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Silentgroper:
you shouldn't heap the blames on men on here only .. That situation goes vice versa ...

Guy ..no need to shalaye.....them be victim card players....

.their expectation na men wey go dey all over them, calling them babes, dear, agreeing with wateva they say....anything different from that na toxic, hatred and attack..

Pecoleee345:
PTSD....LOL...... you are just cooking things up in your head.
She is even beside me as I type.

What Op is doing isn't a bad thing............is just the thrash talking am against.

Isnt only lack finance that makes one complain in marriage, there are several aspects of marriage.


Once again until you are married you won't understand.

I have to be married before I will have common sense??...guy u are funny....

Make we dead the issue...

Pecoleee345:
So cos someone is kind that would stop them from complaining or thrash talk you??

Would her Kindness make her stay when you down financially and not complain /nagg your soul out??

Kindness self get limit.....never forget that

A truly kind person will help even those she doesn't know repeatedly....let alone her own husband that has been caring for her before job loss....

I have seen women help their husband during trying times without any noise...na the guy even come talk am by himself say na the wife dey do this and that...yes they are not common..and It's not mere love..its a team playing mentality rooted in kindness



This ur woman don give u PTSD......


Baba....U go dey alright...

Pecoleee345:
I don't think you are married ?? Hence you don't know how bad people can pretend.

One thing have learnt over time is people change and you can't truly know what you can do until you find yourself in some certain situations.

Women are naturally stingy and not natural givers....they see there giving as an investment.

Whatever she giving or doing during dating stage is an investment to her.........relationship and marriage is two different ball game.
Most women change mostly in marriage after having the first child and most bad behavior show when the man is down.

It is just a mindset.......they just feel whatever they lack is there husband fault and the society supports them.
Only few see things differently.


Lastly in every relationship that leads to marriage there is always hidden motives.......Love is never the only reason.

I never mentioned love...don't know why u mentioned it....
Na the few u go look out for....kindness is a trait...u cannot consistently fake it.....it's either u have it or u dont....

Pecoleee345:
Like they make it look like the man is just a log of wood during those period doing nothing and not dropping a single kobo.

That 2022 I paid the house rent and was still dropping whatever I see but due to the fact she was the one dropping the lion share.....I was lazy and not ready to work.

She started telling people she was tired and complaining like this.......Men I went through depression.

This was a woman i married jobless and can't even boost of 100k in her account then.
The business she runs i set it up for her.

Things change last year and table has turned......now that same woman now expects me to give her money freely and help her family members....lol

She herself no the love I have for her is now 20% and she always blaming the devil for her behaviors but for me I can only labor on my kids.

Pele.....u don see the other side of life ooo

..some women and men too..so make i nor dey one sided, are not fit for marriage but too bad that men have made big yansh and bréast the criteria for marriage

.....for me oo...it's necessary to consciously lookout for kindness in a woman during dating stage....it always shows unless u are not observant..

Woman wey una dey date wey no dey ever buy anything when she dey come ur side for visit..always collect uber money when going and coming....haa

..woman wey u go tell make she buy 5k things on her way to spend weekend ..wey go dey ask u for the money before una go sleep on the first day she arrive, and even after i help am fix her iphone X screen wey break the following week

Babe wey come my side before I close for office...call me say no light...I say make she buy fuel, werey by 3k fuel, nearly use am watch Africa magic and zee world finish, still dey ask me for ordinary 3k.....

The signs are always there when dealing with these women....a kind woman who is a team player from start will not treat her own partner like trash just because things no level up for some period



when dating most of them marry with mind set of not doing anything and also compare their life to other women their husband is very rich...

Small team playing spirit no dey their body....

Lovecode89:
Three years into marriage with a son. he resigned from his job immediately after the wedding, stop making effort to get another job. No business pursuit, no skill.
Left all the bills on the struggling wife. The marriage became so dry, no romance, the wife is always sad and over burden. Yet he wants intimacy from the wife. The wife deprived him for months.

How can she handle such marriage?

He just resigned after marriage for no reason and decided not to do anything....?? Lol....this ur story seff dey one kind....

if Person no sabi wash plate, but he sabi sweep ground... But u dey vex say e no sabi wash plate, so prevent him from also sweeping..na u dey lose ooo from two sides.

My own is ..if u are lucky to catch a Dangote or otedola or Elon musk for marriage....good for you.... But if ur husband is struggling....just navigate the union to happiness as much as u can or divorce him....no frustrate ur self...no be u go be first woman bread winner


Madam..u go dey alright jarè...

Goodlyhrt:
only you go stay for the world? Chilax bro!

Or are you gay?

Sigh!! Another lunatic..

sparko1:
Just because a gay man slept with a woman because the environment doesn't permit it.

shebi u claim u are heterosexual...can u fvck a woman without erection...can ur dick stand without being moved by the person u want to fvck...so how can a gay man that claims he's attracted to a man, press boóbi and get his dîck up to fvck a woman with curvy assss...??

sparko1:
Do you know how many Nigerian men/guy have anal sex with their wife and girlfriend?

