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Ladies (men too if you're interested) what is your sex life with your boyfriend (or girlfriend for the guys)? As in like
1) How many times in a week do you have sex?
2) What is your favorite sex position?
3) Do you prefer it protected with condom or unprotected?
3) Are you monogamous or you like multiple partners?
4) Sex only in a relationship or casual sex or both?
5) What method(s) do you use to prevent unwanted pregnancy?
6) Have you had an abortion? If yes, once or more than once?
7) Any other interesting thing(s) about your sex life.

BodyCount:
If not for high decay in morals, why should you go and spend the night in guy's house?
A guy that is not your relation nor your husband.

I don't pity all these OS getting used at all, when you play stupid games, you'll definitely get stupid results.
That's how some of them will be cohabiting in schools too without their parents knowing.

This is the type of thing that made iyabo Ojo's daughter to give birth just 4 months after weddings.

To see girl marry as virgin in this unfortunate generation now is by DIVINE INTERVENTION.

Why are you people giving birth 4-7 months now after weddings?

Is the new pregnancy period now 4-7 months?

After, you'll wonder why the society decaying every day, when we have numerous ILLEGITIMATE CHILDREN (BAS*****) IN THE SOCIETY.

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Auxtan:
My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.

I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.

Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.

I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.

Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.

Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?

PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.

It's not a big deal. Age gaps don't really matter as long as both partners are over 18. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 29.
However in this case with her being 18, some people may assume you were dating before she turned 18.

Prevent:
Copper-t, Intrauterine coil or paragard iud.
Used for birth control.

To be candid my 21yrs old female cousin do not know about it because she is not married or a strumpet.

I'm 21 and I just had my first one inserted in June so I can enjoy worry free unprotected knacking with my boyfriend

adanonso:
Same thing is happening to me now. Though I didn't use the IUD but the injectable. I tried to abort it but noway. Now I can't even buy baby things. I keeps hating on the unborn baby self. now my BP is going up due to the stale of business by this money issues. Am not even sure of tonight food.

This obviously happened because you were late in going for a shot or missed one. Or on a medication that interacted with it and made it less effective.
I hope you were able to abort it though.

So, I am thinking of going to a hospital, a government teaching hospital, for contraception or family planning. The thing is, while I'm 21, I still look like someone that's still a teenager, many people say I look very young for my age and are surprised when I tell them my age. So because of this do you think it's advise I take along a copy of my birth certificate in case the nurse or doctor asks my age and doesn't believe me when I tell her I'm 21? I know most hospitals usually don't give contraceptives to minors without a parent or guardian's consent so I don't want them to think I'm a minor. I also don't have a driver's license that's why I'm thinking about taking my birth certificate.
Also what else should I expect at a hospital visit for family planning?

immortalcrown:
You own yourself. I can't dictate for you how you should enjoy yourself. But be careful with how you enjoy yourself. Self control is a virtue. Having sex in a manner that inspires you to go for such contraception indicates that you are... let me not voice it out.

I'm not seeking contraception so I can sleep around. I'm in a long term relationship and I'm monogamous. I'm just seeking to prevent pregnancy.

immortalcrown:
Why do you need the contraception at the age of 21?

Because I'm having sex and I don't want to get pregnant right now.
21 is old enough for contraception though. It's below 18 that's problematic.

So, I am thinking of going to a hospital, a government teaching hospital, for contraception or family planning. The thing is, while I'm 21, I still look like someone that's still a teenager, many people say I look very young for my age and are surprised when I tell them my age. So because of this do you think it's advise I take along a copy of my birth certificate in case the nurse or doctor asks my age and doesn't believe me when I tell her I'm 21? I know most hospitals usually don't give contraceptives to minors without a parent or guardian's consent so I don't want them to think I'm a minor. I also don't have a driver's license that's why I'm thinking about taking my birth certificate.
Also what else should I expect at a hospital visit for family planning?

idahme:
Women with zero accountability with victim mentality, what stops the girl from nit having sex if the man isn't with condoms? Always portraying women as victims pathetic

What also stops the lady from going on contraception too.
I don't typically use condoms when I have sex with my boyfriend but that's only because I'm on the combined pill and take it properly. If the girl isn't on any contraception then condoms are a must. Pulling out too.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Lying to guys about wanting children? She should date infertile guys now.

That's just all shades of wrong

There's nothing wrong with it.

Iamzealousman:
There is this girl that's caught my attention.... She is been showing some subtle greenlights. But I feel it's not morally right though I am single.

There's nothing wrong with dating someone even more than 9 years younger or older, as long as the person is 18+, not a minor.

Kobicove:
Don't deceive anyone, it's better to come out straight so the person can make his choice on whether to continue a relationship with you or not

I don't want them to make that decision till we've been together for years and maybe are thinking about marriage.
That's when I'll say I don't even want marriage, how much more children.

