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whyteteeth:
The person who sold it for me Sadi it can pump water.

Go and buy parsun Generator 3200 to avoid any stories. Return that 1800 Firman generator or you will forever regret buying it. the Firman generator Are never reliable.Am a Gen mechanics . just buy that Firman generator and start crying your eyes out. Go buy parsun Generator 3200 so you that you will not say your village people don't want you to succeed. Anything Firman generator Run for your life , don't say my neighbor is using it so I will buy Firman generator

digital5:
No, am just a fresh graduate and I'm tired of searching for jobs here. So my plan is to relocate to Lagos, do any kind of legal job while i keep searching for a better job

pls take the biggest risk of your life, life it's self is a risk. Don't wait time is not your friend.if you can sleep in a good motor park you will be fine for some time before you can search for job that can provide you accommodation. There's no way you can search for a job in Allen avenue Ikeja for two -three days without getting any. Just shine you eyes

SageMK:
Killing yourself and your child will only make things easy for him. He'll celebrate your death.

Find a reason to live. If your can't then at least;

1. Sue him for child support OR
2. Give up your child for adoption.

which child support, was she married to the man in the first place? Only God will comfort you

collinsbaba:
But do not think all the post in this forum is talking about the op, I am married with kids, I'm just putting down this thread due to things I'm seeing around....

ok ooh

Dididrumz:
The doctor that came to see me today said I should not use any traditional medicine for now that he'll come tomorrow to put me on Omeprazole I.V before any other thing.

And he also mentioned a whole lot of food that I should stay away.

I saw the banana thing online this morning but haven't tried it.

Thanks alot for your help.

Doctor are lying to you because most of the drugs you are even taking in the hospital re made from the same herbs there are telling you not to take or patronise. Fear DRs

collinsbaba:
This has been puzzling my mind for so long, when a man is in his 40s people will be saying some sorts of things like ‘ hey guy u r overdue get a wife, do something.....’
but we all know money is very important to raise a family.

A man must be able provide a conducive environment for his family, send his children to good schools etc.....

As for me I don’t believe in marriage without money, even if one is 60 without money just forget it

NOT EAST TO BE A MAN.

Not everyone will have a good source of income before getting a wife , As Every currency have denominations so does women. Look for a woman of your class and stop fooling yourself. Presently are walking naked ,Don't you eat daily , do you leave in the forest? . If you have not make it at 40s it is at 60s. You better wake up from your slumber so that family will not hold emergency meeting on your head

micflo28:
Big woman ooo... Her driver dropped her off. Dropping off that you will still cross road is that dropping off. The woman for try sex learn how to drive and drive herself.

she drives very well,I know her and the family too well

Lorlahlizzy:
rest in peace mummy okeleke
she was a very nice woman.I know her personally
May God give the family fortitude to bear the loss

i was actually looking for someone who knew her personally , you are one . She was a very good mother i was with her and the husband for more than 6yrs. A mother to all. I will call the husband today to send my condolence

Beremx:
The old man is not Fulani. FFK should stop attaching sentiments to his comments.

Na wa o!!

when elders are talking children should listen and learn

Ooni:
our youths don't learn. I can never lick Fulani ass like the rest of us.

very much correct

skylarr:
This Fafowora has an unforgiving heart. Haba , an incident of how many donkey years ago! You could have confronted him with your facts there and then but no, you had to wait till almost 40 years later to dent his image when he got into a limelight. I fear people o

someone is saying what he saw you saying a different thing entirely

luvbeloved:
The girl is already a woman naa...so the case doesn't hold any water. 28 year old na serious adult be that o! Unlike guys from 'you know where' who kidnap teens to covert/marry

Nigerian police are foolish, They just wants to collect money from the woman's parents knowing fully well that the man will be released unconditionally. Police will tell if your neighbor insults you give am dirty slap, Because if you didn't fight with your friends and neighbors money will not come to their station.I was at the station two days ago, police station Na pure business center.

