Inspirations:

I mean virginity is not only meant for females. We live in a generation that makes virginity sound like a female. Young man, you need to keep yourself till marriage too.

I got married as a virgin not because I am a superman but because I made up my mind longest time never to have any sexual relationship whatsoever with any female living or dead till I get married. You can make up your mind too today like the rest of us did years ago and we are reaping the dividends today, big time.

I told my wife before and after marriage that my decision to stay chaste has nothing to do with her at all! I am not doing her a favour – I am helping myself. That decision has saved me a lot of heartaches. Listen to me young man; you are destroying your future by being promiscuous. There is nothing whatsoever to gain from it other than a miserable short lived pleasure that has untold pains and aches embedded into it.

All my life I have never lacked female friends. I easily attract sensible female friends, so it’s not a matter of not having opportunities to have sex before marriage. I had myriads of opportunities to be promiscuous because in my case I wasn’t the one looking for them, they were the ones looking for me because I was so brilliant, quiet, caring and have an untiring listening ears. I had ladies who obviously were interested in me and I knew that very well – but, excuse me I am not interested! Period!! There is no excuse that will be fat enough to justify your need to have sex before marriage as a young man.

Granted, as a young man you have sexual fantasies and temptations. I can understand that, what I don’t understand is why you will allow the fantasy of today to become the fallacy of tomorrow. For young men, there are lots of fallacies about sex. It is sweet in your mouth today, but the bitter part of it is patiently waiting for you tomorrow. As a younger man when the battle raged so strong, I consoled myself with this thought; “there is nothing you have on you as a lady that my wife doesn’t have” Now, I was just in my early 20s (I think 21) at this time and I already had the picture of a wife I was willing to wait for even though she was nowhere to be found in my world at the time; but, I was convinced if I lived right that woman will come.

I never struggled to get engaged and married, she just walked in quietly into my world and I believe (among other things) it’s because of my stand for chastity and purity. God didn’t even wait for me to pray for her to come. How will you find a good wife tomorrow when you are busy having sex with them like crazy and dumping them today. If you don’t change today NEMESIS will soon catch up with you. Pocket the stories of those who were chaste and yet had late marriages or didn’t marry at all. There are other reasons why that happened.

That girl you are sleeping with today is someone’s wife tomorrow – have you ever thought about that?
I enjoy sex with my wife today because she is my first and last experience.
I preserved the destinies of every female that came across my path for their own God-ordained husbands and God preserved for me a jewel of inestimable value today – I have never had a day of regret!
Your destiny is at stake, young man ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun

© Adewwunmi Oladele

I personally see no need for virginity before marriage. That's totally outdated. My own is that people should just practice safe responsible sex to prevent unwanted pregnancies, abortions and STI infections. I'm an advocate and promoter of safe sex not virginity and abstainence.

Bradford111:
Please I need advice on how to go about this she just got admission into the uni the pregnancy is about a month old
I need help please Nigerians

Tell her to go for an abortion straight!!! Please always practice safe response sex by using condoms and contraceptives!!!

Why are women always shamed so many if their sex tape or nudes which were made or taken without their consent are leaked onto the internet?

I ask this because I feel such shame and embarrassment is quite unnecessary since they aren't the only people having sex; it's something natural that everyone does!

And also, is there any way for a person that this happens to to get justice here in Nigeria?

Please why does Nairaland say that I can't edit my profile right now?

08089455615

Ilorin, Kwara State

Omooba77:
Does Good Works Qualify One for Heaven?

No it doesn't because there's no such thing as heaven!!!

JasonScoolari:
Which of the presidential candidate are you supporting?

None really. I'm not really following this election stuff.

ExAngel007:
Lady stumbles upon her boyfriend's wedding photos online same month she had an abortion for him


A lady has been left heartbroken after stumbling upon wedding photos online of he man she thought was her
boyfriend, same month she had an abortion for him.

Twitter user, @A_Blackwoman who shared the story, said the lady aborted for the man three times in one year.

She also disclosed that the lady the man dumped allowed him to stay in her house and provided for him when he was
out of a job till he got another.