Lol....What's ur point here sir??....anal sex, mouth sex, bóób sex, hand sex, wateva sex ....what has that gat to with being gay....
.....gay pple kiss each other right?? So if a man kiss a woman, he has done gay fóreplay ?? Man ....you don't have point here...

sparko1:
The idea of choice is not clear to you, the thing you call lust is inbuilt, you don't choose to feel that way.

if its in built...how is it inbuilt for bisexual, for pple who fvck animals, pple attracted to children ?? Care to explain that??
See.....what's natural and inbuilt is man and woman sex... becos its nature's design for species continuity...and that's why a gay man can fvck a woman any day........which is also whats obtainable in the jungle where no one teaches animals them how to procreate and life continues........every other thing like sex with animals, children, man with man, woman with woman is just lust, ignited from environment triggers...

sparko1:
A choice implies I made a decision to feel that way.

U can choose not to act out all desires...

sparko1:
The first thing you need to acknowledge is, is it generic or a choice, sexuality is not a choice, we straight guy don't have a choice, our attraction to the female folk is instinctive, we don't choose it.

If this is so, why would anyone hide just so they can be who they are?

This is the point of the discussion.

Everything is choice...nothing is genetic about it....sexual attraction is environmentally/lust driven

..hope u realize there are people that fvck both men and women..what genetics is that.??.

... There are people who are sexually attracted to children, animals, non living things, etc..what genetics is this??

..there is nothing genetic about it....what we have are just pple who have a broad spectrum of sexual desires and choose to pursue all these multiple desires they are feeling..

Show me a gay man...and I will show u his female exes and even the women he's still sleeping with... Same for lesbians ....

Sigh.....Another captain save a skirt ......

Whatsapp9:
My actions were out of immaturity and wrong advice from evil friends.

I realised my mistakes. How can I convince him to allow me back? How can I persuade my husband? Advise me please 🙏

What do u mean by U are not attractive.?? Use makeup abeg....everyone is attractive...

U go dey alright.......u don't need any man...

sparko1:
You may think so, so many ill-informed young minds this days, it will be difficult in another couple of years.

Difficult for who?? U guys like making storm out of tea cup....
U are the ones making it difficult.... How many times u see an heterosexual person announcing he's heterosexual.... announcing he's coming out...??
Sex is a private issue ....if y'all gay folks treat it as private, there will be no need for all these seeking validation by linking wateva u do behind close doors with genetics, whether animals in the bush do it or not, etc....

I mean... look at us.. humans with advanced cognitive function...we build planes and communicate from millions of miles away..yet we are seeking validation of our life style from animals in the bush operating at adrenal or survival cortex level ...it's pathetic....

lilyheaven:
😂😂😂😂
Money no go finish,
Yansh no go finish too.
Na Una cry say, girls don collect all the money.
Una hard earn money just for 5 minutes pleasure.

No let boys deceive you...no man dey give woman all his money.....na lie just to make am look like say he sacrificed alot....


Of course naaa...yansh no go finish..but Yansh go suffer naaa polus plenty abortion...womb fit remove seff.... ..and men go reject over used yansh and go for more decent yansh..... na una go suffer pass..

kumbhuru:
What identity document could I put here please ? I have voters card and NIN but those do not have expiry dates

Anyone u like....u cannot use ninslip...it's has to be the ID card..


Makes sure the information is not different from ur passport

MrDoGood:
Maybe you don't understand what you wrote. You don't need to lie to make her feel important.

Are you married?

If you're not, wait till you get married and see girls just want to jump on you without you impressing them. Let alone lying to them. You don't even really need to flash the cash. Except you're going after below 25 yrs old. This is not a confirmation that cheating is a norm. I'm just stating facts

The temptation becomes high the moment you get married

Oga na u no read ....this is not about lying to getting them.....there's no woman that doesn't want to feel special...weda she knows she's just being used as a side chic or not..

A married man dating a side chic that knows she's a side chic will never tell that side chic his wife at home is finer and sweeter than her...Lai Lai...

........that's what the sweet talking lies are for especially if u are keeping a steady side chic ....even men wey marry 4 wives for house dey use lies for each of them say "na ur own sweet pass" to make her feel special.....

Be like u nor know women.??...u never see two side chic dey fight say na she be main side chic..?? U never see women dey form monogamy inside polygamous home...na game naa.......u nor fit deal with woman without small lies....

[quote author=Ojukwubucket post=130224798][/quote]Avoid scam ooo......them full nairaland oooo ...

lilyheaven:
you are funny ooo
Una claim say Una get money, while women pretend.
It’s a game.
Let’ the game continue

Ehnnn naaa..now u are just talking like the normal girls .. no need of pretence .....na una yansh go suffer am...money no go finish by God's grace
.
Shaa no come back dey complain when boys say Dem na decent virgins Dem wan marry..

