miraclebaby:
Its normal for some people. You've been advice to ignore that lazy aspect till she brings forth your child. As for eating, some women do eat that way and can crave some food they hardly do eat in good days especially at odd hours. Its too early to worry about the amount of good she eats. In late pregnancy she'll be the one controlling it so give her whatever that's healthy she wants to eat now. I think the throwing up has stopped else she wouldn't like to eat. Take care of your wife and unborn baby. Happy Sunday

mamatwiny:


Hahaha.
Please indulge her. It is just 8 months to go. If you dont help her , it will make her start building up hatred for you. It will improve with time. sometimes, it is malaria or worm that happened along with pregnancy that causes some of those illness and they cannot be treated now till the enters 2nd trimester.
My family knows i am preggy, but till now, some of my hubby's family members dont know. His eldest sis and eldest brother still dont know. Reason is not that they wont be happy but they can out of their happiness share it to the ears of an enemy who live close to them. The ones that we even told are the ones that are close and out of care were offering one help or the other and are already disturbed and we are sure doesnt stay close to our perceived enemy in the villa.

You are also lucky ur wife has only weakness . Do you know some wives go into depression as soon as they conceive? madness things? Help her the much you can and dont tell her bad words . If you cant cope, you can get her a maid to assist.

ekashiloh:
Mama u can reserve ur commentoo.but as far as i am concerned,@Adeboye4christ has spoilt my day.just imagine his write ups,he just hate his innocent wife 4 nothing.i dont want 2 qoute his post attall.i try 2 order fertilesan 4 my friend dh n is 30k.but just 4 adeboye 2 buy 2 litters of fuel 4 his wife 2 cold d progesteron trying 2 incubate his baby,he is complaining 2 d wholeworld.i got teary 4 dat girl 2day.if i am close 2 her,i will buy fuel 4 dat girl daily,i really wonder how a woman who is vomiting helplessly can do wen she is already weak?let me not write again becos i am hot.cheers

Redeemed:
@Lynda1, congratulations dearie. Your joy shall be full, healthy, happy and stress free nine months in Jesus name. I'm happy for you.

@ Adebayo4christ....congratulations to you and your dear wife. While some of us and our hubby are keeping vigil for this kind of joy, you are telling us your wife is acting lazy. Let me reserve the remaining comments

Liftedhands:
OgaI remember you from your last complaint/lamentation about your wife's attitude towards you sick dad, praying style etc.

Thats by the way sha...
Congrats on the bfp and I wish her a safe preggy journey.

Note body differs! Woman A may have a nice symptoms and breeze thru the 9months with no issues while woman B may get hospitalised from day 1 still delivery.

Be considerate the way shes feeling is not her doing,I had terrible fatigue that I was almost useless to myself in my first trimester.

Register her for ante natal so he doctor wikk manage and give her the right medication to help her pull through.

Extreme internal heat is also very common in pregnancy if you can afford to run the gen all night please do! Your wife is suffering inside believe me.


If you chores are getting to much for you get her help or send her to her mother's till she's strong enough

Lastly it's the seed YOU planted in her that's making her feel so sick and tired! Next time give her a seed thats not troublesome .


Closing remarks A lot of us here will give ANYTHING to be pregnant! And our better halves won't mind doing all the work both home and office just so we can birth his child and he be called daddy at the end of the day

It's not for ever though please indulge her she will be the one doing the pushing alone when the time comes Abi can you push a baby Lolz come over to the preggy thread you will learn alot to help her thru this period.

pinkyruledworld:
Is it tmobile?

Enyinne:

This person operate under 2 monikers, one as a driver to collect cars from unsuspecting public and the order as an uber consultant. All should be careful to avoid had I known. My 1cent .

Another Ogunvic loading...but Oga Bayo i thought you said you are a new driver.sss alright

Meanwhile whatever is happening to Uber
.were too may drivers making money from their surge..saturday mornings before 9am used to be a delight for me with 1.8 surge around yaba/surulere axis now the surge is no more just a minor 1.2 and no more for the rest of the day but generally Uber has reduced the weekend surge and even monday morning lekki/chevron 2.0/2.1 surge has reduced to 1.8..anyway we are hubsarving....happy weekend folks...lets move lagos forward abi how ogunvic dey take talk am....i miss that dude....

miraclebaby:
Sometimes we seem to ignore certain acts during courtship thinking the person will change. How did you miss these signs? A nagging wife is very deadly in the family. If you say she doesn't call or visit your parents, I may excuse her of not being outgoing with people; some people are. But my issue with her is complaining when you take care of your parents to the extent of telling you that time will come when you have to choose. Let me say she's lucky you're not me, else I would have chosen that same day and given her my stand.
You've got a lot of talking to do with your wife. Find out what her problem is, if may be she's tired of the marriage or she's just feeling insecure because you already had two kids.
Did you ever join her in those midnight prayers during courtship? If you did, and you don't want to join now then I think you also gave a wrong impression.
I'm not the type to force someone to pray with me, neither should I let anyone do same to me. If I'm not in the mood or I don't want to, no one can force me.
But then, what encourages me to join another is prayer is the attitude and not the way the person prays.

How will your wife be strong MFM member and still nag? How would God answer those prayers? It's a throw off for people who would even like to join in the prayer.

Like I said, you've got a lot of talking with her. If you're tired of the marriage, let her know your reasons so that tomorrow she'll have herself to blame.

You can also talk to someone she respects either a friend or family member so the person can advice her.

But be clear with her on your stand that if she doesn't change, that may be the end of the marriage.

