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Igbos, Niger-Delta, Midwest and Yorubas are conquered territories! Anyone in the south that walks with his head high must be a fool. Anyone that thinks that it's only Igbos that are are considered a conquered territory must have his head examined. This is coming from the insider of the jihadists movement. Can't we lay down our differences and liberate ourselves from this bully?

Bliss4Lyfe: GEJ is working really hard to restore that rail network(Eastern) the last time i checked. (Completed by November)

http://www.punchng.com/business/transport/eastern-rail-line-rehabilitation-begins-ready-in-10-months/

That their rail project is a joke. I will provide pictures when I'm less occupied

Hmm

naturalwaves: *Why is 'X' and 'Y' always missing in mathematics?

You really need prescription lenses cos I can find them

naturalwaves: *Who ate the little piece of apple in iphone?

Steve Job

*Day and time of Jesus second coming.

The day frog learns to fly

*How many grains of sand are on planet earth?

Wait till the lunar probe comes back. I want to count the sands in it too

*When will Chris Okotie win presidential election?

When he marries his 100th wife

*Who will be Nigeria's dream president?

you will get the answer in your dream

*What is under Jonathan's hat?

His head

Seems like this weirdo runs in the family

Click on the link below for the pictures of the mosque and its environs.
www.nairaland.com/1009753/re-plan-demolish-mosque-onitsha

Siena: For starters, my brother-in-law would not be living with me. I couldn't care less if he's my elder sister's husband, if he stayed with me on a temporary basis, he would have to abide by MY rules. And that includes keeping his mitts off my car. If he can't, then I'll kick him out, simple. If a grown man acts like a child, he'll get treated as one, simple.

Well articulated!

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Which kain nonsense be dis? MODS pls wield your big stick and clean this thread of vernaculars. Some folks are violating the cardinal rules of this forum.

ebamma: israel has never and will never be afraid of egypt,the first war egypt fought with israel in 1948,the lost,israel has got more advanced weapons than egypt and in case of a war israel will beat egypt hands down

Israel has everything to be afraid of. War is an expensive business. Nobody wants war. You can't predict the trajectory of the war

Danka7777: Nigerians won't grasp what you talking about. You are very enlightened and understand global politics. A lot of us didn't even know who kept Mubarak in power for all those years. No Dictator stays in power that long without the support of some powerful nations. I can assure you if Abacha had been cooperative with western nations; let them have their way with our resources, he would have been in power till today.

Bros, pls don't insult us. We have many Nigerians that follows global events and politics. Don't think that you have exclusive knowledge of global politics

Lordave: When are we going to have our own field marshal?

I wonder how we managed to have general. How can we have field marshal when none of our military has men distinguished themselves in the battlefield. Tantawi is a veteran of Israeli-Egyptian war. What we have are ill-disciplined soldiers who show their bullying prowess on the innocent civilian. If you send them to peace-keeping mission, they will engage in rap!ng of local women. Some of them will even come back with drug-resistant form of HIV. How can u award such men field marshal?

na2day!:
Israel will be very very uncomfortable now!

Yes, will u be comfortable if the ultra-conservative islamists assumes absolute power in your backyard?

This is an interesting development. I will be surprised if field marshal Tantawi folds his hand and accept such move. The president has no legal authority to make such delaration. But if he succeeds, he would stamp the authority of the islamists and the overwhelming powers of the military would be curtailed. I know that field marshal Tantawi will be contemplating coup at this point in time. He may probably be in consultation with the intelligence services of the major world powers confiding in them his plan to take over government. I forsee a Parkistan-style coup in the making.

Singing "Arise o compatriot, Nigeria call obey. To serve our fatherland, with love and strength and faith. . .

2nd Stanza:
Oh God of creation, direct our noble cause. Guide our leaders right. . .

(clears throat. . .)

Fellow Nigerians,

I've heard your cries. I commiserate with u. I failed u. Truly, the 7th most populous country in the world deserves a common bronze medal Pls wipe off your tears.

To make-up for our very poor performance. I promise you that we will deliver 10 gold medals in the Paralympic games that will follow the Olympics. Even though the preparedness of our physically-challenged athletes is in question. But never mind. We wont fail this time. Pls don't ask me how I'm gonna do that? This is my solemn pledge to u my countrymen.

