₦airaland Forum

budaatum:
I guess the reason for the paternity test is because we don't trust each other and have no plans to be in a relationship with one another. So yes, you must do a paternity test to ensure you are not paying support for a child that is not yours.

If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

This lack of trust is just a blackmailing garbage….
Is there no other reason a man would want his child tested??

If i tell u i want to be sure hospital ddnt swap my baby, u are the one with trust issues if u are thinking any other reason

Lol… This country ehn…… tueh!!

Tareq1105:
Would igini be happy if majority of the senators did not return in 2027?

Does he know the implications to the quality of our law making process?

Experience cannot be bought at wuse market.

Which useless implication??
Experience in what exactly??
raising stvpid bills that has no benefit to the masses and embezzling allocations??


Una nor dey tire?? Always praising your oppressors

giftson102:
Dear men, please learn to control your emotions and not take the law into your own hands..

If you Catch your Wife on your Matrimonial bed with another man that man has committed NO CRIME.

Yes.

Even if you saw them in action.

Shocking........

Adultery under most Nigerian criminal laws is not a criminal offence.

What does it mean?
It means:
🥢 You cannot beat him.
🥢 You cannot detain him.
🥢 You cannot call police to arrest him.
🥢 You cannot charge him to court for “sleeping with your wife.”

What you witnessed is only a ground to divorce, your wife not a crime.

So greet the man and let him go.
Painful, but that is the law.

However, if this same thing happens in some Northern states operating under Sharia-based criminal laws, the story changes.

There, adultery (zina) is treated as a criminal offence.
Meaning:
🥢 The man can be arrested.
🥢 The act can lead to prosecution.
🥢 It is no longer just a “family matter.”

Same country.

Different legal consequences.

This is why you must understand the law in your location before reacting in anger.
One wrong move assault, violence, or murder and you will move from “hurt husband” to “criminal defendant.”

Emotion is temporary.
Criminal record is permanent.

Before you react, know where you stand legally.
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The law u are quoting also recognises crime of passion nd temporary insanity-driven actions…
If fact.. if push comes to shove, the law can even recognise it as self defence… because the adulterous man wey get mind enter another person territory can easily be seen as an aggressor ….the wife and the husband are kukuma the only witness….

lilachiever:
Your own reasoning sef enter gutter.

40M liquid cash before buying a phone worth 1.8M? For real?

u wey ur reasoning enter heaven…welldone sir …,

Its technically an unimportant purchase…an expensive one at that….it beats my imagination how u yall buy things u dont really need when yall dont have excess cash .. this is supposed to be a thumb rule..

But hey… if e reach ur turn……. buy your own 1.8M phone from 3Million reserve cash ….

Aykad:
Firstly I don't blame you but who made your post fly, cos this is a clear attack on religion.
Fine,to err is human only God(Allah) is perfect
There is nothing wrong posting about the Imam atrocities but why attack the religion as if we have not hear and seen many atrocities done by other religion leaders.
Will advise you wise up and don't be brain washed, instead study about other religion and pray for guidance

Be pretending not to know why….
Bokoharam went to kwara state… killed pole, stopped by the mosque for jumat service before leaving…. But when pple mention islam u pretend they are just attacking u for no reason at all… continue pretending.

liasmiram2567:
Like your Catholic Bishops and other Pastors who have committed grave sexual offences on the young and old ,I should blame Christianity for the crime of a few? Islam is not to be blamed for his crime. ISLAM COUNTS RAPE AND OTHER SEXUAL OFFENCES AS GRIEVOUS CRIMES.

U guys pretend u dont know why pple blame islam for some of these crimes….u think pple just like to call islam??
Ur muslim senators steal and commit all manner of atrocities, have u heard any body blame islam for embezzlement??
Muslims commit crimes everyday, many m are posted on nairaland among drug trafickers, ritualist who behead pple in ogun state, have u ever heard anyone call islam for these crimes??

But when Bokoharam went to kwara last week to preach islam to pple, prayed in the mosque before massacring over 100 pple who refused their gospel……when pple call islam, yall pretend they are just attacking islam then u try to balance it by saying 4500 years ago, david also fought wars……

lets all keep pretending keep pretending……..our religion is perfect and others are the problem…

lanre316:
Is he not saying the truth?

an islamist is first an islamist before being a human being…. So being true doesnt concern them….. to them, this news is an attack against their prophet and religion…

jFrankNorfleet:
life can be very unpredictable. Perhaps he bought it when things were okay and he was doing extremely well for himself and then disaster struck which wiped even the hypothetical 40M, scam, hackers, an accident, theft etc. not saying that's this person's case but life, sometimes, turn around fast

If u say so

jFrankNorfleet:
This discussion is so funny. You bought something for 1.8m and now is no longer brand new, you then want to collect loan of 1.5m with your phone as collateral? My guy thinks people would be lining up to buy the phone from the lender for the 1.8 he (the borrower) bought it.......lol. talk about losing sense of value

How did he even buy a 1.8 M phone yet not have enough reserve cash …..
If i’ll be buying a 1.8 million phone cash down i must have at least 40million in my account resting as idle cash…….I guess we are wired differently shaaa

Women see how unattractive it is when men ask them for money …table turn now she dey follow am about with camera reach bus station to humiliate the guy because of ordinary 2.50euros….: hahahahahahaha!

