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crackhaus: Cheap points? Really? That's all you could decipher from my post?

Okay I get it, it's the 'girls like you' part that upset you...my bad... I meant 'flashy girls', so sorry for using you as a point-of-reference.

And oh BTW, there's no much difference between ego and self-esteem...I don't see how one can be sky-high and the other underground-low when they are both derivatives of themselves.

Having a huge ego is not always synonymous with having high self esteem.
Ego centric: thinking only about yourself and not about what other people might need or want.

Self esteem: the feeling of being satisfied with your own abilities and that you deserve to be liked or respected.

Now, I mean some guys are not satisfied with their own abilities and don't feel that they deserve what they want but stil they think they are more important and that girls have to somehow descend for them to be happy/comfortable. Simply put, when a guy says 'I can't walk up to her because she looks better/more successful than me(low self esteem). If I must walk up to her type, they must change what they like to fit into my world(huge ego). Wheew. Get my point now?

Apology accepted btw.

I dunno if she's cheating(I mean, how the heck am I to know) but I know that nagging makes one indifferent. Stop nagging and trust her. She said she's not and you have no proof so just act normal. When you guys get back together you'll know by her behavior.

Op the question should be 'if sex proves love why do people cheat?'

crackhaus: ^^^
You're working yourself up over this...the idea here is that there are a lot of guys out there, on NL, and specifically on this thread who prefer to work on a budget when it comes to women...Myself included!

But trust me, guys like me with an ego the size of the state of Texas will still make a move on a girl like you even if you used an S4, or wore 6" heels, or even if you had on an expensive hair made on planet venus..

One thing your kind should note though is this, guys like this after spending what they budget on you and getting a good dose of your goodies (up & down) will probably run off faster than you can say your full name.
The only alternative to this is if a girl like you has a steady decent job and doesn't need to ask for everything from the guy, then that guy might just stay.

Now truthfully and realistically, how many ladies with steady decent 'official' jobs wear crazy hairstyles, do long 'glittery nails', and have the time and strength to wear heels or dress provocatively whenever they step out?
I'll answer that! They are very few! And this is because, most of them are not allowed to look that way in their place of work...the exception again would be girls in the fashion, movie, music, or make-up industry.

Everything thing I wrote above isn't stereotyping, there are always exceptions but the majority always wins.
The point being, a woman who tones down her looks does herself a favour as much as she does the man interested in her.
Forget about the phone talk, flashy has nothing to do with what phone a woman uses!

I see you wanna score cheap points with the whole 'girls like you' and 'your kind BS' even when I never said I was the 'flashy' type or do you know me personally?. Smh. And uhm I aint working myself up if anything I think you are. I'm just tired of gals having to change who they are and what they like because of guys who have egos as huge as paris and self esteem as small as peanut.

Lol @ a guy can ask a 'girl like me' out and spend all the money an me and get what he wants and dump. Like seriously? Pls some of us still have our heads screwed right ok? And how much can a guy even give me that I've not seen b4 and will make me become foolish? Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeew...

Plus, I never supported provocative dressing and I used the phone instance because of what someone else said.

I've spent enough time on this topic sha. One thing I know is that I won't loose myself in order to gain someone.

WackyJ1: What if you deserve the best buy cannot afford the best huh? . Let us be realistic eh?

Do you think that the self esteem of many guys that drive jeeps comes from the inside or from the fact that they have the cars?

Op os flashy but humble, how many flashy girls out there are flashy but humble instead we have most cases of them being runs girls or very demanding, a guy likes a flashy thing and when he goes for it with all his self esteem, he finds that it is not self esteem that keeps the girl flashy but something more tangible than that and either he just concludes that flashy girls are like that or he tries his luck some more times (high self esteem) and discovers the same thing..

How .any rich guys out there with the self esteems or whatever are good enough to exclusively date this girl without going for other flashy things.

My point is that apart from self esteem issues, there are other things consider which were made evident in some posts up there including the one you made reference to.

Error1: you don't 'afford' a girl. Girls aint things.

2: not every guy with a car has high self esteem. Some of them will just melt when a lady parks a bigger car beside theirs.

You have just called the op humble despite her 'flashyness' then you must also know that not every girl who likes nice things is a runs girl. If you approach a girl and she's a leech what stops you from leaving biko? Instead of getting to know someone you'll first of all access her from head to toe then check your wallet and if you 'no reach' you bow out right? Its all about the guy not seeing himself as good enough. Dazall.

My only problem is having all your 'goods' on display. Aside that I see nothing wrong in putting on heels and coloured clothing or having you braids as long as you want or using a phone you like and can afford. Like seriously, I thought we've gone pass this stage of a girl looking 'less' than a guy. SMH. First it was girls should be less ambitious if they wanted a man and now its dress like an mgbeke? Smh again.