Nigeria: Great nation, Good people.

Signed,
disHonourable Minister of Sports

freecocoa: He followed me on the 10th of Aug so he's still here,i really miss him though .

Haba! 10th of Aug is yesterday

odumchi: It's the beginning of herding season, so it's not a surprise. He's probably en-route from Sokoto to Aba.

maxpro-xl:
Dear Poster, don't be discouraged by some comments on this thread but l will be very frank with you as an adult since u claim to be 30yrs. Please read every word carefully.

To start with pls u av to change your traditional mindset. its a stronghold u need to be delivered from. Culture and tradition will ruin any marraige. Your foundation should be based on biblical truths if u're a xtian so go for marital counselling in a good church. Am sure your parents and tribe contributed to this your traditional mindset because most of us pick up such attitudes mostly from our mothers.

As u said uv been friends with this man for 3yrs with no intimacy. The truth is no healthy man can do without sex for 3yrs so your "friend" is definately doing it with someone and respects u for not asking for it since. However don't let that discourage u because as u noted u were just friends until he proposed and u accepted.

For the man to plan to meet your parents, l think he really loves u. Nothing is wrong with being single at 35 and stayin with his mum as long as he is working and independent. If he was married and stayin with his mum, then it is a bad thing. Most parents don't want their kids leave the house until they get married to avoid being distracted. I av a cousin that moved from his parents house to his own 5bedroom duplex and he is 32yrs and still single. His mum adviced him not to waste over N1.2m renting a 3bedrm flat so he got a land and started buiding gradually.

You claim to be a financially bouyant working class lady so why worry about gifts or hair funds. Those are petty things u should care less about. You said u like him but not crazy or attracted to him. Its simply because the relationship is static and not funfilled.

Follow this simple therapy:
1.create more time for yourself and go out every weekend together consistently for 3months. Sacrifice and pay the bill first and u will be suprised that he will also pay the bill the following week.

2.Visit different cinemas, attend comedy shows, swim together, visit the beach and if you're in lagos go to "lacampagne tropicana" or "whispering palm" and have long chats about the future.

3.Have a horse and boat ride together, Kiss each other and cuddle lightly to avoid sex o(uv abstained for 3yrs so its worth waiting for).

4.Buy him gifts like a boxers, roll-on, perfume, hair & body cream, socks, ties, towel, sponge, soap, toothbrush, singlets etc. Things u know he needs daily(don't av to be too expensive). He will love u more and you will see him change gradually and see yourself loving him.

This 3months therapy works like magic. My sister love is sweet o but it takes time. Please loosing up yourself and don't get obssessed with your job and financial status. Am a man and we all want a humble, caring and supportive spouse. Life is beautiful so please don't stress yourself with worry and depression.

You can't blame this guy for not showerin u with gifts or giving u hair money(without u asking), its because of your status. If u were a student or not bouyant. Am sure he would respond to your basic needs.

in a nut-shell, here are some tips that may help u grow in love and enjoy your relationship.

1. Pray and commit your ways to God.to get d best out of any relationshp, uv got to be ready to adjust: no human is perfect, u're not just d flexible type. u sound so rigid. if u intend to get married(like your friends) and av kids soon, u av to bring down your ego and change your attitude

2. u dont fall in love, instead u grow in luv and luv takes time. Its like planting a seed and nurturing it to maturity till it bears fruits: Relationships are crucial to succeedin in life. we all cant do without it. Life could be frustratin without it.

3. men are logical and women are emotional in their response to issues: u need to learn to love and trust your man. dat doesnt mean u play d fool but being strategic and reasonable.its better u don't loose this relationship as your man seems focused and purpose driven(for planning to meet your parents).

4. what is required for any relationship(even marraige) to succeed is endurance and tolerance. however relationships are not to be endured but to be enjoyed. in real endurance, u're hoping to stay together to work things out. however tolerance may lead to trauma if your partner doesnt change. so uv got to strike a balance

5. try and adjust and lower your standards. take someone like me, a working graduate dating a final year student who I intend to marry next year. had to lower my standards and adjust despite all d visible differences. age, status, background, mentality, maturity etc.

av got a lot to say but av to devote time to other things.send me a mail and tell me more about yourself and relationship. phloxzone@yahoo.com. will recommend a particular book that will help u discover yourself and rekindle your love life.

