opribo:

Well you dont need to do much as long as he loves you. Being over there with you i am sure the true Iboism must have been diluted but there are some things that will never fade away from the Ibo husband.
You must treat him like a king, when he talks you must listen no matter how valuable your opinion miggt be. Throw away all those American abusive language just calm down and talk to him dont ever raise your voice to avoid a[b] dastardly slap across your pretty face. We dont want to be challenged.[/b]

Then you must learn how to make good food, the type he likes. You must love his children very very well. You must dress well always and take care of the home. You must be very prayerful and always pray for him everyday and sing for him.
You must love his family even if you dont like them you must not show it.

You must be a decent and virtuous woman the type that  brings joy to the family. No boyfriends and no too much friends.

sexkillz:

Your dumbness is in Miles per seconds. . . Ode! I wonder if your brain has ever been used, cos i dont know how else you'll explain this dumb comment!

agiboma:

Your post reminded me of myself a few years ago so inlove with an Igbo man and wanting to do all i can to please him. I am Canadian living in Nigeria with an Igbo husband. Well my dear here is the deal all the things you are doing sounds great, and hopefully your husband will see you as an excellent wife. If you move to Nigeria with him in the  future hopefully he will stay the same and not "renationalize" and what i mean is become a Nigerian. The man i had in Canada and the man i got here in Nigeria are 2 completly different people. In Canada he is sweet man of my dreams and in Nigeria well all i can do is manage. Dont deceive yourself its possible your husband is sweet and will remain that way to you, but just prepare yourself for anything once you arrive here.  @ the end of the day i hope you got one of the good ones and if so he is definetly worth hanging on too.

success4:

thanks for hating the truth! Sycophant

You are highly welcome. . . Mor[i]o[/i]n!

sexkillz:

You are highly welcome. . . Mor[i]o[/i]n!

Mrs, Chima:

When she said that her husband isn't into experimenting in the bedroom or doesn't want to try new things, I immediately kissed Oga Chima!  Thank you LAWD!!!_{Hmm. I just thought of a new trick.}  

sexkillz:

sexkillz:

You are highly welcome. . . Mor[i]o[/i]n!

seedord247:

smh @ the bolded part.

Poster if you are not married to him traditionally and he eventually die on the long Run . . You will get married to him in his Corpse.Igbo pple are wicked.

success4:

Mofo what happens?

You get injected with anti-dumb injections!

BigBenoski:

@poster: where in particular is ur man from(ie state,local govt.)? U shouldnt get disturbd about security and some other trivialities. If u r sure this dude loves u,den just respect him,feed him well and GO TO SLEEP. He'l catch bullets 2 make u happy. D pride of an average igbo man is his wife, he'l wear rags 2 make sure u wear dem best designers. My only fear is, he migt just b pretending 2 love u and wen he gets ol he came 2 d states 4, off he goes. Anyway,i cud help u run a background check on him so u r sure u aint dealing wt a married man, 4 free ofcourse. Another important question, have u been speaking wt his mum over d phone??

dtanigwe:

Forgive me if I'm not very forthcoming on a lot of personal info, pls, don go scare me now. dats my worst fear, too. I've never spoken with any of his family members. I met a cousin of his who lives here in the states and spoke to his wife. dats all.

Mrs, Chima:

Wow.  It is important that you speak with his immediate family members.  I know international calling can be expensive but make an effort to speak with his parents and siblings at least before going to Nigeria (when you go). 

It has been a year and the only family members you have spoken to is his cousin/wife.  Wow.  It was important for my husband and I to know both families before we moved to the next level in our relationship. 

When you spend time with his family, you will pick up on a lot of things therefore it wouldn't be much of a surprise later on in life.  Now if he is preventing you from contacting his family then something is not right. 

You are part of their family whether they like it or not but you have every rights to know his family because if you guys are planning on having children it is important. 

dtanigwe:


I questioned him once about why he's never let his family talked to me and he told me I'll meet his family when we go to Nigeria. He talks to ppl in 9ja all the time. Honestly I'm not even sure anybody in 9ja knows I exist. Before we married he just quit a bad relationship, he say the woman was witch, and he always worries what ppl think. He told me he didn't want ppl thinking he left dis woman and baby to come run around with american women and play in America

success4:

Best way to love a Igbo man is to be ready to use your 1st child for money RITUAL.
Truth is bitter

dtanigwe:


I questioned him once about why he's never let his family talked to me and he told me I'll meet his family when we go to Nigeria. He talks to ppl in 9ja all the time. Honestly I'm not even sure anybody in 9ja knows I exist. Before we married he just quit a bad relationship, he say the woman was witch, and he always worries what ppl think. He told me he didn't want ppl thinking he left dis woman and baby to come run around with american women and play in America

jedisco:

I hardly reply on this forum but I just want to because i didn't like your mothers story and I feel you deserve better
I know I might sound sceptical but as am Igbo man I noticed somethings that I am worried about
1. He is Igbo and his main reason of going abroad might have been to make money
2. You said he is quite new in town and is settling down. Hope he is not using you to achieve that purpose or get his papers
3. He said he just ended a relationship with a 'witch' with which he had a child. See Igbo men value their wife and kids. If the other lady was Igbo I am almost certain he is married to her and sees her as his true and only wife.
4. His refusal to introduce you to his family means alot. This most likely may be because his other woman is in the care of his family and they will be shocked to know you exist.
5. He has political ambitions and its almost certain he will come back to achieve them and the fact is you might not help him much in achieving them due to family support and a different political environment.
6. He most likely will speak in Igbo language to his relatives meaning you will not understand their discussion which makes it tougher.
7. You should also observe how often he sends money home. This will show you how soon he wants to return as they may be for some projects or his own family

My advice for you is
1. Try as much as possible to speak with his family especially his mother and sisters as they are the main people involved in family issues
2. You did not say whether you have a child for him. But if you dont then dont get pregnant until you are fully aware of family background and his family also know you
3. Just be careful as i have my reservations toward this man
4. Also dont allow external interference in your family but listen to your parents advice as most times they speak the truth from experience that your peers dont have and you wont get on this forum. But the problem comes with sifting out their natural selfishness, bias and love from the truth they give.

Mrs, Chima:

Wow.  You are on point.   

OP, trust me Igbo men take GREAT pride in their wives, children, and family.  It is IMPORTANT that his family approves you ESPECIALLY if he really loves you.  The ENTIRE FAMILY will know you exist before you even know they exist because an Igbo man in love will shout it with pride. 

We are not saying he doesn't love you but some of the things you have shared are alarming.  Shine your eyes.