Chidebless111:
Pls I need advice on what to do

I have daughter who is 14months old, though I'm not legally married but I and my daughter's dad live in together, and yesterday will be the third time he is physically abusing me that I almost passed out, I choked me and hit my out daughter feeding flask on my head and beat me. Now when I called his mom to reported what happened,she asked me to pack my things back inside, that she knows of a woman that her husband beat regularly And still she's still with her husband,that next time he want to beat me I should run outside,and if I decides to leave ,I should leave and if I take my daughter along she will fight me,that if I don't want her anger I shouldn't take my daughter.... Now my problem now is I can't leave my child for them,as I'm typing I'm weak and tired from all the beating, I'm 26years,I can't continue this way,cos I don't know how long this will continue

He have not even paid your bride price, yet He wants to kill you. you better park your load and leave that house before you will be carried out dead. l wedded my wife 6yrs ago, no issues yet i did not raise my hands to hit her. Listen to his mother at your own peril. I ve a female friend that ran for her life, so that her obituary will not be pasted" Gone Too soon".As a man it's never wise to beat your wife even if she's very wrong, you don't have to prove that you are the man of the house by beating.instead send her back to her family before you will kill someone's daughter.

Price042:
Good afternoon my fellow nairalander,pls i need matured advice.
I just wanna know if dere is any consequence attached to what i did,i did it becos of my family reputation.
their is a guy dat normally visit my sista, wen i ask my sista abt the guy,my sister will reply (he wants to marry me).
One faithful day i called my sista to hav a word with her concerning guy,I asked her wat does de guy do for a living,she reply dat the guy is into business and his parents promise to sale their land to support him more.
The annoying part of it is anytime the guy visit,he comes empty handed and my sister will serve him evening food.
Lemme cut the story short.
One day i came back from work i notice that my sister stomach is getting bigger day by day, i called my mom tell her what i noticed,she told me that my sister is pregnant and the guy is responsible for it his family are planning to come and perform the marriage rite i was relief a bit.
3weeks has come and gone i didn't see anybody,i invited the guy..do you the funny part de guy send his mother, i overlooked it i went further to ask her what are his family plan concerning my sista situation.the woman said they don't hav money to perform the rite rather the want to sale their land to raise money for that.I decided to lend them money to pay back when the most have dispose the land.
till now they haven't returned my money back and they stopped talking on how to sell the land again,as I'm talking now my sister is having 2 kids for him.
Can i claim those kids or wat do i do to get my money back.
Pls no insult

for the guy to even show up and accepted the pregnancy is good. But you're not supposed to give them any money to pay for your own sister's bride price. Don't even expect any return , remove your mind from it. Only God will pay you back.

wizod:
Our Nigerian Rev. Fathers are not like that, they're very serious with the oath of celibacy they took.

very very wrong

xendra:
women date rich men and collect their money to spend on a poor boy. ...money alone cannot be the reason a woman leaves, but if there were other issues that's when she will consider that there isn't even enough money worth the trouble.

how old are you?

Sailorsoldier1:
it was...you will u date a guy earning 50k?..Even ur name sounds as if ur hair alone costs 45k

does the hair even make them beautiful?

Eulalia:
It doesn't matter. So should she kill herself? And what about those who got married and never had a child till they died? Besides the way we view timing is quite different from the way God views it. Nothing is ever too late for God.
I have elder sisters of 37, 38, 40 and above that are still bearing children but their husbands had to take a break. And this Ladys case can change any moment from now. So, don't suggest such. Please.