In conclusion there is no perfect man o so stop wishing for one fairy tale husband. think positive and change your mindset. You will excel and succeed & your best will become better this year in jesus name. AMEN

I made the same comment and Drzed hounded me. I thought that I'm the odd one out.

MsDarkSkin: LOOOOOOOOOL!!

Do u also soak garri in Jamaica?

qunleajayi: I would therefore say that this guy is a good catch except for the sex part. You said you folks have been platonic friends, so probably the
problem is that YOU dont really shack this guy and he MAY be marrying you also as a SOCIAL climb.

@bolded
Spot on!
I don't think that the poster is not attractive. I can't stay in a truly faithful relationship for one month without intimacy, let alone 3yrs. Except the guy is a gay or impotent. Pls poster, don't celebrate the fact that he has not shagged u since u started your affair with him. This calls for some serious questions. You should investigate to know whether he is shagging other babes. A sexually active man cannot stay that long. OR you are simply unattractive to him, OR he wants to use u to climb the social ladder. Pls ponder on this.

iragbijile: First I disagree with this line. We all arent created equal so some of us will never find ourselves in this kind of situation. This is your burden, that befell you because of your unique experience, luck, and background. You attracted it to yourself, so stop looking for pity from us. Grow up already!



Congrats!





So on one hand, you are still sorting things out in the emotional realm. On the other hand, he asked for your hand in marriage and you said NO? Well, I honestly believe NO is the right answer because only a weirdo would say YES in this type of situation. And I am sure you are not a weirdo. I mean, you dont sound like one. You are a sane, well educated, single lady in her 30s, confused and perhaps not that good looking, but traditional nevertheless. Traditional is good; just that it is relative and subjective.






What? When did you realize this? The first couple of times you met him or 789 days into the relationship?



What do you like about him? The fact that he is the only one who pays attention to you? Or the fact that he is the only one strong enough to put up with your ugly attitude?



Okay.




And what tradition tells you that the man must always provide for the woman? The man as the bread winner is a totally western idea that was planted in the psyche of us Africans by our colonial masters. At no point in the history of Africa was the man ever a bread winner. Hunter yes, bread winner, NO. Two different things. The agrarian family that pervaded the African society in the 'old' world was a unit of production that was bound to each other for economic survival; there were no 'traditional' bread winners, no separation of responsibilities. Both parties pitch in for the betterment of the household. An old Yoruba proverb goes: "Bokunrin rejo bobinrin pa a, kejo ma sa ti lo." Meaning, "If a man sees a snake and a woman kills it, what matters is the death of the snake." It doesnt matter who the bread winner is, what is important is that you two do not starve to death.




The only way to know for sure is for you to quit your job and be solely dependent on him.



Whats your point?



Stop fooling yourself. You need to snap out of the delusional reality you have created for yourself. You are not the Princess of Wales and your attitude sucks, if you were all that great and decent, you wont be in the situation you are presently in. That is the truth. Beautiful women always have enough pool of men to choose from by the time they are 22. You are 30, stuck with this guy for a reason. Unfortunately this is the only guy willing to put up with you attitude, it is time you put out or shut up. You have ghetto mentality, yet you want to be treated like some Arabian princess. It aint happening. You aint getting married to George Clooney or Dangote nor will you be spending your honeymoon in the Cayman Islands flown there on a GVI paid for by your rich Wall street private equity CEO with homes in Greenwich Connecticut. Not in this life. Atleast not without you having a major do over of your looks and attitude. Those people ( Clooney, Dangote and that private equity CEO guy) dont exist in real life, not to people like you. Sorry to be so blunt, but that is the truth. In this life, you are stuck with the type of people like your "boyfriend." There is little you can do about it. If you break up with him, the next person will be another "him," in a different form; maybe a little shorter, a little stingier, a little feistier, but, overall, just another clone of 'him.' You will be lucky if the 'new him' is anywhere as decent. In this type of situation, I always rely on Rene Decartes's third maxim: Endeavour always to conquer myself rather than fortune, and change my desires rather than the order of the world, and in general, accustom myself to the persuasion that, except our own thoughts, there is nothing absolutely in our power. That is, change your thoughts about this gentle man, change how you feel about him, and change your life for the better.