Once again, why do you plead with her when she does a wrong? Is she the breadwinner of the family? Sometimes the way we act towards people give them the upper hand to treat us like trash.

Once more, check yourself if there's something you're not doing right. If she or you feel inferior sometimes.

May God give you the wisdom to direct your home in His way.

eniolorunfe:

Instead of focusing so much on what your wife does or doesn't do, you need to FOCUS on your hustle and pray that God will lift your head and bless you.

That is what will end all this drama, you won't believe the change you will see in your wife. Na you go start to dey do yanga.....

orangb:
Most men commenting on this post are quick to blame the wife, but I'll tell you that the op is at fault.

I've had experience with your type before- Mommy's boy who just can't wean themselves of their Mommy's breast milk .

Why should she have to pay for your wedding?
Why should your mum be paying the balance for the photographer and not you?
Why should your mom be handing over foodstuff to your family?
Why do you have to force her to visit your parents regularly when she knows she is still trying to wean you off your comfort living off your parents as well as prevent them from meddling in your family affair?
Have you thought about her upbringing? Does she call her own family as often as you want her to call yours?

Why at all should you even think of discussing your arguments in your home with your mom?

Please be a man and take charge of your home and restrict the access your parents have to your home. If you have to receive assistance from your mom, do it covertly and not in a way which would make your wife a ridicule in front of your family.
Be a real man not some Mommy's boy relaxing in his mother's laps!

jaszplus12:
well u all know well that some women love to be traumatized before they submit...therefore OP here's a suggestion:
calmly collect a week's amount of clothing and leave home to an unknown destination (come to my house so we share life's experience)
leave here in the dark and no communication
be sure your dad is catered for but don't info them your whereabouts.
after a week reappear ...collect another batch of clothes and calmly move out...don't answer any questions or look perturbed...
let's discuss again after this works or doesn't... cheers.

Precious111:


I wonder if your wife is actually an MFM member, Cos I am and we are been taught Every third sunday of the month about How a home should look like. How a wife MUST respect her husband and take good care of him. I take it that your wife is one if those MFM members with misconception about MFM and life itself.
Pls open up your heart to her, communicate with her and all and the female genital mutilation done on her is an issue..

Truth is she actually sees your family as her enemy she should fight which is a wrong notion. Buy the Many of Pastor Mrs FUNKE adejumo sermon on marriages and make sure she listens to them, if possible watch and listen to them together.
Pls try to make her change her church to less Aggressive church too cos that's how things will continue, she wont agree actually but make it compulsory for her and report her to her parents Plsz if She misbehaves, Then show her a lot of Love too

Op Plsz make your Marriage work don't give up too early.

baby124:
She is quite insensitive. But to be honest, did you expect her to go and stay with your father all days everyday for 3weeks? Does she not have a life of her own as well? Sometimes we have to be reasonable with our expectations of others.

Emvicprints1:
your wife left you in the hands of kpokpo and you are saying she is not jazebel. cho men marriage this days ehen if it was old school mothers those police would leave you cause of her begging

tytunji29:

U already ve 2kids y u cum marry agan to Jezebel

whyworryPH:


Thank you for swallowing your pride and pleading with her. My prayer is that this peace will last.

But you still need to have a heart to heart talk with her. She should know that her behaviour could lead you into something both of you will live to regret.

May the Lord's peace reign in your marriage.

whyworryPH:
Adebayo4Christ, I feel your pain. No one wants to remain in a marriage filled with such hurtful words. But do not be ignorant of the vices of the enemy.

Was she like this before you thought of marrying her? If the change is kind of sudden, you may have to make some sacrifices and really pray for your marriage and God's intervention.

Then call her and let her know how you feel in the marriage. Hopefully, the Spirit of God will take over and restore your marriage.

If this fails, take it up with your pastors that can counsel you both preferably the one that wedded you.

Please don't be in a haste to opt out. God has got your marriage and will return your peace in Jesus name, amen.

AMEN. THANK YOU MA, BUT I HAVE DONE THAT. THIS PAST SUNDAY, I WANTED TO GO TO THE MARRIAGE COMMITEE TO TELL THEM WHAT WAS HAPPENING COS WE DIDNT TALK FOR TWO WEEKS TILL THIS MIONDAY. I LATER CALLED MY PASTOR TO TELL HIM I WILL NOT BE COMING TO CHURCH BUT GOING TO HER HEADQUARTERS TO REPORT, MY PASTOR COUNSEL ME ON PHONE AND TOLD ME TO GO N PLEAD WITH HER. WHICH I DID IMMEDIATELY THAT SUNDAY AFTER SHE CAME BACK FROM CHURCH EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS THE ONE AT FAULT.

tritritri:
@Adebayo4christ


My advice..Do not divorce her becos of this..Remember your past and manage wit it. But try to give her space. work hard and earn ur respect . avoid her family and face ur own family. start making personal plans as i don't see this union going far .stop tellin her anything abt ur family reason because she don't care. hang out more wit friends.

FloraEC:


Wrong section please. Few intelligent ones will answer him and the remaining will frustrate/confuse him.

Adebayo4christ did your parents do anything bad to her before marriage or were they against it? I know is not a good excuse to act that way, but you have to sit her down and talk with her even the prayer part.

damilola38:




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Deprofessional:


Please, if you end this marriage, make sure you dont go into any relationship with any woman again.

My people have a proverb that goes this way: A woman that went to seven markets and fought in all the markets, is it that the people in the markets are the problem or she is the problem.

Bro. examine yourself, it is apparent you are the problem. Why on earth will you have 2 kids from different women? if you push this one out now, you will have three kids from three woman. Haba!

Marriage is for adults and not for kids.