Look, its here in Africa we take things so serious like its a matter of life and death. Abroad, the whites can decide to just keep a pet and not bother about having children and they are happy. Not saying its not good to have children but when certain things we are expecting in life have not clicked, its best to exercise patience than seeking drastic measures. We are always in a haste in this part of the world. In the end, all the children will leave you to start their own life and you'll Still end up lonely.

you can't be in her shoes

emmaodet:
Well, we pray and hope so before she turns to ejo ori apata - a snake that passed through the rock without leaving any mark of traces of been there before. It is only a snake that passes through sand that you will recognise due to the mark.
What is the essence of coming to this world when you can't even give birth to atleast a kid, then you came to the world to do what actually?
Drink, party, fvck, work work and work for another man as a career woman just to keep enriching the man? No oooo nooo nooo

correct

emmaodet:
Lol at the bolded.
Patient and Prayerful till when now? At 41 years old?
Ti a ba fi ogun odun pinle were, ojo wo gan lo fe wo oja - If a man takes 20 years to prepare for displaying madness, then when exactly will he fully enter the market naked.
All the way from 25-40 years of age, she hasn't been patient and prayerful enough, is it now that she has just 4 years to menopause that she will now get it right?
Never you say Marriage is overhyped abeg, because you failed in that area of your life doesn't make it a yard stick to rubbish others.
You also talked about timing, that people shouldn't rush others because there is time for everything.
Look, there is time for everything but it doesn't mean you can't do it other time.
The ideal time to be in Primary school is between 5 - 12 anything outside that will likely lead to mockery.
Can you still go to primary school at the age of 15 years? Ofcourse Yes but you will look Odd in the class and among your mates.
They will be calling you Bro and you may likely be seating at the back of the class.
Can you enter secondary school at the age of 30? Yes. Is it the ideal time? No. Your class mates will regularly be mocking you and give you different nicknames just because that is not the ideal time.
Can you plant crops in Dry season around December? Yes. Is it the ideal time? No. Because it will take extra energy, time, resources, irrigation etc to farm the same land you would have done easily at the ideal time of raining season not to talk of poor harvest and more prone to diseases attack and pest.
See, in life, there is ideal time for everything even though you can still do it outside this period But why not make the hay when the sun shines.
A stitch in time, saves nine.

thank you

CAPSLOCKED:
I'M AFRAID YOU MAY JUST DIE FROM YOUR DELUSIONS.

THERE ARE MILLIONS OF UNMARRIED AND SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE WORLDWIDE, THIS EXCLUDES PRIESTS, MONKS AND NUNS.

ONLY YOU FROM WHERE EVER YOU'RE TYPING FROM IS CONCLUDING THAT THEIR LIVES ARE MESSED UP AND THEY'RE IN DEEPEST SORROW BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT MARRIED?

YOU'RE CLEARLY DELUSIONAL. WITHOUT MARRIAGE SOMEONE LIKE YOU MAY JUST KILL YOURSELF.

Even with all the achievement they are never fulfilled in life.find out for yourself

CAPSLOCKED:
YOU'RE ONLY DECEIVING YOURSELF BECAUSE MANY PEOPLE ARE LIVING HAPPY WITHOUT BEING MARRIED.

it's a curse to die in Africa without a child

Eulalia:
which one is a piece of a man again? Well.. If I understand you perfectly, that is single parenthood you're advising her to go into and it's not the best.

Look, marriage is good, no doubt. but now making it sound like it a do or die affair to the point of putting unnecessary pressure on someone is pure witchcraft. For Pete's sakes, everyone has his or her own timing. Don't always use someones' elses' timing (in achieving certain things in life) as a yardstick for others. It doesn't work that way. The earlier society realizes this the better it would be for everyone. Like seriously, marriage is overhyped. And even those who are not enjoying their marriage will also want to pressure or shame you just to feel alright themselves.

Dont even try it cos theylll still be the ones to turn around and tag you "babymama" or tag your child bastard.
Let her be patient and prayerful about it. Her man will locate her. And in the meantime, let her be herself and be bubbling with life so she doesn't start aging due to worrying too much. Enjoy your single hood while it last cos marriage comes with a whole lot of responsibilities that will last a life time. Just chilax for Jesus abeg.

at what age?

bukatyne:
You realize that the error is all yours for not choosing well.

For that, you are half way there.

