₦airaland Forum

optional1:
11years old







which kind stup!t country be this for crying out loud.

Shame we don't have.

is this a country's fault again? Must the country be tagged to everything? Isn't this a world wide moral problem?

pauljumbo:
Why most of the president staff insultive

No more decorum in the presidency

This same man insults Jonathan

So Fayose can go about making stuppid and sick statements and should not get a small piece of his own dish?

If there is no decorum in the presidency because Fayose is insulted then what you label fayose? An irresponsible governorship misroad I guess.

NwaAmaikpe:




The useless nosy uncle just put sand in somebody's garri.

nairaland admins should an this idiot a ban till 2045.

Annie939:
turns up for him

Thumbs

CharlotteFlair:
You, when are you sarrki and LionDeLeo going to London to pay your last respects too? Or you still don't believe buhari has crossed the Rubicon?

So the PDP governors are going to visit who? The Queen?

I guess this your post is the result of menstrual pains. Na like so he dey do you when he don start?

awa:
Why all these rubbish? Thought they said he is coming back in few days time?

Did you lot believed when they said it? Were you all not doubtful and been praying he should be impeached based on some nonsense you guys cooked up in your myopic minds?

Hahaha. I so love this. FFK will be p*ssing and shitting in his pants now. He won't like this at all.

Leonbonapart:
upon all the problem and trouble ravaging your life, na Christ Embassy be your problem abi.
misplace priority

You people pastor worshippers have extremely low or no QI at all. Was this an attack on Christ Embassy?

What hell of a supposed religion centre will even endanger the lives of it members? You hate the truth because you have been brain washed into believing "touch not my anointed" means the pastor can't do no wrong.

Midgut:
When Fayose was fighting filling stations owners in Ekiti some nincompoops were screaming dictatorship and tyranny. Fayose is one of the leaders that have foresight in Nigeria and will always remain that. In a sane clime, prevention is better than cure but the reverse is the case here in my country. What an irony! what a country this is!

Do you even know the real reason Fayose was fighting them? Was it related to what the OP is saying?

It is obvious you can't miss an opportunity to praise Fayose.

Does it come with a brain box? Cos most of these yeyebrities are indebted to the IQ bank.

beamtopola:
Oh, na Yoruba Muslim, APC chieftain. Tinubu you are next in line so that the entire sw will have sense and start reasoning like humans.

If only that man had pulled or used a condom.

If only.

conductor15:

Evidence of Nigerian's failed educational system. You mean to tell me that these so called youths in a age of social media actually believed the fuckery written above?

I give up on this zoo for the last time.

But if the "fuckery" was against Nigeria, you will believe it. You bloody hypcrite.

dbynonetwork:
AFONJA LIFESTYLE....
there men would always sleep around with different women despite being married, while there women are professionals in bed hooping...

Flavour, tuface and Timaya must all be afonjas. Idiota.

GeneralOjukwu:

Mister

Seun - Thank you

Osewa - Beans maker.

I hail ooo Mark Nsukkabag of Nigeria.

Not easy for a young man to blaze a trail.

Just try to clean up your forum... I was "clean" before, when I joined. I shouted and ranted about MODs banning tribalism and crime-encouraging posts (especially rape).

...Until I joined the NCAN crew.


Nairaland can achieve more. Use it to promote positive messages. I have read here of an 18 year old who committed murder simply because that was the Google response to "how to get rid of a girlfriend"

Freedom of speech shouldn't come at the detriment of Nigeria's image. Urge your MODs to be more proactive.

Censors boards in India and China actively promote the image of their country. That American spirit can be replicated here in Nigeria.

Good luck!

Me I don chop bans tire for complaining and even change monikers twice but won't give up.

Amastermovic:
Lagos.. Were we hunt 15mins ride from Lagos.. But me only go to receive fresh air don't hunt got phobia for river and fighting fish on canoe..

how much do you sell a complete snake? I am very interested.

rodrirodri:
Seyi himself is lousy... he is good at throwing silly jokes at others... but he can't take one back... a simple ignore button would have been good.. but TRUST MY YORUBA PEOPLE ALWAYS LoUSY...NOISE NOISE and MORE NOISE

Oloribuku born troaway who wakes his parents with a sidekick has to bring the yorubas into this.

Sterope:
Forgetting someone's birthday has become a respect issue abi.

We shall see where you will take this respect to.

You look the respect out of context. When you look a man, you respect him absolutely and that includes not doing things that will hurt him ( deliberately as a form of revenge).

Some of you women ( especially those that have become more western than the west) don't just want to accept the fact that the way to a man's heart is total respect.

The way a marriage works is each person knowing their job and doing their job regardless of whether the other person does theirs or not. A man is to love the woman, absolutely, whether she remembers his birthday or not.

joyAA:
Ummmm
'Scus me....

Didn't ya'all court or something?


Cs Ds is pretty hard to miss while dating...

That aside, maybe...maybe ni ooi...maybe you overreacted in times past when he tried correcting you over little things... Although that is never a reason to involve third party whether your own family or his.

Pray over the situation, then on a good day, casually bring it up, maybe while watching some drab show on TV or somn, try to get his 'why' there must b a reason he will overlook correcting you himself instead going over to family, try n see his reason, have you shown yourself immature in some way in the past? Does he see you as irresponsible? Or does he think you are a rebel ?