That said, I admire people who take chances because we all know that the grass is always greener, lusher and longer on the other side of the fence. What you may not realize is that you arent getting any younger; your looks arent getting more feminine; your ova arent getting more vibrant; and the societal pressure will only get worse.

Fstranger classics!

I gave u one like sha.

You always make sense in a very funny way. Your combination of words to paint near-perfect pictures of situation is amazing.

Kobojunkie: They say experience is the best teacher. @Poster, go right ahead. You already had the guts to agree to marry him, so why not go for it.

A good advice from your fellow lady who is talking from experience. There is nothing wrong with the guy. The only hang-up is that he lives with his parents. There is no serious misgivings that u had for this guy. I bet that you will be sexually attracted to this guy if he undergoes style makeover. Maybe he has a bland dressing style. You can help to groom him. Afterall we learn everyday. I bet that u will regret your indecision in few yrs time if u eventually take a bad decision. The problem with ladies is that they fails to recognise opportunity when they sees one.

This is worse than my village primary school. I wonder if they have boarding house.

Had it been that such school is located in Igboland, many yoruba tribalists will run amok on this thread.

My apology for the mix up. I believe that my advise is still valid nevertheless

Sarcoc: Just reading this trend I can tell the married men here from the single men! All these people shouting "be the man and do this and do that - tell him this and tell him that" clearly havent run a home for a second. My brother simple reminder -a car is only but metal as u noted when it is damaged you simply pass by a garage and it is fixed but remember that relationships cannot be fixed that Easley and even when you think it's fixed the memories lingers a life time. A price can be fixed on your car but not on any relationship

Just bear the pain and desist from anything that would dent any relationship.

I see why some women treats some men like shyt in marriage. You just can't hold on to your relationship by acting like a wuss. You must have a principle that guides your policy. Though you might compromise some of your core values to accommodate that of others. But you can't allow those around u to behave irresponsibly, all in the name of holding on to your relationship. Brother, your happiness cannot be sacrificed to salvage a moribund relationship. People should live up to their responsibility to ensure a lasting relationship. The OP's wife is clearly failing in her responsibility by failing to caution her brother who is supposedly acting irresponsibly.

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CAMEROONPRIDE: if you guys like suicide or want to kill yourself because life is becoming hard .......go in war against Cameroon(it's time someone see what our army can do in real)........this is for the ibibio and effik..........i tried to understand your problem there but you guys are just stubborn......

Your comment is unfortunate. I consider it to be a threat. This is where you need to use diplomacy. Peace never comes back to any land where blood is spilled. Nigeria's case is a perfect example. What we have in this country is uneasy peace.

Well, u might never know how war turns out. Therefore, chest-beat with caution

Which kain nonsense brother-in-law be dat? As for me, I don't take shyt and I will let my wife and my wife's family understand that from the outset. That's why I will prefer to marry from all girls family. Man, u need to speak out o. You can't continue to die in silence. Firstly, you have to caution him thru your wife. If that isn't working. Then you'll summon him for direct caution. Let him know the consequence of losing your cool. He should know that he's destroying someone's else sweat, and no one tolerates that. My younger brother behaves like that. Whenever I takes him on, my mum comes to his defence. But he has since learnt that I'm a no-nonsense big brother. And he respects that.

I noticed that Alj_harem is ostensibly absent since the service providers(MTN, GLO & ETISALAT) in Nigeria blocked their free internet access cheats.

Seriously, I miss the guy. One funny thing about him is that he is not only ignorant on some topics, but he projects his ignorance aggressively.

If you are not careful, he might even dull your intelligence.

Pls we should do something for the young man. I miss his comic-relief.

naptu2: Reno Omoigui

Are you confusing Reno Omokri and DR Nowa Omoigui ?

Sorry, Nowa Omoigui!

@Naptu2,
It took me 5mins to scroll through your post alone(not reading it o). Reno Omoigui has lost credibility as a writer. Only a novice reader that does not know his antecedents will believe his tales.

Okija_juju: I dont think it was because couldnt or cant afford to fight Cameroon, it was more like letting go of something that wasnt ours and moving on.

I am still researching the Bakassi dispute and its looking like a really fhucked up situation. This problems dates as far back as the 1800's

When was Cameroon a country?