U are pretending like stringing a married man along for your greed is a good thing just because hes married..

Two of you should getat.. u are both thieves, at least he told you what he wanted straight up

CorperKola:
How can You interprete the situatjon like this
This is why thw society video is like this
No consequneces for bad actions
That is all this man is trying to ensure that they pay for their wickedness
If they pay 50 million now,they wont mess up next time
Thats the right way to think about this for a better society

They should pay more than that seff if they dont successfully bribe the jidge...Someone died naa

The cost attach to life and psychological pain is usually very high in saner countries, then they will add burial expense and other cost….. the guy should just gather his evidence well, and the hospital too must be ready to testify otherwise the case will crumble very fast

Eleph:
This one is all out to take advantage of the system in order to cash out a whopping ₦50m just like that!

Losing a loved one is always a painful thing in life, but the motive or desire to make such an humongous amount of money out of the situation says a lot about the character of the person involved.

We'll keep our fingers crossed and see what Opay will come up with in their defence and justification if any, for the action.

If law suits like these dont happen frequently, service wont improve… providers just treat customers anyhow.. holding onto funds…
Commercial banks are even worse with their poor ATM and fund transfer service …. U will send or try to take money to another bank’’s ATM and issues will happen …. they will take ages to reconcile small error…

They will first use 3weeks to toss u here and there that the money is with the other bank, interswitch, or Nibbs..then use another 2 weeks to agree its their duty, then another one month to do reversal

SLA should be standard….go abroad..u can never hear anything like transfer error, or Cash retract, customers will slam u with law suit and chop free damages money….

anonimi:
Is this because you and other Nigerians don’t engage adequately with those we allow to be our senators and representatives in Abuja on budget matters

Otherwise, what would make the 469 senior and junior federal lawmakers fail to reflect the desires of their constituents in their budget oversight functions?

Keep blaming the victim of corruption…. Una go stay abroad dey talk dust

chinchum:
Look at the positive sides, what typically goes to Aso rock will now be fed somewhere else, aside the acclaimed cost savings.

Dont be shocked that someone will still pay aso rock PHCN bill for the next 10years and it eill be in the budget…. Wellcome to nigeria

Razzness:
I no follow you drag again. You are living in wonderland.

Baba its not wonderland…. Laws similar to that already works with pharmacies

Razzness:
The way you are talking am sure you didn't grow up or live in Nigeria.

So you think Agbo sellers, local kiosk owners, and road side vendors etc, a lot of whom may not even be formally educated, will be the ones asking or profiling those under 21.

The diazepam, tramadol and codeine you are talking about, if you want 100 packs today-today you will get it, in fact they can even do home delivery for you, with just a phone call.

See… there will always be exceptions and pple who break laws… thats doesn't mean there shouldn't be safety laws….
Try and enter any pharmacy in nigeria and ask for those drugs i listed… no one will sell it to you …unless they know u… that to tell u the laws work and reduce access … but of course not 100percent because there will always be law breakers
I have already told u… once one or two pple get arrested everybody will straighten up because seller will be afraid nafdac decoy shoppers are everywhere.

This agbo/concortion sellers are even the easiest… task force will just start arresting them on the street… u wont see any of them again…..

Olukat:
Such doctor should be mentioned cos he or she may have committed so much atrocities

U dey believe woman?? I pity you….. wife of content creator for that matter…

Stay there make them dey whine una

hegelian:
oya return home bro if you so much believe all you wrote.. una go dey where una escape too and be speaking grammar...we wey dey naija understand and hope you join us back home not writing epistle like a broken clock

Lol….. u give am uppercut….

E nor go answer…

Razzness:
What a joke. First of all NAFDAC can't possibly enforce age access laws. This is a country where 15-16 year old kids have voters card and participate in elections, talk less of buying alcohol.

Yes they can.. sellers will be mandated to ask for ID and also profile kids they feel arent up to 21 years old with doctored ID cards… this is the standard everywhere… nigeria is too slack with alcohol control……
NAFDAC does this successfully with pharmacy for control drugs like diazepam, codein, tramadol…… they use decoy customers to ask for these drugs under control list….once one or two pple fall for it and get arrested, everybody will lock up sharppaly

.there is doctored ID everywhere sir… even abroad thats why sellers are expected to profile kids even when they bring ID but they look like less than 21 years old

Razzness:
And if you think children can't afford 1,500 or 2,500 for alcohol, then you don't know children of nowadays. Same children that are now spending thousands of naira to buy different grades of weed and drugs.
Those who will drink will drink, in fact, bottle alcohol will even make them more indulgent.