.. I no wan hear "it's not fair ooooo" is not the men that made us non-virgins??....mba oooo.....na una dey spread legs collect iphone oooo...

MrDoGood:
Maybe you don't understand what you wrote. You don't need to lie to make her feel important.

Are you married?

If you're not, wait till you get married and see girls just want to jump on you without you impressing them. Let alone lying to them. You don't even really need to flash the cash. Except you're going after below 25 yrs old. This is not a confirmation that cheating is a norm. I'm just stating facts

The temptation becomes high the moment you get married

Sigh....

Ojukwubucket:
Bro times are hard..
Evil and heartless people should not be to allowed to go scot-free

Get in touch with the police ......na small issue if u can spend the money needed because police won't do it for free....

It's sad.....poor people can't even afford the usual poor man products..... Ordinary garri and ground nut that used to be the poor man's life line.....

How much for the phone wey snap this pics

Another vawulence is about to break out here before midnight..

Rexymania:
Oga Jesus is not God, he's a servant of God

What u cannot take is what u do to other pple... If someone say something about ur book that Mohammed is not a prophet but lied he met an angel, u will scream blasphemy and bring out knife..

kumbhuru:
Please who can put me through the visa application process? What documents would I need for the HCW visa

Passport
Cos; number or document containing number given to u by employer ...
TB test...
Police report
iELTS or NARIC report..
Bank statement showing 1270pounds equivalent in naira if ur employer is not supporting you by ticking yes to maintenance on ur COS form.

If u married; and applying together ...marriage certificate, other proof of ur union...what's app chat, pics...same documents as above for the spouse minus ielts, plus application ref number of main applicant (ielts is only for main applicant)

If u have children, NPC birth certificate and same as above documents minus police report and NARIC plus ref number of main applicant

MrDoGood:
that's not correct.

you don't need to lie. in fact, most single girls prefer married men

Dey try read....e get why..

The lie is to make her feel important...not to lie that he's not married... The question is why is he lying to the babe that he doesn't like his wife...
Everyone woman wants to feel important than all the other women....even if she knows u are cheating on her or in a polygamous arrangement...

lilyheaven:
Yeah,we all have hormones.
But men are outspoken, they ask for it direct, they don’t pretend.

mayb u should school me....so if one person doesn't initiate sex....how is it supposed to happen..are u saying is we should both pretend ??

So if U come to my house ...u use style to say."I will soon go ooo"... And I also pretend and say...."be going naaa"....madam..-How will the strong thing enter the place??

The bottom line is...u women want to fvck us too...but u just like monetizing sex....and using it as leverage for any other thing u need, making it look like u are just doing us a favour ..so we have to pay....

..can u suck your own pvssy, which many of u claim is sweeter than penetrative sex?
So..madam we are doing each other a favour....stop the pretense and let's fvck each other.... If payment will come ..it will come....

Flamemignon1:
It's due to our experience although I also hate that narrative especially when it's mirrored in movies where we have the super homophobic person who then turns out to be gay, it makes it seem like homophobia is our fault and there can't be genuinely extremely homophobic straight people.

That being said, experiences matters and from our collective experience as a minority, it's what we saw. I, personally wasn't out in school and I'm "straight-passing" or what you straight people call masculine, you'd never know I was gay unless I told you and I personally bullied gay kids who were flamboyant, the real straight men in my cliques were homophobic but they were chill and didn't really care unless they had to interact with them, I on the other hand will punch and physically harrass them. I knew I was gay but I was in complete denial and drowning myself in self hate and it was my shame and anger seeing other gay kids who could be themselves while I couldn't, that shame and pain made me put the heat on them. When I finally came out, I asked other masculine gay men if they felt that way when they were still young and turns out we all bullied and physically hurt other gay feminine men too while the real straight homophobes never did as long as the feminine gay men were on their own lane

I see...
Any ways
U were just a bully...it probably had nothing to with being gay

lilyheaven:
But he will demand for sex?
Since men won’t allow girls to keep their virginity for marriage, let them pay the price that comes with it with out complaints.

Demand?? I don't get .....why do y'all pretend like u don't have hormones and never want to fvck in the first place?? U women pretend too much and it's quite irritating...

If u want to remain a virgin stay ur house and stay out of relationships.... no one is making anyone do what they dont want to do...

Double0h7:
You’re nearly ready to come out! You want to test the waters! 🤣🤣🤣🌈🌈🌈

Flamemignon1.

U see what I mean...?? ...one of ur lunatic lgbt family is already already here to prove my point

Flamemignon1:
Go ahead

Why do u LGBT folks think everyone is gay in hiding?? .. Don't get me wrong ....I'm not saying there are no gay ppole in hiding....but u guys are always quick to call heterosexuals closet gay....

..or is it just a way of dragging of us in return for dragging you... Cos I know we are guilty of dragging you...