Hopefully his answers will be no, you aren't all these, then you simply ask him to trust you, and 'correct' you himself after all the marriage involves you both only.

To repair your home na your hand e dey oooo

I wish you success

Kisses to the baby

If it is a new habit of the husband, I think the OP has done something that has made him stonewall her ( somewhat ) and resort to reporting to her folks.

My wife won't listen to me too a while back, until I brought it to her parents and when that won't work, it got to nairaland ( which is also a member ) and I DELIBERATELY made her stumble upon it ( even though I used another moniker ) the blasting she got and to seat up.

She was hurting me, the whole world was telling her it was wrong until she saw couple of people stylishly ( I feel sheepish saying this ) trying to chyke up her husband here before she knew it to be a crime.

The OP may be in the same boat. MAY, not certainly.

psalms37:
Answers to questions
1.Exactly a year old
2.I recently put to bed so sex is out (csection)
3.I have talked to him several times even my mum snd elder sis did but he continues
4.its not that i don't pray anymore but the baby and work takes so much of my time
5.i have to admit forgetting his bthday was a revenge mission
6.Bringing it to nairaland i knew i will be misunderstood but am really frustrated and i have noone to talk to

You are lucky I am able to find this post. I am just somehow interested in your case because I have been there. My advise to you, don't be fooled by what anyone, including myself will tell you on this forum.

Many of those saying rubbish are not married and those who are married ( few ) are just patching and padding their homes.

Now to the meat of it all.

I need to ask more questions ( I am sorry but it is necessary )

1. Was he a nagger when you were courting?

2. Aside he complaining to your folks about not praying and you forgetting ( deliberately ) his birthday what else has he complained about?

And as for you forgetting his birthday deliberately, that's wrong, very wrong of you. It is a marriage not a competition. This similar issue almost ended my marriage. I am not here to criticise you but that is a no no. You can only win a man back by respecting him. You can wish him happy birthday, make him happy and let him know you didn't like he forgetting your wedding anniversary rather than revenging.

Because of that singular act things have got very bad but not out of control.

Do you mind if we talk over the phone? If you don't mind, send me your number privately. I have followed you. But if you don't mind it here, answer the questions above, we will work out something and by GOD's grace it will end well for your marriage.

Don't give up. The first few years is often like that according to people who know. Your marriage is not the worst and even if it is, it is still very repairable unless you do not love your husband any more or do not want the marriage any more.

Op if you want to find solution on nairaland you have

1. Accept you will receive some stupid advises and learn to discern which is worth it.

2. You will be abused and misjudged by people who don't even know you.

3. You have to reveal more than you have revealed.

I am married for a little less than 2 years but I have had my challenges and think I can help here but I have some questions for you

1. How long have you been married?

2. Have you been denying him sex - this can make a man nag without meaning to.

3. Why did you stop being prayer - judging by what you said your husband complained about, you appear to be the prayerful one before you got married. Why did it stop? It could well be one of the reasons he married you.

4. You forgetting his birthday, was it a revenge on he forgetting you both wedding anniversary?

5. Have you had a serious, I mean very serious one on one with him on this issue before you brought it here? If you have, what was his response? What agreement did you both reach.

Answering these questions will help us to help your marriage. But no matter what, calm down first. We all have our problems. I and my wife have had it worst I believe. But we are fine now cos we talked to someone who was able to help.

Your "someone" may just be me or any nairalander.

Artistree:
Chai, a nagging man is the worst thing to happen to any woman. A man that cannot keep his mouth shut or even discuss matters with his wife before spreading his dirty linen outside, shamelessly complaining upandan like a canary.
Peace will elude you when you find yourself with that poor excuse of a man, pele dear.

Have you asked the wife if she and the husband have discussed it or how did you come to this conclusion?

And didn't she see he nags and forgetful before they got married?

You are calling someone's husband poor excuse of a man just because you have heard only the wife's side? Makes no sense at all.

They commit so many crimes then use the name of GOD to deceive those that want to be deceived.

What nonsense is this for Christ sake. You are talking of greatest song in Nigeria and this is the nonsense you came up with.

Please note music didn't start in the 2000s in Nigeria.

Those that wake their parents with sidekicks will soon come here to criticise this.

Matter of time.

Rokaa:
It's unfortunate that Sule Lamido is bright and violent at the same time. Same rascality landed him in jail recently. His unguarded comments potray him as a petty being.

That's who some want to become the President in 2018.

I lived in Lagos for 18 years and in Ibadan for 1 year, Ibadan has hands down better roads when compared to Lagos.

Only Abeokuta is better in the south west.

Tahrah:
So what if she didn't wear bra?Did she go topless?As for the people above me,are you trying to justify sexual harrasment?

Are you trying to justify indecency?

QueenOfNepal:
I went back to check what Seyi posted and it had to do with Igbos your worst nightmare.

Take this pill.

Hypocrisy. Check the names of the people commenting on that nonsense post by Malaye, a good chunk of them are ibos. You lot always meddling in people's affair due to your hate for anything Buhari/Tinubu

Nothing more. You can go against your own father provided it will in your myopic mind hurt Buhari/Tinubu.

Guess it is time to take position in Union bank. I expect their share price to skyrocet with this news.

NwaAmaikpe:



Does this mean that Sunday Oliseh is next.


This one that the reaper angel has remembered the Nigerian coaches again.

You are an insensitive bastard.

Rip to the dead. I am shocked.