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modele2: Your challenge is very real and I chose to reply becos i have experienced a part of it(fortunately not the beating part but the part where he wants you to spend every penny you have).

First take a patience pill. A president is respected not becos of the person he is but the office he occupies. Your husbands attitude may be like po, but becos of his office as husband, still give him respect.

1. Call him regularly, be cheerful on the phone when you call, ask him about his activities nicely and be genuinely interested, Dont NAG about money. You can ask about the household needs when you really really have to. if he refuses, let it be.
2. Thank God you have a job and make do with what you have, dont make your contributions an issue, limit your contributions to what is necessary, no fancy stuff.
3. When he comes around stop the confrontation, since he does not listen and resorts to violence. Make the house as comfortable as possible for him
4. Stop asking about the car, your nagging will not get it for you, as you are doing save towards one if you can and it would stop giving him reasons to annoy you, forget the car is there. He would later wonder why you are not asking and might offer it,a t least for his children school runs.
5. Another problem is the distance, he is not around and cant see how you contribute to the family upkeep, if he has any resonable bone in his body, u could do a cash book of your expenses from time to time and show him.
6. His not being around also means honestly...that u add little value to him in terms of perks of marriage, so try and make up for it when he is around.
7. Find contentment in other things, make the house a nice place for him when he returns, reduce the quarrels as much as u can, peharps he can regard you with more warmth. He would at a point look forward to comming home.
8. Look for support, raising the boys alone is not easy, get help so you can have more time for your self.
9. Then my dear, dont be tired of praying.
10. One day he would come round and you would truly begin to enjoy your marriage. One person has to conscede or play the fool in a quarrel, since it is thou that seeketh peace, then thou must play the fool.

I wouldnt have posted at all if i had seen this earlier. You made a whole lot of sense up there. Kudos! You appear to be a marriage councellor.

In as much as i h8 and condem physical and emotional abuse, I strongly think this story is one side If its actually real. Just my cent.

Canisma: Every woman wants a God fearing man,
but most girls run away from marrying pastors.
These ladies want a combination of Pope John Paul, David Beckham and the sexy James Bond, all in one package.
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GOD PASS DEM

Cant stop lauging at the above Post.

brokoto: Let me help you correct your grammar(i hope i wont make it worse) this question is quite irrelevant. Lets assume the BRT is better. What if you find yourself in Abuja? Wont you board the one there? Or will you prefer to walk on foot till you get back to your beloved Lagos? You can only compare different buses if you have the option to choose either of them at any given point in time.

God bless you.

shymexx: I still don't know Nigerians are going to Saudi Arabia smh....

Why can't you guys worship your own gods and deities, and stop flocking there for crying out loud??

Oshun, Obatala, Olukun, Amadiaoha etc.. are there in your country, yet you chose to flock to Saudi Arabia(for Kaaba) and Israel where they treat you like the black savages that you're...

I know some will argue that the African gods are not potent, but is the muslim god potent as well?? We all know how messed up the Middle-east is... Is the Christian god also potent?? We all know Nigeria has the highest number of churches in the world, yet the country is in abyss...

Religion is for consciousness, stop this madness already!!!

Whats your Religion?

shymexx: I still don't know Nigerians are going to Saudi Arabia smh....

Why can't you guys worship your own gods and deities, and stop flocking there for crying out loud??

Oshun, Obatala, Olukun, Amadiaoha etc.. are there in your country, yet you chose to flock to Saudi Arabia(for Kaaba) and Israel where they treat you like the black savages that you're...

I know some will argue that the African gods are not potent, but is the muslim god potent as well?? We all know how messed up the Middle-east is... Is the Christian god also potent?? We all know Nigeria has the highest number of churches in the world, yet the country is in abyss...

Religion is for consciousness, stop this madness already!!!

Whats your Religion?

yugogos: Why will we always derive joy in talkn against men of God?hw many times hav I come across any negative publication against an Imam?

Mr abi Miss. Please stay on point and dont stray from Topic. How does the Post affect Imam? Wetin cocine Imam for this matter na? If you have any issue with Imams, y not start another thread?Tchew.

Sagamite: Because they are preaching to fucktards!

Fucktards that are willing to pass their money to pastors to fund the pastor's luxurious life.

There are many such fucktards in Nigeria.

Gullible, desperate, delusioned fucktards that are looking for salvation and miracles instead of using their brains.

Oops! Sorry. They do not have a brain in the first place that is why they are fucktards.

You dont have to use vulgar or bad statements like the once up there before you make a point. SMH.

tintingz: Lol where for aljazeera . . .according to our naija news the killers were calling out names not asking of their names and police have arrested some suspects leading to this killings confirm to be students. . .investigations still ongoing.

Let the Mofo post links of the news he quoted. Brainless hater

9jagobetta: clearly you people are bunch of thugs and hoodlums ur prophet groom you through his example. It is a case of muslim against non muslim otherwise the rest of the world, so whosoever perfom any act pleasant to him/her and you people fine fault in it is against your religion. Every muslim born is a potential murder...

Whats your point dude? I can feel your frustration anyway.

I wonder why Xtians cant stay off Threads that has to do with Muslim, eventhough many of them cant air their views constructively. Why cant we have insult free Threads on this Forum? Some Ediots just came in with empty brain to Insult Islam and Muslims. Must you post? Let Her Insult some Powerful Nation and we would see how far She can go afterwards. Haters

Tlake: Islamically u can wear dem if its nt tite n dey v 2 b as big as dos indian trousers,even if u hve d biggest hips it will not show

The topic is Biblically, Stay on point.

