That sick bastard who did this to her needs to go to jail for rape. He's nothing but a pedophile. Having sex with someone a whole 5 years below the age of consent. Absolutely horrible.
I met this lady early last year on Facebook and since then we have been charting. Am from the North-central state while she is an easterner. We met physically June and since then she has been visiting and I do same. I began to pick interest in her but discovered am only loving myself as no atom of feelings was actually added from her side. I have gone to see her parents with wine and made my intention known on her permission, but since then, communication drops, no emotional connection as it was. I have tried all effort to spice up this relationship and talk to her on her sudden change etc.
Plpls how can I end this...am getting hurt
If you've tried to talk to her about her attitude towards you and there's still no change then it means she's just not really into you and doesn't have much feelings for you. She doesn't feel the same way about you. It's best to just break up with her and move on. In time you'll find someone else who actually cares about you the same way you care about them.
IntelChief: Let's say am a very unlucky guy. From wasting my time on a lady for several months only to find out that she CANNOT endure penetration (no matter how soft) to this latest dead fish-like vagina smell drama. I can bet my balls that the lady is either under or spell or was a originally an alien who eventually arrived earth as a lady.
Back to our topic, I've read about smelly v*g**a stuffs, never believed it until tonight. After many weeks of strategising to get this pretty girl, I finally came close to getting "it" tonight, only to be welcomed by a very very very offensive odour. My erection died immediately.
My conclusion: I will never marry a lady without thorough testing. Enough of all these "say no to fornication before marriage bullsh*t. How else could have know this. Una goodnight.
Pastor Righteousness, back off.
A smelly vagina can be caused by infections like Bacterial vaginosis, Trichomoniasis, sweating down there, poor hygiene, or maybe even a forgotten tampon.
Stephen2324: One Disadvantage of dating a neighbor?
If the relationship doesn't work out and you guys break up, you still have to see the person on a daily basis and that can be quite hurtful. Just like dating someone from your workplace. Not really a good idea.
KeyEndurance: There Was A Girl I Toasted Last Month And She accepted Me But Later Told Me That No Sex Till i Marry Her. And She Gave Me Her Reason That Her Ex Broke up With Her After Having Sex With Her, so That Thought Her A Lesson And Me I Dont know When I Can Marry Her Because Am Still Hustling. So What Will You Do If I Girl Tell You this?
If my boyfriend tells me no sex before marriage I'll break up with him and look for another boyfriend because me, I can't be in a relationship without having sex. I don't see the point. I'd rather not even be in a relationship at all then to have a sexless relationship. I don't believe in all this no sex before marriage rubbish.
Some guys have told me it is not only guys who ask for sex in relationships.
Some ladies also ask and end the relationship if the guy says NO!
Some ladies are professional penis testers!
She wants to know if his penis is working in perfect condition, if it is big enough and if the guy has the capacity to go ten rounds in bed!
So there goes minister of public penis performance!
She has tested almost every guy she dated till she lost count! When she got tired, they got tired or both, she gets "born again" and bring the little remaining part of her, probably worn out, used, non elastic, un pleasurable and second hand left over into the marriage to an innocent man who had been keeping himself for years!
You have no business testing any penis before you get married!
You don't need to have sex with him to prove his potency!
You don't need to seduce his destiny to destruction to know how good he can perform in bed!
Ask God to give you a potent man and He will. Be honest in your conversations and your partner will be honest with you.
If he has sexual problems, he will tell you, both of you can see a marriage counselor and you will be taught what to do.
If you are both best of friends, sexual chemistry will be high for each other and love making IN MARRIAGE will be passionate!
You don't need to have sex with all the men that come your way to prove sexual compatibility. That makes you a LovePeddler not a good wife material. Stop disgracing yourself little sis. Words go round.
Very soon men will avoid you or refuse to marry you because you have slept with all the men that came into your life!
It does not dignify! May you not lose your dignity! May your own soul mate locate you!
