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No need to undres$... Just get to it


Btw, undres$ is a bad word now? Which 1 is uncloth? @Seun

First off, in Nigeria we're thought to greet our elders irrespective of gender so that should take care of that.

In marriage tho, any1 can say it first.

LaurelP: How long does it take to knw someone?
U don't nid to know someone to connect wit dem
Everyone u knw today were once strangers to u so wats d biggy

U sound like an introvert to me, dat doesn't mean its wrong to approach someone u don't know
How wud u knw d person if u don't approach her?

Introvert? No. I never said its a problem to approach someone I only said its hard to talk to me and that is if you don't have anything reasonable to say n you're just going on and on with em cliché questions or talks.
Once you sing to my tune it'll definitely make me open up mayb that's y I'm more acquainted to those in my field. Its just me, no biggy.

Thavik: it isn't embarrassing, u need exposure ..strangers are just people like you, nothing special, its even a bigger deal for d guy chyking u...you might be a money LovePeddler for god sake

Whatever...

jimmy4x: me nko

U knw u're me e-sweetypie

softsparkyy: Do I blame them?
What do you expect when some guys will stop a lady and end up yarning nonsense. Some do it for fun while some do it just to while away time.
Approach a lady well and she will give you audience.

My dear o! Some will even try to chyke u at the spot! Very embarrassing, sm1 u don't even knw!

Well it's actually hard to talk to me as I'm not free with strangers(male n female) and no! I don't go home to cry.

jimmy4x: CHAI!!!!!!

Dia riz god o!

angela98: you seem like a very nice person. I think u should call off the relationship if u can't meet her demands and she continues to insist. if not, she might start cheating on you. Let's look at it from a bad girl perspective, 20k is not a lot considering the quality sex and attentions she gives you. If you patronised a prostitute regularly for one month and she charges you per pour, calculate it and u will see that it's going to be more than the money she is asking for. Not to mention the emotional involvement, the love and care you both share

Anty na wa 4 u o! Is he her father? GF na job? What is wrong with my 9ja sisters sef?
Now, you're comparing being a gf to prostitution but when they say shii like "all girls are hos" you'll still be the first to jump to shut em up.

This chick is asking for monthly salary not even that she's asking for aid/help to do something. Even if your bf is dangote that's just wrong on many levels. Smh. Op if u can't afford it, tell her or better still, help her get a job, I think starting salary of a grad should be more than 20k.

Mynd and Tallesty- like to read wha they gat to say.

Lynpetra- funny n entertaining yet serious

glitest: God!!...Pls send me such man now..Haba!..I've been a very good girl now; Still na wowo bad belle still dey waka myside...Its not fair oh.

Check your friendzone.

Its lame to cheat coz he's cheating. Its obvious you'll still cheat(you already are sef) n ur relationship might be over so y not call it quits? Save ever1 the stress.

Lol @no3

Danhumprey: I hate anything 'ear-rings',not to talk of multiple piercings. It's more disgusting.


I wouldn't tolerate that from my galfriend. Just keep it natural,that's all!

Hmm... I think you're too extreme on this "natural" thingy.

Guys sef, what if the shoe was on the other foot? Like the gal couldn't carry a child anymore? Hope ya'll will still advise him to marry her?

Just tell her not to flush her next poop

chuxyz: I strongly agree with that. A thief and a murderer does what is wrong but their penalties differs. What is wrong is wrong but some are "wronger" than others. Cheat is cheat but a woman cheating is more an atrocity than a man's cheating. Sin is sin but not all sins are forgiven (if you are a christian). Thanks

I really don't wanna argue buh you're forcing my hand.

Now, for comparison, you used a thief and a murderer. Two distinctively different crimes but in the case of cheating, it's ONE crime! The man n woman went out there and bleeped sm1 else and that's it!

What makes a man cheating any better? Bcoz the society overlooks it right? Or what other excuse do you have? Are you married to the society or your wife? What about the betrayal and the hurt she'll feel? Is it any less than what a man will feel if his wife cheats?

You might use bride price as an excuse but that's just tradition and it in no way means you own the woman and can treat her anyhow! Coz guess what, in some cultures, women have to pay dowry but that doesn't make her lord and master over the man.

