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Dygeasy: Na your own school abi my own?

Na your school but you go sha pay teacher. There's love in sharing biko!

Kinkybraids: im takind down notes... Ill be honest your interpretation is that he is a grown man ect but his just a student like me. He is a year younger.... I wish i could give him the credit for everthing you said above but his a student and guys from uni play many games.

I was blunt n asked and he answered me with a question... 'what do u think I want?' then he said he wants the same thing he wanted when we first met...to this day i still dont know

But thank you for the indepth advice

Student? Well, if you have no plans of settling down soon then you can date him for the experience and to while away time, otherwise, I will tell you to look for a more mature man.


As to his response to your question then it is clear he doesn't quite mean well. Since you are not a psychic or soothsayer, how will you know what is in his mind.

My humble opinion is, from what you have told me, I doubt if he has good intentions.

This land is for my son mufu.
No family or stranger must trespass here.

Aitee1: Interesting write-up! Sincerely I'm not guilty of any. Op more grease to ur elbow

Good to know. Please do not listen to your female friends who will try to advice you otherwise. They are only looking for who to drag along their misery and lonely lives.

obayaya: Can I enroll for tutorial classes?

School Fees: 1 Carton of Malta Guiness, One Crate of Soya Malt and 1 Carton of Pringles.

Kinkybraids: That point about him getting revenge is really catching my interest. Im actually in a similar situation. There is this guy that i think is good looking, nice but doesnt excite me to talk to him. He asked me out around march n we had a great time but his follow up was weak...maybe he expected me to call. So he went silent but we would occasionally talk. He asked me out again n i always said i was busy bt id see. We met just for a stroll n i felt no chemistry but he tells me he has feeling for me ect. I didnt reciprocate n now he is back asking me out on date and telling me his feelings. Why would a guy chase you for 5 months? Do u think he just wants revenge ? He isnt a bad guy but he can be very proud so i dont get it

Now seat tight while you strap your seat belt and listen very good.

He didn't keep disturbing you for 5 straight months none stop. He asked you out twice within a space of 5 months meaning he was quite mature to give you a long time to think about it before he brought up same discussion.

For Heaven's sake ladies need to understand that men have a whole lot on their mind to think and sort out instead of just keep carrying woman's matter on his mind. Only irresponsible and jobless guys will think, talk, dream, read, and chat only about females all day without thinking of how to better his life.

If a man ever comes visiting my daughter everyday of the week, I will get him arrested for being a menace to the society.

Now back to this your guy, seat him down and ask him what exactly he is looking out for in the relationship? Just friends, campanionship, lovers, fling, or a future partner. BE THAT BLUNT.

Secondly, ask him if he is really serious why is he dragging the whole thing? Whatever he tells you is the utmost truth. So listen attentively and hold on tight to it.

Thirdly, Never assume Shyness to means Pride. Most people are extremely shy, and so when they talk, people assume they are proud. Because most shy people use words to try to act bold, blunt, and brave when in the real sense they are extremely shy. It is possible it took lots of practice for that guy to summon the courage to ask you out. And your turning hum down made him feel embarrassed and rejected that is why he had to withdraw before coming back months after.

cc150615: one packet of lollipop sweet for the op, you should consider writing a book u know!

Your plan no go work. Na jedijedi Dem say make you come use kill me?

On the aspect of writing a book, I have been told this over 8years. But by the Grace of God I will launch my book latest by next year. But it's on Entrepreneurship and later the same year, will launch the one on Politics.

Kinkybraids: Nice...

Im so guilty of the mean face thing. I do it to fend off guys I dont want but i guess it scares all of them away . Its a face that just comes on when im walking...I just hate being harrased. Im friendly but some men can be so forceful.

I also dont know where to draw the line on playing hard to get lol. I just feel like there is a positive relationship between playing hard and how much he will value you. So I play harder and he will love me 'harder'

how can i stop the above...whats the normal limit on playing hard ?