Me all I know is that I can't be in a relationship without having sex with the person I'm dating. If I can't have sex in my relationship then I'd rather not even be in a relationship at all. A relationship without sex is not a relationship but simply a friendship. I don't believe in all this no sex before marriage shit.
Some lady came over to my place to sleep over last month. As usual things went down that i couldn't help but release my sperm in this young lady. I bought her contraceptive pills to use but it turns out that she didn't use them. Now she called me to tell me that she hasn't seen her period for days now and i banged this chick first Friday of November.
I am so confused because I have a girl I want to marry whom i am truly in love with.
This chick forced herself on me to sleep with her making me to cheat on my girl. I even confronted her immediately to apologize for making me cheat on my girl and she outrightly refused(imagine). That moment I realized she was the cocky type.
Now I am rambling and rambling because I don't genuinely love this girl. As a matter of fact, She is someone i am not even proud to show the world. She's not my type, she's indecent and a cheat. The girl i want to marry comes from an affluent background just like i do. How do i handle this situation?
First you said things went down and you couldn't help it then you said she forced herself on you. Just admit that you gave in to a moment of weakness and cheated on your girlfriend instead of making excuses. As for her pregnancy there's nothing you can do except take responsibility and become a father. If she's not your type and you already have a girl you want to marry then you shouldn't have had sex with her. I'm sure your girlfriend will probably break up with you when she finds out another woman is pregnant for you but you deserve it for not being able to control yourself.
BillyBollux911: My Nigerian girlfriend of 1 year who absolutely loves me has never posted a picture of me on social media. This makes me feel maybe she is not proud of me, or does not have her heart set on me. Or maybe because I am a different ethnicity.
She states that she is weary of village people, voodoo and JuJu priests. Is this a fair excuse?
Maybe it's because she's just a very private person.
olahero: I have an ungrateful bitch here which I am also done with her from today on, the girl I food almost everyday ooo even though she's having her own business, I know how she was like when we first met she's now chubby small due to prompt food supply, and this bitch asked me for iPhone XR the first day she came to my house when she thought I was a yahoo guy and because of that nonsense she did I don't even bothered to get her any phone uptill this moment she should be using 7plus in her hand. (how I met her was miraculous)
I dedicated 10k per month for her from my monthly pay, I travel often and I have taken her on 3 trips to Abuja, what she haven't experienced in her entired life before ooo not a local girl but a poverty ingrate bitch, recently she traveled to Lagos to restocked her shop, I foot the bill as well, the accommodation, food and transportation as we go together without having form of intimacy with her because she always connected my kindness to sex since that's only thing she can offer in healthy relationship like ours.
Recently, she paid her house rent and I gave her 40% because I know she would said I didn't do anything for her, there's a business she wanted to add to her biz which she said will cost her 60k, I gave her 30k and promised to balance her later and many like that.
This girl we have been together for 11months told me that I am useless, she said she hasn't gained anything from me since we started dating that all I am interested in her is sex and I asked her what has she contributed to the relationship other than sex?
I don't see why people here are so surprised about this and acting like it's a big deal or a bad thing. There's nothing wrong with a woman being pregnant before marriage. It's just Nigerians and their stupid rubbish religiosity and morality.
Congrats to them. I wish them a happy married life.
iTroll: I'm a young man of 21. Currently studying to become a medical doctor at a private uni I'm young and I'm broke. I don't know what to do. Girls aren't looking my way. And 99.9999% of the time when they actually ask me for something, it's usually to solve problems for them. I'm tired of solving problems. When they get their solutions, they forget all about me till next time they need problem solver. I am a virgin too. I'm also a nofap person. But I broke my 3 month streak on Friday. The urges was too much.
And I've been back to nofap mode since. Please what is the way out. What do I do with these urges. Fasting and prayer no help. I don try am.