You mentioned that you married in the Church: brother you know that except adultery and I will say abuse, you can't divorce your wife.

You have tried counseling, reporting her to family etc. etc. and it has not worked.

Now, I want you to try changing your reaction to her attitude. You have been married long enough to 'predict' her actions/inactions.

She forgot your birthday, fine. Celebrate yourself. Go out with the kids, go out with your friends etc.

She tries to keep malice, apologize and move on.

I know it is hard, it is abnormal even however you need to build a shield in your heart so that her attitude doesn't get to you anymore.

Don't beg or cajole her to 'change' or 'be better' or whatever: you are telling her that she has power over you.

Thank God finances are not a thing: treat your self, go on vacations, do the certifications or courses you wanted to. Channel your emotions into the things you have always wanted to do, pick up new hobbies, go to gym and workout youf frustrations etc.

And prayers work: if not for her to change, for you to be whole mentally and emotionally.

It is well.

if he's your brother you will advice him to die there

Ladyhippolyta88:
Hmm.

Let me wait for experienced people wearing the shoe to come and share

Personally for me though I don't like early marriages or advice anyone to go into it if that person is not financially,emotionally and mentally okay to deal with what may come with marriage why the rush?
Anything below 24-25 is a no no for me from above is better

Anyway to each his own.

funny enough you girls are not ready for marriage yet but a lot of girls within the age of 16 - 25 out there are fucking up and down even with married men.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Hmm.

Let me wait for experienced people wearing the shoe to come and share

Personally for me though I don't like early marriages or advice anyone to go into it if that person is not financially,emotionally and mentally okay to deal with what may come with marriage why the rush?
Anything below 24-25 is a no no for me from above is better

Anyway to each his own.

be careful what you think of yourself , Let God decide not your will

Kemimarch16:
I hate men that do beat women

Men hates nagging wife

yanabasee:
He consented to it and later denied it.....

Sex for marks shouldn't be looked away and lecturers indulged in these acts should be dealt with......


Sex for marks, reduces our female students into complete dunce as a greater percentage of them are dependent on lecturers that will demand for sex so they can get high scores with students who eventually had sleepless nights to study!!

true but on the other hand students in our universities today don't read, everybody wants to pass

patpaul:
Your story is really pathetic but wait a minute. Do you find out how your sister is behaving with this man? you said your sister is a nice woman, i agree, but didn't she date this man for sometime before they got married? i ask this question because my marriage is just a year and 6 months and if not for God and the fact that i am a widower with 2 boys, i would have sent her packing even the first month after marriage. For some women, their mouth is their undoing. I do not condone BATTERING THOUGH, but some women's mouth need to be locked for them to have a good marriage.

correct

Now look here tojos you all need to slow down and take it easy. Why the unseemly haste If you are really a man as your moniker suggests you would realise that emotional decisions taken at the heat of the moment are never the best.
Think coldly and logically about the scenario unfolding before your eyes.
What has she done to the man to provoke the man into physically dealing with her even at this very early stage into their marriage? What did he find out about her?
That is what you lot need to iron out. Otherwise the cycle could even repeat itself at her next marriage if there is one.

correct

standfirm:
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Dis is absolutely d right tin 2 do and mind u tell ur sister nt 2 remarry until d bride price has been returned or else any child she conceive outside automatically belongs 2 d first husband (standard traditional law). Igbo tradition is rich dats y I advice my brothers 2 always come home.

the woman might even be lying to her family why the Man have been beating her ooh. No matter what the husband is supposed to bear with her, then try to understand her because if the woman die in his hands as a result of the beatings trouble for him.

jaytime:
Annulment should not be the last option just yet. Let her pray to God to intervene and change her husband. There is nothing God can not do. I'm sure she loved the guy that's why she married him in the first place. You never can tell, there might more to the husband's abusive nature than meets the eye. Bottom line: Let her PUSH - Pray Untill Something Happens.

so that she will die there