The Twitter user wrote;


https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2022/12/lady-stumbles-upon-her-boyfriends-wedding-photos-online-same-month-she-had-an-abortion-for-him.html

3 abortions in one year . Doesn't she know how to use condoms or contraceptives

I'm a female looking for young man for a serious relationship. I'm not actually ready to settle down yet because I'm still in school but I need the companionship.

Personal details–
Name: Aisha
Age: 20
Location: Ilorin, Kwara State
Tribe: Yoruba
Religion: None (I'm an atheist)
Height: Average
Character/ Personality traits: I'm smart, hardworking, kind, respectful, loyal, cheerful and funny. I'm an introvert and I'm also a bit nerdy.
Hobbies and interests: Reading novels, watching TV, listening to music, swimming, WWE wrestling, science.

Guy I would like to date–
Age preference: 20 to 27
Tribe: Any
Religion: Any (or none)
Character/ Personality traits: Kind, caring, smart, trustworthy, respectful, responsible, mature, fun to be around. I do not want a "player" or a guy who likes to date multiple girls at once.

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Well personally, I don't need my partner to have money for me to be happy with them. As long as the guy I'm with is kind, caring, smart, trustworthy, respectful, responsible, and mature, how much money he has is irrelevant to me. I'd much rather be with a man who doesn't have much money but treats me well than be with a rich man who is mean to me. I don't judge guys (or anyone for that matter) based on how deep their pocket is. I know most ladies here do that, but I don't.

Thebadpolitican:




When traditions falls on you, you will know the importance of marriage

Change your mentality

A man shouldn't start having kids with a woman if he hasn't done the necessary

You look like someone that loves prick than anything else

A woman who they have paid her pride price has all the pride that comes along with the custom of a being a wife an unmarried lady is nothing but an harlot in the eyes of the custom

Well, I don't give a shit what anybody, not even society or custom, thinks about me or says about me behind my back, as long as my actions don't hurt anyone because I have every right to live my life my way, and my way only.
If people want to call me a harlot just because I choose to live my life in a way they do approve of then that's their problem, not mine. Other people's opinions of me don't concern me.

JOACHINpedro:
Honestly, when a young female is killed we blame her for getting killed without even knowing why she was killed and what gender killed her.
I JOACHINpedro condemn this form of injustice!
#JusticeForOurSlainSisters

I couldn't agree more.

balarabe01:

My heart is good without jesus, ill rather have wine than jesus, as for english im not caucasian Bleep u.

Abba114:
because u chose a wrong path that lead directly to regrets

We'll for your information I'm much happier as an atheist than I was when I was still practicing religion. I regent absolutely nothing. Since I left everything about religion, I've never felt like god is punishing me or the urge to pray. I'm so happy I've seen the light and left that thing called religion. I have nothing to say to anyone who has a problem with that.

Airforce1:
Lol

Hey you said you don't want to get married that you want long lasting relationship

Why?

Well I just feel marriage is rather outdated. I feel you don't have to be married to someone you love in order to be with them. People don't need a piece of paper (marriage certificate) to tell them that they're in love. And also the stress of marriage can be too much. I feel I'll be happier in a long term relationship with a partner than in a marriage with a husband.

Abba114:
i am not trolling you. i[b] just can't sit and watch you go astray. [/b]pls forget about that atheism thing, even if u will fornicate as you chose to do, pls keep your faith intack god will forgive u.

And why is my lifestyle and choice of belief of so much concern to you?

Airforce1:

Maybe he likes you

Ewwwwwwww.

Abba114:
i pity you wallahi, my dear sex is nothing but unsanitary exchange of bodily fluids, stop letting it control your choices in life. u left religion because it prohibits sexual immorality, my dear i dont what u to die and start regretting in futility. repent while u are alive pls. if u are the type that has strong sexual urges get married its better than shagging around.

There goes the guy who keeps trolling me on here. Aren't you tired of doing this?

Airforce1:
Ok so I created a thread to congratulate myself on the smooth delivery of my third child with my girl friend. Some sadists jumped on it and be preaching marriage while some were tryna be disrespectful on a thread that I didn't tag there father ..ok

I want to ask you holier than thou oloshi people How many of you are happy and ain't cheating on your husband or wives In your marriages?

Are you even happy in your marriages ?