This is a genuine question. Not cruise or anything
It's perfectly normal and ok to have sex urges at your age. Don't worry with time you'll find a nice girl to have a relationship with. Just focus on being happy and then in good time you'll find someone to be part of that happiness. For now though you can of course try masturbation or watch porn to let out some of your sex urge. But make sure you don't get addicted to either because that can be problematic.
Abba114: aisha or whoever u are pls stop hiding under a fake moniker u are tarnishing islamic image in the eyes of nairalanders. if u really wanna be atheist pls change your name
No I won't change my name and I don't give a shit whether I'm tarnishing islamic imagine or not. Just mind your business and stop trolling me on this forum because I'm getting seriously tired of it. I don't give a damn about anything you have to say to me so just leave me the hell alone.
charlesdprof: I have been in a serious 5 years relationship with my girlfriend. She is all I want in a woman, beautiful, intelligent, loyal and faithful. Am her first guy though and she is just 22. She is a Nurse. I decided to take the relationship to the next level this year. I surprised her with an engagement party and put the ring on her finger. She was very happy. I met her parents and started with the Introduction. They accepted my proposal and requested for a medical test to ascertain our genetic compatibility before proceeding with the bride price payment. I took her to a private medical laboratory for the test and the result said we are both AS. It was a devastating experience for us but we decided to go for another round of test in two separate reputable hospitals to confirm the test result but the results were the same AS. The parents decided the marriage will not continue while my girlfriend have been crying since then. It was a heartbreaking experience for me. Seeing my girlfriend cry is shattering my heart. I decided to call off the relationship but she has been pleading with me not to leave her. Am just confused. Please your advice is needed. What do I do in this situation considering the love and commitment we built for 5 years now.
If I were in a relationship with someone I really love for 5 years I honestly wouldn't be able to end it just because of genotype. Instead I would rather still get married but then we'll just agree not to have our own children but to adopt instead.
Crystalom5: So I went to see my girl yesterday and saw a guy in her apartment.
She lives in one room with only her bed, no chair.
She and the guy was sitting on the bed.
I got really furious and left. The thing pained me yesterday sha.
Now she came and was begging me like she has nothing to do with the guy.
That he came to snap lecture notes.
I just no even answer the girl sha.
But now I feel I should have stayed and asked why the guy was there in his presence yesterday.
At least things for clear. Sha wetin happen don happen. I really don't know if I should believe her or not
While it might look suspicious to you it may actually not be what you think. She could very well be telling you the truth. Having someone of the opposite sex in your house does not automatically mean you're sleeping with them. After all people have their opposite sex friends over regularly and it doesn't mean anything. But, if you really suspect that she's cheating then you can look out for other signs like a change in her behavior and attitude towards you. If nothing seems off with her then you have no reason to doubt her.
ahnie: I have this beautiful chubby neighbor that's from my husband extraction (Igbo) Babe is hard working, business oriented and an avid hustler.
But she's dating a chubby fuvk boy,a failed yahoo lazy lout that even in the next 50yrs I do not see him ever picking.
He's killing and bringing down my neighbors business and sucking her dry and she doesn't seemed to noticed.
She's always crying of bn broke everytime....and it's damn pissing me off like fvck.
On his birthday she baked cakes for him,printed his name on mugs, towels, got him clothes and even travelled to visit him,left her business and stayed days with him before coming back.
It's irking me because he's a bad market and to me he doesn't have a bright future,he's not working,he has no handiwork and no skills He's just a rotund whale sucking her youthfulness and finances.
Let's assume he has a skill or he's learning a trade it's another thing, at least we would all assume that he's productive and her supporting him wouldn't be futile,but this one.... nothing nothing.
On her birthday he didn't even posted her pictures or got her a pin,he said he doesn't have data...just negodu the nonsense and he still demanded money from her....to me the guy is just miserably useless.
He's now proposing marriage to her,and he visited her some days ago na she use her money run everything from feeding down to blood test.
I have not met him before,but immediately I saw him....my spirit no conform with his at all...he's not only a liability,but also a robust reaper.
