 to 70 right? We should be discussing your own problems |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by tbliss22(m): 5:07pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
This world and problems sef.... |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Montaque(m): 5:07pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
I understand your fear. I have been there and its not easy. We dated from University, graduated together and started work at the same time. Two years into that, marriage discussions came up. I feared the same thing you feared now. I have seen couples look for the fruit of the womb and I know what they went through. Some don't even see the end of it. We had a discussion and I told her my fear - I doubt if she will conceive. We had no solution to it. Its either we go ahead with the marriage like that or we call it off. Our families know themselves and she already is at peace with my parents. I prayed a lot about this issue. One day, I had a dream that we were married, and still living in one room. She had a child in that dream. The house was leaking and rain was falling inside. The child was crying. Our living condition in that dream showed poverty. I woke up and smiled. I knew our problem in the marriage won't be child bearing. The problem will be poverty and that has a solution - work hard and smart. I prayed some more. After like two months, I had a similar dream. We were still in the one room, she was carrying a child. This time, the room was well lit, no leaking roof and I was playing with my baby on the bed. Everyone was happy. I woke up and knew we are good to go. I asked her parents for her bridal list. We are married now with a son. Infact, she took in after about 4 months. During the 4 months, she was worried about pregnancy, but I wasn't. I already knew it wont be a problem. I knew what will be the problem and I am working very motivated to make more money for our comfort. We have moved to a bigger house, bought a car, sponsored her siblings, done deals together. If I had not married her, I would have missed out on a gem. No one could do the things she do for me now. So my brother, get closer to God and ask him to show you what you don't know. You can't know tomorrow, no matter how you try. Leave things for God to handle. He will open your eyes to see what you need to know about your marriage. Peace. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Kukutenla: 5:12pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Adanambra1: Lienus. Welldone |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by AKWATGOLD1(m): 5:14pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Take your case to God in prayer. beekind: |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Charly68: 5:14pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
beekind:Fear is what the devil uses to control your experience while God uses faith to determine what you experience in life. From the look of things you fear bareness too much than expected .Yout brother has his life to live while you have your own too... No matter how careful you try to be ,only God knows the outcome of our lives. Fear nothing brother ... |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Kukutenla: 5:15pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Uyi168: Sign of frustration if you ask me |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Bluette(f): 5:16pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Please speak with your parents. This is one of the roles of our parents. We can give you all the advise you want but I tell you no one loves you more than your parents. Consult them. They are the one that can handle anything you decide. And please prayerfully consider everything. |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by MrSmithy: 5:19pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Create an adoption plan with her now should in case e no enter u can opt for adoption |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Allstream: 5:19pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Please dont marry out of pity. i am talking to you from experience. if you must marry her, then the two of you must let your family be aware of this challenge and the two families must have clear understanding of the circumstance. This is important because should there be a delay in child birth, you will require the support of the two families to pull through the challenge. This matter is not for the church or Pastor to decide for you please. It is purely a family matter. I had a nasty emperience in my first marriage based on a similar situation, and my case was a case of well packaged half truth and it ended in a devastating divorce, and that is why i took time out of my busy schedule to drop you these few lines. If you want to hear from me over conversation, drop me a mail on justaboutchange@gmail.com 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Kukutenla: 5:20pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:You sound ridiculously ignorant of what marriage entails. Part of those who share in the joys of marriage is the couples' parents. Nothing woke kids like you can do to change that. The main reason of marriage is procreation. Others come secondary so it is not out of place for Op to consider procreation more important than love. It shows he is a responsible man who thinks of others and not himself alone. 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by CoronaVirusPro: 5:24pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Padipadi: Fvck you! |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by omotolly22(f): 5:27pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Kukutenla: Nawa oh , people would just spill nonsense without been informed Abortion causing pcos , haba ,do your research without posting false information Even teenagers that just started menstration, suffer from pcos , it is a hormonal imbalance caused by excess androgen Please stop misleading people 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Greenfaces: 5:36pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
beekind: Let her agree that you can take another wife if birth becomes an issue |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Padipadi(m): 5:37pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
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Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Greenfaces: 5:40pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:strange world we live. He can leave for another woman declared medically fit for pregnancy and still childbirth is an issue. The doctors and scientists don't know it all after all 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by drmorphine(m): 5:40pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
SIXTEENTH: Best advice I can recommend. Heed before it's too late 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by VULCAN(m): 5:45pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
You are not thinking critically. There are 22yr olds that are infertile. So if you dump her and pick a 22yr old and marry; what happens if that one cannot get pregnant? Only for you to meet your fiance 10yrs later and she has 3 kids. The option you have is for her to do a fertility test. But will she agree? |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Greenfaces: 5:46pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
humilitypays:You think like Niccolo Machiaveli of The Prince. 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by teewhyhomes: 5:48pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
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Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by zactunji(m): 5:48pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Bros PCOS is treatable,if u love her go ahead and marry her ,put everything in god hand .your brother case is different.if u eventually marry another girl and after marriage and u discover she av terminal disease like cancer what will u do . |
Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by Kukutenla: 5:54pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
omotolly22:Keep quiet and stop arguing. Abortion can lead to hormonal imbalance Contraceptives can lead to hormonal imbalance Psychological issues can lead to hormonal imbalance Hygiene issues can lead to hormonal imbalance Overwieght and underweight can lead to hormonal imbalance PCOS is hormonal imbalance 1 Like |
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