ExudeLoveToAll:
It's fine to be childless but dey your dey and don't disturb any man with it. Remain single and childless.

I will lie to guys I'm dating about wanting children when I don't. Just string them along just to have someone to date for a (long) while.

TheBreastSucker:
I hope you won't mind me coming to suck your breasts from time to time

Whatever

DrFunmisticGlow:
thank you

You're welcome.

Leemzyy:
Hmmm go marry and stop spoiling people's daughter

I actually like influencing and mobilizing people against social norms that are outdated and stupid.

Onegai:
Hello.

First things first: spitting at people is nasty. You might not want to do that, lest you end up spitting at someone who "keeps it real" by replying with a fist to your face. Very nasty thing, bruises and contusions

Secondly, if you're really serious about not wanting kids (I won't ask how old you are or what your motivations are, I'll leave someone else to engage you on that), you'll have to change your environment.

Because wanting to be child-free in Nigerian society is akin to trying to scale Mt. Everest with no guide sherpa, carrying your own luggage and no supplemental oxygen. To understand that analogy, 70% of climbers who choose to do that, DIE.

There's only been one lady I know, who tried in her marriage, to remain child-free in Nigeria. I think she held out for 9 yrs.

Everyone else who made the commitment (and it is a serious commitment) to be child-free (not because of their age or how cool it is to say stuff like that when you're young or whatever reasons) all did one thing:

They relocated to an environment where being child-free is acceptable.

So you better start looking at IELTS and TOEFL and whatever exam they use to japa, if you're serious.

But to remain in Nigerian society and want to fight and argue for your right to be child-free, well, may as well book that ticket to climb Mt. Everest.

May you survive past Base Camp

No, I'm not relocating to shit. I don't need to relocate to do what I want with my life. It's my life, my choice as long as I harm nobody.
If anyone questions me I simply yell at them to shut the Bleep up, go to hell and Bleep the devil. In other words, to mind their business. I owe nobody an explanation for my actions. I may not necessarily spit but I simply put them in their place which is out of my life.
You don't need to relocate to do what you want. You just need to learn to not give a Bleep what anyone thinks or says about you. And, though I'm not even yet 21 yet, I ran out of bleeps to give years ago. I don't need to relocate I just don't give a shit what anyone thinks or says about me. And that's enough to survive anywhere.

essentialone:
Some will say, what of your mother and sister and bla bla bla.

Those things don't distract Truth.

Giving birth to female children, is a punishment.

Not just giving birth to female children, but having children generally is punishment. Except it's self inflicted punishment because people choose, for reasons I don't understand, to have children. Nobody is forced into having children, it's a personal choice.
As for me, I've decided to be child free or voluntarily childless. Children are nothing but a waste of my time, money (most importantly), space, and energy. I just want to keep all my money I make for saving and spending on myself only, I don't want to have to spend a dime on anyone else, especially not nonsense childeren.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I have been noticing this trend for a while. I don't have a lot of examples to quote from but i have a few.

The first was at a get-together with some good female friends and we were talking. We talked about work, businesses, exams, then relationships and marriage. Then one of my friends, let's call her T says that's she is taking a break from relationships, because she has suddenly realized that she doesn't want children. And she proceeded to list reasons why. There was silence for a while. Then another of my friends let's call her H then says something that ticks me off. 'You probably feel like that now, but you will change your mind once you're older'. Another friend G chimes in and says that T only feels that way because she just finished paediatrics posting and it can be traumatising, that she'll get over it.

I reply and say that there's nothing wrong with a woman choosing to remain childless. This leads to an argument, but we settle it sha.

The other one was an older lady who came to my office for a consultation after diagnosing and giving drugs as she was my last patient. We got talking and I asked her if she was lonely being alone. She says that yes it is at times, but when she sees most of her married friends being in one form of misery or the other, she feels that she doesn't regret it. She said she couldn't sustain long term relationships due to her dysfunctional upbringing. I then ask her about adopting and she says she doesn't want children, she cannot stand them. She then tells me that not everyone is supposed to be a parent and i agree.

She then tells me that i am the first person who she talked to about this issue and didn't try to judge her, try to convince her to change her mind, dissmiss her or shame her

This got me thinking that some people, especially women due to choice or circumstances have no children. But nigerians in general seem to ostracize them.


This is a recurring theme that I keep seeing. One would think that men are the ones who judge, but no, women do it the most.


So my question is this, why do people feel uncomfortable with the fact that some people cannot or choose not to have children?

It doesn't make sense.

Please share your views on this topic. No bashing please. Happy Sunday.

I know this is an old thread but I can't help but comment on it.
People feel uncomfortable with people who don't want to have children because they're stupid assholes. Simple as that.

