Are contraceptives free here? If not how much do they cost ?

Are modern birth control methods, apart from condoms easy to obtain for university students in Nigeria?

Do universities in Nigeria (Federal and State universities) provide sexual health services such as condoms, birth control and STD testing in their school clinics? Do they give out condoms for free?

Do universities in Nigeria (Federal and State universities) provide sexual health services such as condoms, birth control and STD testing in their school clinics? Do they give out condoms for free?

Are modern birth control methods, apart from condoms easy to obtain for university students in Nigeria?

OLAADEGBU:
Is No Sex Before Marriage Out-Dated Or More Important Than Ever?
12 JANUARY 2022

Research suggests that the number of unmarried Christians under the age of 35 who are having sex, has risen from 20% in 2008 to nearly 60% in 2021. Author Carrie Lloyd discusses abstinence and why we shouldn’t give up on it.

Even if I was an atheist I’d be abstinent at this time. We’re completely misusing sex. We’re chucking quite literally away diamonds.

If you look at the fecundity rates (the ability to produce an abundance of offspring) in Eastern Europe, which is an area that is highly sexually liberal, it is now around about 1.3. In order for a community to repopulate the fecundity rate has got to be around 2.2. It just shows that our sexually liberal ways are not repopulating the planet.

We’re not just having more sex, people are doing weird stuff that doesn’t actually impregnate anyone. Some of the sexual activities that I’ve had to pastor people through in the last few years have made me think: ‘Wow that’s a new choice. I’ve not heard that one before.’

The experimentation has gone off the charts but it is eroding emotional relationships and trust. Were losing the muscle that helps us compromise and persevere through something because we’re just fulfilling our sexual desires anywhere. This is why we are finding that we are the most single generation to date.

Sexual experimentation has gone off the charts but it is eroding emotional relationships and trust.
If you look at current social trends and behaviours the concept of celibacy is outdated. But I think that’s down to a revolt of the younger generation in the church who had been facing a lot of legalistic teachings as opposed to a loving embrace that would teach all things are permissible but not everything is beneficial. There’s a difference between choosing abstinence and choosing the purity movement which has caused a lot of damage and created a lot of legalism around sex.

Sexual ethics are more relevant today than ever before. The younger generations are unable to trust each other like they used to as people get their emotional and sexual needs met, without commitment. I’ve seen slightly older liberals begin to change their mind about their sexual liberation. Wishing still to have more longevity and permanent commitment. Some have decided to take sex off the table so that they may make more executive decisions about the right compatible partner as opposed to defining their relationship by how physically compatible they are. Sexual attraction is not the quality that make a relationship survive - communication, maturity, integrity and building trust are what is vital to a relationship.

Intimacy should be treasured, and not misused for our own needs alone to be met.
Until we remove the only urge of our will and needs to be met, and become more loving and serving towards each other, the question of sexual ethics and using it for the right means, in the right relationship in the right season will always be relevant.

If someone was struggling with the choice between sex before marriage and abstinence I would ask them what is holding them back with waiting and what is pushing them to want sex now. I would ensure it was their choice, not a forced teaching upon them. I would want them to consider if the decision they were making could harm themselves or someone else in the future. I would remind them that sexual connection doesn’t mean you are lovable or will make someone commit. I’d ensure they were making these choices with a self-confidence and from a place of being happy being single. Above all, I wouldn’t push my opinion onto someone else unless they ask for my thoughts on the matter.

I also think it’s important to remove faith as a variable as that will always be argued and is the reason why many leave the church altogether. That wisdom, caring for another and honouring another in the long term is the most important goal. Intimacy should be treasured, and not misused for our own needs alone to be met.

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I think saying abstinence till marriage is grossly outdated. I doubt if anyone even practices that stuff again though a lot of us pretend to and lie that we do. Personally I don't and have never seen pre-marital sex as a sin or a bad thing. As long as it's between consenting adults and people are sensible and responsible about it by using protection and contraceptives to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies then it's really no big deal. So rather than encouraging abstinence we should encourage safe sex.

siofra:
So I needed condom for research and I went to get some at a drugstore.

When I got there, I asked the salesgirl for condom and she smiled and winked. I smiled too.

As I was leaving the store one ugly man that has been watching me came to block my way. This stupid, yellow man started insulting me and calling me olosho. I don't usually quarrel in public but I insulted this man and his bleached skin.

See me see wahala o. Does he know what I want to do with it? He said he was angry because I wasn't shy about it that in his time....blah blah blah. He spewed the usual nonsense about virginity nairaland redpillers usually type on this forum.