My girl friend is enjoying what you holier than thou so called married men and women were lacking in your marriages .

Just follow your heart and do what makes you, and only you, happy. In life, as long as your actions don't hurt anyone, what people think about you or say about you doesn't matter and you should never allow it to bother you.

I don't care what people, even people in my family, think about me. I never have and I never will. Me when people give me unnecessary and unsolicited advice or try to force their beliefs on me, I just completely ignore them. I don't even bother to listen or respond and when I do respond I just tell them to mind their own business and butt out of mine.

Don't mind Nigerians and their stupid religiosity and morality. They're just a bunch of useless and senseless hypocrites, with that imaginary fictional thing they call god. That's one of the reasons why I decided to be an atheist.

What matters is your happiness and your happiness and satisfaction only. Remember, morality and religion are subjective. Don't allow anyone to force their moral and religious beliefs on you. Just do your own thing and be yourself.

Even me if I eventually decide to have children I'd rather have them with a partner or long term boyfriend than with a husband. People say I'm immoral for saying this but I couldn't care less. My life, my choice.

I'm really happy you created this thread. Once again congrats on your new baby. Don't allow all the idiots on this forum to ruin what should be a joyous occasion for you.

Airforce1:
Ok so I created a thread to congratulate myself on the smooth delivery of my third child with my girl friend. Some sadists jumped on it and be preaching marriage while some were tryna be disrespectful on a thread that I didn't tag there father ..ok

I want to ask you holier than thou oloshi people How many of you are happy and ain't cheating on your husband or wives In your marriages?

My girl friend is enjoying what you holier than thou so called married men and women were lacking in your marriages .

Just follow your heart and do what makes you, and only you, happy. In life, as long as your actions don't hurt anyone, what people think about you or say about you doesn't matter and you should never allow it to bother you.

I don't care what people, even people in my family, think about me. I never have and I never will. Me when people give me unnecessary and unsolicited advice or try to force their beliefs on me, I just completely ignore them. I don't even bother to listen or respond and when I do respond I just tell them to mind their own business and butt out of mine.

Don't mind Nigerians and their stupid religiosity and morality. They're just a bunch of useless and senseless hypocrites, with that imaginary fictional thing they call god. That's one of the reasons why I decided to be an atheist.

What matters is your happiness and your happiness and satisfaction only. Remember, morality and religion are subjective. Don't allow anyone to force their moral and religious beliefs on you. Just do your own thing and be yourself.

Even me if I eventually decide to have children I'd rather have them with a partner or long term boyfriend than with a husband. People say I'm immoral for saying this but I couldn't care less. My life, my choice.

I'm really happy you created this thread. Once again congrats on your new baby.

Eriokanmi:
Very heartless and he even had the audacity to display them. Where is our culture/conscience? We're trying hard to behave like whites that We're not. This generation scares me seriously and if care isn't taken, they may turn things upside down. You have been blessed by God with 3 good-looking children yet, you still prefer addressing the mother a baby mama when you're not an animal? [b]Such people don't even rec[/b]ognise or acknowledge God in the first place. For him to have labelled the mother a baby mama. He's fornicating with other ladies obviously. God has a way of dealing with people like him.

Why should someone acknowledge and recognize something that clearly does not exist? Again congrats is all one needs to say and keep your rubbish disapproval to yourself.

Elder0001:
I don't really understand the necessity of all the wailings on this thread.

Is marriage compulsory?! Nigerians and misplaced priorities sha. Always judgemental and hypocritical. Morality and religion are subjective! Stop forcing your moral and religious beliefs on others.


@Airforce1 congrats on the birth of your third Kid. I wish you and your kids the utmost best in life. Stay strong brother.

Very true.

If I tell you that your phone has no maker or manufacturer won't you wish me to get well soon?
It takes a sick soul possessed by demons of unbelief to assert that God does not exist.
You're also very unintelligent to say God does not exist.
Google The Theory of Intelligent Design.
Study well next time before coming online to shamelessly announce your ignorance to the world.
A Planet has a consistent daytime and night time, raining season and harmattan every other year and you say there is NO GOD?
You are very sick.
May God heal and help you quickly.