Now my neighbor is asking me what I think of him.....I told her outrightly that I don't like him,that he's going to be a liability to her in the future....person nor fit take care of her as girlfriend,how e go take care of her as wife.....I m one hundred percent sure,she's the one that's going to pay her prideprice, pay for the wedding and feed herself.
She's trying to convince me to like him....but this isoko woman ain't capping that shiit.
I just detest fvck lazy boiz.
I can understand your concern for your neighbor about dating an irresponsible guy. I don't understand why anyone would want to be with a partner that will leech off them and pull them down. But if you've adviced her and she's still adamant in continuing the relationship, then you have to just accept her choice and let her be. However if he ends up becoming a liability to her (which is what will most likely happen) when she begins to complain then you can say "I told you so".
LaSenior: Mod please I want this piece to be pushed to front-page this is happening to me though I have prepared my Mind to do what is in my mind but I want this honourable house to look into this
I was supposed to go and do marital introduction but because of my dad's health which was going bad everyday I couldn't I thought maybe when we stabilise him alittle then I can quickly arrange for introduction but sadly my beloved Dad passed away 4days later I have been crying endlessly and been so weak and saddened just this morning this girl I was planning on spending the rest of my life with chatted me up saying that she has looking at me since that I don't want to say anything concerning her Christmas things that she needs 50k to buy Christmas things I was shocked to the bone haaaa why are you this heartless towards me does it mean you are not concerned about what I have been passing through , infact I don't want to speak more because God already saved me from a heartless lazy woman . To the women in this forum is it right to ask your fiancee Christmas Money in the midst of seeing him mourning of his late Dad just few days his dad died this attitude of this girl is it right
What she's done by asking you for money for Christmas after you've just lost your dad is not right at all. It shows selfishness and callousness on her part and that's not a good sign. You should consider this to be a major red flag. I think you need to have a serious conversation with her about this and tell her that you don't approve of her behavior. If she sees the wrong in what she's done and she apologies sincerely then you can let it go. But if she just acts like she did nothing wrong the you should think about ending the relationship. I can't imagine asking someone for money immediately after they've just lost a family member.
Bradford111: Am dating this girl for like 4 months now the relationship has not been that bad just like every other relationship out there but now the problem is sometimes I feel like to break up with her am also the one that deflowered her the last time I tried breaking up with her because of a small issue she cried I don't just know since I had sex with her my love for her had gone cold am hurting her because I don't give her attention again and if I continue this relationship it will just be like I'm using her just for sex while some times I feel like I miss her if we have not talked for a while am just confused on what to do... Am treating her really badly currently making her cry a lot and I don't like it is just my emotions
Please I do need advice on how to go about this
If you're treating her badly, not giving her much attention and making her cry then that means you don't really love her anymore. It means you've gone off her. It's best for both of you if you just end the relationship.
That's OK. I wanted to know cos the dynamics are different in a Muslim family with regards to deconverting. In your case I advise you achieve independence anyway. Religious people can get vicious with those they support financially if they perceive 'rebellion' against their religious faith. I put rebellion in quote because even though you are just choosing for yourself they would see it as an affront.
If however you believe your family is not the type to react overtly then you can ease them into it by first discussing your doubts and asking questions, eventually declaring that you no longer believe. Also don't make big changes to your lifestyle immediately, make any changes gradually or after you are no longer attached to their apron strings. They might see as "it's because you want to sin" that's why you say you no longer believe. While this is inevitable its better when you aren't under them because they can use it as an excuse to restrict your liberties.
Wish you good luck in whatever you choose.
Thanks. I'm actually going away to university for the first time next week so I'll be on my own. Therefore, I can completely drop religion and be an atheist like I'd like to. Luckily, the course I chose is not one that I'll be coming home much during.