I'm so angry right now.

I can understand how you must have felt but I don't think you should have insulted him or engaged him in a quarrel. You should have just walked round him and completely ignored him and his stupidity and pocknosing. That's what I would do in your situation. And I wouldn't even think of it or be upset after.
I'm surprised that buying condoms still poses an issue or a thing of embarrassment to people in the 21st century. Better to be buying condoms than buying antibiotics for STDs or worse anti-retroviral drugs.
As an adult you have every right to buy condoms and you shouldn't ever feel embarrassed or care about whatever stupid looks or comments people in the shop make. I don't understand why people make a big deal out of nothing.

I was at shoprite yesterday evening, I bought other stuffs and 10 packs of durex condom. At the point of payment, all the stuffs I shopped were on the counter and all eyes were on it. I could hear murmurs and giggles. Even a lady I perceived to be a baby mama sef join dey laugh.

As a careless Nigerian that I am, I went back to the condom shelve and added 5 more packs. E shock them.



Why the hypocrisy? For the background they are sharing HIV and donating pregnancy here and there.

I admire this man's spirit. It shows that he just does his own thing, lives his life and doesn't give a damn what anyone thinks. That's exactly the kind of person I am too.
I'm surprised that buying condoms still poses an issue or a thing of embarrassment to people in the 21st century. Better to be buying condoms than buying antibiotics for STDs or worse anti-retroviral drugs.
He's an adult and he has every right to buy as many condoms as he wants at a time. He also has the right to bleep as much as he wants to consensually of course. At least he's being responsible about his sex life unlike many people in this country.

What are some helpful tips (in terms of academics, accommodation, campus life, etc) for students starting their first year at University of Ilorin? What is the school life like in general? Honest answers and opinions please.

Ezendimmuo:
I broke up with my girlfriend last week while I was in NYSC camp

She hung up on me when I told her I didn't have any money for her food even when I sent her money a day before...

She cheated on me as well with a particular "married" man...I think she got pregnant for him and aborted it...
I forgave her...

She has lied to me in the past about her whereabouts..right now..I don't even trust her...

She chatted me up today and was begging me for another chance that she will do better..

I'm really tempted to accept her back..
Even though I don't trust her..
But I have missed her so much...

M so confused
Can she change?

Don't take her back because it's unlikely she will change. If you get back together with her she may still lie to you about things and even cheat on you again. Besides there's really no point in being in a relationship or trying to build a future with someone who you know you can't trust.
Also you said she hung up on you when you told her you didn't have money for her food. That shows she's probably also just using you to get money when she doesn't have.
From what you said it doesn't look like she cares about you much. Don't give her another chance no matter how much you miss her. It may be hard at first but with time you'll get over her.

Heartbroken05:
Good morning nairaland families.

I have been in a relationship with my gf for the past 8years and this year I planned to Marry her. Last year, I took her to my sis to learn her business which she did and my sis showed her everything in 3 months, which should have take upto a year for someone to complete learning. I begged my sis to show everything about the business and take her to where she buy her goods. I finally open a shop for her after 3 months and she started doing well. There is this a guy she usually talk to but always tell me he is just a mere friend who makes her laugh only not until recently I suspected something must be attached. I had argument with her this December which resulted slapping her slightly twice. I really felt bad and quickly apologize and also tell my people to beg her on my behalf. But since then she has been acting so strangely, so recently, I call this my girl and the guy pick up and told me she is busy and I should not call her anymore, I was shocked and think this is actually a joke, he told me he knows I'm dating her and he is dating her also and nothing I can do. I was really heart broken and down that day. But she later chat me that it's nothing to worry about. So recently, I went to pray about this and it was revealed this guy has charmed my GF and he is planning to destroy her. Four different spiritual people said same thing that the girl has been charmed and they had turn her against me by this guy. I know I shud move on but i really love my gf and I don't want her to regret this later, as I was told she will eventually see the reality soon and will definitely wants to come back. I'm just so sad this is happening to me right now. Please do you think I should fight this to the end or just leave and watch how this guy will destroy her. The guy has nothing and has been collecting money from her and even tell her to leave the shop I rented for her also.

I think it's better if you just accept the fact that the relationship is over and break up with her. A lady who dates another man behind your back even with all the good things you have done for her does not love nor respect you and is not worth being with. Initially it may be hard for you to move on especially as you've been with her for a long time but in the long run that's the best thing to do.
Also you shouldn't have slapped her, no matter what she did or said to you. That incident may have changed the way she sees you. She might now think that you're an abusive person and that's why she no longer wants to be with you. So learn to control your temper in future.

