desari: @acidtalk... Great advice.

My post on NL was an avenue for me to vent my frustration. I have not met any men from any online channels and I am very wary of finding someone this way. My frustration got the better me yesterday, i sorta regret puting my business out here like this. On the flip side, i have gotten great advice and learned of places in NY that decent naijas hang out that I didn't know about before.There are many people yarning OMG she is in NY, there are so many naijas there. Do y'all have any idea how big NY is? NY has 5 boroughs with naijas living in the different boroughs. I have lived in NY for quite a few yrs and there are some boroughs I have still not been to.

Anyway, without talking too much, I am already exploring the close family member angle and we are planning a trip to a state that has a high concentration of our people. I will continue to pray and soonest God will lead the right man to me or me to him.

Mynd_44: Hi I am mynd_44 and I like studying patterns. This pattern looks very familiar and you know how they say two triangle are similar if that have two sides and one angle equal.
I don't know about y'all but it should not be hard to realise that the OP= fuckherlord. This babe just wants the attention. Perhaps she was not hugged enough as a growing child or she is just messed up

Mynd_44: Hi I am mynd_44 and I like studying patterns. This pattern looks very familiar and you know how they say two triangle are similar if that have two sides and one angle equal.
I don't know about y'all but it should not be hard to realise that the OP= fuckherlord. This babe just wants the attention. Perhaps she was not hugged enough as a growing child or she is just messed up

2mch: I think logica wants Desari. He is desperately looking for her attention. H finally got it. Take the stage man. Stop doing primary school tactics. Just leave your email.

2mch: I think logica wants Desari. He is desperately looking for her attention. H finally got it. Take the stage man. Stop doing primary school tactics. Just leave your email.

desari: @find out

I know there are many decent akata and oyinbos but it is so much different dating a nigerian man. I can feel free to watch my yoruba movies, without him asking me questions all the time about what they are saying (if there are no subitles) i can feel free to cook my ila asepo with all sorts of assorted meat, stock fish and iru( without the person thinking it is stinky) I can feel free to cook my egusi and efo riro without any weird comments. I can discuss business proposals with a naija man in a way that a oyinbo man or akata man will never understand. we can discuss naija politics e.t.c it is just so much sweeter being with a nigerian in my opinion.

I have had a few oyinbos promising me cars, houses, anything i wanted if i would marry them, but i just can't see myself saying "till death do us part" with a oyinbo/akata man.

tpia@:
Open mindedness isnt only about dating- dont know why this is commonly the only context in which it's mentioned.

Lord_Reed:

And you are the best example of open mindedness huh?

2mch:



Have you asked tpiah to give you a try and she refused?
Leave tpiah o, I like her quick wit, trolling ability, and assertiveness. .

desari: @hotshot_peter

Nah, definitely not a gold digger...just want someone who can bring as much to the table as i do. Of couse it is not all about money, but there is no way i am taking care of a grown a.s.s man.

Thanks for your civility, i wish you good luck as well in all your future endeavours.

Mrs.Chima:


Yes...there are.

amosy007:
well said. Not every guy gives a capital "F" abt money.. Even most naija guys prefer to be d man in a marriage

I know there are many decent akata and oyinbos but it is so much different dating a nigerian man. I can feel free to watch my yoruba movies, without him asking me questions all the time about what they are saying (if there are no subitles) i can feel free to cook my ila asepo with all sorts of assorted meat, stock fish and iru( without the person thinking it is stinky) I can feel free to cook my egusi and efo riro without any weird comments. I can discuss business proposals with a naija man in a way that a oyinbo man or akata man will never understand. we can discuss naija politics e.t.c it is just so much sweeter being with a nigerian in my opinion.

I have had a few oyinbos promising me cars, houses, anything i wanted if i would marry them, but i just can't see myself saying "till death do us part" with a oyinbo/akata man.

desari: Nairalanders,

I am a career woman in my late 20's living in the U.S. It has been almost impossible for me to meet good Nigerian men much less Nigerian men at my financial level. As you all know the U.S is very big; i generally don't hang out with Nigerians..not that i don't want to, i just don't know where and how to go about meeting up with my people. When i do go out to naija lounges or clubs in my area, all i find are little kids playing around or 419ers( which i would rather remain single than have anything to do with them). I have tried the church avenue, but i am catholic, and catholic churches in the U.S are much different from naija catholic churches. I live in NYC, so anyone that can give me pointers on where to meet eligible professional Naija men would be great.

I have been very blessed and fortunate in my chosen career, and i would want a partner that can pull his own weight financially in a relationship. Though i have accepted that i would most likely do much better than a potential partner, i can never respect a man that would find it hard to give me money to cook food in the house and take care of some bills, instead of assuming i will take care of it since i make much more. Akatas and white men chase me all day, but i would rather settle down with a Nigerian man(preferably yoruba) i am half yoruba and half something else I grew up in naija, so i speak yoruba and can cook naija food well well.

Let me add that i am well mannered and come from a great family. Guys and girls, if you have single brothers who are financially stable, between 29 and 35 years old looking to settle down, please IM me. Thanks!

queensmith: erm why are u looking for a nigerian man?

D10000: Hi,I actually feel you on the topic. Basically I'm also looking for a woman who I can feel the buzz for and just concentrate on her. If you dont't mind hook me up.davidchike2@yahoo.com. Intellect is what I'm after.

desari: @ekt bear, thanks for your advice. I am more than reasonably good looking, i am just not fortunate to be around nigerians in my line of work. As you have noted, my catholic church has very few black people; everytime i attend mass, the black people in church number between 3 and 5...never more than that. I think attending a few RCCG services are in order

@Braveheart: Great advice as well. I don't live a flashy lifestyle at all for the reasons you mentioned and its just not part of my personality to put myself out there like that. I also know that living a flashy lifestyle will only attract the wrong people. At this point, i have even become evasive about telling people what i do.
Instead of being a spend thrift, I invest my money, shop for the things i need, enjoy fine dining in NYC, take my mom on vacations a few times a year and save towards retirement.

ye2nday: i love your comment and i will like to know you better,wud like to know your problems so that in order to find solution to them i know that people wut understand why i'm writing this but to candit wit you we need to relate ok. this my ID on FB ookunfeyijimi@yahoo.com

mamalola19: that is a question? What's wrong with white men? Kmt
That
can you marry a white man yourself?

Ileke-IdI:
^^^she's back !!