Whatever you say. I'm just so tired of all these religious people. But I guess disbelief will always be a threat to believers. If your faith can move mountains as you say then it should be able to withstand criticism. Your beliefs are not sacred or immune to being criticized by people who can see through them and know that they're all false.

etrouble:


He alone knows her worth. Who are you to say otherwise? He knows where he picked her from. Will any sensible woman have 3 children for a man who do not see her worthy of being married to?

Yes, if they just want to be partners and have agreed that don't want to ever get married. Like me what I would like to do. Just a long term relationship not a marriage.

Gospel2Day:


That's what confirms that demons dwell in your heart.
That's what demons tell everyone they possess and want to destroy - that God does not exist.
It is a simple way to find out if someone is possessed by evil spirits - they doubt the obvious Existence of God.
Get well soon.
Jesus loves you and wants to save you.

I don't need your get well soon because I'm not sick thank you very much. All I'm saying is that what you're talking about is fake. God, demons, Jesus, all of it. But if f you want to believe in those myths and legends called religion that's up to you though. Just don't bother us sensible atheists with it.

Gospel2Day:

Your words expose the sorry state of your sick and sinful soul.
Your case is an emergency.
Get down on your knees and cry out loud to God to save you from the demons indwelling you.

How can I cry out loud to something that doesn't exist

Oberhiri141:
First time i smoked weed with my neighbours, i smooked to stupor and i nearly died. Am an introvert, but my neighbours are not, they keep persuading me to come join them but i could barely say no. Last week alone, i smooked for five consecutive days for four hours minimal on one siting and i think am begining to gain addiction already. Please Elders in the house, what should i do to gain back my freedom

Just tell them no firmly. I can't believe someone can say someone is pushing them to do something that could kill them. Better stop before it affects your health!!

Gospel2Day:
You are proud and shameless to announce to the world that you have been fornicating and procreating with a lady or ladies you're NOT married to.
You did all that in blatant disregard for traditions and in rebellion against religion.
You and your fellow-rebel/co-fornicator need help.
You do not respect the parents and family of your baby mama enough to properly marry their daughter, and you expect that guys will respect you and your fellow rebel baby mama and won't impregnate your daughters without marrying them?
You folks are only destroying yourselves and others by your shameless waywardness and reckless wantonness.
Repent and receive Jesus NOW, if you want to escape the fiery and furious wrath of God hanging over your head.

Just shut up you judgemental religious hypocrite. Which furious wrath of which God? That nonsense powerless imaginary character that doesn't exist? Just say congratulations please and keep your rubbish religious nonsense to yourself.

PrinceOfLagos:
shut up abeg

Thank you.

jimter44:
Your are a big fool. You gave birth out of wedlock and you are proud! What a shame! What is happening to this generation? Is it how you mother gave birth to you? Didn't he marry your mum properly?

And what's so terribly wrong with giving birth out of wedlock? It's not like it's a crime. Times are changing so I don't see it as anything bad. It's just Nigerians and their stupid morality and religiosity that make a big deal out of nothing. I don't see anything wrong with being a "baby mama". Just that I don't really want children but if I do change my mind, I'll rather have them with a partner (ie a long term boyfriend), not a husband.

I really hate how stupidly judgemental people are on this Nairaland. Once someone goes against their nonsense moral standards they begin to insult and criticize the person unnecessarily. Everything is a crime to you guys. All anyone needs to say here is congrats and that's all.

Airforce1:
Hi peeps, just had my third child with my baby mama.. A big congrats to me.

See photos below

Lalasticla Nlfpmod Mynd44

What a beautiful baby. Congrats.

Uptownerd:
What are they running away for? Is it bad to have a child out of wedlock? Why is it hard to marry a lady with a kid?

No it's not at all bad to have a child out of wedlock in my opinion. I don't understand why people here make such a big deal out of it. There's nothing wrong with it. Just Nigerians and their nonsense religiosity and morality.
But most guys just don't want to be responsible, especially financially for a child that's not their own that's all. It's not that single moms are bad people, most are actually very nice, hardworking women who really love their children. Men just don't want that responsibility. Though if I were a guy I wouldn't mind. I would not run away from a woman who's a single mom just because of that, as long as she has a good character.