Passpands: Hello, sorry for my grammatical errors. I just discovered I have the virus and it’s really taking a toll on me. I’ve started my medications but don’t feel any changes yet. Please if there’s any expert out there or any support group
That's very sad. Finding out you have something like that can be seriously devastating. Just take the drugs properly and try to live a healthy lifestyle ie eat balanced diet, no smoking, alcohol or drugs. Also make sure you go for proper counseling. Don't worry, there is help and support out there for you. Many people who have HIV are able to still live fulfilling and happy lives.
Cypress042: I'm typing this now because i think she has contacted an infection (Trichomoniasis, a vagina infection) i have been percieving this unfriendly odor lately even when she has taken her bath and am not comfortable with this
Just this night i found her reading a book "Effective herbal medicine for family health" Could this mean she have an infection, how can i get her to tell me the truth?
Just ask her flat out if she's ok. If she's too embarrassed to confide in you then just advice her to go for a checkup instead of trying to use herbal remedies. Also advise her to stop her hookup business. It's too dangerous both health and safety wise. Rather encourage her to maybe learn a skill she can use to support herself.
ElBenny: Hi guys. I need your comment and advice on this matte.
I got to know this girl from a friend back in July. She's a 23 year old final year LLB student and I'm 27 years old Lab Scientist.
We got talking at first and I began to develop interest in her. She's calm, cool headed and has never even bothered me with any financial needs (which I'm still stunned about, very unlikely of Port Harcourt girls).
I'm very selective of girls but found this one to be very decent and maybe different. I have plans of taking things serious with her.
We've gone out in a date at a bar once and it was all shades of amazing, there we shared our first kiss.
Just recently, on Sunday, a friend celebrated his birthday at a night club here in PH (411). I thought to invite this babe, she was pleased and accepted the invite.
We got there, ate, drank and it was dancing time with the DJ and hypeman. We danced and she was wild on the dance floor with me. I was quite surprised but kept my cool because of the atmosphere.
The next shock happened, one of the big boys began throwing money up in the air, minted ₦100 & 200 notes and this babe legit left me and began picking money on the ground.
I brought her close, but she would let go and kept fighting with the crowd for the cash, she was almost trampled on. For more than 15 minutes, I watched her picking. I was quite embarrassed.
Shortly after, we left and I dropped her off.
I've not been the same again since then, I've struggled with myself to communicate with her unlike before.
I know money is important, but is that a bad sign? Is this a red flag? Should I ignore her actions and forge ahead? I'm really confused.
If I were you, I'd just ignore her behavior and not say anything about it. She was probably just having fun like everyone else. I don't see this as a red flag because I personally would also do the same thing in that situation. If you really like her, you should continue the relationship. But if she now starts asking you for money then that's when you should be concerned.
KeyEndurance: Greeting To You All In This Forum. My Babe is Forcing Me To Do What I Don't want to Do, in My Life I Have Never Use my Tongue On Woman Pussy before. Last Week Saturday when i And My Girlfriend Had Sex in The Process Of Kissing she beg me To Make Her Feel Nice By Using My Tongue to romance her pussy, i Did That but I Nearly Vomit not That Her Pussy is Smelling but With Some Though I Had. Yesterday Again during Our Sex She Held My Head And directed It To Her Pussy but I Dont want Her To Feel Bad so I Did As She Said. The Problem Now Is That Since She Love It she Must Be Telling Me to Do It which I Dont like. So How Can I Tell Her In A polite Way To Stop This rubbish?
Just explain to her you don't like MouthAction because it makes you uncomfortable. If she loves and respects you, she'll be understanding. In a healthy relationship, you should never feel pressured or forced to do any sexual act that you don't like. I don't like MouthAction either. It totally grosses me out.
Romance / Re: 13yrs Old Maid Madam's Husband Impregnates Her & Abandoned Her & Baby (Pix/Vid) by aisha1314(f): 6:33am On Dec 12, 2022 
, and this bitch asked me for iPhone XR the first day she came to my house when she thought I was a yahoo guy and because of that nonsense she did I don't even bothered to get her any phone uptill this moment she should be using 7plus in her hand. (how I met her was miraculous) 