FERNADEZISBACK:
It's getting to two weeks now that I haven't seen my monthly period since when last I visited my boyfriend. What could be the cause?

Samantha123:
Wow! You Nigerian women are really strong because if it was me, I'd have suffocated long time ago..

They can insult all they want, I don't really care.

princefrank76:
A friend of mine who's a student reach out to me and asked me to help her find a roommate because she won't be able to rent an apartment alone.

I was scrolling down my Facebook wall the other day and I saw a post from a girl who was looking for a roommate. I saw this as an opportunity to connect that my friend to her, so I quickly chatted her up and let her know I have got someone for her. She was excited and thanked me.. but when I reached out to this my friend to let her know I have gotten a roommate for her too, lo and behold she told she has seen someone already so she's no longer interested.

I reached out to this random girl I met on Facebook to let her know it's not gonna be possible again, she was so disappointed. She had to beg me to help her find someone. I put it to her that there was virtually nothing I could do for her again. I let her know I stay alone but we have gender differences so I can't let her come to my place of which she understood.

She chatted me up the following day that she doesn't have where to stay and that she's been sleeping in a classroom for the past three days. I forgot to say; she's a newly admitted student, she told the money she have is for her school fee and registration so she can't afford a house now but she will be buoyant enough to secure a house by January.

Well, I let her moved to my place with an agreement that she's gonna stay and move out by January.

Now I have been having mixed thoughts,

The bad boy aspect of me is telling me to start having sex with her but the good and rational aspect of me is telling me NO.. reason being that;
(1) If I have sex with her she might be too comfortable to move out.
(2) I don't want her to feel I wanna take advantage of her because I gave her a shelter.

It's not easy to live with a woman that is not blood related to you. She has spent 5 days with me already and I been able to decipline myself from touching her. I Sha like the man I'm becoming

Tinubumustfail:
Earlier this year I met this beautiful damsel in one of the shopping mall as a cashier. I do come to the shopping mall every week because I have a business relationship with the MD and his Son managing the mall.

Fast forward, I collected the girl number and we keep talking and she told me plain that she is in a serious relationship and can't go into another one. But my goal is just to have and move away.

Fast forward, after few day, I invited her over, she refuse for several days. Later she open up and told me her ex stays in same compound with me. The compound is a twin four story building flat and I stay in the second building. She eventually visit me and we make out the rest is history. Now this lady sleeps in my house every week when she is on night shift. The mall closes by 10pm and where she stays is far. So from my house to the mall is N50, so she comes every week. But the funny thing is that, each time the boyfriend called her, she will tell him she's in the girlfriend place or at home.

This same act goes on for 4months until she finally got admission to continue her HND. Each time she visit me from school during weekend, she will still branch to see the ex to say hello. The ex have ask her who she knows in the compound and she lied her girlfriend they both work together. Wetin concern me, my own na to collect. At a point I start feeling for the main guy. She opens up that she has done all manner of crazy things with men. Infact she took in for me and hang it on his guy neck when I told her to keep it. What actually happen is that, she visited the main guy on Friday from school, they both make love, on Saturday she came to my place we make love and I come on her. Two weeks later she missed her period and visited me from school to tell me. I told her to keep it but she refuse. On Sunday she went to see the main guy and told him same thing that she is pregnant. The guy man was shock that he did not come on her how come. They both calculate when he met her, and it tally. Guy man abort the baby (God forgive me). And this is not the first time she is carrying out abortion she told me.


This girl has been visiting me often from school weekend and sometimes ordinary days and go back next day. She visit the ex too. She really love her guy so much I can attest to that, but if she do, how come she sleeps around with other guys?

Just yesterday, she told me she will be visiting her ex living in the same compound with me on weekend, that next week she will visit me. I was angry at her and ask her why is she still visiting her ex? Note they broke up due to Genotype. They are both AS. I started feeling for the real guy. Her boyfriend always provide for her, make her feel comfortable, send her money. I only give her food and transport each time she comes from school 3k. I have seat her down and let her know that even though am benefitting from it, is not good to sleep around. I have advice her but she won't listen. Mind you am only talking about the one I know, what about other guys she visit I don't know?

My conscience is not at peace. Should I tell the real guy, or should I let go of her and not communicate to her again, or should I just let her be. I just want to avoid her and have peace..

Criticism and advise is welcome.

FERNADEZISBACK:
Just because I demanded for just 25k from my bf to do my hair he insulted me black and blue and threatened to ditch me. Why are men like this?

FERNADEZISBACK:
Just because I demanded for just 25k from my bf to do my hair he insulted me black and blue and threatened to ditch me. Why are men like this?

HarlequinLekex:
What behaviour/habit are you intolerant of in a partner?



I:Hyprocripsy,fraud,mistrust and stubborness.

Chenult:
Sequel to this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7414144/lot-marriages-now-crashing-within


I have noticed that most of the ladies (offline) and on this forum easily flare-up at the mention of the word, Virgin

Why is it so please?

obembet:
I don’t have anything against Girls that are already disvirgined which "am not a saint as well" , but I believe that most men love know the goodies in marrying a brand new girl ( Virgin).

Some Men believe When you date a virgin, you are rest assured you are the first person entering the place, nobody was there before to have infected her with any type of Sexually transmitted disease whatsoever.