Look at this scenario, would you enter a shop, walk to the shelve and order for a loaf of bread which even though looks like it's just from the over but is squeezed up, or would you rather choose a smooth loaf even though you know it has been out of the oven for like 3 hours.

Now here are a few tips:

Erase the notion that the harder you play, the more the guys will love you. The truth is the harder you play, the more the guy starts to plan on how just to get you, go between your legs and vanish in revenge for the psychological trauma you caused him.

You can prove to like him but not making it obvious to him as well as not saying yes to his proposals. Offer to pay at times when you both go out for a date, don't always wait for him to call you. You can send him text just to wish him a wonderful day ahead.

The problem is ladies who have no financial, emotional and physical contributions in a relationship will NEVER get respect from her partner.

If after the 3rd date your mind isn't made up whether to date a guy, ask for sometime off so you can make a decision. If after a week you don't still like him, tell him you can't date hum, otherwise, just accept his proposal under the condition that you both must not rush anything as you are still trying to study him and confirm your intuition about him.

Remember, even in a century of meeting someone, you can't know their entire behavior.

mutiply: 1, have known her for 3months. 2 she is gonna be 30 in november. 3 we have gone out twice, we stay in different cities but not far from each other. 4 she used to call but stopped the very day i asked her out. She hardly calls me and dnt return my calls if she missed it. She used to chat but not always. 5 Am working but on low key, still trying to get a bigger job,( you know the job challenges in the country) she is working and self dependent. 6. I only spent about 3k plus on the dates which we both ate and drink but i spend alot on recharging my phones, i call her like 4 to 5 times in a day. 7. I like her cause she hard working, has this inner beauty and she is intellingent. Everything about her makes me happy but she does nt feel a thing for me. Dont know how long i can hold on. I dont want to be in the friend zone. NEVER

Fortunately you know all the answers, but unfortunately your heart is doing the work of your brain.

Now from what is clear, you are over 30years of age and with a paying job. Now listen bro, no woman and I mean no woman will open her two eyes and enter a relationship or marriage she knows her partner Is financially handicap. Unless she doesn't mind providing.

I am not saying lack of finances is the sole reason why she doesn't want to date you but ask yourself these honest questions;

List 5 good qualities you have that anyone will want to date?

Knowing you have a low paying job, what are you doing to increase your financial status?


Now, can you take a step back and refuse to communicate with that lady for a whole month (no texting, flashing, calling, chatting, facebooking, or twitting). If by one month she doesn't both to get in touch with you then the signs are clear. SHE DOESN'T AND MIGHT NEVER LIKE YOU.

Kinkybraids: Nice...

Im so guilty of the mean face thing. I do it to fend off guys I dont want but i guess it scares all of them away . Its a face that just comes on when im walking...I just hate being harrased. Im friendly but some men can be so forceful.

I also dont know where to draw the line on playing hard to get lol. I just feel like there is a positive relationship between playing hard and how much he will value you. So I play harder and he will love me 'harder'

how can i stop the above...whats the normal limit on playing hard ?

Will respond to you. Let me first help my brother above.

missbronze: Nah..., 8mnths is too much.

If not in 2days..., then.., am nt interested.

You remind me on a lady I met some 4years ago. After 2 outings and one visit she was asking when I will come over to meet her parents.....in my mind I was baby, even if Obama was your father and Bill gates your uncle, it will take me nothing less than 3 months to know you before any form of commitment.

I stopped seeing her, and in less than 2months later I heard she was getting married the following month.

missbronze:


Op, if i stop all this on ur list..,

Will i get married in the next 2days?

Stop it for 3 months and come back to tell me by the 8th month how you have gotten engaged.


Serious note: there's a thin line between being available and being desperate. Please avoid the later. Men can smell a desperate lady in Borno even while sitting in Lagos.

So all those who get divorced, or have cheating partners have Satan in them?