Again, you keep bringing Christianity into this, prolly coz u saw my siggy. You said not all sins are 4given but there is no where the bible differentiates female adulterers 4rm male adulderers or is there? A male cheat and a female cheat are both guilty of ONE crime! Like it or not.

chuxyz: Cheating is gender specific. If you are a christian like me, you will know the account of Solomon who had up to 1000 women. God has made man polygamous even though the christian religion condemns it but that has been the nature of man from the onset. I will like you to know that If a man cheats today, tomorrow he can absorb that woman as a second wife and everything gets to norm. But if a woman cheats, she can't absorb her cheating partner as a second husband. You check am na. Though cheating is cheating but don't compare men's cheating with women's because the former can be overlooked or seen as a norm.

What's wrong is wrong man! No two ways about it.

I think we need laws to protect kids in this nation.

The only defence I see is "they did it in the past and it wasn't considered wrong" really? Well, people n calabar killed their twins from the beginning and it took one woman to end that!
So what its considered normal in japan? It takes one person to stand up 4 his/ her child! The girl child is not some lower being that she can be used anyway the perv wants! It is completely skewed for a grown a$$ man to see a girl child and go "I wanna screw that" it is SICK!

I simply don't understand you. Been reading your post buh I think you have some "idea" of cheating that I consider flawed. Your topic offered guys a chance to be all over saying things like "tell them oh" and all that but they didn't. Instead, some read n exited. Why? Probably coz cheating is not solely based on a nagging wife but selfishness and the stupid claim of being polygamous in nature. Some men get a kick just knowing they can cheat and get away with it. As 4 women? They're probably bored and in need of excitement which is also a stupid reason to cheat btw.
"There is no good reason to do a bad thing" saw it somewhere on NL n I agree 100%.

I guess we don't reason alike afterall coz u see cheating as a cry for help and I see it as the ultimate betrayal of trust.

You've never been cheated on b4? Yet you know why people cheat? Hmm! Ever wondered why marriage counsellors are married? Coz unless you have 1st hand experience, you can't offer advise on certain issues.

The "wondering eyes" part of your post makes sense tho(I'll give you that) but every other tn is just...

Love ke? Hmm... Don't mistake immaturity and insecurity 4 love.

Guys sha! That back side was photoshopped

I think six months is enough to know what she likes. But a good piece of jewellery would do. Perf has been overdone(I think).

@krall its the same story 4 every other person.
Most of the peeps who r now faceless had their pics up at some point.

Gurl... You knw its hard to judge one of our own. Onegig oya o!

Well, I think you look too purple. I'd put you in an above the knee black pencil skirt and it'd be perfect 4 me.

joywendy: It seems she's not around. So I would give the verdict on her behalf.
@adaeze003 welcome back!

Tnx dear

Randy100: men are polygamous by the not-so-meaningful culture.

Fixed...
Honestly, I'm sick of the silly polygamous excuse. If you are polygamous, no1 is gon beat or bite you! Just let her know what she's getting into. Tell her you're gon take two wives or that you're gon have side chicks! Some gals really don't mind.

Don't lie to her that you're gon be faithful n then stab her in the back. We're all humans so you should know that the same disgust you'll feel if your wife cheats is what she'll feel as well. Contrary to what guys may think, we don't have special "coolants" in our brains that help us 4giv n 4get faster! Just saying.

maxism2: guys may cheat, though not good.
but on no account should women cheat, especially married women

Uhm... I only asked a question. If you don't expect your wife to cheat under any circumstance then do not cheat yourself. Cheating is not gender specific.

So in summary, it is ok for one to cheat if his wife nags or if her husband isn't affectionate? Ok...

Haha! I get y you're freaked out, classic case of bushmeat chasing the hunter...

It could be that he's trying so hard to keep his eyes open 4 u but the sleep takes him unawares... Ever thought of that?

Stop complaining about it and be more understanding. You could even joke about it, playfully yab him but never nag coz u just might appear inconsiderate.

I hope ya'll guys won't also cheat seeing as you consider it a serious offence?

How do u knw she's into u? Do u like her?

Let's start 4rm there.

@op what other feelings do u wanna tell her? You already told her you love her n she didn't seem repulsed by it so wha else? You wanna go all mushy sweety n tell her how your heart skips a beat when she looks @ u? Lol! No try am o...

Don't mention the love ish again 4 now, just ask her out, by asking out I mean to dinner, launch or movies, try to see her often and talk of other things not love related. She might just b the one to bring up the topic again. If she doesn't, go ahead and ask her to be your gf and be clear about it like " will you be my girlfriend?". All in all, two things are involved she either likes u back or she doesn't. If she does then you'll get a yes n if not??

Enjoy the friendzone