Which bottle of alcohol is 1500?? Everything is expensive now ooooo… Of course some will still drink……..still there is no how access will not significantly reduce for kids if sachets are off the streets…

Razzness:
What a joke. First of all NAFDAC can't possibly enforce age access laws. This is a country where 15-16 year old kids have voters card and participate in elections, talk less of buying alcohol.

Yes they can.. sellers will be mandated to ask for ID and also profile kids they feel arent up to 21 years old with doctored ID cards… this is the standard everywhere… nigeria is too slack with alcohol control……
NAFDAC does this successfully with pharmacy for control drugs like diazepam, codein, tramadol…… they use decoy customers to ask for these drugs under control list….once one or two pple fall for it and get arrested, everybody will lock up sharppaly

.there is doctored ID everywhere sir… even abroad thats why sellers are expected to profile kids even when they bring ID but they look like less than 21 years old

Razzness:
And if you think children can't afford 1,500 or 2,500 for alcohol, then you don't know children of nowadays. Same children that are now spending thousands of naira to buy different grades of weed and drugs.
Those who will drink will drink, in fact, bottle alcohol will even make them more indulgent.

Which bottle of alcohol is 1500?? Everything is expensive now ooooo… Of course some will still drink……..still there is no how access will not significantly reduce for kids if sachets are off the streets…

donself9:
How can something be only bad in satchet Buh good in bottle

Where Nafdac lost the arguement is they could discredit the content Buh just against the size n satchet that does not save life

if i dont drink chelsea gin fron satchet i can drink from bottle ... how as that helped my health

Sayin people wont have money to buy bottle is ridiculous, "codiene is inside bottle d expensive youth abuse it, north of all poor places abuse codiene, ice this things are not cheap

Alcohol is not a contraband… nafdac never said they wanted to prevent pple from drinking…. Thats revenue drop ooooo….. its more about controlling children’s access…

Razzness:
I don't understand the obsession of NAFDAC with sachet Alcohol. Banning it will never reduce the volume of Alcohol people drink. In fact, I think sachet Alcohol helps people take smaller volumes and regulate their drinking. The moment it is banned they will just move up to buying bigger bottles, because people who drink will always drink.
Now imagine entering a commercial bus and you see a 750ml bottle of Chelsea or Action bitters positioned on the dashboard.
The only possible benefit banning sachet Alcohol has is that it will help reduce the environmental pollution polymer sachets cause. If that is the reason why they are doing it, then it is reasonable. But if it's to make people reduce or stop drinking, then it will be one of the most useless intervention by NAFDAC.

The move was never to control adult’s alcohol intake.. adults will surely adjust by buying alcohol in bottles..

They mentioned its for controlling children's easy access to alcohol….. with one hundred naira any kid can buy those things in satchet since its every where unlike bigger bottles that are more expensive and found only in shops where nafdac can enforce age access laws

BrickandLace:
Loss of initial spark, novelty and attraction I dunno.
I'm not about to find out anyway

Oh… i thought u were talking from experience

BrickandLace:
There's such a thing as sexless marriage.
I laugh when some say they want to marry cos of sex.

Why is the marriage sexless??
Did the vagaina close?
Or the penis stopped having erection??
Or couple just became insensitive

asfrank:
It's now understandable that some people have the money, what they are actually looking for is power to control others.
How else would you justify this? N603 million for appointment..

She borrowed the money….

verminnel:
Marriage to a great deal is what u both make of it dear, why not try to focus on the good in ur hubby.like those things that made u fall in love with him rather than focusing on his flaws? What u place ur focus on so keenly u magnify. No one is without flaws and im sure if he is given equal platform he would definitely have a lot to complain about u also.You both have come this far already,please dont let the devil win.

Apparently, pple paint this picture that there is nothing good about their marriage and spouse…

The op said she has never been happy for 3 days… i mean, how have they been fvcking and team playing for nearly two decades…??

16yrs?? How all of una dey cope in a horrible marriage for 16 yrs abi u pple just like over inflating the issue than it looks….

U pay bills together; thats successful team work
Yall moved abrod together: super expensive yet yall pulled it off together
Yall raised kids togeda through 16 yes : thats another kudos…
Yall ddnt kill each other: thats another plus…

I think u guys are a great couple but yall started taking each other for granted at some point…..
No intentional investment in the couple spark,
No appreciation for what both parties brings for the last 16yrs….
No spontaneous romantic gestures.. abi u want to lie u have initiated a romantic outing for u both that u paid for in the last 3 years??
Yal just complain…..i’m guessing you are the perfect one.. so its all his fault..

Yall should put aside your ego.. intentionally audit the relarionship ..see a therapist if u can… u pulled off nearly two decades togeda.. madam una go dey alright with just small intentional effort

Stephen0mozzy:
😅😂 Allow the website get traffic na.

Na so witchcraft be oooo…. That person know say na somebody hustle be that yet u nor want make pple click the link…

He took advantage of you?? By promising to marry you and married you??
Why una like to de play victim even after using men?