Must you guys always make out spirituality even with issues than needs common reasoning.

mutiply: Nice write up. how long can a man wait for a girl to say yes after repeating words almost everyday. To be sincere, its making me loose focus.

Can you honestly answer the following questions?

How long have you known her?

How old is she?

How many times have you both gone on a date?

Does she ever bother to call you?

Are you working and what does she do?

Do you spend on her?

What exactly do you like about her?


Answer the obove questions sincerely and I will pass my verdict.

Ivanspring: I am guilty oh...

Of which in particular dear?

marieolae: I like dis

Hope you don't do anyone of them?

Lanre90: The answer to this question is probability
The more single men u hang out with in a platonic way ,the higher yo chances of getting hitched.

If you are always seeing hanging out with guys it is likely to cause more damage. As serious suitors will perceive you as being flirty and unserious

UN and World statistical board came up with that statistics in 2012. We would have increased by 5% by now. By 2025 we should be over 10billion.

At the ration of 7females : 1male currently and 12females: 1male by then.

Ladies, it is very understanding how you get pressured to settle down and find a man to get married to by family members, friends, colleagues and associates.

Never be deceived, even men too are under immense pressure but most guys easily waive off such a discussion by giving excuses of work pressure, trying to build a career and even in most times claiming how most ladies out there are gold diggers. When deep inside them they know they have no gold to be dug and are desperately also searching for their dream woman.

NOTE: This is not a gender bashing thread and will appreciate if both sexes don't go about hauling blames at each other but rather suggest positive ways to contribute aside what will be listed below.


THINGS STOPPING SINGLE LADIES FROM MEETING A RIGHT PARTNER.

* ALWAYS IN THE MIDST OF FRIENDS: The earlier ladies realize that their always being in the midst of friends is playing a major role in not meeting that mr right the better. From Cinemas, Malls, Saloon, Buffet, Art exhibition, Weddings, and other events, some ladies do not just know how to attend alone. More often than not, a man who sees the woman he likes and intends approaching her but sees her in the company of fellow females will have a rethink for fear of getting embarrassed or made jest of.

Sisters, learn to go to the Cinema, Mall, and other gatherings ALONE. It increases your chances of getting suitors as most guys equally go to these same places all alone with the intention of hooking up with a soul mate. Try it this week and come back with your feedback.

* DRESSING WILD: Most ladies don't know when to draw the line between dressing sexy and dressing trashy. Showing more than 3inches curve of cleavages has surely gone over board in showing cleavages. Excess makeup, heavily tinted hair, fixing eye lashes longer and thicker than bunch of broom, skirt 5inches above your knee caps, jumper tops revealing your mid region, excessively tight tops and pants are all turn offs to guys. Don't get me wrong, you will certainly get more approaches than normal dressed days but don't be deceived most if not all men who come along are only for games and nothing serious. No one will ever accept to buy a sweet whose wrapper is off, except of course the shop owner is offering you such sweet for free. Even at that you will accept it with caution.

* ALWAYS WEARING A MEAN LOOK: For crying out loud no one said you should be walking smiling and waving to the light poles and bill boards on the road but please cut off that mean looking facial appearance. We all have issues bothering us so why make it seem like mother nature handed over to you the problems of the whole 7 billion people on earth. No one gets attracted to a sad face not to talk of wanting to have a saddist on a date or a girl friend. Always try to free the muscles on your face, smile more when you have a chat with people. Above all, always drop your baggage of worries at your door mat before leaving home. You can decide to pick it up when you get back home but please stop taking it along with you, it is ruining your chances of men being encouraged to approach you.

* PUTTING ON A WEDDING RING EVEN WHILE SINGLE: Okay! Ladies STOP this nonsense. Enough of you ruining your future and putting the blames on your village people. Can I even suggest something, Fashion ring or otherwise, can you avoid putting any sort of ring on those two fingers (sure you all know the fingers I am referring to). By putting big fashion rings or small bands on those fingers, men tend to think women are hiding their wedding or engagement ring, or have possibly misplaced their ring and only using that as a temporary identity to their marriage or engaged status.