So you love her yet you're cheating? Ok well the thing is, just as you have your no2, you are her no2. funny how things work huh? Lol. Nb: I aint saying she's cheating as well tho that's one option. She might just be hanging on to you till she finds her no1 . Bottom line bruda is that she doesn't love you.

Although, if the relationship just started or she's had bad experiences then maybe she is just too careful.

Nigerian association of gold diggers(NAG): milking boys dry since 1914...

joromi: See the people forming cute...


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Evul! Lmao

As sad as the case is, I don't think it'll affect him. Those saying God will punish him ehm 4 doing what exactly? For sinning against Him? If yes then you all must remember that this sin involved the two of them(boy and girl). The girl had a hand in ruining her own life. Not to be insensitive o, I sympathise with her but that's the truth.

Girls demand to be treated as equals but when such arise they play the victim card. We all should learn to take responsibility for what happens in our life! Ok say he raped her and she got pregnant and aborted then she was the victim but having unprotected consensual sex and having an abortion 6 times? She has herself to blame. I always say girls must learn to protect themselves because when all is said and done we're always at the receiving end.

But I strongly believe the guy won't go scot free. Not because of her curse o but because in this life, we all shall reap what we sow.

Reski: pls take this advice and watch your mates tie the not every saturday while you continue looking porsche.

^^^
A girl now has to be ugly, broke and dressed like a house girl to date?... Only in 9ja sha.SMH

Now I know guys have self esteem issues! And they'll be yabbing girls. Sheesh.

All those hiding behind the excuse of 'what if 3k gift will not be enough for her' and 'what if I can't afford her bills' all you're really saying is 'what if I'm not good enough for her' it all boils down to low self esteem no matter how you say it.

@All
"Until you realise you deserve the best in life, you'll always settle for less" - Adaeze003

Busty!

^^ what the poster b4 me said plus, stop watching pornn and get your mind occupied. You know what they say about an idle mind...

Didn't read but the only silly thing about putting on a mini skirt is trying to pull it down all the freaken time. Like seriously, it aint coming down!

phrenoz: Me n ma guitar....I'm Temi...#limpopo cover

Wow!!!!!!!!! NL got talent! Nice

goddysweb: Felt like singing. it's Christmas season! why not?

One word... Heavenly

[quote author=Nadia_SA1]One guy said I have a nice voice but I can't sing!! his a hater!

This one is for u[/quote]LMAO! You try jor

Mayapop sounds young but I like her voice. Airforce1 surprisingly sounds young as well as GOM

I like Nadia's voice joor y r some peeps hating?

All em critics should share theirs too o.. We waiting.

Dynamicbuzz and Tea jeez! beautiful voices

#still going through... I haff tire

pweetixandy: anoda

Lol. Your voice is really nice but the hanging.... You have to start on a low note to avoid that. I love the clarity tho.

Thanks @ wackyJ n FKO

WackyJ I couldn't download yours. Maybe I'll try again.

^lol! Don't feel one kind o...hehe

Thanks

Dannylux: Adaeze003, I see you.. would love to listen to your VN.

@Everyone
Please try to rename your VN before uploading oh. Your Username would be perfect.

Wha page is yours @? Wanna listen as well

Hope I did this justice...

One direction's story of my life...

Lol! GOM you got this idea from that link I showed you rii? Good one but I think you should make it easy for us(late comers) by sharing all of them(vn) on the first post.

Roki has said it all...

Kaycee7: Let's resolve this.
If you were to date a TVD or TO character, who would it be?
I call dibs on Bonnie. She's strong, faithful, loving and will save you cooking gas money

Stefan, matt or jeremy

No roaster o! Jeez! Lmao.

Just calm down and talk to him. But seriously, I think couples should talk about what it means to be married to each person before jumping in.

Na wa o! Roki tell him abeg, you took those words off my keypad.

[quote author=nani.666]Nah...Caroline isn't really girlfriend material....a Steroline one night stand would be acceptable tho... Stepharine is what's meant to be [/quote]Carorline isn't gf material and katharine is? You're funny sha. I think katharine should be the one night stand sef, she might be an interesting character but she's a bigger bitchh than elena. Remember she was also sleeping with the two bros?

I don't think anyone goes into a relationship with a stranger. I can't picture it. Is it that you'll meet a guy for the first time and he'll ask you out? If he does will you say yes? I think you meet a guy, you exchange numbers, he calls, you guys hang out and talk before asking you out. That's like building a friendship innit?

The problem arises when you wait for too long to ask her out because she can get use to you as a friend.

Wow... Guess the op didn't see this coming.

Double post... Can't wait for the next episode of TVD. And like roki, I wouldn't mind a steroline(stefan+caroline)