Should you really care what other people think about you? As long as you're not breaking the law or harming anybody of course.

Takeit2017:
I taught i have finally seen my remaining half
She is too good and a wonderful person

She opened up to me that she has given birth before.

Omo I can't just get that shit out of my head

I once told her that I would never get married to a single mother... I rather remain remain single

Omo this shit really hit me

Need matured advice please

If you really truly love her and she is a good person then the fact that she already has a child shouldn't be a problem for you. At least she was honest with you about it unlike some people who will hide it and then it's after the marriage that it now comes out. Just because someone is a single mother doesn't mean they are not still good wife material. So please don't break up with her just because of that.

That sure looks like a positive test to me but if you guys want to be sure just go to a hospital and get a blood test.

Very good thing to do. And not in any way a bad, wrong or immoral thing. In fact I think universities or even secondary schools should have free condoms in the school clinic or sick bay. The rate of STD infections and unplanned pregnancies and abortions in our society is just too much. Free condom distribution means no more excuses not to use them.

No there is nothing wrong with it at all. It shows she is trying to be safe and protect herself from STIs and pregnancy which is a very smart thing to do. Besides a lot of guys carry condoms in their wallets so there is no reason why a woman shouldn't also carry condoms in her bag if she wants to. It doesn't in any way make her an olosho it just makes her wise and means she cares about her body and health.

No there is nothing wrong with it at all. It shows she is trying to be safe and protect herself from STIs and pregnancy which is a wise thing to do. Besides a lot of guys carry condoms in their wallets so I see no reason why a woman shouldn't also carry condoms in her bag if she wants to.

I don't see anything wrong with ladies buying condoms. It's better to be safe than sorry. Anyone who feels too embarrassed just to buy a condom is probably not mature enough to even be having sex. It doesn't matter what the seller or other customers think or say of you when they see you buying it because it's none of their business. What matters is that you're being smart by protecting yourself from diseases. So ladies should feel free to buy their condoms as it's better to be buying condoms than to buy STD treatment drugs or even abortion pill.

Please try to convince her not to abort the child. She can have the baby and then place it for adoption if she really doesn't have the means or support to raise the child. Especially as there are so many couples out there who want kids but are unable to conceive she should not just throw away a child like that.
And she should educate herself on birth control methods so she doesn't find herself in this situation again.

I don't understand why so many people are mentioning the fact that she is 19. 19 years is an adult so there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a relationship at that age. And also you can have a gf of bf and still focus well on your studies and goals. I bet most people talking about her age were doing worse things when they were 19. I know a girl of that age in my area who has 2 children aged 4 and 1. So please simply having a boyfriend at 19 is in no way a bad thing.

After the baby is born do a paternity test. If it's really yours then do the right thing and help her support the child. If it's not yours then take this as a lesson and stop having sex without condoms. Apart from pregnancy there are many diseases out there.

Late at night of course

If you're uncomfortable with him living with you then you should ask him firmly to leave your home. But also ask him why he wants to live with you especially as you guys haven't been together for that long. Like others said maybe his rent is up and he doesn't have money to renew it. If he's to continue living with you though then he must pay for some expenses too. Don't let him have a free ride.

Now that's really disgusting and a major turn off. Just tell him bluntly that you don't like the way he kisses and see if it changes.

shilenji:
Aisha 1314
First add the first two numbers 1+3=4
Repeat the third number=1
Now add all the numbers 1+3+1+4=9

Aisha 419

Very funny

Please how do you delete your profile picture on Nairaland? I've tried but it's not working.

In my opinion cohabitation is perfectly alright as long as you and your bf or gf are in love and happy together. I see it as good practice for marriage. Besides its a good way to save money as you can share rent and bills. So no cohabitation is not wrong at all.
In fact I wouldn't mind doing the same when I'm a bit older as long as my bf shows he's committed to me and not just using me for s**.

I'm surprised about all the talk of fornication and pre marital sex being bad and a sin.
This is the 21st century not the middle ages. As long as sex is between 2 consenting adults then as far as I'm concerned there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Can black people like us even those with very dark complexion get visible hickeys (love bites)? Has anyone ever got one or seen it on somebody else? I'm just curious.

Does anyone know how someone can get effective contraceptives (apart from condoms and postinor) for free or at a low cost?