Please Note: Not all fashion accessories are to our advantage. Some work against us.

* PLAYING HARD TO GET IS NOW ARCHAIC: ladies if you haven't heard this before please TAKE NOTE AND HEAR IT TODAY - PLAYING HARD TO GET IS NOW OLD SCHOOL AND WAY OVER OUR GENERATION.

I usually tell this to everyone who cares to know, A man/woman knows if they will eventually date you within 10-30minutes after their first serious discussion with you. They only need one or two more dates to confirm their earlier decision. Anything more than 3 dates and with no positive or negative feedback is now a waste of time.

Once you aren't looking for a jobless, irresponsible, gold digger, or student, have it at the back of your mind that an average serious minded guy values his time in every facet of his life (including looking for a life partner).

in today's world, men will pick 99times over a 100 Money instead of Woman and as such considers it a whole waste of time chasing a lady when if he channels same energy in trying to make money, his life will be way better.


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So many fears. Unfortunately, most people (females) overlook the warning signs because they are too engrossed in preparing for the wedding day.

Please don't tell me the bleaching cream has already started burning you face (1stbpicture).

From what I can see, you will only pass for average with your weave and makeup (camouflaging beauty).

I hope the booobs aren't fake too cause I love 'em die.

How come Kano is now the Haven for Boko Haram menace.

I guess Oga patapata and his boys want to make the state ungovernable for the Governor and the Emir. Plot to deploy State of Emergency.

Naetochukwu: Well I am up the ladder already, living life in affluence.
Low life's like you can go on ranting and picking a fight with a lady on a forum.
Don't forget to tell your sisters to stop prostitution because there's dignity in labour...

And one idi*otic Mod hid my post and lest this but he's own.


Come to think of it bastard, you called me out if not I would never have known a low life who*re like you ever existed.

What ladder are you talking of? Living in that your ram shackle face me i slap you hut.

Hopping from one bed to another in the name of survival won't help you fo*ol. Only carry AIDS and Ebola. Chao! Your own don finish.

Naetochukwu: Yeah the likes of oby ezekwesili, okonjo iweala's, chimamanda adichie and others...
Intelligent, hardworking, smart, daring and go getters....hmmmmm
Ama be like them very soon

Not in your wildest dream bi*tch. You are Brainless, Ugly, and with a stinking pu*say. So there's no way you can crawl your way up the ladder of achievers.














Never Ever Step On The Tail Of A Sleeping Tiger.

collele: Hw business? U think she's into biz nd yet she's on NL 24/7? I wonder the kinda work pple lyk Gbawe,Chino,Victorciza,Abagworo,cleverly(although am very sure this one needs divine intervention cos his case is terrible),koboko69 etc do,Cos u keep seeing dem on almost all threads in NL politics section......

We go sha try ask. Na courtesy.

299: Fear of financial struggle

For real this is mine too. That's why I keep my head up and remain focused. I haven't gone on any holiday in almost two years. Whenever I am about embarking on one I just cancel it at that last minute and channel the resources for things to benefit them.

OmoAlata1: Fear that he will lose his stamina in the bedroom

Chineke!!!
Are you for real?

^^^Touching.

Nigerian youths lets wake up and be wise.

AdeniyiA: People should be careful of what they're afraid of, most of the things that scare us often befall us.
All we have to fear is fear itself

No matter how we try to pretend, we all have fears.

beeevan: No fears, if the kitchen is too hot for you, leave the damn kitchen. Marriage is not by force neither is it a do or die affair.

Common. What happened to our parent's generation where they believed and practiced the "for for better for worse" and stuck to their partners irrespective of their shortcomings. Not forgetting they were less spiritually going folks like we have today.

Isn't it obvious that we have more hipocrites today than ever.