You can dive in raw without any fear of contracting any disease – just that she might get pregnant because of lack of experience.

In-addition, Most men believe that if you are privilege to date a virgin, you are rest assured that your first child before to you. Remember there is a statistics that says 30% of firstborns in Nigeria belong to other men which my great Nairalanders called Paternity fraud.

That's is not problem when you married to a virgin.

So, can we no say that virginity is a pride of woman?

Source: Obembet

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Ebukaboss:
This morning me and my girlfriend went to eat at a shoprite, after the eating moment i stepped outside... I saw mum and i was shock so me and gf greeted her... She didn't anwser us when i looked straight to her eyes.... She shake her head and eye me with bad looking.... Before she comes back
pls guy tell me what she meant,even me i don't understand

HarlequinLekex:
Why are a lot of intending couples getting themselves pregnant before marriage?

Why this trend?

Terminator0x0:
I got my girlfriend pregnant I accepted the responsibility I am not financially buoyant I am not doing anything for now my parents have assisted us with the little they could it wasn't sufficient because my girlfriend was sick after delivering my parents have tried until all the money was finished my dad said he have to contact her father to tell him about her daughter health problem because if anything happens without her father knowledge he can arrest us my dad contacted him he sent his brothers to pick her alone without the baby it is 3 weeks ago my parents are pleading with her father to please come collect the baby she is crying a lot she refuse to drink my boy milk and she is getting sick they said they will assit her with whatever they can but he refused we have tried everything to calm the baby and it is not working we are scared to loose her we don't know what to do again I know he hate me so much but he cant punish the innocent baby for my mistakes the man is here please beg him for me to have mercy on the innocent baby who needs her mother

Ken4Christ:
It bothers me a great deal to see lots of baby mamas struggling to raise up their kids alone. And some of them are children of men who are capable but they just let the women alone suffer to raise their children. And when the kids become somebody in the society, they show up to lay claim on them.

I see this as wickedness that will not go unpunished. The Bible condemns it. Some of them even claim to be Pastors. I wonder what they teach their congregation.

This is wickedness. Those who neglect their children under the care of their baby mamas will end up in hell no matter who you are. The scripture says;

Psalms 9:17 The wicked shall be turned into hell, and all the nations that forget God.

And corruption will not allow welfare department to do their jobs. We do not even have strong laws in Nigeria to check this evil. You can try it in some countries. You will end up in jail.

So, stop this wickedness if you are one of them.

Miltonz123:
I know majority of you will call me a simp but I have to pour out my mind.

I have been in a relationship with this girl in 2021. I met her through her brother, which was my friend and everything had been a blissful. I really love her even though I am 9 years older than her. I worked in the islands then while she worked in mainland and the relationship was OK.
I have a job that's not that paying much but I thank God I can eat and sleep in a 2 room flat I am managing as I haven't really furnish the apartment like that.
Back to my girl to be turn ex this morning g, we did plan to engage though and I have promised to marry her when I know the time it's right. I have introduced her to my family members and my parents that she's the one.
I never doubt her love and trust because she's very religious and caring to home. (my mom too is religious and she want me to marry her by force lol) . She's good and respectful that my landlord keep telling me I was lucky. She would make sure we pray together every morning and night and all. Because of all this, I trust her that a choir and prayer girl like this will not cheat.

One thing led to another, her phone was stolen this month.. And since I have a spare phone, I decided to lend her my spare android phone to use. She brought the phone to me that her WhatsApp chat need to be recovered. I told her the only way we can restore her chat is to restore through Google backup she did. So I took the phkne to my office and start using my work WiFi to do the restoration of her chat.

After restoring, I asked for her password a d lo and behold, what I saw break my heart.

She has been flirting wirh a particular guy since January this year because I decided to read all there chat from beginning. In January the guy was pressing her to see her. I saw the guy snap with his Honda civic car, and all that. And the chat was Consistent. March she has been sleeping at the guy place and it was in that March that we started cohabiting together because her work place is closer to me and she want to save in her transport. She was telling the guy that I am still struggling and all that, that she doesn't think she can wait for me. Around June, she was sack from her work, and she told me she want to be staying with her sister. I said ok since they live in mainland, she can be coming to island any time she's free. But it's a war to get her attention and when she comes, if I try to touch her she won't let me, citing we have to wait till we married and God will not like it.

And I don't like forcing my way.

So for 3 month till now, I haven't romance her. Only kiss

Lastly, In her chat, she has been seeing this guy steady and she had been collecting steady. So this end of September, she told the guy she's not seeing her period, and test came out she is pregnant.

I continued reading, and the guy told her he's not ready for the baby and that's how this my ex to be blocked the guy since last week after an heated argument... Looks like the guy Don clear her that he's not ready to settle down at all as he told her he doesn't have a dime in the bank and he Want to sell his car.

Well, this is 12:30am and I can't sleep and she's sleeping sheepishly be side my bed. 7:00am I am driving her out of my apartment for good and this is the end. I will explain everything to her brother and I hope he will understand.

I gave her phone two times and a laptop and this is the church manipulation she put me into. Because of my kindness and love.... I told her everything was going to fine between us but I thought as a prayer warrior person and someone that can't do without church will be faithful. She was a choir member self.

But I have had enough.

Goinf Back to single life again.