Crap.Tcheew! *Grabs Pop corn and a bottle of Coke* Next Please!

deebrain: People should just stop quoting scripture to keep themselves in bondage. That scripture in the book of deut that talked about the things that pertains/belongs to women or the things that belongs to men. Please use historical references. It was talking about things that pertains to woman kind or mankind (who are going through their natural causes eg-sanitary pads for women and things that stimulate the males-(very arguably) vigra). As at the time this law was made, women wore under tights (similar to leggings). MEN WORE SKIRTS. Only the high priest wore an under garment like the women did. Its sick that many people will just use a verse they know nothing about and use it as a subject of holiness or doctrine of their church. And besides, God does not look at yr dressings but the intentions of yr dressing.

Are you a Pastor?

eddy1977: As long as you are comfortable and decent,no one should stop you from wearing it.
I don't care how long a woman,s skirt is,she can always pull it up.there are many prostitutes in the arab world who never wear trousers and yet they still sleep around.

You can wear a long skirt and still provoke men to lust.

If you are married,let your husband tell you if he likes it or not. If you are single,don't let anyone patronize you and tell you what to wear or what not to wear

How does your answer help the Op? The Op asked if its sinful and you just jumped off topic and got yourself busy with 1 Arab prostitute. SMH.

Series22: When it comes 2 soaps, i like Lux & imperial leather.

I have never ever used soap opera, so operah winfinfery dey do soap? I thought she is just a T.V presenter. She is rich o.

Series22: When it comes 2 soaps, i like Lux & imperial leather.

I have never ever used soap opera, so operah winfinfery dey do soap? I thought she is just a T.V presenter. She is rich o.

Funny You.

toba: I remember back then, whilst growing up in the days when we had limited television channels to watch, that we had to make do with whats available. I think it was Just NTA 10, NTA 2 channel 5, NTA 7, LTV8 and OGTV all of which were Government owned that used to operate on our airwaves. No DSTV and the only Satellite provider available was ABG.

These stations made us love watching TV with primetime programmes especially with foreign soap operas that took the airwaves. Some of these soaps/Telenovelas are the best ever and one can only reminiscence these soaps. The old folks would remember some, whilst some new folks would remember some of the new ones that have recently been aired .

Some of the soaps will be highlighted below

NO ONE BUT YOU (NTA 10)
THE RICH ALSO CRY
ISURA THE SLAVE GIRL
SECRET OF THE SAND
WILD ROSE Rosa Salvaje
LADY OF THE ROSE
WHEN YOU ARE MINE (CUANDO SEAS MIA)
THE GARDENERS DAUGHTER
CATALINA AND SEBASTIAN
SECOND CHANCE
Camila
SANTA BABRA
THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL
YOUNG AND RESTLESS
MARIA DE LOS ANGELES
La mujer el de janeiro
and many others. These are the few i can remember for now.

You can share ur experience on the ones you love the most

toba: I remember back then, whilst growing up in the days when we had limited television channels to watch, that we had to make do with whats available. I think it was Just NTA 10, NTA 2 channel 5, NTA 7, LTV8 and OGTV all of which were Government owned that used to operate on our airwaves. No DSTV and the only Satellite provider available was ABG.

These stations made us love watching TV with primetime programmes especially with foreign soap operas that took the airwaves. Some of these soaps/Telenovelas are the best ever and one can only reminiscence these soaps. The old folks would remember some, whilst some new folks would remember some of the new ones that have recently been aired .

Some of the soaps will be highlighted below

NO ONE BUT YOU (NTA 10)
THE RICH ALSO CRY
ISURA THE SLAVE GIRL
SECRET OF THE SAND
WILD ROSE Rosa Salvaje
LADY OF THE ROSE
WHEN YOU ARE MINE (CUANDO SEAS MIA)
THE GARDENERS DAUGHTER
CATALINA AND SEBASTIAN
SECOND CHANCE
Camila
SANTA BABRA
THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL
YOUNG AND RESTLESS
MARIA DE LOS ANGELES
La mujer el de janeiro
and many others. These are the few i can remember for now.

You can share ur experience on the ones you love the most

Cant believe you left out Passions and Generations.

kemtol: Hi nlers. I am a young lady who unfortunately lost my husband after four years of marriage. Its been two and half yes now since my husband death.is it okay for me to start a new relationship now. How many years is a widow required to mourn his husband before moving on. Thanks a lot as u respond.

We should advice you base on which law/custom/tradition? Cos as far as i'm concern the waiting period varies accordingly.

Gabriel_sylar: all this "tell tales" by college dropouts who wish they can marry men who know ow to tweet..... nonsense fabrication of fictitious feminine fallacies

I almost broke my head while lauging at your post. You got me cracked there Bro!

Gabriel_sylar: all this "tell tales" by college dropouts who wish they can marry men who know ow to tweet..... nonsense fabrication of fictitious feminine fallacies

I almost broke my head while lauging at your post. You got me cracked there Bro!

Nairalanders I hail thee, Cant stop lauging

@byrron.I don't knw any verse in the Qur'an where Child Marriage is supported.Plz point the Chapter and Verse.

Whoever says intra party is nt done in naija should look deeper.Remember the 2007 electn in Lagos when Fashola had 2debate his way past about 7other contestant for AC aspirant.He debated wit dlikes of Obanikoro,Remi A. Bakare,Ibukun Ohimae,Hakeem Gbajabiamila,Jimi Agbaje,Tokunbo Afikuyomi etc.remember after fashola was imposed on them,the affected decamped 2 oda Parties.I stand 2be corrected.

Muslims dnt kill innocent people,Meanin dis Boko Haram people are nt Muslims.Faqot.

@krisskis or wat is ur Name?b4 u run ur mouth on Islam nd Muslims,u a xtian or Jew?