Hi everyone.
I actually meant to post this on Reddit but was unable to because I just joined the forum so I decided to post here instead to see what people think.
I'm only 20 (turning 21 soon) but I've known since I was little that I don't want to have children. It's mainly for financial reasons, because I want to just keep all my money for saving and spending on myself only, not on children. I also find pregnancy, childbirth, and babies kind of repulsive. Overall, I just don't want the responsibility that comes with having children. I don't want to look after or be responsible for any living thing, I just want to keep my time, money (most important, I love money more than anything, it's the first love of my life), and space to myself. I see children as a waste of space, time, and money.
So anyway, I've been thinking about this a bit recently and I just decided to post on here to see what others think. The question is: Is it easier for men or women to stay child free over the entire course of their lives?
Personally I think it's easier for women to stay child free than men because they're more birth control options for women than men.
Firstly, because men basically (at least right now) have only two choices for birth control, condoms (which aren't really the best at preventing pregnancy if you find it hard to use them properly) and vasectomy sterilization. Woman have 12 different birth control options to choose which works best for them from.
Secondly, it's because if an unplanned pregnancy occurs, it's all the woman's choice whether the unplanned child comes into the world or not. She can choose not to have an abortion and to keep the baby and the child free man can't force an abortion on her. And, he'd still have to pay child support.
Thirdly, it's easier for women to baby trap men than for men to baby trap women. All a woman has to do is lie to the man that she's on birth control when she isn't. Or she could be on birth control, but deliberately not using it properly. And if she gets pregnant, she can choose to keep the child against his will and he's still financially responsible even though he didn't want the child and thought she was using birth control. Also even if a man manages to baby trap a woman (not really sure how it's possible though) she has the choice to just have an abortion. The man can't force her to keep the baby.
Basically I feel that women can force men into pregnancy, through baby trapping, lying about birth control use, deliberately not using their birth control properly, and refusing to abort an unplanned pregnancy. But men can't force women into parenthood. So I feel it's easier for women who decide they don't want children to remain child free than it is for child free men.
This is just my own reasoning and perspective. I'd like to know what others think about this.

Hi everyone.
I actually meant to post this on Reddit but was unable to because I just joined the forum so I decided to post here instead to see what people think.
I'm only 20 (turning 21 soon) but I've known since I was little that I don't want to have children. It's mainly for financial reasons, because I want to just keep all my money for saving and spending on myself only, not on children. I also find pregnancy, childbirth, and babies kind of repulsive. Overall, I just don't want the responsibility that comes with having children. I don't want to look after or be responsible for any living thing, I just want to keep my time, money (most important, I love money more than anything, it's the first love of my life), and space to myself. I see children as a waste of space, time, and money.
So anyway, I've been thinking about this a bit recently and I just decided to post on here to see what others think. The question is: Is it easier for men or women to stay child free over the entire course of their lives?
Personally I think it's easier for women to stay child free than men because they're more birth control options for women than men.
Firstly, because men basically (at least right now) have only two choices for birth control, condoms (which aren't really the best at preventing pregnancy if you find it hard to use them properly) and vasectomy sterilization. Woman have 12 different birth control options to choose which works best for them from.
Secondly, it's because if an unplanned pregnancy occurs, it's all the woman's choice whether the unplanned child comes into the world or not. She can choose not to have an abortion and to keep the baby and the child free man can't force an abortion on her. And, he'd still have to pay child support.
Thirdly, it's easier for women to baby trap men than for men to baby trap women. All a woman has to do is lie to the man that she's on birth control when she isn't. Or she could be on birth control, but deliberately not using it properly. And if she gets pregnant, she can choose to keep the child against his will and he's still financially responsible even though he didn't want the child and thought she was using birth control. Also even if a man manages to baby trap a woman (not really sure how it's possible though) she has the choice to just have an abortion. The man can't force her to keep the baby.
Basically I feel that women can force men into pregnancy, through baby trapping, lying about birth control use, deliberately not using their birth control properly, and refusing to abort an unplanned pregnancy. But men can't force women into parenthood. So I feel it's easier for women who decide they don't want children to remain child free than it is for child free men.
This is just my own reasoning and perspective. I'd like to know what others think about this.

Failure44:
Good afternoon house, I'm 21 years and still a virgin. I'm not happy at all even tho am a handsome guy, So I have decided to try this sex thing through an ashawo but am shocked at the prices am seeing on coded runs.
I was budgeting 50k for over night but on checking the site am seeing 100-150k.

People actually pay these prices?
And please I need the link to the ashawo peer barlour telegram.

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age. It's no big deal.
And I would advise against paying for sex with prostitutes, because of the risk of contacting a veneral disease. It's a waste of money in my opinion.

RealityKings:
I take it you are still young. There are actually 2 factors that promopt us to desiree procreation which is Society and Nature.
Society prompts us to have kids that will care for us and keep our company as we go through life in both comfort or struggles.

Society also influences us to have kids since other people are having cute little babies which is also a result of sex. Sex is important, forget people trying to shy away from it.

Secondly, NATURE will compel you to follow through certain changes both in physical looks and mental wise (thought process). As a lady once you get to 22, you start to feel like you are pretty. Everything about you is special and beautiful. Men too will come in droves and your sexual urge might be over bearing for you at that point. That's nature playing with you.

Then your thought process will start changing and you'll want a lover to care for you and belong to. Mind you, you might not even think about having a baby at this point. But nature is driving you towards sex... And sex leads to motherhood.

So it's time, as you grow your thought process will change from a non-conformist to a Comformist

I don't give a shit what society expects. You should live life your way and not give a damn what anyone thinks, as long as you don't hurt anyone.
It's good to be a non conformist.

danzaki63:
Your Father wasted his sperms.

Your mom should have aborted you

RealityKings:
Its perfectly normal but nature will correct that as you grow older. You'll later have a strong desire to have your own children.

Not unless I don't have to look after their needy asses.

Is it ok that I regularly tell people I don't ever want children because pregnancy and motherhood disgust me to the core?
Can I spit at people who judge me?

EreluRoz:
What are your reasons? Let's start from there

I'd just rather keep and spend all my money on myself than have to take care of anyone. I just have better things to do with my life than raise a bunch of sex trophies.
Plus, pregnancy disgusts me.

Is it ok that I regularly tell people I don't ever want children because pregnancy and motherhood disgust me to the core?
Can I spit at people who judge me?

LikeAking:
Have you ever created such important topics on NL or any other online media outlet?

You mind is focused on minor and temporary things..

You need to understand life deeper..


Is the dont fornicate movement working?

Sex is a gift to the human race.. It’s what he are supposed to do at a certain age.. Only an illiterate will tell people to abstain from sex..

Your best solution for them is early marriage..



Encourage Nigerians to be innovative, logical, creative, have interprets, be wise, work hard, get educated, start a biz…. Instead.. Something of great value to the human race.

Dem no Dey give award for virginity..

Virginity doesn't matter and never will, sex (and of course money) makes the world go round.

Tonero5200:
I don't know why I feel bad, but I do feel bad..I am human. She refused to give birth out of wedlock unless I go see her parents and do the necessary which is very okay by me, because I know I am not yet ready and where she's from I heard just the traditional rite alone can start a building foundation to lintel level...
we have tried breaking up because of this but one way or the other she still find her way back to me..My withdrawal game is good if not the count would have been more than that, but no matter how pro you are they must be some accidental discharge unknowingly most times.
I have advised her from the bottom of my heart because of the love we share that what she's doing it's not good and might affect her in the future with her family which might be me or some other guy. The thought of this is killing me and I am ready to call it off by the end of this month with no looking back.

In as much as I'm pro choice and don't have anything against abortion, this both shocks and disgusts me honestly.
For anyone to have this many abortions is nothing but irresponsibility at it's peak.

Every sensible person knows that the withdrawal method alone is not reliable contraception at all. There's a joke that goes "What do you call people who use pulling out as birth control? Ans: Parents"
Nobody in their right mind uses pulling out only, constantly and expects not to get pregnant at one point.
Why couldn't you use condoms, how much do they cost anyways? Much cheaper than an abortion I should assume. And they're not hard to use and don't (contrary to what some think) affect sex.
And why couldn't the girl whose had these 8 abortions get on some form of contraception herself, assuming you guys decided not to use condoms? Women have more than 10 effective but reversible methods to choose from so there's no excuse for this. There's a method of contraception to fit every woman's health and lifestyle.
I'm normally not a judgemental person but in this case I'm just so shocked that someone can be this irresponsible.
And yes, I do think you guys should break up since you can't together be responsible about your sex life.

Amarahobu:
Can she take Miso-fem after sex?

We used condom but the condom bursted and she's ovulating

Yeah technically someone can take emergency contraception up to 72 hours to 5 days after sex. But if someone has already ovulated, it won't work, since it's purpose is to prevent ovulation not terminate a pregnancy.

I suggest you guys wait a few weeks, then buy a pregnancy test.
If it's positive you need to decide whether to keep it or abort it, based on your situation and beliefs.
If it's negative, then I suggest you as the guy learn how to use condoms correctly to prevent them from breaking. Ordinarily, condoms don't just break like that except they're expired, wrong size, have been stored incorrectly or weren't used properly. And your girlfriend should also consider getting on some form of contraception, such as the pill.